#im considering moving again

[dragons-and-yellow-roses]

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[considermygenderminecrafted]

Okay here's some c!Phil analysis off the top of my head

I think c!Phil says what he means and what he wants people to know, and also assumes other people say what they mean and what they want him to know. And, contrary to some belief, this is not because he is 'dense', it's not because he doesn't care to try and dig in and find out more. (In fact calling someone stupid or uncaring for not doing this would be ableist this is something autistic people struggle with sometimes) I don't think it's merely a skills deficit he's nae tried to fill or negate, I think it's related to respect and boundaries.

Phil is not someone who doesn't want to know things, (he in fact, has asked multiple people multiple times about the server, it's history and what happened in exile he just got no straight answer) he just assumes that what people don't want him to know, are things he has no business knowing. And as every motherfucker knows mind you damn business till someone makes it yours. That's basic respect and basic 'dont get fuckin murked'

If someone lies to his face about themselves, and he knows they're lying, he will accept the lie because it's rude and invasive to assume you have a right to know more about someone than they're telling you. And it's infantilasing to assume they can't make the call to tell you things or not tell you things. (See Ranboo water bottles)

So Philza will act on the information people have givin him, because clearly that is the information they want him to act upon. If people don't want him to know about [X] or [y] when he's giving advice or making a decision or something then to like act on [X] or [y] is disrespectin their wishes and parameters they've drawn (See his choices about dream and exile and his advice to Wilbur and Tommy) for the conversation. He trusts that I'd people need him or want him, they'll tell him straight up, because that's what he does to others. (See trusting Ranboos promise to stay safe and answering Tommy's questions about doomsday) It's again, about mutual respect.

Almost everything with Phil goes back to respecting choice and respecting personhood and understanding no one is better than anyone else. He doesn't know better than someone else to make the call on what he needs to know about hes not gonna disrespect someone's choice to keep him in the dark on summit and he's not gonna disrespect someone's choices (see him having a feelin techno was working on summit but deciding not to investigate or harass him about it.) If people don't want to communicate with him, that their choice and he's not gonna fill in gaps they've left blank

[thebigqueer]

unrelated to that rb but im thinking about it and i dont think piper liking jason was ever a forced heteronormativity thing i think she genuinely liked him

[pepprs]

ok. im going to make this post but i REALLY shouldn’t but i just am so devastated rn and need to not be alone in it and you guys are the only people i can talk to candidly about moving stuff rn for a lot of reasons. the reason im crying rn is because i just found out i made a massive error in my budget and it turns out that my net pay is barely over minimum wage and i cannot afford to live by myself. at all. unless i live off of savings in addition to income but even then that’s only going to help me for a couple months and anyway it’s extremely unwise bc i should save that money for getting a car etc etc. this is not entirely a bad thing because a) at least i can afford to… you know… live. and b) living with roommates will not be bad especially if i live with friends and/or strangers i come to be friends with. it’s just i really… i don’t know i just feel so sick to my stomach. it’s just that recent events have made it so clear to me that i need to teach myself how to live independently before i can live with other people (let alone function in the world, heal from trauma, etc.) healthily. i know it so deeply. and it can’t happen for me. this is confirmation. this is confirmation and there’s nothing that can change it. rent is too high (even for shitty apartments in the area which let’s be real most of them are… it’s too high!) and over half of my income is going to taxes and deductions and bills and student loans. i feel so hopeless

[autisticlee]

that feeling when you get advice from someone who you know is well-meaning and has good intentions....but it's just the most allistic, neurotypical, and/or abled advice you have ever heard and completely invalidates the point you're trying to make about why you struggle to do the thing in the first place.

they're telling you to "do it in this specific way that is completely opposite of how you physically/mentally work" for example, make eye contact/read people's facial expressions and intentions! but you're autistic. initiate verbal conversation and don't be shy! but you're nonverbal or semispeaking. get out of the house more and participate in these physical activities! but you're physically disabled. Just Be Yourself! but you have DID/OSDD/other personality disorder. etc.

i'm sorry. I know you're just trying to help. I appreciate it, really. but it's all things i've heard before and none of it helps me specifically. I have tried (maybe even still try out of habit) and learned I can't just do those things. they don't work for me or cause more issues. practice isn't the issue. not everyone can simply willpower through everything. but thanks for trying 😔✊️

[errolluck]

I'm tired. Of all of this.

Every fucking day feels like the same, yet it gets heavier. Things get worse, nothing gets better and the few things that gave me security, happiness, where I thought I could escape and be free for some moments, are getting corrupted, forgotten, stained forever, never to be the same refuge they once were.

I'm tired of living sometimes. Of existing on this world.

I know how dying feels; it's calming, the darkness eats you and you feel without worries for the first time in your existance. You know it and that frees you.

But I don't want to die. I'm a coward. I want to continue living on this earth just because I think I can do something in the future, something that will fix everything, something that will give a purporse to everything I've done and lived through.

But we all know that is just a lie to make us feel better, don't we?

Because, at the end of all, do we really matter? What can assure us that?

I'm tired. Too tired.

I want to go somewhere else, but there is nowhere to escape. I want to say that I want to go home, go to the park, go to a forest and be happy. But this is something that will haunt me, haunt me forever and everywhere until the end.

Because you can't escape yourself.

I'm tired...

[enden-k]

refraining from drawing now to force myself to play through the genshin event until im done, so i can freely browse through my dashboard/tl/ao3/tumblr inbox/my fridge again without untagged spoilers

[dnangelic]

i only came here to compliment yves at first but now im laugh crying at the braincell hot potato between daisuke and dark that i was JUST thinking about all morning

[bennidraws]

haha heyyy just a heads up, if s/erennedy is the only thing you follow me here for i kindly ask to back paddle and maybe hit da unfollow button bc to be quite frank, i dont vibe with the majority of the ship fandom here. i have no interest in the childish (and in many case quite literally, bc holy fuck. so many minors) community. s/erennedy for me is like the 10 people who i know are cool about it and i would like to keep it that way. i would very much like to cleanse my tl of certain posts that are beyond my interests and comprehension, so i unfollowed some blogs. its totally up to you if you vibe with my art in general and wanna stick around but if youre only hoping to see more of the spaniard and american blondie from me, well. reconsider. no hard feelings if that was the only thing you really cared about here, i get that 100% and maybe we'll see each other in another place, in another time. take care, be careful, internet is a rancid place, dont make stupid choices, youre probably too young to get your life fucked by a fictional character. love ya

[sodrippy]

living in this economy is so ummm. like ten years ago there were, if not Good, then Better places to live, comparative costs of living and so on and now its just every single place everywhere is too expensive to be alive. awesome

[desudog]

See ya predatorqueer, pornaddictqueer, terminallyonlinequeer

Kawase ⬆️

[bitchfitch]

Feel free to dm me if you have any questions^^

[dragons-and-yellow-roses]

Just found out my two siblings are in my mom's will, but not me. Also my grandpa has told the entire family about his engagement. Except for me. Also my dad told my siblings that he and my mom bought a plot of land. Can you guess who they haven't told?

[softshuji]

y'know it's a night when hal sits and eats cereal in the dark room at 1.30am.

[bmpmp3]

dysgraphic artiƨts risɘ UP!!!!!

[skunkes]

The planned parenthood closest to me 2 hrs away accepts my newly acquired health insurance lol what if i speedrun relearning how to drive, learning to drive to Out of Town + take myself up there for hrt appointment haha + then i somehow manage to consistently get my prescription back home AND be on T without arousing the suspicion of my parents somehow lol haha lmao