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Thinking about the time I lost a game of Overwatch and I was so mad about it that I genuinely considered getting into shit with the other team in chat and then realized that it was a colossal waste of my living breathing Human Time and uninstalled Overwatch instead because it was only making me angry.
And then thought about the OTHER time when I was on TikTok and realized I was Not Enjoying Myself and was, in fact, seeing so many sad videos and fake influencer ads that I felt Truly Despondent and then just…Deleted it.
Imo I want my social media /general media experience to be a pleasant break from real world and I get to decide what I get to cull to make that a reality for myself. I highly reccomended it! Life has improved considerably!
#look not having social medias is not My Personality#however like. no twitter. no insta. no tiktok.#do I know anything???? no.#am I up to date on literally anything pop-culture????? also no#and if that stuff’s important to you absolutely stick with it!#maybe this is a direct reaction to growing up terminally online from 2012 onward but i am freeeeee#it’s honestly made a huge difference in my life! i CAN just say no to these apps that want to suck all my time away!!!!
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Conflict In Dating
Dating can be one of the most exhilarating and rewarding experiences in life. It’s a chance to connect with someone on a deeper level. Also, to share your hopes and dreams, and to explore new experiences together. However, dating can also be a source of conflict, with disagreements and misunderstandings often arising. In this article, we’ll explore the concept of conflict in dating. Besides,…
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Tim Drake is the kind of guy who pushes up his glasses anime style before bragging to you about his boyfriends sweet rack. (and when nobody believes him and he shows them a picture everyone says its AI cuz Kryptonians are Uncanny Valley pretty)
#I call this one bully Tim Drake Hours are now open#Dc#tim drake#red robin#timkon#superboy#conner kent#kon el#it's the same for Kon actually#he tries to brag to the homies that he's got a real rich baby daddy locked down (very important at smallville community college)#and when he shows them Tim's pic they all think he's getting catfished by someone pretending to be Tim online cuz like no way#no way is Kon dating the equivalent of a kardashian/kennedy#and Kon is so fuckin offended#tim and kon both bring a certain “my girlfriend lives in Canada” vibe to the group hang out
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I love reading essays about bisexuality but it is crazy how we’ve been have the same conversations for over thirty years. Bisexuals have been critiquing the ‘straight passing’ narrative since the 90s (and I’m sure longer) and yet I still have to see it any time bisexuals are mentioned in queer spaces. Like.
(From ‘Challenging the Stereotypes’ by Amanda Udis-Kessler, Bisexual Horizons 1996)
I find it really striking that she says that biphobia from within the community ‘gets in the way of bisexuals working for lesbian/gay rights and dignity’ because I see a lot of people talking about how biphobia from within the community isn’t oppression and I’m not gonna argue about whether it is or not but it absolutely does deny us our dignity.
People constantly make fun of the way that bi people are desperate to affirm their queerness like mocking bi girls who talk about liking women and being bisexual while having a boyfriend with no mention of the fact that that insecurity is based in the constant belittling and ridiculing of bisexual people within the community.
Bisexuals are always always seen as traitors or tryhards or both. We cannot win we can’t do anything right. (Except decide that we’re actually gay or straight)
#bisexuality#and like I find the ‘oh I’m attracted to all women and one guy’ schtick irritating as hell.#i think if you’re constantly posting online about how you would never date another man if you broke up with your current boyfriend#or how tragic it is that you’ve ended up with a man instead of a woman that’s kind of shitty to your partner and rings very hollow#but I understand where it comes from. and I think it’s unfair to pretend that it’s something bi women came up with for fun#‘why do bi women talk about being queer all the time when they literally have a boyfriend🙄’#well probably because their bisexuality is important to them and their queerness is part of their identity and likely their social circle#and that doesn’t go away because they’re dating a man.#idk. my trans bisexual partner is not straight passing. even when people read him as cis they read him as gay.#more and more I am not straight passing and have been yelled at for being gay by strangers on the street.#‘bisexuals have straight passing privilege’ is such a crazy generalising take and it blows my mind that I still see it so much#and says much more about what you think about bisexuals than it does about actual bisexuals
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oh my god re: your recent post... the 'girl dinner' shit. omfg. idc if it's 'not that deep' you're still reinforcing terrible shit!!! and also the like 'boys when they see a stick/cool rock' and 'girls when they time travel vs boys when they time travel' wojaks. the gender-fication of barbie vs. oppenheimer. why the fuck is the recent internet zeitgeist hyper stereotypical cisnormativity. like. i thought we had collectively outgrown this.
exactly. And that’s all just some parts of it too. People pretend they’re so on top of things but it’s just because they don’t want to seem out of touch and offensive. It’s wild watching people barf out gender binaries with new terms and new ways to categorize trans people as not their gender and new ways to reinforce the same gender roles on ourselves but in “good” ways now. It’s just….really frustrating and pretty terrifying at the same time
#asked and answered#anon#I don’t know bad example but like.#feminism when I was growing up was gender equality#getting rid of gender roles and stopping gender based discrimination#and it feels like at some point we lost that track#and went straight from that to Girls Rule Boys Drool arguments wrapped in new language and memes#like. when i was a kid#i remember people saying shit about how its okay if a woman asks for a date first or if a woman proposes instead of a man#and yes those arent the most progressive things in the world and those actions are not the most important thing women need to be allowed to#do. but…thats kind of my point. those arent groundbreaking actions.#and if you tried to spoonfeed a BASIC idea about destroying gender roles like that to the online community today#youd get slammed with people saying no woman should ever stoop to beg a man#or that a guy should always propose because dating a woman is a privilege so men should earn it#or how ‘maybe its just me personally but i could never propose to a man like ew thats cringe my man better have enough balls to do it!’#or ‘me personally i could never let my girl propose id feel like i failed her as a man if she had to do that’#or just. on and on and on and on and on#like. we somehow circled all the way back to the ORIGINAL gender roles we were supposed to have broken by now#and its getting worse snd the social media companies are fueling it#have you SEEN instagram and tik tok comment sections lately???#people are just. insanely obsessed over gender and enforcing how they see each group and constantly posting about it online#go outside smell some fucking flowers and recognize your internal biases#like maybe breaking gender roles like thst iis uncomfortable not because you hate men#but because you have gender roles engrained in your BEING from the moment you could walk and you just wrapped them up with a new progressive#bow while not making any changes#anyways.#rant over
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Young adult contemporary coming-of-age story (releases 4/16, I read an early copy from Netgalley)
Follows two first-year students at Wellesley College who run dueling anonymous advice columns and befriend each other in real life as they bonded over both being aroace, unaware of the other's internet identity
Platonic love story
Explores themes like aroace identity, finding community, being the queer child of immigrants, and trying to find your place in the world as a young adult looking towards the future
Love letter to platonic/familial love and finding community
Aromantic asexual Chinese American protagonist; aromantic asexual gender-questioning/nonbinary (she/they) protagonist; lots of QPOC side characters
#i got an arc of this and read in basically one day while on a road trip!#i found it very engaging/easy to read#the feud between the main characters is very petty but they're both still quite likable#sophie is very relatable to me as someone who until recently was also a type-a student at a liberal arts college#i think the characters balance each other out very well also#like sophie is very organized and jo is a bit more of a mess#but jo is also less confident in her identity#this talks a lot about aroace identity and i hope that will make a lot of people feel seen#personally i really loved seeing a college coming-of-age story about friendship#because the friendships i formed in college were personally wayyy more important to me than dating#so even though i don't identify as aroace part of me still felt very seen#(that and i knew a lot of aspec people in college)#their feud is kind of petty and terminally online but that's kind of the point in the end#okay i do have to say though#jo's music taste as a dj is SO basic#also this comped to loveless and the half of it so it did amuse me that those are name-dropped in the story#actually there are some aro/ace books that are mentioned though not by name#i think i caught a reference to elatsoe and another one to fire becomes her?#that was cute ngl#dear wendy#ann zhao#2023 reads#lulu speaks#lulu reads#lulu reads dear wendy#books
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did not expect how much effort actually typing up the backstories & bios of all the characters from my oldest (still active) story would take.. esp bc aside from the main 4 characters i only had like a general idea of their circumstances (for some of them its just like. yeah this chick exists and shes among the friends of the main character. i have a general idea of her personality and ik she has two brothers. but then i need to come up w paragraphs and paragraphs of her life and interests bc ive done it for the other characters 😭).. so its actually a lot of fully original writing whereas for the main 4 it was mostly just writing down shit i already knew about them
#97#NOT TO MENTION....#some of the most minor characters did not have sprites drawn out alreadu#and a bunch of them do have sprites but i didnt do a sprite for their dimensional alternate double#so im also doing a bunch of new art on top of writing all this lol#AND even for that art i need to stop and try to research trends from 2016 bc thats when the story is set and i dont have a super clear idea#of what we were wearing in 2016. especially w a cast thats a bunch of extremely wealthy californians so its not based on my own experience.#and also the stuff that was popular for ME an extremely online tumblrina in 2016.. is not what THEY would wear lol#i still need to draw whole sprites for joshua and frank#who are characters who so dont matter to the story but theyre like. around sometimes so i wanna include them.#and joshuas double is more important bc hes dating cômes double.#and then i need to do sprites for the doubles of.. let me checm#erika landon and samantha too#(ive done sprites for the doubles of mariko cassie richie freddie damien sylvie and marty in the past couple days)#all of which is just random sprite art so it doesnt even feel worth posting them on my art blog lol
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Do you ever wish the world existed without romantic love
I wish I could platonically yearn for people without people calling it romantic
I wish romantic love wasn’t the be all and end all for things
I love my aromanticism I just wish it wasn’t othered
I wish the world wasn’t so reliant on it
I wish I could just exist without the weight of romance on my shoulders
I wish romantic love didn’t exist
#aromantic#feeling a little sad and bitter tonight#this was inspired by the speculations of Taylor swifts dating life#I’ve seen everywhere online#I just wanna scream who actually cares#it’s not that important#it’s also inspired by people who think a happy ending should be romance
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Can’t wait for my drivers license to arrive so I can be driving legally again for the first time in 1.5 years!
#for legal reasons this is a joke#SO THIS IS WHATS UP#as a youngin#a young adult one might say#I was starting to learn that some systems are bullshit when I’d previously been a pretty big rule-follower#my mom showing me how to navigate the healthcare system a bit/showing me how student loans legit have practices to confuse and fuck us over#also im really bad at getting things in on time (this is an important fact)#so when I see that my drivers license is abt to expire. I’m like ‘Oup gotta get that done!’ then promptly forget abt it#next time I remember it’s 3 months expired.#I check the date and realize that wait! in a year imma be turning 21 and just one yr after that Real ID’s will become mandatory (im p sure)#so I decide to push off renewing my license! I think that the whole process will b annoying asf bc I’ve only dealt with the DMV in-person#and it SUCKED and took forever. I’m thinking that if I renew my drivers license right on/after my 21st birthday I can knock out two birds#with one stone: I can get it as a Real ID and I can get an updated picture that’s flipped sideways so getting age-checked is faster#little do i know: it’s v much illegal to be driving around with an expired license!#I drive around for a year (over a year? I don’t remember when I first realized it was expired) j having fun#then one month b4 my 21st birthday I get into an abroad study thing and have to get my passport. which I realize is also expired. and#realize that to renew my passport I have to have a valid drivers license. At this point I also realize how fucked I could be if I get pulled#over with my expired license. so I check out the process for DL renewal and rejoice! it’s online!#AND THANK FUCK I CHECKED THEN. bc if I had waited LITERALLY two more days I would not have been able to renew online and would’ve had to go#in-person. and there were no in-person appointments until after my 21st. and I learned in this process abt the fines my state applies when u#renew a DL late and ALSO that u have to entirely retake the test/redo all the paperwork shit if it’s expired for too long. I would’ve had to#retake the test n everything if I’d gone past my bday. I was also in another state for college. idk how incoherent these ramblings are but#basically I would’ve been Ultra Fucked. anyways! got that figured out#renewed the DL and had it sent to my home. then da house floods and crime goes up in the neighborhood and my DL ends up either being lost#Or tossed (with other flood-damaged things) or stolen.#I don’t realize this for 4 months bc I am silly. also in college out-of-state. also other reasons.#finally got around to calling DMV and telling them that my DL never arrived… 6 months after I renewed it!#and they were v sweet and are resending me my DL for free. so in the next few weeks I shall finally b driving legally again#!!!! the end#mypost
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ENOUGH about gortash/durge/ascended astarion ENOUGH
#can i say something.#sorry. i believe in everyone doing whatever they want forever and that being ok. but i also believe in being a bitch about it online#this is a wider issue i have beef with abt people treating bg3 like a dating sim exclusively and#reducing the npcs esp important ones like This to accessories to their durge/tav while failing 2 consider their individual characterisation#anyway im not character tagging this for fear i will be killed. bc aa fans and my fellow gort fans are scary#bg3#sunny speaks
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Today’s the second anniversary of S36 E22, On the Edge!
Two years since the only Casualty episode I watched in the middle of my long stint of not watching any Casualty and two years since the episode that real-life-foreshadowed my current thoughts on the show. Just, two years since this happened, honestly:
(Ominous voiceover: they were Not Always Good.)
Happy pretend-they’re-still-happy day, everyone!
#not gonna be super active for a couple days (i’ll be back online on wednesday) but i had to acknowledge this important date#if you’re wondering if i’ve shipped them for two years. i have. i’m ride or die (they’ve died).#bbc casualty#teddy gowan#sah brockner
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Dear self,
Instead of remembering "I need to do such and such...." in the middle of doing something else you've just remembered that you needed to do, perhaps it might be easier to actually complete the job you're doing on the moment and then move onto the next and complete it too before starting anymore...
Might actually find things get done then!
#The story of how I've been attempting to find a water resistant shower curtain on amazon for at least 10 hours without committing#And completing online Christmas food shop#And updating my planner with what has happened over the last week before I forget days/dates/info given over important stuff#And make a list of stuff I need to purchase from a non online store before christmas#And work out the “naaaaice” Christmas food I need to grab from m&s#And catch up on the podcast I'm listening to#And take the 4th dose of medication I have to spread out over the day but now have been organised and moved the box that I can't find it#And get other last minute jobs done....#Instead everything is a tiny fraction more done every so often rather than anything getting completed 🤦
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i don't trust anyone that had a good time in middle school. it's a hellish first encounter of what's on the other side of childhood and designed to be a period of adjustment; it's not supposed to be comfortable. if you enjoyed being in seventh grade something is fundamentally wrong with you, and i'm like an animal sensing another animal has rabies or something. don't come any closer or i'll attack.
#in seventh grade i had no friends and was obsessed with learning this fictional language that was created for the myst game universe#they had all the grammar and stuff online and i contacted the guy who invented the language and asked him specific questions#and he answered me every time so i had this whole binder of language lessons straight from him#to this day i hold that guy close to my heart and keep up with his work bc he really came thru for me when i needed someone#he listened at a time when i felt very unheard and made me feel like i mattered and that was important even if it was just about a dumb#game bc it wasn't about that it was about someone telling me i'm not alone after all and there are other people like me out there#and that helped me see beyond the very small world of seventh grade into a greater future that contained possibilities for happiness#and it also made me realize that the internet could help me find and connect with people over even the most obscure fascinations#which was huge for me bc i had mostly been using the internet to print sailor moon pictures and spam chat rooms with#shakespeare monologues bc kids are annoying on the internet and i was weird but i was still a kid#anyway first date question: how do you feel about the seventh grade experience? this reveals so much about a person so quickly#i'm brilliant follow me for more excellent life advice i post unedited as it occurs to me in real time#personal#cyan worlds
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i hope the friends from my past know how much they've impacted me in a positive way
this is about someone specific but i mean it in general too. even if i was just some kid online to them i genuinely believe i'm who i am because of their patience and understanding to me, and i wish i could somehow repay them for it
they're important parts of my past and even if they forget me, i don't think i'll ever forget them
#this goes out to the people i “dated” online as a 13-15 year old#and the adults who helped me learn#the more adjusted teens whove taught me things i didnt learn irl#all of them#i still know their names#i don't care if they still know mine#they mean a lot to me and i want to cherish that memory#ok to interact#this is a vent kinda but also a comfort post#id like to believe maybe at least some of those people will see this and either recognizeme and reach out or at least be reminded of their#own important online friends#uh . cried a lot typing this but its kinda cathartic at least
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i have the consistency of angry pudding and dislike moving
#about me#this will be my bio if i ever get back into online dating#it's important to be upfront and honest
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what is your fav pokemon game? you strike me as a sun and moon kinda guy
yes yes yes i love sun and moon!!!
i've played pokemon x, pokemon moon, pokemon ultra sun, pokemon let's go eevee, and pokemon sword - and the alola games are definitely my favorite!!!! i love everything about alola - the gameplay, the gimmick (z-moves), the pokemon, the characters, the storyline, the anime... oh, there's just something so inviting yet mysterious about it all!!!! i love it so so so much <33333
#melonposting#ask#fakeviolins#the popplio line is probably my favorite starter line to date... they're all so dear to me!!#and oh the memories of all of the nice people...#somebody named professor wood traded their level 50 solgaleo for my level 10 machop named elvis... what a sweet guy :)#granted there could be people who are just as nice in the newer games but i wouldn't know cuz you have to pay for online services now!!!#i think the 3ds games will always be superior to the switch games for that reason#remember being wonder traded hacked shiny mythical pokemon??? remember people asking for crazy things on the gts????#there were so many good memories with that#and trading is such an important part of pokemon!!!#it's too bad i can't do that anymore :(#also pokemon amie and pokemon refresh are infinitely better than what's in sword and shield and scarlet and violet to me#it's so much more personal and so much sweeter... ahh...#sorry i'm just being nostalgic!!!!! :'D
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