have you been doomscrolling? feeling awful about it? do you feel out of control? does it seem your autonomy has been swallowed by the ever present beast that is the internet?
we live in the most overwhelmingly stimulating age of humanity ever seen, and it's only getting worse. our brains are sponges, soaking up whatever we smear them across, and it seems more and more difficult to find a clean surface to rest on. i'm no expert or professional, but ive been born and raised into the internet, and i'd like to hand out some wisdom regarding this.
the main issue: brain poison
since the brain absorbs whatever it's exposed to, media consumption is unsurprisingly going to effect it. the type of media, the amount of media, and the frequency of the media all play a factor.
it's not the internet itself that's bad here. it's the media on the internet, and the platforms designed to suck in our attention and keep it there until we're rotting inside our skulls.
we're never going to escape the internet. it's just a fact of life now, and a tool that can be used for wonderful things. so how do we learn to live with the internet and take advantage of its potential?
treat it like a dietary balance
staying aware of what goes in your brain is just as important as being aware of what you're eating. if you eat carelessly, don't listen to how your body feels after you eat certain things, and ignore any sickness that might result from rotten food, you're going to have a bad time and wreck your guts. the same goes for the brain.
you want to have a good mix of various types of media in the right amounts, or approximately so. if things are feeling bland, maybe diversify. if things are feeling stupid, try something more intellectual. if it's feeling too much, cut back on all of it
the following are three things you can do to maintain a sense of control and awareness over your media diet. this isnt a step by step and is in no particular order, theyre just ideas to carry forward in general any time it could be helpful.
1. digest
this is the process of thinking about and remembering what youve done throughout your time on the internet. it could apply to any period of time. so you might think, 'man, i've done nothing but watch tiktok all day.' or 'i've been scrolling twitter a lot more this past week.'
i feel like most people already do this to some extent, but it manifests as a fleeting sense of anxiety or shame that doesn't lead anywhere. analyze that feeling, and ask if it's really true or helpful.
ask if your media consumption is making you feel less focused, distracted, putting you into a brain fog, making you fall asleep when you don't want to, making you irritable and angry, drawing you into arguments, keeping you awake at night, or upsetting/disrupting you in any way.
digestion also means appreciating the good stuff and recognizing the good feelings you get too. so also ask if it's enriching you, helping you learn something new, giving you a new perspective, exposing you to something beautiful, passing the time, relaxing you, honing your focus, or generally lifting your mood.
2. cut
cut certain types of content from your life once you've decided they're not good for your media diet. block people. move on. tell youtube to stop reccomending that channel. block them. unfollow people. unfollow tags. block the tags. blacklist things. do it. forget the awful things that make your brain hurty. click the block button. uninstall the app. you know you want to
consider removing yourself entirely from websites that are designed to be attention predators. if you consistently feel like youre 'stuck' on a site and cant leave, it's probably best to just delete your account and get out of there. tiktok is NOTORIOUS for this.
i also tend to keep my following or subscribed count low. keeping the stream of content short forces me to find other things to do with my time. this goes hand in hand with things like turning off infinite scroll. it provides an 'end point' where the repetitive action of scrolling down stops bearing fruit, breaking the doomscrolling cycle. the internet is almost an infinite place, and its up to you to build walls around yourself so you arent lost in it forever.
its also important to get off the internet in general sometimes. i know this is obvious, but literally touch grass on occasion. doing anything with your physical body away from the screen will be more enriching than sitting there scrolling for hours. whether it's just a 5 minute walk around your house to stretch your legs or a 6 hour hike every weekend, part of cutting media will mean replacing it with real life. looking at some plants, doing a pushup, or working on a knitting project can be like rinsing your brain sponge under some cold, clean water.
3. curate
the flip side of cutting is curating. you'll want to be looking for media that makes you happy and feels productive or meaningful in some way. anything that not only doesnt make you feel like you wasted your time, but specifically makes you feel like you spent your time well, is a green flag.
keep in mind entertainment just for entertainment's sake is good for you too. you don't have to be watching university lectures and tutorials and stuff all day. finding high quality entertainment, such as personalities you enjoy, good production values, and inventive ideas can be really difficult. find the people who dont make you feel like a cocomelon baby and stick with them. from there you should be able to find similar content.
what's good for your soul is going to depend very much on you as an individual. this is also going to be an ongoing process as not only you but the internet both change and evolve. the important thing about this step is that you Make Decisions about what to consume. even bad decisions! it's all part of the process, and it's all about reclaiming your autonomy.
4. eat your junk food
this isn't a military drill or an exact science. i'm just a guy on tumblr with an intimate connection to his own brain and a LOT of time on the internet. that's my only credential. sometimes i want to turn that brain off and just mindlessly consume without putting any thought into what dirty dishwater is soaking into my sponge. sometimes adhd brain wants me to watch a shitty B movie in recap form so i dont have to commit to a full movie. sometimes i get stuck in the youtube shorts for like 3 hours.
that's fine. the most important part of any kind of self care is that a little bit is better than nothing. even just being aware that youre consuming something bad for you and knowing you arent ready to stop just yet is better than nothing.
thats it!!
now you should be prepared to take back some control over your media consumption. be gentle with yourself and take your time. eventually this stuff will become second nature, and you'll be effortlessly digesting, curating, and cutting media like it's just part of your personality. remember YOU have control over what the internet thinks you want to see. dont let it force feed you nasty slop anymore. let it be a reflection of your mind, not the other way around.
and good luck!
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HI JAY! Ive been sick for like a week now so it got me wondering... how would Thoma Ayato Itto and wanderer take care of the reader when they are sick? (SFW, HEADCANON) I NEED THE MALEWIFE OR DOTING PARTNER ENERGY 😞😞😞😞❤️❤️❤️
Howdy, Kichi!! That sounds like it sucks! I'm also really, REALLY, sorry for how late this is!! I haven't had the motivation to write as of late (・・;) I've also been kinda sick myself
Drown in soup, but not literally
the reader is sick, and requires bedrest to get better. how does their partner help them out??
characters: Thoma, Ayato, Itto, and Wanderer
warnings:
Thoma
goes full nurse on you
when he hears that your not feeling well, he immediately ushers you off to bed. you don't need to worry about any of your obligations, as he'll make sure to take care of them to the best of his ability
if you're sick with the flu, then he's making sure that your keeping food and fluids down
if you got a simple head cold, then he's not nearly as worried which is saying a lot
he really loves you and doesn't like the fact that theres only so much he can do to help you feel better
he gets really scared if your unable to keep stuff in your stomach
i feel like you'd be pretty good friends with ayato and ayaka, so they'd be more than willing to contact some of the best doctors on your behalf for some of the best medicine they can afford
ngl, he's super worried about you
if he notices your uncomfortable, tired, or really anything other than rested and comfortable, he'll try his best to help you out
do you need more pillows or blankets? are you hungry or thirsty? are you bored, perhaps??
makes you the best meal when your finally feeling better
probably takes you out for an evening walk as well, since you haven't really been moving while sick
definitely hovers around you a lot more for about a week or 2 after you've recovered before he eases up
he knows that getting sick is just part of life, and that it happens to everyone, but that doesn't mean he won't still worry about you
Kamisato Ayato
ngl, i feel like his attention is already split between all his responsibilities that he doesn't notice you feeling unwell at first
once he does notice, however, than he's ushering you off to rest for the time being
he doesn't want to see you trying to do any work until your feeling well
you two have been living together as a way to make it easier for him to protect you from any attempts at people trying to kidnap you for ransom
has the staff bring you anything you may need on days where he's particularly busy
he's not the best cook, either, so he has his staff cook the best foods for someone whos feeling under the weather
spends any of his spare time in your room with you
some times he'll even bring his paperwork in with him so that he can spend time with you but also get some stuff done hint: hes too worried about you to work on his stuff
your condition worsens into the flu before you start getting better
by the time your feeling better, you've pretty much got a mountain of blankets and pillows on your bed
he asks you what you want to eat a day or so after confirming with a doctor that you are officially recovered
Arataki Itto
you were taking a couple days off from taking commissions from the adventurers guild, deciding to spend it with your boyfriend arataki itto
the two of you were running around the whole of inazuma, collecting lavender melons and catching onikabuto beetles
you and itto had gotten caught in a downpour, having to book it across the beach to some makeshift and rather run down huts
why the two of you chose to come to koseki village, you'll never know
but, after the downpour passes, you two head back to your waverider and then back to inazuma city
wet clothes forgotten about due to the rest of the arataki gang having gotten into a little trouble with the guards, you proceed to talk to them while kuki shinobu chews out everyone
eventually, like. close to sundown, your able to make your way to your home to change out of your still damp clothes
you catch a cold the day after, having full body shivers
with practically no word from you for a few days has the whole gang worried for your wellbeing, and they practically break into your home
when you wake up, all bleary eyed from sleep, your met with the group surrounding your bed
after explaining you just have the chills, and are fine for the most part, the most of them leave to go do what they do most days
however, itto sticks around, keeping you company
he does also apologize for the fact that you got caught in the rain a few days ago
you immediately tell him that he has nothing to be sorry about, unless he can control the weather and intentionally made it downpour on the two of you
you then get out of bed, giving him a hug, and then meander off to your kitchen, asking him to help you make some soup
Wanderer
whenever you start being sucked down by depression, you tend to push yourself to work harder
and, often times, this leads you to neglecting your own needs
he may not be the best boyfriend, what with having to sort through his past and his feelings, but he does try his best
he's also hella observant. while he may not comment on everything, hardly anything is able to get past him
so, he makes a mental note every time you add another commission onto your growing list of commissions
he starts to grow annoyed with you when, instead of stopping to take a break for lunch that, you decide to just eat lunch on the way to your next commission
you don't really know what you did to upset him, but kuni seems to start making what your brain interprets as snide comments towards you sometimes
it isn't until your body decides to rebel against you and you fall sick when you realize that he wasn't really making snide comments towards you, thats just how your tired brain interpreted it
he was trying to warn you about pushing yourself to do more than what your body could handle
kuni doesn't really let you do anything until your recovered from being sick
he puts you back on a proper schedule, making sure you get 3 meals a day, all easy on your stomach as to not make you feel worse than you likely already are
he also puts you on a proper sleep schedule, making sure you get between 8-10 hours of sleep a night
kuni's surprisingly nice while your sick. he knows how much more sensitive you are to his usual comments during times like these so he saves the lectures for when your back to feeling 100% better
its ok, tho. he's back to being mean, and more than makes up for it by basically dragging you all over sumeru and inazuma for ascension materials
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pls dont tag as m*t*al aid s*gnal b**st or d*nations etc etc so i dont get nuked/shadowbanned you know the drill
just reusing old assets and apologies in advance that this post is messy coz im gonna be honest im very very upset and exhausted. anyway so ive got another cat in the ohspital. i Know. its insane. its only been a month. it feels like a sick joke. its a different one this time and hes having urinary+kidney issues which is apparently common for males of his age. So anyway hes in critical condition 👍🏽 and we dont know if hes gonna recover. were awaiting any improvement in 24h (18:30 dec 2, ‘22) but if he doesnt show signs of recovery within 3 days of that well. Thats that. you know .
anyway. not only does this situation suck miserably and is also giving me stress induced nausea but it is ALSO Very heavy on the pockets. so like Here we are [smiles painfully] please dm me if interested
no set goal atm because i dont know what the final bill will be. we werent given a tentative cost because of the whole critical condition thing. ill just turn off reblogs and update the original post if were able to pay the bill when it finally comes 👍🏽 i will be regularly rbing this post with whatever updates to costs there are as well
all listed prices are base prices, and may increase depending on complexity
first come first serve
full upfront payment via p4yp4l invoice
turnaround will usually be within 1-2 weeks, but can depend on how many im working on and if my body wants to agree with me
tos + more samples / kofi
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