#lesbian says what she thinks

[notchesindoorframes]

everytime i see someone say on twitter that taylor swift is the straightest woman alive - and there’s a lot of people saying that -, i ask myself if i’m that delusional for thinking that she might be queer (unlabaled, bi/pan...). i mean miss “i listen to girl in red, phoebe bridgers, king princess, muna, hayley kiyoko, boygenius; i watch killing eve and queer eye; i wrote ivy, talked about emily dickinson and my song plays in the emisue sex scene ep; i loved the movies booksmart and carol, and i watched orange is the new black” sounds kinda fruity, you know? of course liking these things isn’t something exclusive of queer folks, but i have two very much ally-talk-valentina type of friends and they don’t watch or listen to most of this. anyways, just thinking thoughts. 

[inkskinned]

you're grabbing lunch with a nice man and he gives you that strange grimace-smile that's popular right now; an almost sardonic "twist" of his mouth while he looks literally down on you. it looks like he practiced the move as he leans back, arms folded. he just finished reciting the details of NFTs to you and explaining Oppenheimer even though he only watched a youtube about it and hasn't actually seen it. you are at the bottom of your wine glass.

you ask the man across from you if he has siblings, desperately looking for a topic. literally anything else.

he says i don't like small talk. and then he smiles again, watching you.

a few years ago, you probably would have said you're above celebrity gossip, but honestly, you've been kind of enjoying the dumb shit of it these days. with the rest of the earth burning, there's something familiar and banal about dragging ariana grande through the mud. you think about jeanette mccurdy, who has often times gently warned the world she's not as nice as she appears. you liked i'm glad my mom died but it made you cry a lot.

he doesn't like small talk, figure out something to say.

you want to talk about responsibility, and how ariana grande is only like 6 days older than you are - which means she just turned 30 and still dresses and acts like a 13 year old, but like sexy. there's something in there about the whole thing - about insecurity, and never growing up, and being sexualized from a young age.

people have been saying that gay people are groomers. like, that's something that's come back into the public. you have even said yourself that it's just ... easier to date men sometimes. you would identify as whatever the opposite of "heteroflexible" is, but here you are again, across from a man. you like every woman, and 3 people on tv. and not this guy. but you're trying. your mother is worried about you. she thinks it's not okay you're single. and honestly this guy was better before you met, back when you were just texting.

wait, shit. are you doing the same thing as ariana grande? are you looking for male validation in order to appease some internalized promise of heteronormativity? do you conform to the idea that your happiness must result in heterosexuality? do you believe that you can resolve your internal loneliness by being accepted into the patriarchy? is there a reason dating men is easier? why are you so scared of fucking it up with women? why don't you reach out to more of them? you have a good sense of humor and a big ol' brain, you could have done a better job at online dating.

also. jesus christ. why can't you just get a drink with somebody without your internal feminism meter pinging. although - in your favor (and judgement aside) in the case of your ariana grande deposition: you have been in enough therapy you probably wouldn't date anyone who had just broken up with their wife of many years (and who has a young child). you'd be like - maybe take some personal time before you begin this journey. like, grande has been on broadway, you'd think she would have heard of the plot of hamlet.

he leans forward and taps two fingers to the table. "i'm not, like an andrew tate guy," he's saying, "but i do think partnership is about two people knowing their place. i like order."

you knew it was going to be hard. being non-straight in any particular way is like, always hard. these days you kind of like answering the question what's your sexuality? with a shrug and a smile - it's fine - is your most common response. like they asked you how your life is going and not to reveal your identity. you like not being straight. you like kissing girls. some days you know you're into men, and sometimes you're sitting across from a man, and you're thinking about the power of compulsory heterosexuality. are you into men, or are you just into the safety that comes from being seen with them? after all, everyone knows you're failing in life unless you have a husband. it almost feels like a gradebook - people see "straight married" as being "all A's", and anything else even vaguely noncompliant as being ... like you dropped out of the school system. you cannot just ignore years of that kind of conditioning, of course you like attention from men.

"so let's talk boundaries." he orders more wine for you, gesturing with one hand like he's rousing an orchestra. sir, this is a fucking chain restaurant. "I am not gonna date someone who still has male friends. also, i don't care about your little friends, i care about me. whatever stupid girls night things - those are lower priority. if i want you there, you're there."

he wasn't like this over text, right? you wouldn't have been even in the building if he was like this. you squint at him. in another version of yourself, you'd be running. you'd just get up and go. that's what happens on the internet - people get annoyed, and they just leave. you are locked in place, almost frozen. you need to go to the bathroom and text someone to call you so you have an excuse, like it's rude to just-leave. like he already kind of owns you. rudeness implies a power paradigm, though. see, even your social anxiety allows the patriarchy to get to you.

you take a sip of the new glass of wine. maybe this will be a funny story. maybe you can write about it on your blog. maybe you can meet ariana grande and ask her if she just maybe needs to take some time to sit and think about her happiness and how she measures her own success.

is this settling down? is this all that's left in your dating pool? just accepting that someone will eventually love you, and you have to stop being picky about who "makes" you a wife?

you look down to your hand, clutching the knife.

[wis-art]

girls night

[godofsmallthings]

i wish i could take the time to parse through my taylor swift is/isn't a gay icon thoughts on here but i fear people on this website don't know how to behave

[fossilizedhysterics]

guess who finished tlok tonight and immediately had this come to him in a vision!!!!

[hearts4juzi]

Teens with Daddy issues and guilt pull up

[warningsine]

GIRLS5EVA • Summer Dutkowsky

[the-lark-ascending69]

Ik everyone loves platinic with capital p stobin, everyone loves their friendship, i'm not Not Like The Other girls there, I adore them too. But i've seen a few ideas that I don't necessarily strongly disagree with, but that I'd like to suggest an alternative perspective to.

Mainly, the idea that Robin would be a Bros Before Hoes kind of lesbian. Not an unreasonable idea, not a bad idea - but consider Robin watching Nancy break up with Jonathan, Steve gravitating back to her side, they spin around each other, he tells Robin he still loves her, and for a moment, it looks like Nancy loves him to. And Robin bites her tongue and it burns because ever since she met Steve, this is the first time she feels she needs to hide again. To not tell him she's in love. But she's only human and she can only take so much shameful jealousy and longing, and one day she cracks and screams everything to him. She yells with tears in her eyes, wildly gesticulating with her hands, that Steve doesn't understand Nancy, that he should be able to see Nancy would never be happy following his dream, and she hates to say it, hates even more to think it, but in her darkest moments, she lets herself realize she'd be able to give Nancy the life she wants if Nancy looked at her - and she feels predatory and gross for thinking that way, but having a real fight with Steve for the first time, she she says things whose aftertaste later feels monstruos in her mouth - that is he stupid? and does he not know Nancy? and she doesn't care that he's known her for much longer, and no, she's not stepping out of line, he is, and he asks why does she feel entitled to have an opinion on his relationship or what Nancy chooses, and she almost snaps and says "because I... I'm her friend". Steve is not stupid, actually. Okay, he is, but he knows Robin, and it took him a moment - he's slow like that - and it dawns on him, that his best friend is in love with his girlfriend, and she's fighting him for her.

[radsplain]

people hate lesbians. PEOPLE HATE LESBIANS!!!

[wacky-nameless-inventor-24]

Say- the moons made of cheese!

[strangestcase]

Literally why are all Irene Adler posts on tumblr some shit like “Irene Norton could never heterosexually fuck Sherlock Holmes… because she’s heterosexually married to Mr. Norton before the eyes of God and the Church! hashtag love wins! what a lucky man! Now watch me project an entire personality onto this male character that shows up for a single scene! Never ever forget she takes his name after marriage like the good devoted wife she is! Respect!” Like helloooooo. Can anybody hear me.

[cruelsister-moved2]

like we are on our nine billionth positivity post for cis men with beards and masculine trans men and feminine lesbians and bi people in m/f relationships and nb people who are comfortable passing as their agab etc.... do we need more? is straight people not being able to tell you're gay/trans really the biggest issue facing lgbt people right now?

there seems to be this undiminishable reservoir of care and sympathy for the very idea of having ur queerness slighted in any context. meanwhile people who never get the choice whether or not to hide it are routinely dehumanised, othered, and ignored. if the issues facing these groups do get discussed it's almost never with much concern for their feelings. invalidation and erasure may be one of the issues facing lgbt people and it deserves attention too but I really don't think you can claim at this point that it isn't getting its fair share already.

for what it's worth, even your hypothetical most flaming butch lesbian/fem gay man/androgynous nb person etc still meets people who assume they're cishet, who even actively refuse to acknowledge that they're not. the false equivalence between erasure and overt prejudice alleged exclusively by those who largely experience only the former is in fact erasing the reality of people who experience both

[mispatchedgreens]

hey listen, hey. hey. wang baoxiang says i hate my brother. he lies, and lies again when he says my brother hates me but he burns with the belief of this lie. and even after he's helped make the world unrecognisable and unliveable bc esen is no longer in it, he will make his brother's disdain for him justifiable, he will turn himself into a wretched terrible thing because esen's non-understanding and discomfort and hurt must must must be justified, he must be all that is right and good in this world whether or not he's in it. hey. does this help at all?

[blogalreadydoesntexist]

'saying lesbians only like non-men is exclusionary!' yep!!!!!!!!!!!! that is the point!!!!!!!!!!! t4t is exclusionary and im that!!!!!!!!!

[bxnnie-bxwl]

need the people’s opinion cause this is not quite my say! but if any of my followers out there who are trans feminine and or women enjoyers…. for my pizzeria au, lesbian trans woman chica?

[tacit-semantics]

Also regarding fiber arts adventures: many beautiful women are enthralled by the form and function of my drawstring lesbian nalbound pouch. Promise.