#marrying an immigrant

[freefolkfightorflight]

Brain Dump

I started my adhd meds again for the first time in 2 years and my brain is like hey. We got a lot of thinking to do so here you go. My current fixation as I sit on the bed telling myself to clean and wash my damn sheets im covered in.

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Me: I just feel so ugly

Him: you are beautiful and good. You just have one defect and you know what it is. (I’m kind of a ho who lies when I think imma be in trouble😩)

Me: you too. You are handsome and good. You just have one defect and you know what it is. (He’s insecure and jealous)

Him: do you want to marry me?

Me: yes

Him: ok good

Me: ok…😍😂 wtf, Alej

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I think we are both broken children just trying to make it through life and it’s sad and ugly sometimes. But a lot of times it’s really passionate and beautiful.

I don’t know why I’m posting this. This isn’t new news. We’ve talked about marriage before. I’m there. He’s there. I have a ring. he called it a pre engagement ring. And I’m like so a promise ring? And he’s like no. PRE! Lol. but it’s NOT an engagement ring. I don’t care but he does.

Speaking of. He’s more traditional than I’m willing to ever be again. I will never cook every single night. I will never commit to do things like that on a forever basis again. Sometimes I’m scared he will be disappointed in that. But I haven’t faked it these past 2 years. He’s gotta know exactly what he’s getting with me.

It’s just challenging because he’s an immigrant who still has a wife in Mexico. They married super young. they’ve been separated 25 years. She lives with her ‘fiance’/boyfriend etc. but she refuses to sign the divorce papers. Every few months she dangles signing the divorce papers in front of him, asks for money, he pays her, she disappears til the next time she needs money. Currently she’s saying she will sign the papers and he’s just done being used. I keep thinking maybe she means it this time. But he knows her better. He wants to go back to Mexico to sort it out but *I* don’t want him to bc it’s so fucking dangerous coming back. He’s got 3 kids and his mom here. Please don’t leave me to care for them all if you die. Lands alive.

That’s another obstacle. The mom doesn’t want to live with me. SAME😳 but I’d at least attempt it for the good of the whole family. She said absolutely not. He said absolutely not. She wants/needs her own place when me and him get married. Have you seen rent now a days? How will we afford a place for 5 kids, and then at least 2 bedrooms for her? (For when she has his girls). Lol. He doesn’t seem concerned about this part, but I am.

I have an evil ex who put in the child custody agreement that I’m not allowed to live with a significant other unless we are married 🙄bc yes let’s do this again. otherwise I wouldn’t care so much. Like we are two years in. I’d rather just live together. Test the waters. and fuck marriage prior to that just bc of how bad it’s been in my history. But I do see myself being with him forever. So it’s fine. Whatever. Except we can’t bc his ‘ex’. Brah

I just feel chatty and already talked his ear off🙈

I texted every girlfriend I know and they’ve all stopped responding bc I’m talking too much. Send help

[shireensamananilaw]

Marrying An Immigrant: Navigating Love Across Borders

In an increasingly globalized world, love knows no boundaries. Marrying an immigrant is a journey that transcends cultural, linguistic, and national barriers, offering a unique blend of challenges and enrichments. This article explores the multifaceted experiences of marrying an immigrant, highlighting the practical, emotional, and legal aspects that come into play.

Embracing Cultural Diversity

One of the most enriching aspects of marrying an immigrant is the opportunity to immerse oneself in a new culture. This journey can deepen one's appreciation for different worldviews, traditions, and ways of life. Couples find joy in celebrating holidays from both cultures, learning new languages, and incorporating diverse culinary practices into their daily lives. This cultural exchange fosters a rich, inclusive environment for raising children, who benefit from a broader perspective of the world.

However, cultural differences can also pose challenges. Navigating family expectations, communication styles, and relationship norms requires patience, understanding, and open dialogue. Couples often find that developing a shared set of values and norms is crucial for harmonizing their distinct backgrounds.

Navigating Legal Complexities

Marrying an immigrant involves navigating a complex legal landscape. The process of securing visas, residency permits, and citizenship can be daunting, often requiring significant time, money, and legal assistance. Couples must familiarize themselves with the immigration laws of their respective countries, which can vary widely and change unpredictably.

The emotional toll of legal uncertainties can be profound. Delays and bureaucratic hurdles can strain relationships, emphasizing the importance of support and resilience. Success stories often underscore the necessity of thorough planning, patience, and sometimes, the willingness to live apart temporarily.

Building a Supportive Community

The role of community cannot be overstated in marriages involving immigrants. A supportive network can provide valuable resources, advice, and emotional support. Finding or building a community of people with similar experiences can be incredibly reassuring, offering insights into overcoming common challenges and celebrating cultural diversity.

However, not all couples have immediate access to such communities. In these cases, online forums, social media groups, and cultural organizations can serve as vital support networks, helping couples navigate their unique journeys.

Overcoming Language Barriers

Language differences can add complexity to any relationship, but they are particularly salient in marriages involving immigrants. While initially, language barriers may seem daunting, they also offer couples the chance to grow closer as they learn to communicate in new ways. Many couples view language learning as a joint endeavor, enriching their relationship and deepening their connection.

Facing Societal Attitudes

Despite the increasing commonality of international marriages, couples often confront societal attitudes and stereotypes. Facing external skepticism or prejudice requires a strong partnership grounded in mutual respect and understanding. Couples find strength in focusing on the love and shared experiences that unite them, rather than the external factors that seek to divide.

Financial Considerations

Marrying an immigrant can have significant financial implications, from the cost of legal processes to potential differences in earning potential and financial management styles. Open and honest discussions about finances are crucial, as is planning for the future with an awareness of the legal and economic realities faced by immigrant families.

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[cookinguptales]

now that I'm done imagining a jar of peanut butter, can I just say that I love that Shane and Ryan have shifted away from traditional true crime to just shootin' the shit about weird-ass mysteries?

I always liked the "let's talk about weird mysteries" aspect of buzzfeed unsolved, but being real with you, I'm uncomfortable with true crime and the culture surrounding it. like... as someone who lost a loved one to a violent (and temporarily unsolved) crime, I've seen firsthand how internet theorizing can make a traumatizing time even harder and like. it's fucking rough, man.

I get that it makes money and all (which... is a whole other can of worms) but when you view human suffering as entertainment, it's so easy to forget about the real people who will actually be affected by what's put out there on the internet.

so I'm happy that Shane and Ryan seem to be leaning a lot more into "wow, some unhinged shit happened! how fucked up is that?" on mystery files. more of this, please!!

[brettdoesdiscourse]

Really over people calling themselves a centrist when what they really mean is, "I'm a conservative, but I have a somewhat liberal view on this one specific thing."

[ran-orimoto]

We have got a new Digimon food, an egg, and it’s time to think about Takouji and their blessed daughter again✨.

Fiammetta: What do we eat today?

Takuya: Hamburgers.

Fiammetta: There’s nothing else?

Kouji: Leftovers…

Takuya: …Of yesterday’s hamburgers.

First time Fiammetta will see a dish of fuming pasta ✨Zia Izumi✨ will cook for her ,she will look at it like if she has seen her father transforming into Agnimon.

[saltyfilmmajor]

Sometimes I mourn the life I could have had if I wasn’t queer

[jvzebel-x]

"He'd lived so long in anticipation of his own death that to contemplate his future was like standing at the edge of a cliff staring into a vertiginous rush of open sky."

x. "The Golem and The Genie", Helene Wecker

"I am no saint, and he is no monster for me to slay."

x. "The Hidden Palace", Helene Wecker

[blujayonthewing]

thinking about how my mom met her now-husband who was visiting from england because we decided to go to an exhibition at the local art center on a whim (we have never done this before or since) where his dad was one of the artists in the show displaying paintings of airplanes (does not particularly interest either of us)

[llycaons]

I know it doesn't always make sense for the author to stick close to the canon mama lan situation but I fundamentally disagree with making them a happy or in love couple by the time she died

[emperor-princess]

If our visa appeal gets rejected I'm gonna throw up

[hairtusk]

still kind of baffles me that i have a smartphone and a car and a laptop etc. etc., when my grandfather grew up on a farm in bumfuck co. wicklow in the 1930s/40s. he left school at 13. he lost two toes from dropping a milkpail on his foot as a kid. they had no running water or electricity. and i've got an artificial intelligence acting as a dj at my whim.

[the-amber-droid-dreams]

its so fucking hard to imagine what a future for someone like me could even look like. noone i know or have heard of is like me. being alive is already really fucking hard and exhausting but especially so when i cant even imagine a future for myself lmao

[ladysophiebeckett]

@buddyhollyscurls

she's a wannabe journalist who went to queens college, (UB takes its insp fm devil wears prada) with a sister (mutual gathered that the sister is aura maria inspired) with a son (her nephew) and her dad. she doesn't have a mom in that version (died). she gets hired by daniel's dad ( armando equivalent's dad...i dont wanna talk about the american name) and the first ep is daniel doing everything to get american betty to quit. so as u can see. when i attempted to watch i was already off to a bad start.

[cringefailnarwhal]

watching a twt mutual go from a misandrist febfem to a married "kam but not my nigel" type over the span of 5 years is traumatic

[nightmaretour]

It always amazes me how my mum will complain about immigrants as if she isn't a second gen immigrant married to a first gen immigrant. They're talking about you