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[another-delta-lover]

how the FUCK do I move the damn LIGHT. (THIS IS MY FIRST POSTER LMAOOOO I'M SO BAD AT THIS, but im lernin) (he looks so... EVIL...)

[angelpuns]

I once again am 2 pages into this new arc and yet still only one sentence into the outline why does this keep happeninnggggg

[daffythefox]

"you don't have to perform around me" sweetheart i have to perform in front of myself

[genderimpala]

anyone else stay home for a while and be like "hmmmm been acting fine lately. maybe i'm not autistic." and then you have one (1) social interaction and you're like ah. the Autism strikes again.

[borkb11]

them

[seizethedeansofproduction]

[buwheal]

c]:^) <— do you like his hat? Silly little cowboy!

[tama-ghosty]

Reincarnation

[theoneandonlydominia]

Thoughts

[phenylethanol]

absolutely obsessed with the energy of this adventuring party episode

[one-bunny-a-day]

12/11/2023

[daffythefox]

i feel like people say "abuse is always intentional and a choice" because it helps them believe that they haven't and will never abuse someone so long as they believe abuse is wrong.

Do you think every abuser woke up and thought "today I will abuse someone on purpose"? Probably some of them, but not all. Some abusers genuinely think that abuse is just how relationships work. Sometimes kids abuse other kids before they grow up and realize what they did was fucked.

If you decide that abuse means "person intentionally abusing another", what about people who were abused by people who weren't intentionally abusing them? Is that not real abuse?

I'm not saying that you shouldn't be angry at your abuser. I think you should be angry at whoever you want to be angry at. But I think looking back at your actions and checking "was what I did okay? how did my actions impact the people I love?" is very important, especially for people with NPD, where having issues understanding how your actions impact others is a symptom.

Having NPD makes forming and maintaining healthy relationships way harder. I would know. It's also way harder to control emotional outbursts while you're having one (and emotional permanence issues mean once you stop having one, it's hard to imagine what it felt like).

Introspection about why you did the things you did, if/how you hurt someone you care about, trying to make it up to them, and minimizing the chances that it will happen again, are very important. In "npd abuse" spaces, this introspection is usually shut down by "well, if you think you might be a narcissist, you're not one". But I think this introspection can be very helpful, so long as the introspection doesn't begin and end with guilt/shame.

[woofly]

[fazgoo-connoiseur-1987]

i like thi s guy

[estebanbicon]

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