for the tags on that one post: research ahead of time what aave is. dont misuse stuff like that and then also use it to argue w someone talking abt racism. learn abt the black comunity in ur own area, too. thats how u avoid it
I'm from South America, so I mean, aave isn't something used outside of the internet by people out of the USA, right? And I think most people misusing aave don't even know they are to research it you know :/ But since I was talking about different language subsections, I think you mean when speaking any language to be mindful of slang created by and for marginalized people. So, learn about the community when learning the language, right? Yeah, I think you're right, especially when learning endangered languages.
I think it's more complicated when we bring in languages spoken in many different places by many different people of different cultures, though.
For example, I'm brazillian, we speak portuguese, and recently, there have been many conservatives in Portugal pissed off that kids there are speaking 'brazillian' and not the pure, "right", portugal portuguese, because the kids consume so much brazillian youtube content they are adopting our accent and slang. And there's nothing wrong with that, it's normal, humans tend to sound like what we hear and read.
English is a language that two people whose first language isn't english will use to communicate with one another. It's a first language in many different countries as well, but when someone learns it on the internet like me, we don't think "I'm gonna learn american, or australian, or british english". We just learn an amalgamation of englishes influenced by many cultures. Especially now with the internet affecting languages in a chaotic new way that people who would never speak to each other without it learn slang words from one another.
Every person that speaks a language won't know where every word came from, and they might even use a word wrong, misunderstand the meaning, because we learn most words by context, not with a dictionary containing it's etymological origin and cultural significance. Then words change their meaning as they pass from hand to hand and from culture to culture and generation to generation. So, it is a human trait to adopt words without caring for its history, in a way (oversimplified).
Ignorance doesn't equal innocence, of course, I just mean I think it's complicated to police language. The least to do is when someone warns you you're using a word you shouldn't you listen and research it. And the bare fucking minimum as you said is not use words from a culture to disrespect and be racist to that same culture lol
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what is wrong with me that i'm like 'i don't hate myself, i don't think of myself as inherently dangerous/predatory/subhuman, i'm not suicidal, i don't think my death would be an inherent moral good, and all of these are problems that i need to solve'
and it's not like i'll ever have the follow through to actually train myself into believing that. let alone actually actively making my life worse. so it's not even really something to worry about.
but like seriously what is wrong with me that i see someone suffering and my first thought isn't 'they shouldn't be suffering' but rather 'i should be suffering more'
honestly this is a reason i should be suffering more. my life is too good it should be worse.
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okay so to no one's surprise the hospital is going to send mom back to a nursing facility. my understanding is they're going to set her up on the basis of PT/OT and also continuance of care and getting her some place that's more capable of getting her evaluated re possible dementia and cognizance.
which, as of yesterday and today she's agreed to do but like. we know how this goes. we've seen this rerun three times now.
the problem that i'm now immediately worried about is that supposedly, the facility she's already been at is the only one in network with her insurance. i don't want her back in that one any more than she wants to be in it after how they fucked everything up last time with refusing to do like. anything.
i never mentioned it bc so much happened at once but i asked one day when i was there "hey what happened to getting her into see her doctors? like, we got her sent back over here because i can't transport her and she needs to be seeing her doctors" and they told me that's not what they DO because they CAN'T do it which. makes no sense. i don't know.
anyway. i have a mental script prepped for whoever i talk to tomorrow that boils down to i don't care what the insurance says someone better figure something else out. go hassle medicaid about it. find her a new policy. but something has to be done because i am NOT allowing her to be released into my care because it's not safe, it's not sanitary, and i will NOT be pressured for the third time into bringing her into an unsafe environment and taking on that responsibility and they cannot force me to do so.
"call fire rescue" is NOT a solution when fire rescue have specifically said they are NOT a solution.
which is almost funny in a fucked up way that the one medical side of this debacle is like uwu you're doing such a good job no would fault you for anything
and then emergency medical every time is like "bro you know aps would have a shit fit about this right?"
yes. yes i do fucking know.
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『dumbass.』 slutty sub yandere x gentle himbo darling, male yandere x amab reader. pt 2
sub! yandere who likes to take advantage of your kind nature to fish for compliments. he would degrade himself in front of you, acting all self-loathing to get your attention. nothing compares to the rush he gets as you rush to comfort him, trying your best to make him feel better.
sub! yandere who gets so jealous when you're nice to anyone but him. true, that's one of the things he loves about you, but why do you have to be friendly to everyone? they're all sluts anyway, who only like you for your looks. he can't really be talking when he snuck a photo of your cock and had a dildo custom made to your size, thrusting it in and out of his tight hole whenever he's feeling especially lonely.
sub! yandere whose biggest fantasy is you fucking and spanking him until he can't walk. come to think of it, he's never really seen you angry, like ever. the idea of you upset with him is both terrifying and exciting, he doesn't want you to hate him, but also the thought of you hatefucking him is so... it's enough to make him feral. he's sure you have to have some pent up energy somewhere, he would gladly offer his body for you to abuse. he knows you would never ever consider hurting him, but one can dream, right?
"come onnn. let me give you head." he pleads, clinging onto your arm like it's a lifeline. his eyes prick with tears.
much to his surprise, you're the one who gets on your knees, kneeling in front of him. "wait, what are you doing? i don't need you to please me first...." he starts to protest frantically, waving his hands about.
"i thought you wanted to give me head? like...headpats?"
"no, silly. head means i wanna suck your dick."
"oh!"
"speaking of headpats, can you pull my hair while i suck you off? like really hard, please." "i don't wanna hurt you, though-" "how many times do i have to say, you could literally murder me, and i would thank you." "...i don't think that's possible." "i'll find a way. so what i'm saying is, be as rough as you want. please."
he gags on your length, relishing the feeling of it stretching the slick walls of his throat. no matter how many times he's done this, you always worry he'll hurt himself. "hey...you're okay, right?" you ask worriedly, stroking his hair. he responds by making eye contact with you, swirling his tongue around the tip of the head, eliciting a rather passionate response from you. "fuck, i'm gonna-" involuntarily, you grip his hair tighter and let out a load into his mouth. he came in his pants, too, from you merely tugging his hair a little forcefully. soft pants fill the room.
this would be the perfect opportunity for them to degrade me right now, he thinks to himself. but you don't. instead, you take a tissue and dabble at the cum dripping down his chin, making sure to clean him up. he loves you and would never overstep your boundaries.... he just wishes you were a little meaner.
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