#nb discourse

[a-polite-melody]

Oh actually.

Many of the tumblr queer “discourses” have centred around identities which are erased or invisible.

A common tactic of people trying to deny others language in these “discourses” has been to look at the people describing their less visible experiences with oppression, and then scream at them, “oh my god you just want to be oppressed SO badly!!”

It’s a direct weaponization of the invisibility of the experience to further erase that experience.

Basically an, “obviously, if this was a real problem we would have heard about it before now and so you’re making this up to seem oppressed, even though you’re telling us the reason we don’t see it is because of lack of visibility, we don’t believe you and are further going to erase your experiences.”

[louisiana-wickblr]

I just realized…the reason I am cis but allow whatever pronouns people clock me as, except for it/its but that’s because that has been used to mean I’m not allowed personhood, is because my parents never really raised me with gender roles.

Seriously. Like, yeah, other kids said and tried enforcing gender roles, but my parents were like “yup, there she is, playing in the mud and everything” or “oh, she’s got a new sparkly princess dress” and just didn’t care so long as it wasn’t harmful to me or others.

I’m comfortable being gender-nonconforming cis because of this and I wonder if some, not all, the nb crew have the nb identity because they had the stupid, arbitrarily strict gender roles.

Then you have the other ones with my experience that allowed you to settle into the nb identity because you were allowed to explore what you were.

I just think the concept of nature v nurture is really neat and I love the people who realize later on that they’re like me, and the ones who realize “oh, yeah, I’m not what agab I am” later on.

I’m bringing this up as a reminder that it is perfectly ok for your self-identification to change as you adapt and evolve and grow. And it *SHOULD* change bit by bit here and there because you never stop adapting and learning and growing. I just think this is neat and I know that there feels like pressure to stay exactly whatever queer identity you thought you were before. But it’s okay to change and shift.

Anyone who says otherwise can suck my nonexistent peen.

[louisiana-wickblr]

Yeah, people don’t make sense when they make their categories weirdly arbitrary. Anyway, amab enby rights

sick of other trans people looking like a deer in the headlights when reminded that amabs can be nb too. there are really still people in our own community who think a nonbinary person is like. a woman wearing jeans

i've had people treat me visibly different after hearing my voice or seeing my face as if i'm some sort of predator or interloper. this attitude towards amab trans people especially nonbinary people really paints a picture of what the lgbt community thinks of gender in general

[chiisanajimi]

starlight comes out to her dads (ft. some headcanons)

[kaleidoscopic-quiddity]

tsubakino tasuku truly is the queer character of all time, canonically intended to be a GNC/cross dressing gay man? reads extremely poignantly as a straight trans girl? interpretable as any flavour of non-binary/genderqueer that you like? it doesnt matter baybee either way that character is capital Q QUEER and theres nothing anyone can do about it

[bbnibini]

I find it so painfully heartbreaking that Solomon just...laughs off all the derision, the name-calling, and possibly even did "evil" things on purpose because it's expected of him at this point. (He had not always been like this as Thirteen pointed out before). There was a time when he was "innocent". When his soul sparkled. When it resembled the kind of soul everyone in these god forsaken (pun intended with spite) three realms seemed to associate with the ever loved MC. He's just...worryingly carefree. And because he's like that, he feels even more of a tragic character to me.

Sometimes it even seems that he himself would seemingly make up excuses on why he's hated. Oh, it's because I'm a sorcerer this. I might have won a war against Devildom single-handedly this. I have forgotten. But maybe, I did something bad, that. Hon, you were doing that to SURVIVE. You don't have to be a faultless person to deserve compassion. You don't have to be MC to deserve to be loved.

[spitblaze]

Transfems are not 'privileged' for being forced to live in hostile panopticons and transmascs are not 'privileged' for being forced to live at the bottom of isolated wells and any 'benefits' that either incidentally incurs are canceled out if not outweighed by the drawbacks. Are we done here. Can we all please just go home

[bizexuals]

i like to think one day we’ll be able to meaningfully engage with nonbinary existence in our trans theory, instead of ignoring, tokenizing or making more “inclusive” binaries to fit those pesky nb people into

[sparkystarlight]

anyway forcing ppl to conform to the exact description of the orientations/identities they choose is completely against the spirit of queerness

[lapdogchase]

i like how shinigami eyes keeps getting worse

[nydescynt]

It seems like some of the arguments around the definitions of bisexuality vs pansexuality have circled back around into No True Scotsman fallacy?

The idea I keep seeing go around is that pansexuality emerged, completely unecessarily, from an idyllic trans-and-nonbinary-inclusive bisexual identity. The posited alternative is that bisexuality is Inherently Transphobic, which would of course be biphobic (and is easily + immediately rebutted with the Bisexual Manifesto's trans-inclusive definition from the 1990s).

But... it seems plausible that both narratives could be partially true? That bisexuality is not inherently transphobic or binary and has always contained people who are inclusive and trans-friendly, and that some historical groups of exclusionary bi people could have created a social impetus to coin a new label that signalled trans inclusion?

The Bisexual Manifesto rocks, it's a really wonderful source! But it is one publication, by a small contingent of a huge population. I am sure there are contemporaneous sources where bisexuality was being defined in binary/exorsexist ways at that point and earlier. There were bisexual women who were part of exclusionary/TERF groups! Exclusion was not universal or intrinsic to bisexuality, but it did occur in some pockets.

It seems very fragile and unfair to our pansexual siblings to construct a perfect and unified bisexuality, where any attempt to push back or investigate our shared history with a critical eye is inherently biphobic and ahistorical

[monoukotori]

I have been thinking for a long time that I might be trans, but honestly I don't feel like doing anything about it because everything I've seen suggests that being transmasc is a miserable existence inside and outside the LGBT community

[professor-doc-emeritus]

"girl. girl. boy. girl. boy who was turned into a girl. girl who was turned into a boy but still identifies as a girl. girl who grew a dick. girl born with a dick. trans girl. trans boy. girl."

The scientists look down at their notes as they flash another image of a sexually ambiguous waifu at me. 487 consecutive correct guesses.

[celestialrealms]

I feel like saying "Thirteen and Solomon is gross because she knew him as a child" ...is like. Just a fundamental misread of what she actually said. Thirteen said she met him "back before she even became an apprentice reaper" ...I can't be alone in thinking this implies they were childhood friends?

[venndaai]

starting to worry that none of the datv characters are massively lying to me :(