#pan men

[thetwentiethdisasternightmode]

There aren't enough unapologetic men likers in the masc queer community.

"Unfortunately I am gay."

"The worst thing in the world is to have a crush on a guy."

"being bi is liking all women and one man."

And so on and so forth. Y'all raise your flags so high in the air but can't even say one good thing about men without turning it into a backhanded compliment.

The radfems have rotted y'all's hearts and minds and it's frankly embarrassing.

[xan-the-emo-trans-man]

HOLY SHIT I LOVE MEN

[catboylm]

Reminder to all that mlm doesn’t just mean exclusively gay and nblm doesn’t just mean mlm lite

Some enben are partially women, there are mspec mlm folk out there, and they’re very much welcome in the community if they wish to be part of it!

[coinzevs]

&  MLM flag for non-exclusively MLM people.

created by me // tumblr coinzevs

A flag for MLM folk who are not exclusively MLM, and can be used by bisexual pansexual etc. men/men aligned people who like men/men aligned people.

[justchimera]

Based on a writing I started making involving an incident where Siris suffered great loses and upon staring at the stars from the roof, fell and lost his memory. In Cirik's attempts to help him remember things, through his kindness and patiences, Siris comes to the conclusion that he needn't remember to love him again.

[queer-ghosts]

if a queer man loves his girlfriend he can be gay for her. i do not accept criticism

[cripple-punk-dad]

I have been struggling to come to terms with my attraction to men, as a man, for a very long time. At times I felt this, unfettered anger at the fact that I, a man, could possibly find other men attractive. At other times, nothing felt more beautifully all-consuming. I wrote this poem as a way to reflect that internal struggle that I am still going through, and to let other people going through the same thing that it is ok. You are normal. Your attraction to men is a beautiful thing, and no one. NO ONE. Has the right to tell you that it isn’t. Masc folk loving masc folk can be such a sacred thing, and it deserves to be treated as such.

(These poems are meant to be read simultaneously, or side by side. Below is a transcription of the poems word for word, above is an audio recording of the poems being read simultaneously)

Hatred

When I say that I hate you

I mean it with every aching section of my heart.

Every throb of agony from my chest

Is out of pure, unadulterated loathing for you.

Ice, fire, the extremes of this suffering world

Are not enough to express how much roiling rage I have. 

No metaphor is wide enough to contain it.

Every damn word from that hole you call a mouth

Adds to my anger, and only serves to 

temper it with heat from the sun, 

And icy blackness from the pit.

If you are to be sent to heaven

God knows I must follow you

Because if I’m to be tortured for all eternity, 

He will place me at your side.

Love

When I say that I love you

I mean it with every aching section of my heart.

Every throb of agony from my chest

Is out of pure, unadulterated adoration for you.

Ice, fire, the extremes of this suffering world

Are not enough to express the infatuation 

I have

No metaphor is wide enough to contain it.

Every damn word from that beautiful 

mouth

Adds to my heartache, and only serves to temper it with heat from the sun, 

And icy blackness from the pit.

If you are to be sent to hell

God knows I must follow you

Because if I’m to be blessed for all eternity, 

He will place me at your side. 

[wyverndragonborn]

Poorly made pride dragons day 27

[peculiar-reblogs]

Feminine pan men are spectacular!

[colourfulgreyscales]

My reaction to the reactions of Wayne Brady coming out as Pansexual in Categories.

Some reactions belong to one category. Category 1 (the decent ones): "Yay. Live your truth." "Glad he can be himself in this medium." "Yay, more representation" "I knew it, but I am happy for him anyways." Category 2: "Why is he coming out? We don't care who he sleeps with. He doesn't need to broadcast it. He is doing it for attention. He is married so what's the point?" Also some of the Category 1: "Why isn't XYZ coming out?" Category 3: "We always knew." "We always knew he was gay." "He's a coward to admit he is gay." "Has gay become so boring that people don't come out as gay anymore?" "Give him another year, he will be gay." Category 4: 4A" "Is Pansexual another way to say bisexual?" 4B: Nooo, bisexuals are only attracted to men and women and pansexuals include trans and nonbinary people." (Ugh!).

So, my four observations: 1) I am glad this guy is living his truth and I am so happy with the additional representation of bi+ people in general and men attracted to more than one gender in particular. I wished I followed him more. 2) People don't owe you a reason for coming out or not doing so. Some people want to do it to live their truth out loud. Some people do it because they want to be an example for future generations.

3) It's hard for bi and pan men to come out as such. In fact plenty of bi and pan men stay in the closet by pretending to be straight or "coming out as gay" (but continuing to be in the bi closet in the process). 4) Bisexual means "attracted to genders like my own and genders different from my own." It's also an umbrella term where pansexual is included.

[rawrsatthetree]

Personally think that Astarion is more open about his attraction to men and lured mostly male victims not because he finds men more attractive but because he’s shit at talking to women.

He sees nice tits and round hips and his charisma takes a -1 and rolls with disadvantage. He leans in and tilts his head whenever they talk and his brain just slips out of his ear.

[xan-the-emo-trans-man]

Can I go on a bit of a rant here?

I’ve heard other people talk about this but I think about it a lot so I figured I’d join the discussion. I’m a gay trans man who came out as gay only a year or 2 ago but I’ve dated a few men. Feel free to add your 2 cents if you’re also gay or just male loving. Any homophobia and/or hate will be deleted and blocked. Now here’s my rant lol

-

I have really bad internalized homophobia

like I keep thinking I’d be better as a cis lesbian or at least as a straight guy

like, why can’t I just be a normal dude and like girls? Why did I have to like guys?

Everybody says girls are better and guys are trash. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me that I don’t feel that way for girls

I’m proud of my identity, don’t get me wrong. But, still.

I know the joke “men are trash, I feel bad for you.” It’s funny and I make those jokes too, but that can really fuck up me and some others

it makes me feel like I should be ashamed of liking them and setting myself up for a lifetime of heartbreak. It feels like it would be easier to just date a girl and not get my heart broken, even if I’m not happy. it’s not that I feel like I’m a freak and feel like I have to change my identity or again but sometimes I think I should have stayed a straight girl and not stand out so much, as miserable as that was. I don’t feel like I’m disgusting or anything, I just feel like I shouldn’t like guys and have to pretend I don’t sometimes.

“Women are goddesses and men are trash” is all I ever hear. I feel like I’m sick, sick for feeling that for men and not women. i understand the men are trash joke, but eventually it stops being funny and starts being hurtful.

i just wish I was more “normal” sometimes. Everyone would be happier if I just married a woman because if I’m a man that’s more “normal”.

I’ve dated guys but mostly girls flirt with me. Maybe life would be easier if I had a girlfriend and didn’t constantly chase men that don’t want me. I’m pretty confident I don’t like women and I love men, but sometimes my mommy issues and internalized misogyny get in my head and tell me I should like women

I mean I know the whole point of being queer is that we’re not normal and fit outside the box. I’m proud of being queer, I really am. Just sometimes I wish I wasn’t. Same thing with being trans, I wish I was a cis guy and don’t have to fight for my identity so much. Espically in todays world

-

I wrote this awhile ago and don’t really feel like this anymore but… I still have a feeling that I like women but I think that’s more because i feel like I have to than I actually do

I think that’s a bit too much ranting for me but let me know what you all think. I may or may not revise this at a later date but I feel like since it’s pride month it’s perfect time to open discussion to topics like this. Any mlm or nblm feel free to add your thoughts to this.

love you all, thanks for reading my madness haha

[catboylm]

Your voice is that of an angel’s, and not only for the sound

You truly are a sight to behold, my angel, My Love

(BB)

[radmystique]

Ending no fault divorce isn’t going to go the way men want it to. Every woman that’s not married atm that I’ve spoken to about this has said they’ll NEVER get married if it goes away. In fact, I even caution women not to get married currently now that the topic is a debate. What happens if they get married now and in two years time no fault divorce is struck down and the dude they married turns out to be a POS??? It’s better to be safe then sorry.

[axeyew]

ruffians, thugs, poison ivy, quicksand! cannibals! snakes! the plague! yes! also large bugs... men with pointy teeth! and stop! no more! you'll just upset me. ♥

dream doodle

[cripple-punk-dad]

let's hear it for the crippled twinks who have chipped nail polish and are sleepy and want cuddles