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[polyamzeal]

Do you have any book recommendations with poly relationships? Preferably fiction. I have been looking all over for them and I’m devastated because I can’t find any. Recently, I’ve been avoiding reading romance because I’m tired of it always being monogamous…

The book that gets recommended a lot is Iron Widow by Xiran Jay Zhao. It is on my list to read but haven't made it there yet. Another I haven't read yet but personally recommend is For Hire: Operator, one of the 2 authors is Kevin A Patterson who not only runs the PolyRoleModels blog but also I think his book Love's Not Colorblind is a highly underrated polyamory book.

[polyrolemodels]

Thursday Morning This is Happening! SO… HUGE and exciting news for the non-monogamous community!!! On Thursday, 1/23 @10am EST, (yes, this Thursday), Kevin A. Patterson of @polyrolemodels​, Antoinette Patterson, Pace, and Chrissy Holman will be on the Tamron Hall show on ABC/Disney, talking about polyamory and open relationships. Yes, it’s a live show. EXCITING! They will be talking to the four of us about what our polyamory looks like, and how we relationship in this dynamic. This outlet seems highly sympathetic, which is both rare and gorgeous. This is a nationally syndicated talk show with over a million viewers. This is a huge deal for our community, and we hope you’ll join us in destigmatizing and normalizing non-monogamy… but we need your help.
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Here’s How You Can Help! 1. Tune in to the show! We are LIVE on Thursday, 1/23 @ 10am EST. Find your channel or stream here: https://www.tamronhallshow.com/ 2. Share this information on your social media and with your email lists. Wrangle all your non-monogamous friends across Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and other channels, and let them know where to tune in, and how they can also help. I’ve provided sample copy below, so edit at will, but make sure you use the provided hashtags and promote Kevin’s work (links below). Start conversations where you can. 3. Help us moderate the comments sections across the Tamron Hall social media channels (listed below for your convenience). The show has covered non-monogamy before, and as expected, there are some not- so- positive comments. How do we combat stigma and judgment? With accurate information! Your lived experience matters here. If you’re good at keeping a cool head and want to educate some misinformed people, the comments sections across the Tamron Hall show channels are a great place to help. In addition to promoting Kevin’s work, (links below), tagging his pages (@polyrolemodels), share your own experiences. I’ll reply to this email with links once I’m back home and I see social mentions of our appearance. Thank you so very much for your time and energy! Let’s normalize non-monogamy!
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Tamron Hall Show Social Media: https://www.facebook.com/TamronHallShow/ https://www.instagram.com/tamronhallshow/ https://twitter.com/tamronhallshow/ https://www.youtube.com/tamronhallshow
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Promote Kevin’s Work! tinyurl.com/ForHireMag1 tinyurl.com/ForHireMag2 tinyurl.com/LNCBBook Facebook.com/PolyRoleModels PolyRoleModels.tumblr.com
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[kimchicuddles]

Updated interview on Poly Role Models! It was fun reading my old answers, and they're basically the same, except that my relationship dynamics are totally different now! 

[sunnymegatron]

Polyamory Problems with Dr. Liz Powell & Kevin Patterson - Ep 122

Episode 122 of American Sex Podcast is a wonderful resource for those curious about non-monogamy or seasoned pros with bumps in the road. Dr. Liz Powell and Kevin Patterson discuss how the toxic monogamous ideals we bring into polyamorous relationships trip us up, give advice for poly breakups, and answer to the question “can you cheat if you’re polyamorous?” You’ll also get tips for managing resentment and frustration, addressing the perceived power imbalance between long-time partners and new metamours, how not to come off as a dreaded unicorn hunter, navigating poly Facebook, finding solid resources for newcomers, figuring out what non-monogamous label best fits you, and more. Grab your partners, metamours, and like-minded friends--this episode will spark some great conversation.  

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Episode 122 Links

Unfuck Your Polyamory course https://sexpositivepsych.teachable.com/p/unfckpolyamory

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Dr. Liz Powell Website https://sexpositivepsych.com/ 

Building Open Relationships http://buildingopenrelationsips

Kevin Patterson Twitter http://twitter.com/PolyRoleModels

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[msangeliqueluna]

E65: Loves Not Color Blind

[polyamorousduck]

Additional resources: @polyrolemodels and Love’s Not ColorBlind

[allisonmoon]

Love's Not Colorblind with Kevin Pattesron

Polyamory educator and comic book aficionado Kevin Patterson joins Artgasm to talk Black Panther, Get Out, Black masculinity, and his deep love for the X-Men. 

Plus:

The Oppression and Privilege of Polyamory | Race and Polyamory | Being a Sports Nerd | Masculinity and Open Relationships | Being a “Blerd” | Gatekeeping Fandom | Black Masculinity on Film | Black Dystopia vs. Black Utopia | Afrofuturism | Beefs with Characters Who Don’t Kill | The Problem with Single Readings on Subjects | Flawed Blackness vs Black Perfection | X-Men As Family | Superheroes with a Social Message | Ryan Coogler’s Repertoire | When Superhero Movies Go Deeper | Fruitvale Station |  Non-Toxic Masculinity in the MCU | Erik Stevens as Batman | Being a Black man with white partners | The Evil Genius of the Get Out Villain | Escalation of Microaggressions | Afrofuturism | NK Jemison & Nnedi Okorafor & Janelle Monae

 Find out more about Kevin:

Poly Role Models on Tumblr: http://polyrolemodels.tumblr.com/

Poly Role Models: https://twitter.com/polyrolemodels

Love’s Not Colorblind: http://a.co/g94g7PW

 Notes from the opening:

The Story of Emmett Till: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emmett_Till

 A Portrait of Artist Dana Schutz’s Son Reframes Issues of Consent and Appropriation 

https://hyperallergic.com/447550/hamishi-farah-dana-schutzs-portrait-appropriation-consent-liste-art-fair/

 Censorship, Not the Painting, Must Go: On Dana Schutz’s Image of Emmett Till

https://hyperallergic.com/368290/censorship-not-the-painting-must-go-on-dana-schutzs-image-of-emmett-till/

[polyamzeal]

Omg I just started following you and I'm so mad that the tumblr mobile app won't let me go through your archives!!! I just added a bunch of your book recs to my libby and hoopla tho and I'm excited!!! I'm just kinda bereft because I love Polyam in fanfiction but it seems like there's nothing available in regular trad publishing?? The one book I have been able to find was jade west's sugar daddies. I'm not sure what you'd think of the Polyam depiction tho. Do you have any recs for any polyam romance/erotica? Because like I'd tried briefly to write polyam but didn't get far because I didn't know there were resources like your blog and the books you've rec'd. Do you think you would be like able to recommend any books with good depictions of polyam? I don't mind if they're indie but I'd prefer ebooks so I don't have to explain anything. (I'm not out yet). Thanks for all your help!!!

Quick link to the achieve.

I have read nearly every polyamory nonfiction book but sadly I haven't really read any fiction ones yet. I have heard lots of recommendations here and there but most maybe sounded a bit like a background thing that maybe you need to read deep to even realize. One book I haven't read that I do feel comfortable promoting is Kevin Patterson who wrote Love's Not Colorblind and run @polyrolemodels co-authored For Hire: Operator which is about polyamorous super-heroes! I have been wanting to read it for a while.

Also I wrote a My Hero Academia fanfic once. I want to write more polyamorous fanfiction some day.

[polyrolemodels]

Back in June, I discussed how race and polyamory intersect as part of Dating Kinky's event "It's Not Cheating! It's Ethical (& Consesual) Non-monogamy". (https://datingkinky.com/not-cheating/) The talk, which went for almost an hour and a half, was based on my book Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities. (tinyurl.com/LNCBBook) The session went really well and was packed with lots of useful information. The same is true of the dozen other sessions that made up the event. I'm offering access to my full discussion and the entire event (25+ hours of total content) at a 25% discount** when you buy it from me directly. In fact, ---FOR THE FIRST 10 PEOPLE--- who reach out to me, I'll discount the cost even further (33%). DM me here, IG or Twitter (@PolyRoleModels) or email me (PolyRoleModels@gmail.com) for details or if you want access to my talk alone for a smaller cost. Keep your eyes open because I'll be speaking again at Dating Kinky's next event on Saturday September 12th! **Consideration given for financial hardship

[kimchicuddles]

Written by Kevin Patterson, Illustrated by Tikva Wolf

@polyrolemodels‘ Kevin Patterson and I collaborated on this comic about the common occurrence of a lack of diversity in polyamorous and other alternative spaces. For a much more in-depth look into this, and what to do about it, check out Kevin’s new book “Love’s Not Color Blind” (on tour now!):  http://thorntreepress.com/loves-not-color-blind

[jeeprhyme]

https://twitter.com/PolyRoleModels/status/993628803867054080

[cunningminx]

566 Toxic masculinity

Kevin Patterson, Chris Smith, Lusty Guy, and Minx discuss what we mean by "toxic masculinity" and how we should respond to both the term and the thing itself.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:15 Host chat

1:30 Topic: Toxic masculinity

Kevin Patterson, creator of the Poly Role Models blog and author of Love’s Not Color Blind and For Hire: Operator, Chris Smith, a doctoral student at Howard University, author of Open to Love: Polyamory and the Black American and relationship researcher, and Lusty Guy, our cohost and producer.

What is toxic masculinity? Setting absolutes on how gender can present and act. What makes it toxic? Anything in too great a quantity can be toxic. How toxic masculinity really relates to sports: if emotions are so key to teamwork, how can masculinity?

What do we want “masculine” to be? It’s not inherent. Why is there a negative reaction to the idea of “toxic masculinity,” as in any other instance where too much of something is toxic? First response should be to do a self-assessment.

How does this relate to polyamory? We need to beware of harem fantasies driving all the media representation of polyamory and of societal scripts of jealousy meaning love and other men being enemies. Everyone’s a little bit toxic.

Find Kevin Patterson on email at PolyRoleModels@gmail.com, online at PolyRoleModels.tumblr.com, on Twitter at @PolyRoleModels, on facebook.com/PolyRoleModels. Oon Instagram at @PolyRoleModels, and his new fiction work For Hire: Operator is on facebook.com/ForHIreMag or on the web here: tinyurl.com/ForHireMag1 We talked with Kevin and Alana about this new work on episode 563 and about Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamory and Other Alternative Communities on episode 545.

Chris Smith in on Instagram at @SmithChristopherN or via email at Tenabilitymovement@gmail.com. We talked with Chris about Poly and the Black American on episode 528.

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[biomancer]

I got my copy of Love's not colorblind from the man behind @polyrolemodels.

[flixiblog]

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