But men love abstract reasoning and neat systematization so much that they think nothing of distorting the truth, closing their eyes and ears to contrary evidence to preserve their logical constructions.
Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Notes from Underground, White Nights, The Dream of a Ridiculous Man, and Selections from The House of the Dead
At the bus stop one time there was a gaggle of preschoolers waiting to catch the bus for a field trip day, and someone walked past with a couple of friendly little dogs, to great general delight.
But after a little bit, the dogs were getting overwhelmed, and the preschoolers were gently coaxed to back off so the person with the dogs could continue on. Specifically, one of the preschool teachers said, "Sometimes, when you're small, being surrounded by big people can be a bit scary and overwhelming. Even if they are friendly."
This was recieved as great wisdom: after all, the preschoolers were also small, and understood how scary and overwhelming big people could be! And the dogs were indeed even smaller than the preschoolers, so it made sense.
What was funny and charming was that, upon absorbing and reflecting on this wisdom, they all felt the need to tell it to one another. In tones of great insight, they turned to one another and said, "Did you know? Sometimes when you are small, being surrounded by big people can be scary and overwhelming! Even if they are friendly!" Back and forth, without any particular concern that they were all saying the same thing. Have reached comprehension of an insight, it must be shared!
I must say that this behavior is less charming in tumblr users than in preschoolers. Not least because tumblr users, having gained a little analytical skill to misuse, insist on Summarizing and Generalizing and Unifying the insights they repeat, quickly turning any interesting new information into formulaic dogmatic mush.
constantly reminded why I left DR for seven years LMAOO. the fans are so infuriating 😭😭 the franchise known for its incredible amounts of misogyny, racism, ableism, homophobia, and transmisogyny unsurprisingly is CHOCK full of it in w fans and no one even realizes it. also frequently Ishimondo fans are so damn aggressive for some reason and I say that as someone who actively likes that ship… not even sure why so many of them are so defensive against people wanting to talk about other characters, it’s like some of them only tolerated the game for the yaoi 💀 obvs not all of them bc I like the ship too but man. I guess it’s the same for all the super popular boy ships in the series (like Komahinata for the second game etc etc) but man you gotta wonder why they’re so upset considering they make up almost all the fan content for DR ever
childhood was spent thinking i’d go to hell and men would not love me if i swore so now to heal from that i am swearing as much as i fucking can until i come to my own fucking conclusion about how i feel regarding the usage of such crude vocabulary
I find it funny how the majority of people who hate Jackie hate her because of their High School experience. Like they call her a mean girl when she made the team say nice things about each other when they were fighting
The math is not mathing-
and when they left her out of the allie plan cus she wouldn’t like it
Unveiling the Impact of Preconceived Ideas and Biases on Nursing Practice
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the shapeshifter episode is a fun way to learn more about the relationship between the touden party members, but it’s especially interesting that we are given the chance to see the character’s racial biases
Half-foots admiring dwarves appearances, dwarves finding tall-men feminine, the infantilization of half-foots, and senshi’s subconscious dislike of elves because of what dwarves are taught growing up.
it’s gives the audience a new perspective on their dynamic and really highlights the rift between different species in the world Ryoko created.
it’s also interesting to note that, unlike the other members of the party, none of the shapeshifters from Laois’ memory include any sort of racial bias at all. he doesn’t even infantilize Chilchuck.
This is another example of how Laois looks at the world differently. While all the other characters have subconscious preconceived notions based on race, Laois just sees the others as his friends.
so past the point of changing people's minds about me!! like i actually just realized today that i don't care. i am so much more capable of shrugging my shoulders at someone's preconceived notions of me than i used to be. throughout my life i will probably run into many a person who will have a negative impression of me that they will not be able to dispel (or will go out of their way to fuel for the sake of their confirmation bias or whatever it is). but i will also have the honor of meeting a lot of amazing people who won't do that and who will actually see me for who i really am and will affirm that w their thoughts and actions. so long as i know who i am, anyone who's willing to make the effort will know who i am too. and that's all that matters
The number two complaint* that I've gotten over the Judaism subplot in A Thing Of Vikings?
That having Jews in the story is "contrived" or a "self-insert" or "unrealistic", usually right before insisting that the reviewer isn't antisemitic.
But... how can it not be antisemitic? Sure, it's not "Nazi" levels of antisemitism, which is apparently what most people think of as the sole form of "real" antisemitism.
But saying that Jews didn't exist in medieval history? Saying that our presence in a historical story is a "self-insert"? When we have historical records and archeological evidence that we did live and die then and there... Saying that it's "contrived" for non-Jews to have ties and connections with the Jewish populace of Medieval Europe, as if we're some kind of fantasy elves whose bloodlines never cross with mortals, instead of, just... you know... people?
Or saying that a non-Christian group actually thinking positively about Jews is "unrealistic"? That one was particularly obnoxious.
But how is all of that not antisemitism? How is that not a bias against Jews as a people? How is that not saying, "I find your existence in these stories to be against my preconceived notions and assumptions, and rather than question those preconceptions, I'll just say that you shouldn't exist"?
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*I'm disregarding those complaints from Nazis and Alt-Righters finding that a piece of historical fiction featuring Vikings was written by a Jew, of course.
A lot of times as I look at myself in the mirror I'm often dissapointed in it. Ppl know me as a cis woman and I'm not on any hormones but so often I am told by family indirectly that I look like a man as if it were a bad thing. I have a short and wide face and dark hair on my chin down my throat, my boobs are a weird shape and feel like clumps on my chest. But then I see your face on my dash and you are so pretty!!! I see your face and I start comparing my own to yours and I feel more in touch with my femininity than looking at other women. You look so beautiful and I love seeing your face on my dash.
that sort of dissonance is why i tend to take pictures of myself and stare in the mirror as often as i do. im at the point where i feel like i look like a girl most of the time, but i dont really know off the top of my head any (real flesh and blood) women who look similar to me. but recently, and today with those pictures actually, ive been thinking to myself "maybe i dont need to conform entirely into masculinity or femininity. maybe i can just look like a human, and be happy that i appear human."
there's a necessity to break away from what other people have told you that you look like, and start figuring out how you see yourself with your own eyes, completely divorced from bias. i found that dissolving preconceived notions is a key first step in being happy to see yourself in the mirror.
No offense to Nesta, but I don’t think I could read another 700 page book centered around her. And I specially wouldn’t read a 700 page book with Gwyn as the main character. I could be in the minority, but I almost DNF Silver Flames.
I hear ya. I liked ACOSF, but it lacked action. There was more focus on Cassian absolutely chafing for Nesta and Nesta training, instead of having anything actually happen plot-wise.
The troves and Eris/soldiers part was interesting, but the BR seemed kind of rushed. It's SJM fantasy, so of course I knew all three women would be fine in the BR, and there would be no stakes. I liked Nesta, I liked Cassian, I liked Gwyn, I liked Emerie.
I wasn't a part of this fandom when I read ACOSF, and so I like to think I read it 'as the author intended'. Meaning, I had no preconceived bias about ships or characters. I thought it was necessary for Nesta to go to HOW rehab, I thought she definitely fucked up in the way she told Feyre about the pregnancy issues but I understood why she did it, I thought Rhys was kinda a dick but I understood why he was like that, I thought it was badass when Nesta put on the mask, I thought her and Cassian being so down bad for each other was hot, I absolutely loved Cassian and did think he was deserving of Nesta, I thought Nesta giving up her power to save Feyre was the ultimate show of her love for her sister–
Imagine my surprise, when I come into this fandom and I see people being Anti-Rhys. Anti-IC. Anti-Feyre. Anti-Cassian. I see people saying Nesta's going to break the mating bond with Cassian to go be with Eris. I see people saying she's going to overthrow Rhys and become High Lady of the NC.
Oh, and Azriel suddenly is mates with Nesta's friend, Gwyn – even though he's trained her every day and they had maybe exchanged 2 sentences in the entire book? It was....bizarre to say the very least.
Like ACOSF in my head was NOT good enough to garner this level of ride or die fans. I don't know WHY people have latched onto Nesta & Gwyn so hard that they're now saying everyone else in the books is bad and an abuser or whatever in comparison to them. It's just so weird. Weird. Weird. Weird.
What do you mean by Shen Jiu being female-coded? /genq
Hello! To preface, in a lot of fandom spheres calling any cis gendered character "[gender]-coded" tends to be negative, usually to highlight poor writing or usage of harmful stereotypes, i.e., male-coded women being arrogant and demeaning to other women or female-coded men being sensitive and the butt of jokes among other men. However, there are instances where it is done and, rather than promote negative gender stereotypes it rather... Emphasises a masculine and feminine natures that resonate with people.
I am not always good with words, but there is [gender]-coded that is basically thinly veiled sexism and there is [gender]-coded that is simply nature. Think along the terms of pre Christian colonialism, where many cultures and religions have masculine energy and feminine energy defined outside of biological gender.
I see SJ as female coded because of how the fandom reacts/reacted to him. We don't got a lot of info on him, canon wise, at least not without heavy (and unreliable) bias. But there is a stark difference to how fandom treats him compared to the other men in the story.
And I don't mean in the sense of "he deserved what he got/he deserved so much better" discourse that surrounds him, but how fandom understands him.
Depending on where you fall, the degree of SJ's childhood trauma could range from demeaning slavery with a historically usual amount of abuse and demands to underage sexual abuse and torture. Regardless, the common thread is that men have control over his autonomy. Men (and nobility) dictate what he does, how he dresses, what he will receive, and how others percieve him. This is something SJ does not escape, even when he becomes a Peak Lord, although the degree has lessened by this time. He fails not just because of his actions, but due to the words and judgement of people who only see him on surface level and, thus, scrutinise his every action as "evidence" to their preconceived judgement.
And boy does fandom run with this!
And it makes sense because, a huge portion of danmei demographics are women... Women who understand all too well the dangers a negative statement can have on their livlihood.
This is why Shen Jiu is female coded, to me. Qui Jianluo, Wu Yanzi, Yue Qingyuan, Luo Binghe, even Shen Yuan, etc etc all, in some way, have taken his autonomy. QJL and WYZ did it with their abuse and power over him, YQY did it by undermining him and placating him (while allowing the bad rumours and his bad behaviours to persist), LBH through his revenge (literally crippled him), Shen Yuan quite literally takes over his body and has no regard for its treatment for most of the story.
In fandom, I think its telling that Qi Qingqi, Mu Qingfan, and Liu Qingge also feature as a prominent antaongist that contribute to Shen Jiu's abysmal reputation. Unfortunately, the three kinds of people women should feel protected by and safe with- other women, doctors, and those who uphold justice- are some of the main contributors to the problems they face. They aren't taken seriously, they're ostracised or put down, they're ignored or labeled as over emotional.
Its also telling that, for most fanfics/discussions/art/etc where Shen Jiu is "redeemed" or given a second chance, the main reason why he suceeds is because others listen to him. They let him have a voice and respect it. He is able to advocate for himself and not be torn down or turned away. And if he is, usually there's a man that stands by his side and acts as the "ally" or "bridge" that gets people taking him seriously.
Or, him being attached to a well-respected man is enough for people to change their opinions. Fandom can't help but reflect real life in their works.
So, with all that being said... I understand that there's going to be people who think this is a "bad take" because I rely so heavily on how the fandom portrays Shen Jiu, and that's fine. There will always be Bible-thumpers in every piece of media we consume, and they're here for good reason. But I consume stories for the feelings they evoke and the influence they have on others. People make connections, that's just what we do, and this is the connection I made.
ZD is such a thought provoking and self reflecting film and it sucks that most people view it from only one perspective or preconceived bias of what is taboo / “morally incorrect” in media. it has significantly larger meaning than just the “school shooter” movie. it’s hypocritical of people who are interested in, for example, slashers to criticize a fictional movie and or it fans because of the content material. lots of people find comfort or interest probably because of the deeper messages and emotions behind it, and relating to cal or andre because of (in my opinion) well representation of REALISTIC mental illness instead of “socially correct” mental illness isn’t bad. self-destructive and harmful behavior, even though it is negative, is unfortunately a major part of struggling with mental illness. OBVIOUSLY what they did is wrong; in no way does the movie try to make them out to be guilt free and their mental illness is not an excuse. however i dont think its crazy whatsoever for people to enjoy it because a significantly large amount of people in this fanbase are mentally unstable (no offense guys…) and i don’t think anyone should be painted as a bad person because you vent or even just cope with violent/dark media instead of harming yourself and or others irl. “art is meant to comfort the disturbed 🤓” OR WHATEVER.. putting emotion towards fiction in general helps me personally and methinks it is a great movie besides its cinematography and whateva… ok DONE