It's so very tough. Looking around and seeing everyone achieve what you have been working so hard at with seemingly no effort. Seeing them "make it" while you feel left behind. It's hard.
Try not to resign yourself from living the best life you can, though. It does get discouraging continuing to work toward something only to have people try to convince you that you're not enough for having made it like they have. Don't allow that to get you down, though. If you have to, distance yourself from those people as fast as you can.
1.Identify your triggers for behaviors you want to change.
Changing a bad habit is really hard, but figuring out your triggers might help. When you feel tempted to engage in a bad habit, write down what was happening beforehand. This might be your trigger, so avoiding that situation in the future could help you make positive changes.
Let’s say you’re trying to stop eating junk food. When you feel tempted to munch on a bag of chips, you might consider what was happening when the craving hit. You might realize that when you feel stressed, you crave junk food. Managing your stress levels might help you avoid triggering your cravings.
2. Make a list of the habits and behaviors that are holding you back.
You’ll need to swap out your bad habits for good ones if you want to make a big change. Identify the habits that aren’t helping you live the life you want. Additionally, recognize the behaviors that are causing problems in your life. List out these habits and behaviors so you can work on changing them.[2]
As an example, you might recognize that your habit of eating take out on weekends is preventing you from saving money to use for your hobbies and from eating healthy meals.
Similarly, you might realize that scrolling on your phone is taking all of your free time.
3 .Describe what your best life looks like.
If you’re wanting to change yourself completely, it’s likely you feel that your life isn’t going the way you’d like. To help you be your best self, decide what your ideal life would look like. Include the job or path of study you want to pursue, how you want to spend your day, and how you want people to perceive you.
For instance, you might decide that you want to be a teacher so you can work with kids. In your free time, you might spend your day helping others, making things, and spending time with your family. You may want people to perceive you as a kind-hearted, hard-working person.
listen. Neymar was a number 10 from Santos. Nenê was a number 10 from Santos. Neymar plays for PSG with the number 10 shirt. Nenê used to play for PSG with the number 10 shirt. Psg Hates Neymar. Psg loves Nenê. Neymar is unhappy at PSG and should leave them for another club. Nenê left Psg and now plays for Vasco and he loves being in Vasco so much he's considering retiring and getting an admin job with Vasco. With Nenê leaving, Vasco will need a new number 10. Don't you see Neymar? the choice is clear! Your path has opened, the gigante awaits. Your redemption journey starts by making sure vasco doesn't go down to série b again. Vasco awaits.
No, it didn't make much sense, that I despised and thought so highly of myself at the same time. How tangled it all was! The more I hated myself, the more I needed to prove my extraordinariness.
Against the rusty tracks, past the ancient hills, creaky wheels brittle from a long journey shuddered to a halt as hissing steam rose from the weary engine looking at a stagnating town that time forgot.
They all need saving from the old house had become. The inside needs dusting, aching to clear the clutter of memories.
Ivy crept up the walls and the paint faded to a dull and peeling gray…
We shouldn't rely on feedback from others to feel good about ourselves. 😉 Think about it; why do you feel the need to prove yourself to other people? To get their approval? To hear that you've done a good job? Or is it to just fit in with the "in-crowd"? Whatever it is, we should be focused on making ourselves better simply for our own benefit.
Don't get caught up in valuing other peoples' opinions over your own about your abilities. They don't know you like you know yourself. The only person that you should be worried about making proud is yourself! Make yourself better for you, not for the approval of other people.
We shouldn't challenge ourselves by using other peoples' standards, because everyone is going to have a different set of those! Your standards are going to be different from your friend's, from your family's, from your co-workers! So forget about trying to prove yourself and impress someone else, and start impressing yourself! 😁
2024 is about letting people care about and for you. it’s about answering ‘how are you’ with honesty, asking for space when needed, accepting help and being open to advice, listening to concerns and having difficult conversations. it’s about trying your very best to let go of the feeling that you’re completely alone, and finding ways to prove to yourself that you aren’t.
"Great!" Danny says, clapping his hands together to get everyone's attention. The dinner table falls silent as everyone looks towards him. It's a full house today and, honestly, Danny's a little nervous. "I'm sure you're all wondering why I gathered you here today."
"It's dinnertime. In our house." Duke mutters, while doing a very bad job of concealing his yawn. He holds his fork poised over the braised beef, but, just like everyone else, still looks towards Danny before tucking in. It's intriguing enough to wait.
"Yeah, no one misses Alfie's dinner." Dick says, with a brilliant smile that Danny can't help but return.
"Precisely! What better time to talk to you all than when you're all actually here!"
"Wait, I thought you came round to work on our English essays?" Tim asks, blinking owlishly.
"I'm afraid I've lured you here under false pretences, Tim."
"This is where I live."
"I would still really appreciate help on that essay though, I mean, what the hell is Hamlet even about? I just don't get that old time-y language, like 'Hark! A ghost hath killed me!' - absolute rubbish, what does that even mean?"
"The ghost never kills anyone in Hamlet, he's there to tell Hamlet that he was murdered. Have you actually read it?"
"No, but it sounds like you have. Tim, I want this guy to help me with my essay instead. I know for a fact that you haven't read Hamlet, either."
"So? We don't need Jason, I've read the Sparknotes."
"Hi Jason, I'm Danny, pleasure to meet you, summarise Hamlet in three sentences or less."
"Am I auditioning to help you write your essays? I can't believe you’ve gone through your whole school life without reading it, it’s good!"
"Hamlet, along with a number of other classics, was banned in our house because it portrayed ghosts as intelligent and sympathetic beings rather than evil, animalistic beasts. I didn’t even get to see The Muppet's Christmas Carol until last year with Tim! It was surprisingly good, and I hate Christmas because everyone always argued and it sucked. But we're getting off topic. I—"
"No, no, please go back to that, because what the fu—"
"Boys, please." Bruce interrupts, looking to the world as if he wants to hang his head in his hands. "Danny, you were about to say something?"
"Oh, yeah, Mr. Wayne! Thanks!"
"Please, call me Bruce."
"Well, that very succinctly brings me to my point, because I'd actually really like to call you dad."
Nobody says a word. Nobody even blinks, all as shocked as the other, watching open-mouthed as Danny pulls his laptop out from beside his chair. Bruce can definitely feel a headache coming on.
"Before you say anything, I've prepared a 69 slide PowerPoint presentation on why you, Bruce Wayne, should adopt me, Danny Last-Name-Pending. Please save your questions, comments, and verdict until the end, thank you."