#selfactualisation

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[babyawacs]

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@afn @afnstuttgart scientifically what makes happy is d o i n g things not having only aswellas the a b s c e n c e of whatmakes unhappy across layers of mayslows pyramid of wellbeing ‎ thebasis is like ‎necessities to exist thenhigherlayers about immaterial necessitieslikesafety upto beliefsystems paradigms upto pinnacle of selfactualisation there are factors within your ownlife youcan tweak to…

[patrickfrombelfast]

Some notes on self improvement after watching my own first live Stream

I had my first live stream last night with a friend (Lyndsey), which you can feel free to watch right here;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lg-FMaPogLk&t=3277s

After watching it I noticed some personality faults in myself that i would like to jot down as a manifesto of self improvement, and a reflection upon myself with the endeavour of improving our content.  This blog is not intended to say that I’m a bad person nor is it intended to be outlet for self hatred.  Just a few things that I would like to improve in myself moving forward.

1// Don’t drink on live stream and maybe don’t drink at all

Everything in moderation i suppose, and in fairness and love to myself, granting myself forgiveness; I was nervous and there was alot going on in a live stream.  But in live streams in the future I endeavour to not be dependent on social lubrication.  

Alcohol is a mixed blessing at social events, sometimes leading to people into saying and doing things that they would not usually.  I’ve had a problem with alcohol dependence in the past, which I’m sure I’ll talk about in more depth in a later blog, perhaps the day has come when my “moderation” becomes “temperance.” becomes “restraint.”  Or, in simple terms maybe it’s time i drink rarely if at all.  

2//. Improve my listening skills

We are given two ears to listen and one mouth to talk.  I need to listen to what is being said, ask appropriate questions of the other person ask the other person (Lyndsey) to elaborate on their ideas and their insight.

3//. Practice mindfulness and practice being in the moment

This is similar to the last point, but i noticed and i remembered that there were moments when I was not present in the conversation and I became distracted.  Moving forward I intend to practice mindfulness, both on and off camera, by practicing breathing and presentness training in my own time, and by bringing a pen and piece of paper into the live stream.  

It is very easy to become distracted and lose focus with the amount of things going on on a live stream.  

4//. Verbalise my thoughts better

When i was on camera I noticed that I was not verbalising every thought that I had well or even at all.  There may have been alot of insight in my internal monologue; but this was not put on camera for people to see.   There were times when my verbalised thoughts were a little incoherent, and when Lyndsey had to carry the burden of my rambling.  

5//. Prepare before the conversation

We did talk about this on camera; how i only had a mental idea of the things that I wanted to discuss.  In the future we need to have a better conversation plan going in.  

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I think that will do for self improvement notes for today.  I really enjoyed my live stream last night with Lyndsey.  I think she and I have got a good bit of potential on screen and a shared vision for what we want to accomplish.  I think that what I’m getting out of it is a chance to self improve, to make a new friend, to find a congregation of likeminded people.

Thats also the reason why I’ve taken to tumblr and I’m keen to meet other people who are on a spiritual journey to self improvement and self actualisation.  

If you have any comments on self improvement, any podcasts that you could recommend please note them in the comments below.  

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Thanks very much!!!

Patrick

[cadetcapela]

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[lifeafternarc-blog]

I had so much unresolved #spiritual and emotional “business” at the time I ended up involved with the ridiculous #narcissist abuser. I didn’t know it at the time. But I did. . . . A few words I’d use to describe the old me: Naive. Inexperienced. Shockingly tolerant of dysfunction. Gullible. Overly trusting. Shaky boundaries. Seeking validation. Seeking permission. People pleasing. No idea of her power at all. . . . I am glad the abuser only got to experience the unfinished version of me & that I stepped into my power & wholeness *after* I was well rid of him & #narcissistfree. . . . How about you? . . . #loveafternarcissisticabuse #selfactualisation #wholeagain #selfrealisation #healingfromabuse #souljourney #empaths #peoplepleasers #boundaries #personalgrowth #narcissisticabuse #lifeafterabuse #lifeafternarc https://www.instagram.com/p/BsiyEUsnMRy/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1uomwztvmrze1

[ymiruv]

Self-help This is certainly good advice Help can come from inside Such strong self-actualisation Gives strength you cannot hide. But this got my attention I wondered what was in store I am happy to help myself But what are the chilis for…? 😏 Greg Noble 10 June 2022 #selfhelp #selfactualization #selfactualisation #drivebypoetry #poem #poetry #instapoet #poetsofinstagram #noblepoetry #poet #poetrycommunity #words #creative #creativewords #instapoems #prose #thoughts #poetsociety #micropoetry #chilli https://www.instagram.com/p/CenkN0iJ1Oi/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[ruvimbothinking]

I am thankful and grateful for living in this state of letting go. I am taken over by the love of self and appreciation of self. I no longer hold myself hostage from my own happiness. I live and use my power for me and my benefit. My battery is fully charged and ready for my operation.

Moreso, I am getting more and more comfortable with embracing and accepting the unknown and the journey it brings.

[gediminasgrinevicius-blog]

What other people think of me is none of my business. #coaching #businesscoach #homebasedbusinesscoach #titaniumsuccess #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #nlp #nlpcoach #personalbreakthrough #pshychology #peakperformance #selfhelp #selfdevelopment #mentor #business #personalpower #selfesteem #selfactualisation #potential #peace #love #happiness #balance #energy #motivation #passion #growth #progress #confidence (at Peterborough) https://www.instagram.com/p/BoPFS3vlDrf/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=zw23e6ahmwl8

[worldwanderlusterx]

For me the goal is enlightenment, which means colossal sacrifice, and ultimate reward. Step 1 is to figure out what you want. Step 2 is to figure out what you need to do to achieve it. Step 3 is to figure out the person you need to be to achieve it. Step 4 is to become that person and achieve that goal. Action the strategy. Stay focused on that one and only dream until it is alive and realised and beating in front of you x #superhuman #wonderwoman #superman #selfactualisation #dreamsarereal #youarewhatyoubelieve #tonyrobbins #power #lawofattraction #beastmode #training #workouttime #superpower #lifecoach #lifetransformation #discipline #selfdiscipline #strength #mentaltoughness #awaken #selfsctualisation #enlightenment #buddha #knowing #physics #meditation #gowithin #thepowerofnow #stillness #peacewithin (at Brighton and Hove) https://www.instagram.com/p/CXOrvEhonPE/?utm_medium=tumblr

[campbellleadershipsolutions-blog]

Looking forward to #learning a little bit more about #culture today. • #professionaldevelopmentday #adultdevelopment #growthmindset #ThatsCultureHS #leadership #sydneyexecutive #sydneyceo #sydneyconference #curiosity #helpinghumansbehuman #navigatingcomplexity #humansynergistics #campbellleadershipsolutions #selfactualisation (at City Recital Hall) https://www.instagram.com/p/BnpOG-VhNw7/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1wi75e8pchiq

[babyawacs]

@all @world @bbc_whys @bbcr4 #the #iq #and #career #and #job #thing ‎ ‎ ... but it is simple to sort humans‎ they do that whatyou enable themto thatthey getbetter depends ontalent itis easier andquicker to gains personal what to stay engaged selfdriven evengain happiness from selfactualisation purpose meaning selfidentification

@all @world @bbc_whys @bbcr4 #the #iq #and #career #and #job #thing ‎ ‎ … but it is simple to sort humans‎ they do that whatyou enable themto thatthey getbetter depends ontalent itis easier andquicker to gains personal what to stay engaged selfdriven evengain happiness from selfactualisation purpose meaning selfidentification and the #keypoint is above iq130 any job canbe done principally…

[poordogseeksgod]

🐙Everything we have, carries: • Your thoughts • Your feelings • Your desires Like Juju, I have gained junk over 9 years after finishing Year 12. Now during #lockdown2021 , let’s use this time to do a honest review of where we are at. We can use this practice using a scene where Ross says in FRIENDS, we need to “PIVOT‼️” Let’s PIVOT and adapt in this changing #postcovidlife ✌🏽 Over time, we gain stuff - Physical stuff which influences our mental invisible state #selfcaretips 🟣Being self-aware: you look into it and review it 🟣Being self-reflective: you look back and ask yourself whether you need to move on 🟣Being self-actualised: you look for ways you can use your life experiences to learn, fall, train, practice, gain, teach, let go etc. and repeat 🌱 We got this. .•.•. #cycleoflife #spiritualgrowthjourney #metaphorsforlife #selfawarenesjourney #selfreflecting #selfactualisation (at Melbourne, Victoria, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CUwTZH8hX6D/?utm_medium=tumblr

[mandyjane-lifedesign]

#selfactualisation #selfesteem #yourbestself #getahead #liveyourlife #progress #moveforward #mentalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #positivemindset #cognitivebehavioraltherapy https://www.instagram.com/p/CRgUFjgsw3M/?utm_medium=tumblr

[chilledplantmum]

This is what I call the Giant Jaw Breaker theory of trying to get to internal validation

You are starting with a single grain of sugar. It’s you at your core there are cells that make up your genetics. This part is nature.

Then when you're being processed and starting to get bigger you obtain levels of nurture. These include machine parts of where you were born, when, what system and every layer of inequality adds a rough layer that cuts your tongue.

So it begins living your whole life and having layers and layers of people telling you everything you are perceiving in a certain context and how you should feel about them. What you are and aren’t allowed to do.

If we interject gender theory for example girls get a rough layer that is particularly hard to break through as they get older, they are given the layer of anger is not appropriate for a girl.

Boys get given the layer that they are not allowed to feel sad, this becomes harder and thicker as they get older it may greater or equal to anger for girls.

Some people never get to experience taking the layers away. Not for a lack of trying but because they were never given the money or power to buy a gobstopper. Example therapy is expensive and isn’t universally available.

But let’s say you get picked to be able to get a gobstopper and you start the work of licking away the layers until it’s getting rough and hurts your tongue and you bleed.

You take time away to heal. Get frustrated because you can see through those rough grains of sugar there is another layer. And sometimes you get a little gap you can taste.

You try to push through again and your tongue starts bleeding again.

You cry because you won't taste how good the next layer will be and curious to what colour the single grain of sugar is. You know it’s there but you can’t see it yet.

But the next layer is again painful and makes you bleed.

At this point, you search for tools to make you stronger to not feel pain. (Drugs, alcohol, gambling, addictions of any kind) but instead of helping you they hinder you and you addicted and you give up on the gobstopper because it’s easier to not feel the pain.

Some people will try to work through the pain again and again but it just keeps hurting you. They stop and say it hurts too much. At this point, they throw it away. (Eg this could be suicide)

But there’s a small few that will sit and think deeply of how to make it less painful. Maybe it takes you years to think of a different way. Everyone can teach this at a different stage.

Some people will work to the point they understand that they can’t do it themselves and alone and they need tools to help. But the tools will help but they need to learn how to use them to help. And different tools work for different people. ( CBT, DBT, ACT )

So they try a knife, then a spoon, or maybe a supportive person to have a go but it’s not their gobstopper so they’re not going to put up with that pain to help you.

Then one day you realize that being kind and just washing away the rough layers with just a little bit of warm water takes away most of the pain. You have found the tool that works.

But if you leave it in the water too long it melts and you stop learning and getting to take in the next layers of feeling successful.

So you start licking away again.

Until you get the answers you’re looking for.

You have reached Internal Validation

But wait now you got there you want to help every other person in the world reach this level too but you can’t because if you did you’d be in so much pain it starts hurting you.

So now you realize that you have to wait for people to ask for help. You can tell them exactly what to do but they still have to do the work themselves.

And so you step back and as each person learns it and passes the knowledge on it becomes like ripples in the water.

And you can step a back relax and say to yourself that you did a good job and finally enjoy the sweetest sugar in your life.

[ymiruv]

Self-help This is certainly good advice Help can come from inside Such strong self-actualisation Gives strength you cannot hide. But this got my attention I wondered what was in store I am happy to help myself But what are the chilis for…? 😏 Greg Noble 10 June 2022 #selfhelp #selfactualisation #drivebypoetry #poem #poetry #instapoet #poetsofinstagram #noblepoetry #poet #poetrycommunity #words #creative #creativewords #instapoems #prose #thoughts #poetsociety #micropoetry #chilli https://www.instagram.com/p/CenjWv8h5wc/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[ruvimbothinking]

In its truest sense, i AM REMINDED That i have already won the lottery. The lottery of life (my growth and evolution). It's beautiful. I get it now. Thank you. The lottery is self actualisation realising one's highest potential