#should i tag this as trans idk

[guitarhero-3]

even if i am not aromantic or asexual in the future i really really appreciate the aspec community. all of you are so wonderful and welcoming and i am so thankful for all of u every single one of yall

[felixfeliccis]

[asparklethatisblue]

That time I got my gender assigned by an eagle

Based on true events

[kyonshi-8610]

lifes fleetin do whteve yu want & die 2be a buttrfly aftrwrds

Ta p in to no blurry

[takataapui]

A micro solo(journalling)ttrpg about being a patch of moss in a bog, and dealing with the inevitability marching nature of time, and accepting your future state of peat. Or something like that, anyway.

so, you're a small patch of moss in a big bog... on itch.io now!

[officialspec]

What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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first off i hate this ask and i think youre a freak. in any other world i wouldve blocked you for this but unfortunately for both of us i actually like this type of philosophy. dont send this shit to anyone else though

i dont think its right to compare human sexuality to the same thing in animals, to get that out of the way. im sure until a certain point it comes from the same biological impulses, but human beings have way more complicated social structures and reasons for coupling that just do not exist in other animals. our social behaviours are what make us unique in the animal kingdom and that definitely extends to gender and sexuality. so theres that

people love to tout 'gender is a social construct' around like its a criticism in and of itself, which i think betrays a misunderstanding about social constructs in general. theyre the foundations we build language on to better understand each other, and affected by a whole host of cultural and historical factors. just because theyre subjective and complicated doesnt mean they arent real. in terms of the effect they have on peoples lives they may be the most real thing that exists

for example, 'kindness' is a social construct. the definition and ways it is enacted differ greatly across personal and cultural lines. but no one would ever suggest a world where kindness doesnt exist or loses meaning, because its an essential part of the way we interact with each other (in the same way i dont really see a world where gender entirely ceases to exist, mainly just one where people have more fun with it. im not a psychic though so who knows)

similarly, sexuality in humans is another social construct. i think the driving biological forces behind it are very real, but the labels people attach to those impulses are subjective attempts to express their inner world to the people around them if that makes sense. and those same biological impulses are ALSO subject to social ideas of gender, because those ideas are established at birth and reinforced over a persons entire lifetime

to use myself as an example, im a gay trans man. ive identified as other things in the past, because i was trying to pick apart feelings i had and express them to others in an attempt to find community. my identity might change as i get older and experience new things, or it might not. i identify as gay because im not attracted to the social concept of women, and someone i would otherwise be attracted to might lose all appeal after i find out they fall under that concept (this has happened before w transfems pre and post coming out lol)

of course, the real REAL answer to this is that trying to give queer identities rigid and objective definitions is a fools errand, and also lame as fuck. someone might identify as gay and be more attracted to general masculinity than men as a social category, maybe they fool around with a couple of butch women without considering themself any less gay. two otherwise identical people might be a butch lesbian and a gay trans man without either of those identities coming into conflict. they might even be the same person at different times of the week

the labels people choose to use are communication tools, not objective signifiers. if you dont understand them, they probably arent talking to you

social constructs are everything. we as humans have the unique ability to interpret our own messy desires and impulses into words that other people can use to form an idea of someone else in their mind. its how we build connections, and of course it isnt perfect because trying to squeeze someones entire personal history and the centuries of context that defined it into a handful of syllables is going to leave some room for error. but its all we have, yknow? so we keep trying. and i think thats much more human than any imposed objective 'truth' could ever be

tldr we live in a society dipshit. get with it

[jellysjar]

pov ur new roomate’s shorts are waaaay too short

[smolldust]

Kinitopet doodles but I threw my sona in there cuz I wanna be his friend

[autismsupersoldier]

i made a cover for my gender playlist* and i think it came out pretty nice

current tracklist under cut, though i will be expanding it and welcome suggestions!

*a playlist that i think encapsulates what i want my gender to be :-)

🪩

Stayin Alive by Bee Gees

You Should Be Dancing by Bee Gees

Hot Cop by Village People

Love Machine by Wham!

Take on Me by a-ha

Down Under by Men At Work

Working for the Weekend by Loverboy

👢

Big Iron by Marty Robbins

The Devil Wears a Suit and Tie by Colter Wall

Sleeping on the Blacktop by Colter Wall

God's Gonna Cut You Down by Johnny Cash

Daddy Sang Bass by Johnny Cash

Folsom Prison Blues by Johnny Cash

Sixteen Tons by Johnny Cash

[transpandaart]

A last minute artfight done for a friend @tis-i-a-queer! Her character Neo is determined to get a (minecraft) totem of every person in existence... even all the ones inside one head! Much to Panda's begrudging acceptance.

You can find this artfight here!: https://artfight.net/attack/8523030.too-many-essences

[pathetic-tboy]

my gf is making fun of me for not mastering stp devices shes like "awww dumb puppyboy cant piss??? poor little puppy cant piss??" and im like NO I CAN I CAN ITS A LEARNING CURVE I SWEAR I CAN

[rainofthetwilight]

"chriscreator0 is a ninjago fan" - and other hilarious lies you can tell yourself

[t4transsexual]

i think about that one post about the presumably lesbian couple who one wife is very pure about her love of cats and the other wife and her family bully their cat to show affection a lot especially tonight where i just told my girlfriend, "im going to show eddie a picture of garfields girlfriend, yknow the one with the big tits? for some reason? anyway and then im going to give him body dysmorphia and gender dysphoria all at once" and my girlfriend was just like "you are HORRIBLE. EVIL"

[transradfem]

sometimes i think about the language that some radfems use to describe bodies like mine and get angry. i don't think i can do anything to change their minds, but i can talk about how i feel.

i had top surgery six years ago, but i do not feel mutilated. i have been taking testosterone for seven years, but i do not feel gross or undesirable or disgusting. yes, i know i am a woman. this is the truth. but i am also transsexual, in the sense that i am socially read as male and took steps to appear that way.

i do not want to tell other dysphoric or detransitioned people how to frame their experiences with the medical industry, that is not the point of this post. but if you, personally, have not gone through these experiences, it is not your place to say whether or not i should be ashamed of my body. is that not what got us here in the first place?

[appleimps]

I want to post this on its own bc I really like this Ganon doodle, sorry lol

[whilomm]

finally finished my nipple memorial plaque (after i kept Forgetting to buy the fuckin, metal thingys)

While i wasn't able to take my real nipples home in order to taxidermy them, i think my paper mache nipples made from tealight wax molds make an alright substitute given the circumstances

ill put the full thing under a readmore due to being told the nipples are "very realistic" (though i feel the colors are still a bit off, should have matched my vampirically pale skin tone a bit better)