#to leave this moment of peace

[saltlog]

[slythereen]

The thing that pissed me off the most was when he said that Oscar should give him the place back to avoid risking a penalty, saying it as though he cared for Oscar's results.

It pissed me off so much. He wanted to make himself sound so generous to give Oscar advice?? When it was not Oscar's fault? He just wanted to intimidate Oscar into giving him the place back. Carlos knew that was more valuable than 5 seconds, especially as it was a risk the stewards would say it was not Oscar's fault at all.

Honestly I thought that was very messed up of him to try and push for over the radio. He's always trying to play mind games and I hate it.

agreed 100%. honestly my biggest issue with carlos is the lying and always blatantly twisting the narrative. like, bro, just be honest. we all know you’re selfish so let’s not pretend? just admit it?? that’d reduce his dislikability from like 50% imo. i mean, look at alonso proudly flaunting his villain status. admitting it can work. it really can.

but being a dick and a liar is just annoying 🙅🏼‍♀️ and constantly attacking an innocent darling who has never done anything wrong in his life in the process? criminal!

[horsemeatluvr23]

hermit a day may is here ohohoho ramble about my goals for this month under the cut :3

i am so excited about this art challenge.... drawing people is a huge weakness of mine and so i am going to use this as a way to practice/improve my skills while also fuelling my autism with special interest content ... i am a traditional artist so these are all gonna be sketchbook drawings :3 constructive criticism is welcomed i really want to learn n improve during this month!!! going to be trying to use different materials and rly getting out of my comfort zone - some of these drawings aren't gonna be artistic masterpieces but i want to share them all no matter how i feel about them as a way to document my journey!!! looking forward to doing some collage, using markers, coloured pencil, maybe watercolour too :0

[evilkitten3]

one pet peeve of mine in founders-era fanfics is when madara's whole,,,, everything is solved by izuna just being there

like maybe this is just me, but i don't think izuna surviving or even coming around to the idea of a truce with the senju would've been enough to keep madara from the path he ended up on.

izuna wasn't the reason he left - he was definitely part of madara's issues, but he wasn't the why. even if izuna had stuck around, and even if that had been enough to keep the uchiha clan from losing their faith in madara, i think he would've still come to realize konoha wasn't what he'd hoped it would be.

best case scenario, i think izuna's survival might've caused madara to stick around a bit longer, but i don't think it would've lasted. honestly, even then, that might've just made the inevitable break-up between madara and hashirama even more agonizing (particularly for izuna)

it's a fun idea to play around with for sure, but frankly i don't think canon!madara could've ever been 'saved' from that path. certainly not if the hidden village system ended up getting set up in the same way.

[claitea]

having a category 5 n moment tonight (literally nothing happened i just thought about him too hard and got sad over him for the trillionth time)

[gojosbf]

with gojo, geto and even kenjaku dead, do you think satosugu's story is completely over? because for me personally, if this is the end of their story, it feels kinda unsatisfactory and inconclusive. i hope we get more content and there are so many questions about their story that still need to be answered. i dont expect gojo's censored last words to geto to be revealed ever but i hope we get at least a somewhat conclusive ending.....

Their story had a conclusive ending, they're not the main characters so no matter how much we crave for more bits of satosugu this is what we have and this is how they ended. I don't necessarily find it unsatisfactory considering both of them served their purposes and we got another top notch satosugu angsty crumb till gojo's last breath (that panel of him saying "my only disappointment is that you weren't there to give a slap on the back" and geto's tears). I don't think we should drag it out or find any other means to insert more stsg when it isn't even their story, sad but true. This is it for us, they happened, it was beautiful and then it ended.

[hypogryffin]

side-by-side

[zeravmeta]

we give garp a lot of (rightly deserved) shit but unironically like 90% of the criticisms towards him i see not only ignore the wider worldbuilding context of one piece but also don't acknowledge how sengoku is like the worst friend ever

[dindjarindiaries]

Idk man, maybe I'm just sensitive about Hunter because I love him, but people cheering on Crosshair for saying that Omega's capture was all his fault when Crosshair only said that to intentionally hurt Hunter in an argument just... isn't it

[elsadventures]

i love oscar so much but i truly think that as the introverted, shy person he is, las vegas is his personal hell 😭 like the jack daniel’s press event he looked so uncomfortable on stage and this picture is so cute but i can tell he would rather not be there

[eastgaysian]

Sorry this is a dumb question but can you explain why tomshiv is not abusive? Shiv seems to hit a lot of textbook behaviours of emotional abusers

thank you for your follow up clarifying this was in good faith bc i checked my inbox yesterday right after getting high and was like man come on. don't do this to me. but yeah i can talk about it, it's obviously something i have a fair amount of thoughts on

on a fundamental level, i take issue with the assertion that there are 'textbook behaviors of emotional abusers' in the first place. distilling abuse down to a set of behaviors is, imo, effectively meaningless and totally unproductive. it's not the behavior of an individual that defines abuse, it's a specific and intentionally cultivated imbalance of power and control within a relationship. victims of abuse can and do resort to survival mechanisms that could be considered in isolation as 'abusive behavior', the point is that you can't consider them in isolation. there's a gulf of difference between the same actions when they're coming from a person in a position of significant financial or physical or social power over someone else, or when they're coming from the person at a disadvantage.

i think viewing abuse as a set of behaviors also encourages you to treat interpersonal abuse as if it's discontinuous with systemic abuse, which is inaccurate and unproductive. a key part of succession's premise is that, because the family is literally the business, the familial abuse within the roy family is inextricable from the broader systems of capitalism, patriarchy, and the sexual violence and abuse endemic to them. with regards to how the show satirizes and critiques these systems, i think it's very telling that all of the characters are to some degree complicit and/or participants in abuse, but logan is the only one i'd say is unambiguously and intentionally presented as 'an abuser' (whose abuse is not an isolated product of him as a person, but integrated into/inseparable from the capitalist system which persists after his death). still, logan isn't reduced to a one-dimensional angry, abusive dad, he's given depth and complexity. his continued insistence that he loves his children isn't treated as something that's untrue, but that doesn't make it inherently good, and it certainly isn't incompatible with him abusing them.

circling back to tom and shiv. their relationship is unhealthy, it's not good for either of them to be married, shiv does fucking awful things to tom and tom does awful things right back, i'm not questioning any of that. but at my most cynical and bitchy, what it comes down to is quite simply: shiv doesn't have enough power over tom to be abusive, systemically or personally.

the thing is sometimes you see people say 'wow, if the genders were reversed people would say tom and shiv's relationship is unambiguously abusive!' which... hrm, but really the issue is that. the genders are the way they are, that's for a reason, and yes, that does make a significant difference in how we perceive their relationship and power dynamics. tom holds very real and present power over shiv as a man and as her husband, proposing to her when she was vulnerable in a way that placed huge pressure on her to accept and then trying to get her to have his baby so he can become patriarch. shiv's the heiress with the legitimacy of her family name and generational wealth but she is continuously, unavoidably subjected to gendered discrimination and violence. she's never allowed direct access to real power - she has to rely on the men around her, her husband or her brothers, and if they don't feel like humoring her she's shit out of luck.

this doesn't cancel out like a math equation, but it definitely makes things much more complicated than shiv being an Evil Bitch Wife to her Poor Pitiful Husband. when shiv finally does push tom too far, he immediately, successfully, goes over her head to her abusive father to fuck her over. maybe shiv wants to be her father in her relationships and exert the same kind of control he does. but she doesn't and she can't! she does not have that power! she cannot stop tom from kicking back and his hits are significant. as much as she might like to pretend otherwise, tom not only has always had the power to leave in a way shiv doesn't, he had and has the power to fuck her up badly, and he's used that power. that is simply not the power dynamic between abuser and victim to me.

i also have to say that abuse is not always going to be definitive black and white. in real life there are plenty of unambiguous situations but there are also plenty of complicated situations, and applying judgments to fiction is not always straightforward. i can't exactly call someone 'wrong' for personally being uncomfortable with tom and shiv's relationship or believing shiv is abusive, but i'm very skeptical of the viewpoint and the motivations or assumptions that are often contained within. if shiv is abusive, she definitely isn't uniquely so among the cast, so you had better be applying that label and any associated moral judgments equally across the board.

[momentsbeforemass]

Let go and let God

Someone asked me: “How do you know if you’re doing God’s will vs. your own? How do you ‘let go and let God?’”

Two great questions. And the answers are kind of connected. But we need to start with the second one first – “How do you ‘let go and let God?’”

I’m a planner. I like to know how things are going to work out. I like to be ready for when they don’t.

Which means that I am tempted to worry about all kinds of future events. From stuff that I know will happen to stuff that probably never will happen. On my worst days, I can easily “what-if” myself into a torrent of worst-case scenarios.

I guess I’m trying to say that I struggle with letting go.

And yet – that’s exactly what Jesus calls me to do. Starting with one of His classic, snarky reality checks – “Can you by worrying add a single moment to your life?” (Matthew 6:27)

If “what-iffery” isn’t actually doing anything for me, then what’s the alternative? “Humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time. Cast all your worries upon Him because He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:6-7)

Translation – I have to get over me first. Because thinking that I have to handle it (or even that I can handle it) on my own can easily drift into pride. I’m supposed to get over myself. And hand my worries over to God.

How do I do that? “…in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God.” (Philippians 4:6) 

Translation – take everything to God in prayer. Literally everything.

Did it just become a concern for you? Right at the first moment you realize you’re worrying about it, take it to God in prayer.

Is it weighing on you? Take it to God in prayer.

Are you having intrusive thoughts about it, again? Take it to God in prayer, again.

If something pops into your when you’re praying about something else, don’t try to ignore it. Make it your focus. Take it to God in prayer.

The most important part? Taking it to God in prayer, with thanksgiving.

That is, taking it to God in prayer now. And then thanking God for taking care of it.

Not in the sense of “I know you will, God.” But in the sense of “I know you have, God.” Thank God for taking care of it, in the past tense. Because He already has.

If I’m thanking God for taking care of it in the past tense, that means two things – there’s something I have to do, and there’s something God will give me.

The something I have to do? Not take it back. Thanking God in the past tense means taking it to God. And leaving it.

I struggle with this one. Which means that every time I find myself taking something back, I have to stop. And remind myself of the first rule of taking things to God in prayer. No backsies.

Some days I end up doing this a lot.

But when I do, that’s when I get to the whole point. The something God will give me. When I take it to God in prayer. And leave it.

“Then the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7)

That’s the payoff. The humility, the trust, that leads us to take it to God in prayer. And leave it.

That’s the only road to the peace of God.

More on this tomorrow.

Today’s Readings

[krimreader]

I want an Arcan x Blue Eye Samurai crossover but it's just Caitlyn and Mizu butting heads while pretending to be siblings.

[harringroveera]

Unpopular opinion: I want Steve to die in season 5

(He can reunite with his dead blondie bf in the afterlife)

[livetogether--diealone]

paellos on his way to dotd for *let me check* overtaking a car with an issue and george russell the guy who got overtaken by the car with an issue

[bellamygate]

I think it's really likely phee and jin happened bc they were both rebounding from non and maybe they caught feelings maybe they didn't maybe phee is feeling guilty for that but like to ME regardless of how bad they feel abt it they're fucking on non's dead body and I'm petty enough to put away critical thinking and appreciating the nuances of media to wish them a very die