#transmanproblems

[pie12th]

Yet another day of some old guy telling me I'm "too pretty" to be a guy. I'm just such a "feminine looking girl" and I don't "act like a man." He fully admitted that my transition would be easier for him to rationalize if I were an ugly woman.

What the FUCK is wrong with this world, where we prioritize someone's sexual appeal over their happiness?

[ashenlim98]

Consistency. It’s been a while since I’ve actually took my shirt off at the gym. Why? Body dysphoria. Last year, my plan was to bulk and get bigger in size. Close friends and family have started calling me Spongebob Squarepants, due to my lack of height (I’m 5 feet 2) so basically, it affected me. To make matters worse, I was consuming a lot of whey protein, which gave me full body acne. So, not only I suffered from post workout muscle aches, I couldn’t get enough sleep to recover from the mountains of acne. I refused to listen to people’s advice, that whey protein contains steroids that affected my skin and body. I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t sleep and overall, I was just a “bro” bodybuilder who started losing motivation and confidence. This made me stop gym, and I started doing HIIT a few months later to lose weight and look lean, but due to the fact that whey protein has side effects and it takes a long time to be completely detoxed from my body, I still suffer from acne and acne scars. Recently, I started on vegan, 100% all plant based protein, and I feel much more active and less tired. My skin cleared up so much and I can finally breathe without my chest hurting. So, what’s the lesson I’ve learnt in less than a year? YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT. I became more conscious with the things I consume, because in the long run, your body will thank you. Be more open-minded to nutrition and health supplements, not just blindly buying what the vast majority recommend. Sure, it’s cheap, sure, you get the results fast, but do you really know the short and long-term side effects that you will suffer later? #transgenderftm #ftmtransition #ftmtransgender #ftm #transgender #ftmtrans #ftmfitness #ftmmotivation #lgbt #ftmtips #ftmpride #transmanofcolor #transmanofinstagram #transmanmodel #transmanofig #transmanpride #transmanproblems #abo #businessowner #amway #nutrilite #fitness #transgendermodel #transandinked #transmanmagazine #ftmmagazine #motivation #fitness (at Woodbox Fitness) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvlkBZwlJMm/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=9cq3cfkbcj59

[robin-at-your-service]

Irritating shit

Excuse me, chest, could you stop itching so much beneath my binder, thanks. 

[thecaffeinebookwarrior]

hi! i'm writing a novel with a trans male character as a mc, but don't want to misrepresent him or anything. any tips on how not to do that? especially on the coming out.

Hello!  

Since I am NB, I’m not trans-masculine.  Therefor, I’ll direct you to bloggers such as @transmlmworld, @transmanconfessions, @transmanproblems, @postdysphoria, and @trans-men-positivity, as well as this lovely list of100 YouTube channels run by transgender people, and 21 books for Transgender Awareness Month.

I hope this helps, and happy writing.  <3

[nathenandrew]

Any trans guys up?!?!

Kinda have a question and need some advice!

[thecaffeinebookwarrior]

You got any resources on writing trans men, specifically scenes where they come out to others? I'm writing a story where the character being trans is almost an afterthought, but I don't want to make simple mistakes either.

Hello!  I’m NB, but I definitely pass for a cis female and don’t suffer dysphoria, so I don’t think I’m the best person to ask.

Instead, I’ll direct you to trans bloggers, such as @transmlmworld, @transmanconfessions, @transmanproblems, @postdysphoria, and @trans-men-positivity.  

Here’s a handy link to 100 YouTube channels run by transgender people, and 21 books for Transgender Awareness Month.

Also note, having a trans character doesn’t need to be a big deal.  If you’re a cis author, it probably shouldn’t be.  Personally, one of my recent protagonists was a trans woman, who was one of the only emotionally healthy and genuinely self-confident characters in the book.  Being trans was an irrevocable aspect of her identity, but it was far from her most interesting attribute.  I didn’t want to capitalize off of the suffering of transgender people.

However, I still highly recommend you study the links in question.  You never know what mistakes you’ll make, or nuances you’ll miss, unless you commit to authenticity.  Since you asked me, you’re already on the right track!  

I hope this helps, and happy writing.  <3

[transmanproblems]

This is kind of similar to a recent ask, btw. I'm 13 and only 5'. My mom finished growing in 5th grade, and I'm finished growing too. I don't want to be this short, but I know I don't have a choice, so anything I can do to make myself appear taller?

While there isn't much you can do to make yourself physically taller, there are tricks to appearing to be taller, though not significantly.

Don't slouch! Slouching makes you look shorter. Stand with a straight back, remember your posture!

Cheat and wear shoes with a platform bottom. There are lots of shoes, especially ones for walking and balance, that put on an extra inch or two in height.

Be confident! Height is one thing, but if you are confident in the way you walk and hold yourself, your presence will be more imposing than usual.

Wear vertical stripes as opposed to horizontal ones. Vertical stripes direct a person's eyes up and down rather than left to right, making you appear 'longer' or taller.

Add height in your hair. As opposed to keeping a buzz cut, add a little bit of height with your hair by spiking, raising, or mussing it up with gel or styling wax.

Avoid very baggy clothing. While I understand that it is more comfortable to wear baggy clothing and it is much easier to pass in them, wearing baggy clothing makes you look like you're 'swimming' in your clothes, and wider. This gives you the appearance of being shorter.

Here are some tips, we hope at least a few help!

[godisablackwoman]

Best memory of my transition

Me standing in the kitchen at 4 am frantically microwaving a year old Smart One's Chicken, Brocoli and Pasta Alfredo meal, while standing in front of the microwave eating a little bit of everything sweet in the freezer, including an entire slice of freezer burned key lime pie complete with little clump of ice. 

To my roommates I'm sorry that I am always up at 4 am rummaging around the kitchen but this is what you get for living with a guy on hormones okay. 

I'M FUCKING HUNGRY BRO!

[sirnico]

God, I wish I could go shirtless in public and be comfortable! It's so fucking hot out. I'm dying.

[cayden-carter]

Cvs had me on hold so long I looked down at my phone like "pandora, shame on you, what is this elevator music you speak of"

[transmanproblems]

I heard somewhere about having a male voice in your head? I have a female voice in my head and does that mean I'm not trans* I'm just a masculine women?

Not at all! That voice in your head has no connection to your gender or gender identity. Everyone has a different one. It's likely that, because you're more used to hearing a  female voice, that's the default for that 'inner voice.'

Don't worry too much about it, friend, I know plenty of cis!men even who say their inner voice sounds more female!

[wildthingsandnipplerings]

Me and lukas had a depressing conversation

About how we feel like nobody would ever want to marry a trans person because like why would you want to spend your whole life living in something so anxiety ridden and full of self loathing. ITS SO NEH. I don't understand how people are proud of being trans. It's so miserable why would you be happy about it 😒