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Due to lack of education, visibility and plain denial that asexuality exists, many, many people are subjected to emotional abuse, self hate and non consensual sex within close relationships as well as with strangers.

So out of all the things to argue with in this wider debate, please don’t go with ‘cishet asexuals haven’t been through anything’. Its just really insulting to everyone whose been through emotional abuse and rape, all because of the lack of visibility/understanding.

I’m making a autobio comic about being Ace (normally more light hearted then this lol) it can be read here: http://tapas.io/series/beingace 

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Here's a thing I'm selling at T-bub! Strangers & Friends, a two volume comic :) A horror/drama exploring modern day prejudice and racism within small towns. Think 'The Thing' meets 'The Archers' lol that's the best way I can describe it I think.

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Hey guys, I'm selling comics at Thought bubble this year in millennium square :) my first time selling by myself too! Come say hi if you're going!!

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Got my doggo stickers through the post! Will be selling these at thought bubble alongside my comics~

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Got my doggo stickers through the post! Will be selling these at thought bubble alongside my comics~

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I think processing emotions is important...I think a good starting point that this video doesnt highlight would be- taking a small amount of time every day to write down what happened that day and how you feel about events upon reflection. Just something private for yourself, bad and good feelings. Its a good exercise to get you into reflecting on emotions, reminding yourself that most days have good and bad experiences equally, and make the process of looking at emotions not feel so daunting for more difficult emotions.

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Still doin' the odd plush commish :3 Here's a rat I just finished today for someone~

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Such an uplifting story! :D

Coworker told this story today and there was a literal outpouring of love.

Representation matters 

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These expressions sum up the relationship these two will have for the first two chapters of this comic :p Brand new comic btw! Go read for free on tapastic! 

https://tapas.io/series/songcollector

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Hello all! This weekend (29th-30th July) I’m going to be at Manchester MCM – along with all the usual books, prints etc! I’ll also have copies of fresh off the press Issue #2 of Paranormal Investigators, and some shiny new enamel pins <3! I’m on Table CE6 in the Comic Village, and I’ve got a row of awesome people with me – @naniiebimworks, @antisnow, @sammyborras & @teahermitcomics are all on row E too!

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I spent most of the last two weeks cat sitting, and the owner asked me if I'd do a little commish of her cat, Bob. He was a lovely gentle old creature, I hope I captured him well~

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“i am a full-time student working hard to get my degree in design and pursue a career in animation, graphic design, or illustration.”

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Also...look at the stuff your kid is watching... Sofia the First is imo a very feminist show, considering the first episode in the series is about how Sofia is told she can’t take part in a sport because its something ‘only princes do’, and then she does it anyway, and then almost gives up because everyone is telling her she cant be good enough because shes a girl, but her mum encourages her and she ends up being awesome.

Not to mention a bunch of other episodes talking about breaking gender roles, such as one where a boy is embarassed to tell his dad he would prefer to do ice skating to a more manly sport, and then Sofia encourages him to not feel ashamed and his dad learns to be encouraging

I could go on and on XD Give these shows a try, Disney isnt always the bad guy people assume it is, just because its brand is princess, who says ‘princess’ means what it used to mean?

I am a feminist. But when I let my granddaughter choose to be princess Sofia on one day because she wants to, I often wonder if I am helping her. Mostly we talk about what she likes and doesn't like and I let her follow what she likes. Some days we are dragons or wolves. I want to make sure she is getting the good message, but I don't want to force those on her. Any advice from your followers, whom I trust to teach not berate.

I think you’re on the right track, and your instincts are solid. 

Personally, I think the important thing is letting her choose who she wants to be, without judgement. Like, maybe today she wants to be a princess, and in a few weeks, she wants to be Iron Man, and then she wants to be Moana, and then she wants to be Dora, and then she wants to be Gandalf. 

I don’t think everything in life has to be a teachable moment, and sometimes playing is just for fun, you know? But, maybe, talk to her about why she wants to pretend to be whomever she chose, just to see where she’s at in her head.

I’m sure other people who are reading this have thoughts, though. I’m interested to hear what they think, too.

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Soooo, what exactly is half the internet populations problem with therapy??

The amount of times I’ve seen someone reaching out in a post in various places, about how they’re really unwell/depressed/anxious, and they talk about it as if thats it and theres nothing they can do, and it sucks that they’re gonna be this way forever and they dont know how to fix it.

And the only responses I ever see are things like ‘yeah I feel that way too’, or just general support and sympathy....which is nice, but there is no one giving them the ruddy practical advice.

I never see a single person say ‘have you gone to a doctor? Have you got medication? Now the last step, have you started geting therapy? If you cant afford a therapist, have you tried CBT?’

Like, seriously. Your life doesnt have to be, you get anxiety, you get depressed, and thats it. There are actual things out there that can fix it. There are tried and tested and proven things that work, a whole range of things. You just gotta find the thing that works for you, normally a combination of stuff.

I swear the stigma around mental health isnt so much in having a problem now, its in some strange idea that seeking real solid therapy will somehow mean that you’re too far gone, or that you’re too weak. Or for some reason people think its not gonna help? The amount of people I’ve seen who said ‘I know it helped others, but I’m different, I’m just more broken, it won’t help me’ and then they get therapy and it works. Cos guess what, you’re not the one person who cant get better.

Outside of it being scary at first, I have no idea why people are so adverse to therapy. Yes, its scary to take that first step. But the actual doing it îs anything but scary. Therapists know what theyre doing, you know. Theyre professiônals, théy’re not gonna bite you or something.

No matter what option you take, getting over emotional problems will never be easy. Thats just how it works. What it comes down to is, do you want to take the step to get better, or do you want to stay where you are?

Trust me, when you hit rock bottom, you stop caring so much, and taking the plunge and going for it becomes THE option. You learn to be brave, everyone at some point in their lives learns to be brave, thats part of growing up.

I just think....the internet is not always a healthy place. These hug boxes offer nothing in actually giving people practicle advice on how to fix their problems. I see loads of stuff out there, trying to help with mental health, like videos and pictures just giving some comfort or a little advice, giving basically temporary relief. But nothing advising the best long term option...

GO TO A DOCTOR, GET THERAPY OR CBT.

And please, stop discouraging people from those options. I’ve seen several people say, ‘you should just accept what you have. Its naive and ableist to say you can fix this problem’ or ‘therapy seem scary to me’.

I know they mean well, but by discouraging therapy or seeing a doctor, they’re kinda saying ‘give up’, which is, honestly, going to lead to some people to believe there is no other option to their suffering then that last option that NO ONE should encourage.

Listen, internet. You can actually for reals feel better, maybe look into it!

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My lil' front garden starting to look colourful~ All we have is concrete out here and we still manage to do something with it :D

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I did a comic about my experience with the recession and politics, you can read the rest under the cut ^^

Keep reading

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Horses are terrible to draw, they got too many knees! Fuck off, horses!