#ace problems

[maxxsio18]

"It's nothing to do with your asexuality"

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How do you not blame your asexuality when there's phrases like this coming out? Because I'm struggling

[greykolla-art]

⚠️Please don’t touch the sexy deer, it’s not flirting with you. ⚠️

I’ve got a thing for Vox being a fuckboi who keeps thinking their tension is gonna lead to hate sex. 😂

[opossums-in-a-trenchcoat]

I can’t stand forced romance in media. You’re telling me this man and woman who’ve barely spoken to each other, have not flirted at all and have barely been together for three scenes are in love??? Like am I just too aroace to see it?? I always feel so surprised

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Link

[frogsforthefrogwar]

[hyperesthesias]

no one gets to tell you how to be ace btw. not even other asexuals or aromantics. there is no correct way of being ace. theres just being you.

[asexual-in-distress]

[theaceofarrows]

Being aroace in fandoms gets exhausting because I'm out here loving like six or seven fictional couples with all of my aroace heart,

then some asshole is always like "bUt YoU'rE aRoAcE-" so? I'm aroace, but I'm not blind to the deep emotional bond and respect they have for each other.

[dreamer0903]

I am not out to anyone and I don't really feel the need to, it's too difficult to explain what aroace means so I just shrug it off and say "nah I don't want a relationship"

Anyone like me?

[aceatbeingace]

Kinda curious as to if people prefer to use the umbrella terms or not. Personally I tend to use umbrella terms (for me just ace) out of total laziness since explaining all the time is beyond tedious for me 🙃

[maxxsio18]

Asexual TikTok

I was scrolling away on TikTok just escaping my mind, and then an asexual video popped up, so I had a watch of it. 

It first spoke about a report saying how 75% of asexuals aren't open with family or friends because of the lack of understanding and medical history around being asexual. 

The lack of understanding about asexual is huge, I mean, just from this video, I managed to merge all the hate comments into one. 

Just a warning ⚠️ Ace phobia ⚠️ 

There's a lot of "you need therapy" comments, showing that most people think asexauls aren't stable human beings. I don't see why sexual attraction has to be such a huge part of being a human? Like some of these people, they probably only see asexual as not having sex, when that's incorrect as every asexual is different. 

It just annoys me how much hate there is to asexuals on TikTok and the lack of education about asexuals.

Anyways I hope you all have a good week. It's almost Christmas!

This is me signing in and signing out.

 🖤🩶🤍💜

[ian-the-existential-crisis]

"I think there might be something wrong with me"

That. That's ace.

As someone who is ace, that's how I felt for years. I didn't know the term ace until I was 20. This is so accurate that it hurts.

[olive-garden-hoe]

No no because you don’t understand how absolutely gut-wrenchingly happy it makes me that there are CANON asexual characters and little ace kids can grow up knowing they’re not broken and it’s actually being talked about and it’s not being synonymous with aromanticism im SCREAMING

[arcadialedger]

Porn bots love to find my blog and just… it’s giving aphobia.

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

You’re pissed that no one took any accountability for their supposed “aphobia/arophobia” but where is the accountability for the constant inhumane and disgusting homophobia, biphobia and transphobia STILL spewing out of ace spaces like puss? When will you all realize you feel that way because you are directly adjacent to the oppressor class and have next to nothing in common with the LGBT community as a whole but nearly everything in common with the average cishet? Y’all aren’t queer for not wanting to fuck, only fucking sometimes “if you emotionally connect”, or being emotionally unavailable to romantic partnership. And if you aren’t also gay, trans, or bisexual, you never will be.

I got my laptop out for this, goddamn. Where would i even start?

"You’re pissed that no one took any accountability for their supposed “aphobia/arophobia”" This tells me everything about you, you possibly don't believe in aro/ace identities. You don't believe people can hate on, or be hateful to, aro/ace spec people. And yes I am pissed. Because it was fucked up.

I would try to justify it with "if this was transphobic/homophobia you wouldn't be acting this way" but im guess you don't care about that as you obviously don't see it the same way.

you were also probably someone who sent asks like this (but more hateful) in 2016 and before, you were probably also someone who posted and reblogged aphobic content and said it was "just a joke" later while still sending asks like this to people. Take of that anon and show your face coward.

"where is the accountability for the constant inhumane and disgusting homophobia, biphobia and transphobia STILL spewing out of ace spaces like puss?"

where is the accountability for the homophobia, biphobia and transphobia still spewing out of ALL lgbtqia+ spaces? Where is the accountability in the REAL world? Where is it anon? Where is the accountability for the acephobia, the arophobia and so many other "not real sexualities/gender identities" -phobias?

You saw a post about aphobia, and instead of being like "yeah that was f-ed up" or "i dont care" you went "but what about meeeeee" which is very all lives matter of you. (I am not comparing racism to homophobia, however the "what about me" bs can be summed up very easily using all lives matter as an example) For the fucking record, all spaces have assholes, all of them. On behalf of the "normal" aro/ace spec folks, i apologise for any homophobia, biphobia and/or transphobia you have experienced from us. "When will you all realize you feel that way because you are directly adjacent to the oppressor class and have next to nothing in common with the LGBT community as a whole but nearly everything in common with the average cishet?" This is a main aphobe talking point so thank you for doing this by the text book so i can break it down easier!

Three pages about asexual hate crimes which im sure every average cishet has to deal with (assuming their white and male) 1 2 (a booklet for asexual people to be actually fucking included) 3

An incredible interview is here but im going to quote a few things from it as theres a 99.9% chance aphobes wont click a link

"We know aromantics and asexuals have existed for as long as humans have. However, it’s only through the terminology recently going mainstream"

"Because of Freud’s influence, many of us grew up learning that our sex drive is the primary motivator of human behavior, but that isn’t the case."

"That mindset replicates itself within the community so that when a new identity emerges, or when people try to explain themselves, there is resistance and pushback from within the community with the mindset that “if we let these kinds of people in, then that will dilute the access to power and resources we have.” And it forces the community to maintain adjacency to white supremacy, patriarchy, capitalism, ableism and classism, all while leaving behind entire groups of people."

" Do you think there will be more identities joining the LGBTQIA+ acronym? JP: Yes. The more words we have to describe ourselves, the better we are understood."

"The biggest comparisons are the lack of visibility and exclusion from communities on the basis that they’re weird, different, othered or “don’t belong in this space.” Every queer person has experienced this narrative and as more join under the umbrella, the newbie will experience the same challenges, discrimination and misunderstandings as those who came before." and here is another article that has a quote i just live by

"When did trauma become the mark of queerness?"

but back to the aphobe ->

"Y’all aren’t queer for not wanting to fuck, only fucking sometimes “if you emotionally connect”, or being emotionally unavailable to romantic partnership. "

if you think queer = sex then so help me. queer does not equal sex, queer is sexuality. and guess what that is NOT always sexual. sexuality is who your attracted to, whether it be romantically OR sexually.

and Asexuality is a spectrum, some asexuals never have sex, some don't want to have sex but have had it due to trauma or peer pressure, some don't care for it, some did it for a partner but just dont care about it.

same with aromantic. Its a spectrum. By your process here, so so so so so many people are removed from the lgbtqia+ community but you couldn't possibly mean that-

"And if you aren’t also gay, trans, or bisexual, you never will be."

-oh you did.

So none of these are part of the community either then? Agender, Bigender, Intersex, genderfluid, pansexual, omnisexual, Omnigender, Questioning, transgender and queer?

interesting anon.

Anyways i hope my followers enjoyed that! Let me know what you think if you finished reading all this!

Love;

An aegosexual, pansexual, aromantic, trans guy with to much fucking time on his hands.

[thenerdyindividual]

Being ace feels like finding out not only is Bigfoot real, but adults encounter Bigfoot hundreds of times in their life, and people keep insisting that if you haven’t met Bigfoot yet it’s because you haven’t been to the right campsite and you’re the weird one for not knowing a cryptid is as common as squirrel.