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solidarity

[ID: A picture of two arms in a handshake, the first arm labelled “Amatonormativity”, the second arm labelled “heteronormativity”, and the place that the hands clasp labelled “Why don’t you have a boy/girlfriend?”]

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Why you should have an aro as a best friend:

Because we won't steal your girl/boyfriend. And we give good advices.

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10 Dads Who Didn’t Want A Cat 

Via BuzzFeed

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Me: Maybe I'm not really aro and I'm in love with my friend?

Also me, after imagining to be in a relationship: Ugh…I want to puke…nope, I'm 100% aro

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Upload:

I was babysitting my eight years old cousin and they were trying to steal one of my plushies, when I decided to hide it my mom told them it was a birthday's present from "my best friend" (this is even a lie, they are not my best friend but a classmate and I neither think of them as a friend but as a taxi) and then, of course, my cousin thought my mom was referring to a "lover" and not a friend.

Eight years old and already now they think everyone should have a boy/girl-friend. Someone save aro children please!

Amatonormativity is toxic

Sometimes I realize how amatonormativity is dangerous and toxic for everyone, and it’s scary.

Let me explain: I’m romance-repulse, and I don’t give a fuck about any kind of relationship. My romance-repulse affect even my friends and family since if they try to hug me I’ll escape from them and you can’t imagine how disgusted I can be from a kiss on the cheek. And I’m happy how I’m since nobody ever complain about it, maybe my family but every family complain about everything.

But sometimes even I wonder how is it to be in a relationship with someone and how’s to not be a romance-repulse, how’s to be…“normal”?

I see everywhere I go and in everything I watch how romance is important in our life and how people is happy with it, even with the problems it can create and with its unhappiness like…I dunno…someone who’s not loved back, some crush who treat you like a object, some infidelity and ect.

And I really wonder how can it be to feel romance and understand why is it so important? Obviously I always say everything you do with a lover you can do it with a friend (after all exist even the “friendship with benefits”) and that’s why I don’t understand why I ask myself what could happen if I’m not neither aro neither romance-repulse, I mean why I’m “intoxicated” with this thoughts if I’m perfectly fine how I am?

Simply because I live with amatonormativity every single day and instinctively I wonder if I’ll be like my family expect me to be, with some “I love”, with a family, with children (actually I really hate them, don’t wanna have them) and to stop to act like I don’t care about nothing besides my cat and my things, what could happen? I’ll be really…“happy”?

And you know what? I’m 19 years old so it’s more suffocating to live with amatonormativity because “you’re not a child anymore, you should think about your future and find someone special for you” and obviously: it can’t be a friend, ‘cause “it’s different”.

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I made a thing

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When someone around me mentions asexuality or aromanticism

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I hate how the “crazy cat lady” trope is seen as pitiful and weird, cause like, never marrying and finding love and companionship in animals is a hella aro things to do, and I aspire to one day live surrounded by many cats and no spouses, and be quite wild and eccentric while I’m at it. It’s like my ideal life.

Romanticize the crazy cat lady lifestyle this 20noneteen

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[id: the good place meme with the cactus, you know the one. michael is labeled “me” and is asking for “good aro representation” instead of “asexual representation”. janet is labeled “ “progressive” writers” and is holding a cactus labeled “asexual representation” behind her back. after a back-and-forth, “ “progressive” writers” give “me” “asexual representation” instead of “good aro representation”, which is what I asked for. I am tired of this but not surprised. end id.]

i gotta do everything my own damn self (both making this meme and making my own aro rep…)

before anyone gets their panties in a twist: im not saying that ace rep is bad, im saying that writers will make a character canonically ace and code them as aro and then try to claim that it’s good aro rep when its. Not

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Amatonormativity is toxic

Sometimes I realize how amatonormativity is dangerous and toxic for everyone, and it's scary.

Let me explain: I'm romance-repulse, and I don't give a fuck about any kind of relationship. My romance-repulse affect even my friends and family since if they try to hug me I'll escape from them and you can't imagine how disgusted I can be from a kiss on the cheek. And I'm happy how I'm since nobody ever complain about it, maybe my family but every family complain about everything.

But sometimes even I wonder how is it to be in a relationship with someone and how's to not be a romance-repulse, how's to be…“normal”?

I see everywhere I go and in everything I watch how romance is important in our life and how people is happy with it, even with the problems it can create and with its unhappiness like…I dunno…someone who's not loved back, some crush who treat you like a object, some infidelity and ect.

And I really wonder how can it be to feel romance and understand why is it so important? Obviously I always say everything you do with a lover you can do it with a friend (after all exist even the "friendship with benefits") and that's why I don't understand why I ask myself what could happen if I'm not neither aro neither romance-repulse, I mean why I'm "intoxicated" with this thoughts if I'm perfectly fine how I am?

Simply because I live with amatonormativity every single day and instinctively I wonder if I'll be like my family expect me to be, with some "I love", with a family, with children (actually I really hate them, don't wanna have them) and to stop to act like I don't care about nothing besides my cat and my things, what could happen? I'll be really…“happy”?

And you know what? I'm 19 years old so it's more suffocating to live with amatonormativity because "you're not a child anymore, you should think about your future and find someone special for you" and obviously: it can't be a friend, 'cause "it's different".

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Alright, alright, this is reeeeeeally funny!

I'm reading Bj Alex and I'm loving this manghwa even if it's ongoing. But…maybe I'm saying no sense, but I see Alex like an aro!

Let me explain

I already know the manghwa will end with Alex and Dong-gyun together and all the obviously endings you always see, I mean you can see it even if you're blind…but how Alex talk about relationship and be engaged and even there's obviously hate about them I can see perfectly how we aro would react, he himself says "I like the relationship we have and I don't to lose it because you love me", actually they have the sexfriends relationship if you didn't know. I already know it is only because a trauma he had time ago, but I mean you can be aro even because of it so I don't see nothing wrong with it.

If only he could coming out like an aro and then be in a qpr with DG I'll be really happy, but yeah I know it is all a mental film, but you can't change my mind!!

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y’all want to know what frustrates me to no end?

all of the aro-spec positivity is lumped in with ace-spec positivity. all of it. i haven’t found anything more than an occasional post that is solely aro-spec. hell, sometimes things that are tagged aro/aromantic/aro-spec are only abt asexuality!

don’t get me wrong, i love ace-spec humans and y’all are wonderful but like. i honestly think people don’t understand that aromanticism can exist separately from asexuality. lumping them together constantly makes confused humans (such as myself) doubt their aro-ness because we like sex but may or may not want love.

asexuality and aromanticism can overlap but that doesn’t mean that they’re the same!!! you don’t have to be ace to be aro!! that is not a factor in your asexuality!!! please be aware of that, lovely humans. we are here and we might not be ace but that’s okay!! you don’t have to be ace to be aro. you just have to be you. thank u for coming to my ted talk.

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I'm pretty sure this song can be a song for aro people who's not ace 🤔

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This is what it’s like to be aromantic & asexual.

You see others in romantic relationships & it’s beautiful. You’re happy for them. Sometimes it makes you sad because it’s not something you want, but you want to want it, because that would mean you’re a normal person.

You notice people, that they’re attractive, & maybe your eyes linger, but they are just aesthetically pleasing to you. Nothing else. Men & women affect you equally.

Maybe you have a desire to have kids, like I do. I want to adopt.

But then you can’t help but think, what if it’s too hard on your own? How will I find a platonic, life partner?

You enjoy reading & watching stories that feature romantic relationships & interesting dynamics, but if you ever think of yourself in that situation, it’s disturbing. You don’t want it.

So you don’t. You don’t want it. You admire, & appreciate, & daydream about being a normal person who wants a romantic connection, who wants sex, but you just don’t.

& that’s ok. You’re not broken.

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Thanks to all of you (who reblogged and who even only commented) now it's all more clear and I can even identify in the description, I'm very grateful for your answers.

Can Someone Explain To Me…

Some of you aro people who’s aplatonic can explain to me what actually means be aplatonic?

Like…you can have friend but don’t see them in the way “I want to be with someone neither with some platonic love”? Something near to single forever in my life and it’s awesome?

‘Cause I think I can be apl but I need more information and the people that say “I’m aplatonic so I don’t have friends” confuses me really hard. I’ll be grateful at who’s can explain to me better what’s means be apl.

Thanks.

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Can Someone Explain To Me…

Some of you aro people who's aplatonic can explain to me what actually means be aplatonic?

Like…you can have friend but don't see them in the way "I want to be with someone neither with some platonic love"? Something near to single forever in my life and it's awesome?

'Cause I think I can be apl but I need more information and the people that say "I'm aplatonic so I don't have friends" confuses me really hard. I'll be grateful at who's can explain to me better what's means be apl.

Thanks.

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Full offense, but I love being aromantic. I don’t love how people view me as an aromantic person, but I love being an aromantic person. I know for a fact that some of my negative experiences have made me the way I am, but guess what? That doesn’t mean I need to change it. I am who I am. I love who I am. If that makes people angry, then tough. If that makes people feel bad for me, who cares? I’m happy being this way. Aromantic people are amazing.