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Here is quote I found interesting, deep and insightful that I thought would be beneficial to share:

"Fascism in ANY form will ALWAYS present itself as reasonable to YOUR sensibilities. It preys on a lot of things, your disgust reaction, your fear reaction, your own shame, your need for a tribe, your need to feel like you're part of something bigger than yourself, your need to protect your resources, your need to boost your own ego, your need to feel better than others, and in my opinion, the worst thing of all that it can prey on is your WANT TO DO GOOD.

It turns that Want To Do Good against you, gives you "acceptable targets" and sets you loose, thinking that you're being a fucking super hero. Fascism will ALWAYS feel okay when you're doing it because you understand why you're doing it because you've been told why you should be doing it by someone who's fucked the narrative to make you feel good about hurting other people because they've convinced you that you are protecting people by doing it!!

Fascism tells you: "The sort of people who value a sex scene in a movie are perverts, and perverts are dangerous, right? Oh god... What if they're a rapist and that's why they like that sort of stuff? Yeah, that trans girl that made that post about movies needing sex scenes... She pisses in a diaper, that's fucking disgusting right? And she likes weird fiction... And diapers are meant for kids... So... Yeah... Exactly, you got it! See you figured out what she was too! So you should trust your gut with these people, you're really good at spotting them! You know when someone is evil! And you DEFINITELY should not listen to a pervert explain themselves, because... Right, exactly, what's the point? They're just going to lie about it and probably say gross shit to you."

Did you catch how that worked? It let YOU make the conclusion. It let YOU answer the questions and start setting shit in stone in your own mind. And the next thing you know, you're using fiction as proof, anything outside of your own comfort levels as evidence, you've become an emotionally reactionary fascist who genuinely believes you are making the world better, and safer, for the people you love, and who love you in return.

Fascism doesn't begin with violence, it begins with a kind hand held out in your direction from someone else who believes they're helping. You might not even realize you've fucked up. Ever. That's how it works. That's how it thrives."

Here is the link to the whole post on tumblr, from @syggwolf where that quote came from : https://www.tumblr.com/syggwolf/767643840949698560/we-do-deserve-a-fucking-apology-well-never-get

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Elemental Everyday Conflict Prevention and Suicide Prevention

Stop being dismissive, mean or aggressive to people in person, in texts, on the phone and online.

Acknowledge or validate people's feelings or opinions before offering your own opinion/perspective. Even if their opinion is unacceptable according to your values, you can still acknowledge the other's feelings, e.g. "I see you have frustration towards xyz".

Make small or big comments/gestures to express gratitude/appreciation towards the other one's efforts. Important : focus on the efforts made more than the results obtained.

Explanations on the why:

To avoid self-esteem destruction and to avoid inducing "defence/shield mode activated". When self-esteem is altered or when "shield mode" is activated, it usually reduces significantly one's ability to listen.

Makes people feel accepted and more willing to listen to your opinions.

Makes people feel useful and feel like they are enough.

In everyday moments, the way you communicate and the content of that communication make a big difference in other people's mental stability/mental health/mental well-being.

Moreover, if more people tried to apply these communication principles as described above, there would be less conflicts, less fights, less destruction and less wars.

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How Does Anxiety Manifests Itself ?

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Positive contructive language alternatives

Some of these can also be useful for adults communicating with other adults

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So true and yet not understood by many....

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too many catnip mice, too little time.

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True Meaning of an Apology

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Loner Hypothesis

Being a loner is probably a trauma response. You are used to people not showing up or walking away or having toxic behaviors towards you. The only one you could depend on was yourself. So you naturally feel safe when you are alone.

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The Power of Mistakes

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Feelings vs Behaviors

All feelings are valid, but not all behaviors are acceptable.

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Remember : For one situation, there are many realities, many truths. What you see depends on your position in the situation and the lenses you wear.

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Power

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Growth Happens When...