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A grief so profound, it would have been understandable to retreat into sorrow. Yet, in the depths of her anguish, she found a fragment of thought for me. A fleeting consideration that transcended her own pain, and reached out to soothe mine.

In the darkest hour, when tears drowned her world, she remembered my scheduled visit. She picked up the phone, and with a voice heavy with heartache, she warned me of the impending closure.

A selfless act, born from the womb of sorrow. A compassionate whisper, that spoke volumes of her character. In the midst of shattering, she chose to hold me together.

I'm humbled by her strength, and the weight of her kindness. I'm struggling to comprehend the depth of her empathy, and the boundless generosity of her spirit.

All I could muster was a whispered apology, 'I'm sorry, mama.' Feeble words, inadequate to convey the awe and reverence I felt in that moment.

But this I vow: I'll treasure that call, and the lesson it imparted. I'll strive to emulate her selflessness, and honour her memory by paying it forward. And when our paths cross again, I'll be there, with a heart full of gratitude, and a spirit willing to listen 🌹

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Life teaches us to bear witness to others' storms, but not to let their thunder shake our own foundations. Emotional intelligence is the gentle art of holding space for another's pain, without surrendering to its darkness. It's the wisdom to empathise without absorbing, to compassionately bear the weight of others' struggles, while safeguarding our own heart's equilibrium.

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Changing yourself is a tough and often lonely journey. But it's also a powerful one. As you work on yourself, you start to realise that your worth isn't defined by external things - it's something that comes from within. You begin to let go of the things that disrupt your inner peace and focus on building meaningful relationships and keeping promises to yourself and others. It's a journey of self-discovery and growth, and it's one that can bring a sense of calm and clarity to your life 🌹

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I've come to realise that people often fall short of our expectations. It's a gentle reminder that we must learn to find beauty in the imperfections and not let our hearts be too heavily invested in words that are easily spoken, but rarely kept.

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A part of being an adult is living with regret and not allowing it to consume you. The older you get, the more mistakes you’ve made, opportunities you’ve missed, people you’ve disappointed. And every day you have to remind yourself to be kind and forgiving of yourself. You accept and love the YOU from the past and understand that it’s all a part of the process. Then you move on and live your best life, knowing now as old as you feel today, you’ll never be this young again 🌹

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In this terrifying world you continuously have the power to offer someone else a little relief . Why would you withhold that? Do you remember what a little relief feels like? 🌹

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It’s not okay anymore…I can’t keep saying it’s okay. Offering peace when it’s still a war in my brain. I can’t do that anymore.

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Life is honestly just like candy crush. One bad move can leave you stuck in the same game for months/years. Sometimes, you even delete the game and start over cause you just can’t get over this one stage.

Sometimes, everything goes well. You’re on a 15 game winning streak then all of a sudden, all your moves are bad. You can’t catch a break. All your luck is gone. This is where you give up and start doubting whatever you believe in.

There’s times where all your moves are bad. There’s 10 clear boxes, those chocolates are building up and all you have is one move…just one move- but with that one move, you suddenly get through the stage.

I started playing candy crush differently when I realised this. That no matter what happens, no matter how bad shit gets or how stuck you feel or how out of options you have? You have a choice…To step back, and keep yourself occupied with other things. Reevaluate your life. Do something else. When you’re ready? You’ll start winning again or you just die, lol.

Also, it’s just a game and they give you 5 lives. Who doesn’t want that 🤷🏽‍♂️. Point is, play candy crush.

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You can love someone without being in love with them. But in life, you have to find a partner that speaks to your heart and soul. Are you staying because you see a future with this person or because you want badly to be able to see one? Sometimes, the most compassionate decision we can make is to let go. I would really recommend couple’s counseling to come to a conclusion. Someone can be a great person to you, can have been the best for you, and you two can have outgrown each other’s goals and use. Honestly, this type of breakup sucks because there isn’t anything openly “wrong”… but the point of a relationship isn’t about there JUST being nothing wrong, it’s about things also going right at the same time. You need to also decide at the end of this decade, what do YOU want too?

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Stop playing games and being guarded, you lose so much you could gain if you didn't fight so hard not to look stupid- you end up looking stupid in trying so hard to keep walls up & hurt in the end-Tell someone how you feel already 🌹

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It's not a struggle to find yourself but it is a war to explain what you've become to other people. That's why people fail to meet themselves. They are afraid of opinions. Not necessarily themselves 🌹

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I'm starting to feel something I like, like, life is balancing. Things are in order- the right people are in my corner and my heart can't say it doesn't beat anymore, in fact, now it feels even more after pain. You are lucky to exist with me through this journey just as I am to breathe along with you 🌹

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Don’t live your life creating soft miseries with hopes you’ll find a reason for your mood. Don’t get too familiar with your pain and sadness that it seeps into every fibre of your existence. Pushing away everything . Instead of running to comfort, you’re planting bombs that will surely go off ,because “finally I have a reason”. Today on , “what did I do this time?” Road, we’re finally done. Finally had enough of stepping on 10 foot toes, no shoes ,just an invisible bull’s-eye , waiting for the bomb to go off 🌹

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Life is complex but requires a certain level of maturity in order to sustain relationships that matter. You have to weed out the process. People are too quick to give full access to strangers who give them a “good” moment, not knowing every moment returns to collect. Life is a boomerang, everything returns. You need to be selective with spaces you know you need to protect. Time is sacred that way, don’t waste it on temporary homes🌹

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Communication is your gold link. It’s the heart of any marathon. The understanding of space can only be channelled through direct energy and people who emit such radiance. Do not settle for mediocrity, you deserve orgasms off words too 🌹

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At some point you have to sit with yourself and learn who you are. You have to take responsibility for the way you've been treating yourself and the way you've allowed others to break you down. You have to go back to wherever you abandoned your love for self - thinking that someone's love for you is more important than your own - and pick YOU back up! You have to ask yourself, "why do I treat others better than I treat my own self?" then you have to accept yourself.. because at the end of the day, the only person who's forced to deal with the broken pieces of you, is you. Don't fault yourself for any of the past - just accept who you are today. Accept your truths, your hurt, and your heart. and finally, you have to love YOU. love every piece of you - and never ever let anyone come in and damage you again. Heal your heart and Protect yourself better 🌹