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ABOUT

This is the third iteration of the About post.

This project began during Pride Month (June) 2019. It has somewhat shifted scope since then. The main goals of this project are as follows:

To create a large standardized catalogue of pride flags, glyphs, and other symbols for anyone to use.

To create flags showcasing the beautiful and unique combinations and intersections of some of our identities. This project refers to those flags as sums.

Anyone is welcome to use any of these images for anything. I would appreciate credit, likes, reblogs, whatever, but it’s not necessary. Mostly I just want to share with the queer community. I think having some standardized images might be useful to people too so I'm trying to be as consistent as possible. Please let me know if you want something added to my RedBubble so you can get it as a sticker!

(Art reblogged from my account @vacuously-true is different in this respect, if you want to use any of that for something you should talk to me first.)

Making my own versions of all of the images allows me to maintain consistency of color, form, size, and style in every image on this blog. Images with text on them are designed so that the text is in a location that a section of stripes could be stretched or reflected over, or a space that could be covered by a solid color. All catalogue images and sums will be 300x500 pixels.

I want to make as many of these as possible. I want to be creative and engage with my community. I’m not interested in discourse. This project is limited to sex, gender identity, and orientation, and will not include discussion on who does or does not belong in the queer community beyond what was stated in the first iteration of the about post. So, regardless of your specific identities, if you’re here, and you’re queer, there’s a flag for that.

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PROCESS

This is the third iteration of the Process post.

If you want to request or suggest a sum or addition to the catalogue, you can send a message or an ask, anon or not. I won't post the ask requests.

You can also specify a flag that brings together the identities of people in a relationship or identities in solidarity.

You can specify whatever you’d like in your request. You can just tell me which identities you want included and let me decide which symbols to use to represent those, or request specific symbols, or even refer to another image. All image posts have a #img number in the tags that you can use to point me to what you’re talking about.

If you want some other kind of design made (like refracting and shading), the process of request is the same.

All requests are accepted and completed at my own discretion. If it seems like you’re trolling me or something I’m going to ignore you.

If you don’t like what I post based on your request- that’s okay! I’m going to leave it up because maybe someone else will identify with it, and you’re free to make more requests and specify how to make something suit you better. (You're free to make multiple requests anyway- and I may make multiple designs based on the same request.)

This is all pretty lax and will stay that way as long as we don't have any problems. Don't be afraid to get in touch and make a request!

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DIRECTORY

This is the third iteration of the Directory post.

The following tags will be used frequently.

#Info (with #Directory, #About, and #Process)

These posts give information about the tagging system, project in general, and request process.

#Catalogue (with #Flag, #Glyph, and #Symbol)

These posts have flags, glyphs, and symbols that can be used to build new flags and designs. If a symbol or glyph isn’t typically a certain color, it will be shown in the queer chevron purple and pale yellow.

#Sum

These are the flags means to represent intersections of identities.

#Standard

These are standard pride flags in the styles standardized with everything else in this project.

#Design

Other images and edits will come under this tag.

#Talk

Updates, questions, other things will come under this tag.

#img000 and identities

Image posts will be tagged with an img number for reference and I’ll try to tag all relevant identities on all posts.

#My Art

These posts will be pride-related art posts reblogged from @vacuously-true. While I don't care how most of the images on this blog get used, if something's tagged "my art," that's different and you should contact me if you want to use it for something.

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I think I shall start posting pride designs from my main account @vacuously-true here sometimes just because they would probably be of interest to the folks following this blog anyway.

The majority of the things on this blog are my attempts to make a standard set of flags and some combination designs and I don't really consider those art, they're a different sort of project I think, and I don't care if people use them elsewhere.

Things I reblog from @vacuously-true won't be that way. Those are things I consider art, they often have my stamp in them, and if you wanna do something with them I'd appreciate if you check with me first and credit me.

I hope that makes sense. People's interest in my work is increasing a bit faster than I know how to prepare for. I'm super grateful for that but I'm probably gonna make mistakes. You're always free to message me, here, @vacuously-true, or at my management blog @leemur-stripes.

Thanks for being interested in me and this project and your pride and mine. 🏳️‍🌈

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A friend requested this queer American flag. Stripe colors from the Gilbert Baker Pride Flag, heart pattern based on the Queer Chevron Flag.

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Note: also called trixic

Orbisian Flag

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Refracted Aromantic

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Achillean Aromantic Asexual Demiboy

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Genderflor Flag

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Queer identities can be so complex. Most of us can't be described by just one identity, and that's fine. In fact, it's great! It's beautiful! It's human! That's why I've started a project on this blog to combine symbols representing people's individual identities into flags they can feel more fully represent them.

It was originally just going to be during pride month but I'm going to keep doing it. I want to do as many of these as I can so if you're interested please come check out the process described on the blog and share this post so people know to come find me!

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i'm in tears. seeing an account with so many edits of the queer chevron flag is beautiful and so validating. thank you for everything you do ❤️

You're welcome! Everyone is welcome! Thank you for being lovely and proud and you! Don't cry! 🖤 I'm sorry we're living in a world where representation is so rare that it's overwhelming when we do find it. I'm doing what I can about that! 🖤🖤🖤

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what is the difference between demisexual and aceflux? i don't know which one to identify with

I don't want to make a habit of answering questions about definitions because you can look them up and I'm not an authority on these, but there's a different point I want to make here.

A quick Google search indicates that demisexual means "only experiencing sexual attraction after making a strong emotional connection with a specific person" and aceflux means "having a sexual orientation that fluctuates but always stays on the asexual spectrum."

What's the difference? I don't know, why do they have to be different? Which should you identify with? I don't know, why not both?

We have a lot of overlapping terms in the lgbtq+ community. For example, pan, bi, poly, and multi -sexual/romantic can overlap. They don't have to, I'm not saying they're the same and should be reduced to one term or something. But one person can say they think pansexual and multisexual are both useful terms for describing their experience. And another person can say they think multisexual describes their experience but pansexual doesn't. And that's fine.

There's no reason that, for you, the experience of only experiencing attraction for people you already have an emotional bond with can't be described by aceflux and demisexual. Maybe your aceflux experience is characterized by fluctuating between complete asexuality and gray-asexuality depending on the bond you have to the person you're interacting with. Personally, I feel that demiromantic is a good description of my romantic attraction. But aroflux also suits me, because I experience romantic attraction differently in different contexts, specifically depending on the bond I have with a person. Gray-aromantic suits me, because, to me, it describes any experience with romantic attraction that isn't totally alloromantic. Aromantic suits me as an umbrella term, because I fine community with other people who are on the aromantic spectrum. These terms overlap, and if I feel like my experience lies at their intersection, who should tell me I should only be allowed to describe my experience with one of those terms?

Another example. A woman who only experiences attraction for women and woman-aligned nonbinary people may call herself a lesbian. She may also call herself polysexual because there are multiple genders she can experience attraction for. She may use the term sapphic because she finds community with woman-aligned people who experience attraction for women-aligned people. That's fine. Another woman may only experience attention attraction for women and woman-aligned nonbinary people but feel that lesbian doesn't describe her experience, and neither does polysexual, maybe she finds multisexual to be the best descriptor for her. Cool! Even if they would describe their gender and the set of genders they experience attraction to exactly the same way, these women can use different labels to describe that experience for a variety of reasons and that's totally fine!

We are lucky to have so many words to describe our experiences as broadly or as narrowly as we see fit. The idea that identifying with one term prohibits us from using another term that we think also suits us does us a disservice. What good is the vast wealth of language we have to discuss and relate our experiences to each other if we pretend it artificially restricts us instead of using it to describe ourselves as fully as we'd like? And no one can tell you which labels to identify with except you.

Don't ask, "should I identify as aceflux or demisexual?" Ask, "does aceflux describe my experience in a way I want to convey to other people?" and "does demisexual describe my experience in a way I want to convey to other people?" and answer those questions independently. And if you answer yes to both of them, cool! That's fine! You can use both of those words! They're similar but different and their combination can describe you in a meaningful way that neither on its own can! And if you only answer yes to one of them? Neat! But don't worry if you come across another term someday that also describes you, it doesn't mean your association with aceflux or demisexual is invalidated. And if you answer no to both of them? That's fine too! Maybe there's a broader term that describes you, like gray-asexual or ace-spec, and maybe there's no subcategory that suits you well. That's fine, you don't have to specify further than those terms if you can't or don't want to.

It's up to you. It's all up to you.

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I just accidentally deleted the list of requests I was still working on. If you've made a request and haven't seen it posted please send it in an ask?

And, while we're talking about it, if you HAVEN'T sent in a request (or you have more), go for it!

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Queerplatonic Flag II

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Genderfaunet Flag

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Queerplatonic Flag I

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Refracted Gray-Asexual