#gray ace

[mx-julien]

t4t ace couple jaya; in their first post-transition-only communities. Nya's finally grown her hair out to her shoulders, Jay's been on T for a year

neither of them realizing they're in love because they're not interested in having sex with each other (or anyone, really). cue Rebooted and during an awkward, exhausted Jay conversation with Pixal, they get schooled on the difference between sexual and romantic attraction ("but you.. you don't have the... they can't design your body for- consciousness aside, how can you-" "my ability to have sexual relations doesn't impact my ability to fall in love")

jaya, upon realizing that Pixal's description of romance and love near perfectly fit where they want their relationship to go: haha cool okay what the shit do we do now

[gray-ace-space]

interested in sex the same way you can be a sports fan without ever playing a single sport

*reading absolute filth and humming thoughtfully* fascinating.

[scretladyspider]

[mothras-in-my-belly]

My sexual, romantic, and gender identities could all be honestly summarised as "absolutely not, but maybe, in this very extremely specific way that barely makes sense to anyone"

[bizarreaizen]

religious conservatives: no sex before marriage !!

asexuals: okay

religious conservatives: wait no, not like that.

[hello-im-queer]

I was today's years old when I realized that people actually think that other people are attractive.

Like

PEOPLE JUST LOOK AT A BODY AND BE LIKE : 'whoa I wanna date, hot, sexy, kiss kiss' ?!?!?

[queerspectral]

Shoutout to aspecs who have dated/had sex but don't want to do so again.

Whether you thought you wanted it but later realised you didn't...

Whether you knew at the time you were just giving in to societal pressures but tried it anyway...

Whether you genuinely did want it at the time but don't any more...

Whether it was a great experience at the time or a terrible one...

Whatever the reason, it's okay to just. Stop.

You can always, always change your mind about whether dating or sex are things you want in your life. Maybe they once were. Doesn't mean they have to be now.

[maxinwell]

Aspec Pride Cats

[Image ID: A series of five images,each with three sloppy doodles of cats colored to look like pride flags. The flags for each photo include:

The Asexual flag, the Aromatic flag & the AroAce flag

The Demiromantic Flag, the Aroallo flag & the Fraysexual flag

The Demisexual Flag, the Aroflux flag & the Cupiosexual flag

The Aceflux flag, the Acespec flag & the Gray-Ace flag

The A-Spec flag, the Arospec flag & the Quoisexual flag]

[the-anemoi]

hi hi hi happy asexual awareness week! especially to those who don't feel they fit quite right

as in. the demisexuals, the greysexuals, those who are questioning asexuality or those who identify as it but still feel unsure anyways. those who are sex positive or sex neutral. those who are sex-repulsed, or those who worry that they think they're not really ace, maybe just allo and sex-repulsed. those who think they'll grow out of it, and those who worry if they'll still identify as asexual later. those who experience intrusive thoughts, those who have other factors play into their identity, those who end up worrying about it because of these factors.

it's okay not to feel confident. it's okay to worry. just think of right now, this week. you're valid. this week is for you, too.

[gray-ace-space]

you know what? this is for dark gray aces. this is for gray aces who have only felt sexual attraction a couple times in their entire life. for gray aces who have no desire to act on their attraction. sex repulsed gray aces. gray aces who don't have sex and don't intend to, who want nothing to do with it. you guys are valid and awesome and i don't say that enough.

[scretladyspider]

wanna send some kindness to all aces in that nebulous gray area of the asexuality spectrum today. I know it can feel weird sometimes. remember, no one can take your place in ace spaces away. no one gets to decide if you’re “ace enough” except you. you are ace enough.🩶 really.

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

saw an anti ace-spec people post on the asexual tag today so I wanted to make a post:

for anyone who fits anywhere on the ace spectrum, no matter how you define sexual attraction and how often you feel it, no matter your past, no matter your other orientations, and no matter how confident you are in it. Have a happy international asexuality day, this day is for you :)

[galactic-magick]

Shoutout to gray aces and demisexuals and any others on the ace spectrum who feel sexual attraction sometimes and/or under certain circumstances cuz we need to start bonding over the fact that we have the capacity to be both extremely disinterested in sex and extremely horny with the carnal desires of a raging wild beast

[bizarreaizen]

the asexual community isn't all about hating sex, what about aces who likes sex? what about aces who wants to have sex? what about aces who does sex? what about aces who have sex with someone to have children or any other reason? what about aces who likes watching other people have sex? what about aces who does sex to people they formed a bond with? what about aces who likes hook-ups? what about aces that don't mind talking about sex? What about aces who have lost their virginity before realizing they were asexual? what about aces who lost their virginity but already realized they were asexual? what about aces who likes sex in the media? what about aces who fantasize about sex? what about aces who likes reading about sex?

[genderqueerdykes]

happy international asexuality day!

April 6th marks International Asexuality Day, a day meant for recognizing, validating, educating and embracing the asexual umbrella of identities, including, but definitely not limited to asexual, aroace, demisexual, greyasexual, aceflux, pomosexual, quoisexual, and other aspectrum identifying people.

i began identifying as asexual as well as aromantic in the early 2010s before silently dropping the label as tensions around whether or not asexual people were "truly" queer/lgbt rose. i felt ashamed of that part of me and stopped talking about it, but as time has passed, the asexual community has started to rebuild, and the entire queer community owes it to the asexual community to help us rebuild and establish ourselves.

we have been the butt of many jokes for years and its time to get rid of the stigma this identity has once and for all and accept that in a society that demands sexuality from each and every person, asexuality is undoubtedly queer. to stand in the face of a society that barrages you with sexuality and sexual imagery, innuendo and conversation almost 24/7 and say that it is not for you, or that you do not approach sexuality in the same way as it has been forced upon you is extremely queer.

cishet or not, every asexual spectrum person falls neatly into the queer community. throwing us under the bus isn't acceptable. we struggle in cisheteronormative society just as much as other queers and it's time to acknowledge and embrace that. it was safer and easier for me to talk about being a gay man than it was for me to talk about being asexual. it was easier for me to talk about being transgender than it was for me to talk about how i don't like having sex with people and don't experience sexual attraction very often and when i do, i have no plans to follow through with it unless it is to meet the other person's needs in a logical fashion.

i have been guilted and forced into sexual relationships that i did not enjoy multiple times over the years. i do not enjoy having sex with people. it's not for me. i've done it many, many times and the conclusion i come to every time is that i don't enjoy it and i come out the other side feeling worse than if i just hadn't done it at all.

i don't really experience the drive to do it in the first place, so why should i force myself to? even if i occasionally find people attractive, if i don't want to follow through on it, i shouldn't have to. nobody should have to engage with sex at all if they don't want to. sex is morally neutral, but it can be very bad for some people to interact with, and this is okay.

whether you're sex repulsed, neutral, favorable, or something else, happy international asexuality day to you! be proud to be yourself, there's no shame in being asexual or asexual spectrum. let's get rid of the stigma around aspec identities once and for all