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[uncanny-tranny]

Hi! would you by any chance have tips on how to get a binder when your parents refuse to buy you one? ☹️

That's definitely a sensitive and complex answer, and while I might not know of the best option for your unique situation, there are some ways you can go about this.

If it's a foregone conclusion that you cannot convince them of this, what I used to do is DIY my binder. The ways I primarily did this were:

Option One: Wearing a camisole that was one size smaller than I actually was (so, wearing a small instead of a medium, for instance), then folding it up over my chest. As a disclaimer, this may only work well if you are smaller in the chest

Option Two: Layering two sports bras in my size over each other. Some of the DIY tips I found before I got a traditional binder advised to wear one sports bra in your size, then wear another sports bra backwards in a size smaller. I would advise against this for potential safety reasons, but also because (at least personally), it can be ineffective and a waste of resources.

Some people have also had friends or other family members order their binder for them, but this can be risky, depending on your situation. While I don't know the ins and outs of your specific circumstances, risk management is important to me, so I would recommend this if it is a risk that is acceptable to make.

I understand what it's like to not have access to this resource, so what I will do is advise you against:

Binding with ace bandages (I did this before (multiple times, in fact, because of dysphoria), and believe me, not only did it hurt like hell, but it constricted my body so heavily that I may have done long-term harm)

Wearing a DIY binder (or any kind, for that matter) for longer than your body can handle

Doing DIY in such a way that even mimics binding with ace bandages. This means that your binder shouldn't constrict your ribs, breathing, or range of movement

Here are some general good practices that you should use to guide you for any type of binding, whether traditional or DIY:

When you start binding, only do so in very short sessions to begin with. While binding shouldn't outright hurt, it can be a weird transition while your body is getting used to that new sensation

Minimize heavy lifting or exercise while binding. If it is unavoidable, drink plenty of water and take plenty of breaks

Stretch after binding

Don't bind while sick or have inflammation in your lungs or chest

If you DIY, treat your binder like it is a traditional binder. Don't make the mistake of assuming you don't need to listen to your body because you aren't using a "traditional" binding method

Ultimately, listen to your body. If it is telling you that it needs a break, honour that. Your body isn't punishing you, it is trying to keep you (and it) safe, even if it doesn't feel like it

In the end, this isn't perfect. Sometimes, parents do come around, even in their own ways, even if little by little, they come around. When I first came out officially around 2016, I was convinced that my transition would be completely forbade by my family; I concealed a lot of it in the worst instances of this. However, now, I think most of my family has come through their own journey with the understanding of the reality of what and who I am. I tell you this, anon, because I want you to know that this, too , shall pass. You can make it. I know this might be devastating to you, and believe me, I know what that's like. But it won't be forever. These bridges aren't burnt forever, and I hope you can find your happiness and contentment wherever it may be.

[fazgoo-connoiseur-1987]

MR EMILY SR: Isn't this so much fun, son?

HENRY EMILY, 8, SLATHERED IN BLOOD, HOLDING A SKINNING KNIFE, SHAKING PROFUSELY: yeh da

[twyrrinren]

New thesis: Marcille is not bisexual, but rather demisexual

Argument 1: Her relationship with Falin can be read as romantic because they have a special bond (school friends, first best friends, touching each other as a sign of affection, using illegal magic to resurrect Falin, fighting others to keep her safe and alive/immortal, kind attitude towards each other)

Argument 2: her succubus/ideal person (because they looked both feminine and masculine) is inspired by her favorite romance books

Counter-argument: if a fantasy setting is inspired by the middle ages, then fantasy characters have no modern sexual orientations, they just practice homo-/hetero-/other- relationships

[moe-broey]

It is kinda funny I feel like I'm functionally nonbinary. In the way that people tend to perceive me/interact with me, if they don't know me on a super personal level. Despite 100% being Just Some Guy. Which can be a part of anyone's gender tbh, but for me it literally means I'm a man. Average he/him, no notes. Just like REALLY fucking bad at it I guess LMFAOO

[boywithbear]

randomly thinking about how the anti "transandrophobia truthers" people never think trans men ever face misogyny, especially if they're out of the closet and can pass as a man, and i'm here masculine as hell and would pass to THEM but yet my voice gets me misgendered all the time, to the point during phone calls people will refuse to believe I am who I say I am because of the masculine name not matching up with the voice and so they always automatically assume I am my own sister or mother, and my own urogynecologist fully sees me as a woman despite my FULL BEARD and my bear of a body

like yeah totally i completely have all the same exact experiences and privileges as a cis man! /s

Edit: actually lol to make the point further, I am still here with the full beard and masculine attire and so I'm probably what they'd call "cishet passing" and yet when I go out, I am misgendered ALL the time now because of the combination of my voice, my long hair, and wearing a mask that covers up a good bit of my face. I'm misgendered more than I'm gendered correctly, actually. Like really blows my mind bc I will see these ppl call ppl they dont even KNOW irl "cishet passing" based on seeing pictures of them when that doesn't = reality and also that's a fucking gross ass term.

[brittlebutch]

idk if i can fully articulate this but i find it like, Interesting how often people seem to flinch away from the notion of a character having a genuine difficulty in academic settings that is caused by Intellect — how often people will seemingly try to get around the idea by writing something that amounts to, like “No this character is Smart, they just struggle with XYZ and if they were Accommodated for that, then they wouldn’t struggle in school” but it’s like,, why do they Have to be ‘smart’ though?

[magistralucis]

lost in translation [Zultanekh/Djoseras Snippet]

(Last snippet before fic starts publishing on AO3. Should be in the next day or two. What I thought would be a nice lengthy oneshot is now going to be a three-parter filled with various pains, why am I like this 😭

It will be titled we live on archipelagos. I'll update tags on previous snippets too)

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An aside about languages. While Zultanekh never doubted his new body was for the better, he was disappointed to find it came pre-installed with translingual modules. Another of the Silent King's cosmopolitan projects, the move towards universal intelligibility, and an extension of his linguistic reforms: they left the furnaces knowing not only Szarekh's language, but everybody else's, and they'd never understood each other before as well as they did in those newborn moments. Even so, Zultanekh was let down, because he had been planning to learn the Ithakan language for himself.

An odd choice, even for his standards. An unfashionable language, neglected even by Ithakans. He'd wanted it, all the same, in the hopes it would help him understand Djoseras better. And no, he hadn't wished to blink and know it - he'd wanted to learn it, go through the grammar and the rote memorization as any schoolboy might have done. He was never the one to seek intellectual labour, and has no illusions that he'd have been fluent. But he knows the effort would have mattered, that the struggle made it real.

It felt like the least he could do to nurture their peace.

But surplus or deficit, they must work with what they have. The necrons' shared purpose drained away after Szarekh's war, and many dynasties have started using their own languages again, which the modules have proved invaluable in decoding. They update in real time, even, despite their innumerable losses - a culture-mad archaeovist is behind them, Zultanekh supposes, eager to share his research for the betterment of his kin. Fairly sure no one asked, but it's not like Trazyn to ask permission for anything.

And Zultanekh's theory was correct, he can apply Ithakan to their conversations now, and it does help him understand Djoseras better. He knows the same applies to him. When he bows down to Anathrosis and whispers ne moja volja no tvoja da bodet', he is laying down at her feet something greater than not mine but my phaeron's will be done, even though the invocation is the same. When Djoseras looks up from the nomarch's latest reports and exclaims he is well, my philos brother, he is not merely saying Oltyx is dear to him. A lot of things are philos to him, actually, even the things to which he is dispassionate. Those modules are what Zultanekh used to tease Djoseras about the Ithakan ships, not on account of their quality but their spirits, which are of course autonomos. "The heka of Ithakas is so bound up in justice, it seems, that it cannot abide anything with a law unto itself. I'd like to see a ship getting uppity with you sometime."

(Djoseras had thought this a very bad joke, but it did not stop his nodes glimmering with amusement, all the same.)

[frogcoded]

In the usa rn and everybody keeps talking like in the movies it’s so scary guys

[allsortzofcrap]

i feel like for the rest of my life i will be walking around totally normal and then periodically, i will be absolutely brained with a metaphorical anvil falling off the side of a building that represents the absolute bafflement i have towards modern adaptations of sherlock holmes and their treatment of irene adler. bbc's most recent adaptation in particular.

im so sorry. please repeat. she was stupid u say??? and i'm sorry, IN LOVE with him u say??????

i'm a feminist so i think women are capable of being in love and also of being stupid. they can do anything they put their minds to ofc ❤️. but this is too far even for me.

it's just that i can't understand why you would choose to write a narrative that is more mysoginistic than the source material when the source material was written in 1891.

was it intentional? did they somehow not pick up on the implications? was it random?

i can't fathom it. it keeps me awake.

[felikatze]

the reason roy characterization in other media like heroes tends to emphasize the "virtue of humanity" isn't because of dragon racism but because that's what was actually at stake. in binding blade, dragons are primarily framed as good and virtuous, as superior to humanity. this notion that dragons are superior is perpetuated mainly by the main antagonist zephiel, who believes humanity is rotten and should be exterminated, so the "pure" dragons can inhabit the earth.

roy's argument isn't that the dragons are inherintly evil. quite the opposite. he believes dragons and humans can coexist in harmony, and that there is good and evil to both species. the good side of humanity is obviously represented by roy and his army fighting to save everyone from zephiel's extermination campaign. the good side of dragons are represented by the innocent fae and awkward but well intentioned sophia, with the dark side of dragons personified by jahn, to lend moral ambiguity to all sides.

that dragons are people like any other is pretty much never in question. there are characters who are apprehensive of dragons, like niime, but they all quickly learn to drop their judgements and accept them. roy is one of the first to question the narrative of the scouring, to question whether it was good the dragons were driven from elibe. his takeaway is that either side winning is a damn shame, because there should've been no scouring to begin with.

the entire time, the question is "are humans worth keeping around? can humans ever find peace?" and roy's answer is yes. he believes in the good of humans. it's the answer he gives because that's the questioned asked.

hell, if roy hated dragons, he wouldn't have saved idunn. at first, he's prepared to kill her if there's no other option, even after learning of her innocence. but once he realizes there is a way, he changes plans in an instant. and he doesn't tell anyone about it until he's saved her, instead telling his friends to just trust him and to let him deal the final blow against idunn, because he knew it would seal her powers without killing her.

tldr that dragons are people is basically never in question, and the main point of binding blade's narrative is that humans are worth believing in. it's just anti-doomerism and if i see one more racist roy joke i will break into your house for slandering my boy. none of you have played binding blade and it shows

[romancanine]

oliver stark being British feels like a bojack horseman bit. does this make sense to anyone

[eldritchqueerture]

birthdays were fun when you were a kid but now in the age of cellphone and facebook (yes poland still uses it) its just a day where everyone constantly wants something from me and bothers me and im supposed to be grateful

[todayisafridaynight]

sad to think about how daigo was probably grieving mines death alone

In my silly dreamland i like to think at least katase also showed up to pay her respects ….

[widowshill]

not for nothing that roger and jeff are wearing completely identical suits for vicki's wedding down to the same pearl stick pin and it's roger that is distinguished with the accessory and the visual emphasis. that roger wears the pocket square and jeff goes plain without one, without a boutonnière (as feels the most probable and appropriate; they both wear boutonnières in roger's prophetic dream of the wedding). that not only is he wearing the handkerchief, but it's folded in such a way as so take as much space as possible – straying from accepted formality of a neat TV fold, occupying more room on the screen, drawing more attention, pointing among other things to his heart in bright white.

[rawliverandgoronspice]

As a fic writer, I actually... like that gerudos have messy gender problems which make them severly imperfect in many aspects?

Like not to ignore how problematic it all is originally, where it comes from and how we're supposed to look at it (it's bad) --but, like with Ganondorf, I love gerudos when they are a little ungood about a lot of things, and examine the ramifications and how to give them grace and humanity in spite of the sexism targeted at them, and the sexism they beam out into the world as well as a reply; not as endorsement, but as a way to examine how damaging gender can be from multiple conflicting angles.

Also, yeah. Yeah, reproduction gets super weird. It can be fetishization from the writers' part (and it very well may be, and it is probablyyy alsooo), and/or (hopefully just or)... it can be its own extremely fucked up can of worms they have to live through and live with and reclaim and survive.

I don't know, just to put out there that the (rightful and normal) response to the canon reality that "gerudo gender stuff is weird and uncomfy" can *absolutely* be to redefine their gender and make them more inclusive as opposed to hylian rigidity (that isn't that rigid if I'm being honest), but it can also be to vivisect what sort of flawed people would be molded by this cruel and rigid understanding of reproduction and gender carved out of hurt, external projection, messy compromises and vindictive traditions.

I don't know, maybe I'm biased, but I don't always feel super onboard with the urge I sometime see to smooth out the flaws of fictional (or real) cultures to prove they deserve salvation. I don't know, no culture should need to prove itself perfect (according to external moral judgements) to avoid cultural genocide (I feel like we're almost threading the Ganondorf Redemption grounds again in a way?). Sometimes you're little gremlins and you suck and you hurt each other and yourself and the world, and you still deserve empathy and humanity because you, like... exist.

Not that it's wrong to want to invest into alternate gender understanding of the gerudos, not at all! Quite the contrary, I ADORE to see all the ways people make the weird rules or that strange culture their own. It's just one of the many ways to navigate this; every single one fascinating in its own right.

[iamidentical]

teenagers fighting each other in front of a crowd of hollering paying fans is bad. it is. but sometimes it's funny when neither of them can throw a punch to save their life. and also very sad.