EDIT: post no longer rebloggable not because i disagree with these statements or anything i said in my addition, but just because i dont want to deal with many notes and the occasional rude person!
i totally understand that when discussing the sex lives of gay people, there is a very large overemphasis on a top/bottom dichotomy to the point that many people (especially cishets and lgbt people w little experience in the subject) believe that all or at least most lgbt people are exclusively tops or exclusively bottoms, and i understand wanting to correct that misconception, especially because part of the reason it is so widespread is because cishets assume that in same-gender relationship one person must always be "the woman" (who therefore exclusive bottoms) and one "the man" (who exclusively tops). i understand wanting to make people understand that for many if not most gay people, switching is natural and enjoyable and that these roles are not usually so strictly defined.
but ive seen far too many people say things like "we take turns like normal people" or "im normal i just switch" - with that specific phrasing of "normal" or very similar wording - and i really want you to consider that that is a very hurtful thing to say. there is and has been a longstanding disdain for men who exclusively bottom and a specific disgust for men who bottom in sex with other men, as well as disdain for stone butches and stone fems, who are often treated as regressive, selfish, reproducing heterosexuality, or inherently sexually disordered. people (especially wlw) who exclusively top or bottom are often treated as if their sex life cannot be satisfying, as if they are sexually defective, as if their boundaries are unfair to their partners, as if they have some sort of sexual issue that they need to just get over. before you say something about how switching is "normal" unlike the supposedly immature or regressive people who dont switch, please consider that there is no "normal" sex, that it is not more progressive to put norms on how people may have sex, and that what is most unhealthy for all of us is to tell people that their sexual boundaries and the things theyre not comfortable or willing to do during sex make them abnormal. as someone who is a stone top in large part because of sexual trauma, some of you honestly make me feel like shit about myself for not wanting to be topped, and i dont think thats "normal".
some stray observations about episode 5 of x-men 97 because I watched it a week late:
that was the best Kurt I've seen, live action or animated. exactly matches up with what I imagine when I read the comics.
holy shit I can't believe they had an ALISA TAGER AKA CIPHER CAMEO. they've all but forgotten her in the comics but her character and skill set have soooo much potential.
this was probably the best depiction of the Genoshan genocide, including the comics. if I'm not mistaken I think that was the first time we saw the attack happen on the ground. the genocide never was really felt deeply in the comics, not as much as Decimation, and this is arguably worse
they BETTER add Emma to the roster, and they better pull her out of the rubble, diamond-shiny and all!!!
So...you bequeath the mansion and the team over to a guy I spent my formative years fighting? Thus wasting my time when I could have been doing teenage things. Yeah, I'm definitely joining him just to spite you, Charles.
Also, Rogueneto is weird. However, Magneto has a decent savings account, s mansion he owns thanks to Charles, maybe a 401k, isn't in crazy debt and could help pay off student loans, is ripped, powerful, and not ugly. So, yeah...I get it and don't hate it.