#Geneen

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Team 4_Food Monster

Devangi, Lili and Geneen

[usefulquotes7]

“In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins: cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later” Harold Geneen

[candle-1-1-shine]

Today's Quote

“In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins: cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later”

Harold Geneen

[heathened]

we are, each of us, a little universe

journal of the royal astronomical society of canada / naoko takeuchi (tr. mari morimoto), pretty guardian sailor moon, vol. 12 / endocathexis (edit of william adolphe bouguereau) / louise glück / geneen roth / cosmos s1e2 “some of the things that molecules do” / carl sagan, cosmos: a personal voyage

[quotelr]

Staying requires being curious about who you actually are when you don't take yourself to be a collection of memories.When you don't infer your existence form replaying what happened to you, when you don't take yourself to be the girl your mother/father/brother/teacher/lover didn't see or adore. When you sense yourself directly, immediately, right now, without preconception, who are you?

Geneen Roth, Women, Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything

[oceanstone]

Feeding the Hungry Heart: The Experience of Compulsive Eating by Geneen Roth

Breaking Free: The Way Out

[rimofwell]

Stephen Levine, a Buddhist teacher, says that hell is wanting to be somewhere different from where you are. Being one place and wanting to be somewhere else. Being constantly agitated—another word for nonaccepting—about the inevitable. Being in a relationship with someone and refusing to surrender to the love because you don't want to give yourself to something you will eventually lose. That's called living in hell: refusing to love because you want the endgame to be different than it is. Wanting life to be different from what it is. That's also called leaving without leaving. Dying before you die. It's as if there is a part of you that so rails against being shattered by love that you shatter yourself first.

Geneen Roth, Women, Food, and God

[arquivoevansnjyjptj]

No mundo nos negócios, todos são pagos em duas moedas: Dinheiro e experiência. Agarre a experiência primeiro, o dinheiro virá depois.

[tamurakafkaposts]

You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. But you won't discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming and caging and fearing yourself. -

Geneen Roth, Women

[marysterrett]

Intimacy is not something that just happens between two people; it is a way of being alive. At every moment, we are choosing either to reveal ourselves or to protect ourselves, to value ourselves or to diminish ourselves, to tell the truth or to hide. To dive into life or to avoid it. Intimacy is making the choice to be connected to, rather than isolated from, our deepest truth at the moment.

Geneen Roth

[go-bac]

Team 04 - Food Monster

Devangi, Lili and Geneen

[freebooter4ever]

here you go! @genosnose​

https://www.flickr.com/photos/geneen/2303289977/in/album-72157603919895773/

[ghostorbz]

Me wh😂😂😂😂😂e😂n!!!! Hahaha!!!!!!!!!!!! Geneen😂😂der!!! Lol!!!!!!

[kscheibles]

I love how you wrote about that need to look a certain way to be desirable. When the true desire is to feel loved and wanted just as we are.

thank you, you're exactly right! I just read Communion and have been very inspired by bell hooks: she has a whole chapter in the book about how loving our bodies is the first step to being loved by someone else, and that includes dismantling fatphobia in our own minds. Something I struggle with a lot is trying to commit myself to these ideals I believe in (women’s liberation, fat liberation, bisexual visibility) but applying their tenets to my own experience and life. For example, I want to dismantle patriarchal thinking in my own mind but I also still have a desire to make myself conform to conventional standards of beauty because I know that offers a different kind of experience in society. Patriarchy rewards us for conforming in ways that allow us to feel good but not to be liberated. Besides, none of us wants to fall in love with someone we can’t be ourselves with. What would be the point then?

hooks argues that the way we learn to love is through loving ourselves. That often, because of the way we are socialized as women (to be homemakers, mothers etc), we assume that we are loving. However, she says, "[n]othing belies the assumption that women are more loving than men as much as the negative feelings most females hold about our bodies."

She continues in the excerpt below:

"In her amazing memoir, Appetites, Geneen Roth confesses, 'Being thin was the magic that was supposed to heal the damage at the core of me, the damage symbolized by fat. If I lost the weight, I'd lose the damaged core.' Roth understands intimately the connection between the female search for love and our obsession with being thin. She writes that 'our fantasy of what will happen when we turn a final corner and find the love, respect, visibility, and abundance that's eluded us for a lifetime. . .is the adult version of the childhood longing to be seen and loved. When as children we understand that we are going to get that love, we make up stories, create a fantasy life, try to be someone else. And when we believe that love will be waiting around the corner if only we could transform ourselves into different people, we spend our lives trying to turn that corner.' This is self-hatred in action. Female self-love begins with self-acceptance."

Personally, when I have a crush I can tell I start to criticize myself more and be more cognizant that my appearance conforms to standard beauty conventions. I think there’s a part of me that thinks it’s logical: statistically, being conventionally attractive is what would give me the highest chance of them liking me back, therefore I’m kind of happy to play into these things because I desire to be loved so fervently. But I think this evades the real question of love. Love is not vain. I don't think it can exist within an inauthentic person.

But ultimately, there’s a sense of wanting to be good enough for them. Even if my crush is just some guy who’s a teacher in a small city somewhere— not like a rockstar or Nobel laureate or something. I need to recognize that as a feeling of not enoughness in myself. I use my “deficiencies” (esp physical) to justify to myself why they weren’t interested and to flagellate myself even further.

Anyways this was a bit of a ramble. TLDR: I let myself feel this way and I think it's important to recognize it and try to push back against it. Also read Communion by bell hooks!

[self----destructive]

When you believe without knowing you believe that you are damaged at your core, you also believe that you need to hide that damage for anyone to love you. You walk around ashamed of being yourself. You try hard to make up for the way you look, walk, feel. Decisions are agonizing because if you, the person who makes the decision, is damaged, then how can you trust what you decide? You doubt your own impulses so you become masterful at looking outside yourself for comfort. You become an expert at finding experts and programs, at striving and trying hard and then harder to change yourself, but this process only reaffirms what you already believe about yourself -- that your needs and choices cannot be trusted, and left to your own devices you are out of control

Geneen Roth

[oceanstone]

Feeding the Hungry Heart: The Experience of Compulsive Eating by Geneen Roth

Eating as Metaphor, Part 2: Nourishment