Alright, so obviously I didn’t think I’d be coming back to so soon but this has pushed me over the edge, as this is the most brutal ask I have ever received.
You should be so ashamed of yourself as a fan and a person, especially if you are a woman. In no world is this type of response to a frontman going out in public with a girl he may or may not be dating is acceptable. The harmful and toxic words and behaviours in this ask, and most likely in your head, not only harm individuals on the receiving end (me), but also make this website, that should be a place for fans to connect, an incredibly awful and dangerous place. You are a prime example of what is wrong with some of the fans of this band, as you obviously have a delusional and possessive one-sided relationship with Matty. This is not the way to be a fan of someone or enjoy the content of the people that you watch on the internet, and you need to stop. You need to recognise that the people you only see on the internet are still REAL. They are flesh and blood, they breathe the same air as you, and speak the same words as you.
It is important to realise that a person, Matty or any of the boys, being in the public eye, does not mean that every aspect of their life should be subject to scrutiny from anyone, especially as I expect ‘fans’ like yourself. While public figures may willingly choose to share certain parts of their lives such as musical content, they still deserve the right to privacy and personal boundaries.
On one hand, the admiration for Matty’s and the boy’s talent and creativity can inspire us as a community and create a sense of connection not only between the individual and the band, but all of us together. However, when this admiration becomes obsessive or possessive, it can transform into a toxic dynamic. People like you develop unhealthy attachments, and idealized images of their idols and disregard their personal boundaries. Clearly, this has lead to unrealistic expectations, like you not recognising about Matty is a grown man that has interest in women, invasive behavior, like attacking other fans and becoming incredibly dominating toward Matty, and a sense of entitlement, like thinking you have any right to make threats toward someone like Gabbriette. It is important for you to realise these dynamics and establish healthy boundaries to ensure a more balanced and courteous (one-sided) relationship that fosters a place for respectful admiration and appreciation.
It is important to remember that everyone, regardless of their fame or status, has a right to lead a private life separate from their public persona, like Matty and Truman Black, or even just the version of himself he is when he’s in the public eye. Constantly scrutinizing and invading people’s personal lives can, and most likely, will have detrimental effects on their well-being and mental health.
The content and utter hostility of this ask has deeply offended me, and I no doubt others. I very strongly suggest you do not take what I (or the other beautiful souls on this website) have said on this topic lightly, and use our words to better understand the effect you not only have on our community, the fans, and of course, the boys.
You have outed yourself as a deplorable human being to the rest of us, and you can’t even be brave enough to say it with your name to the words. You are a coward. Grow up.
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very tired of these girlbots or whatever people call them. i'm a small tumbl blog. i get excited when i see a notification. i click to see. a follower, holy shit, cool, right? oops. all phishing scam girlbots. not a single real person. i dont care if no one shows up but don't fucking fake me out like that it hurts.
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Absolutely love how 1 month of my life ends up in a flop😍🤞🏻, when the stuff I do drunk in less than an hours get almost 800 likes 🤲🏻🥴
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ik people put random tags that don't apply to their post so they can get their things to more people but I didn't need to see a faceless child attributed to the israel-palestine genocide while I was just trying to hate-scroll through the taylor swift tag, not do I need to see some random girl's tits while scrolling through the gallavich tag
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sometimes when total strangers commit the crime of being annoying in my reblogs i DM them or reply @ them before blocking simply due to the autistic need to be understood. BUT i have rules for when i'm allowed to do that.
1. i'm not allowed to do it without running the scenario past a groupchat to make sure i'm justified in annoyance and not simply evil (due to migraine, hangry, etc)
2. i have to make it constructive and helpful feedback, such that they can avoid getting blocked in future interactions. which sometimes makes me feel like i'm some sort of tumblr user manners training wizard. eg:
> CHUMMY INSULTS are only funny if you are already MUTUALS WHO TALK. try upgrading your FRIENDSHIP before attempting this maneuver!
> if you don't wish to ANNOY other USERS, try NOT leaving long, off-topic REBLOGS. such REBLOGS may result in other USERS taking the BLOCK action against you, and/or being targeted by a PISS ON THE POOR attack in future interactions!
> unloading your PERSONAL TRAUMA in a STRANGER'S INBOX unprompted is a BOUNDARY VIOLATION!
many such cases. obviously don't phrase it like this unless your goal is to be insanely condescending. but anyway i recommend doing your best to at least mentally frame your feedback this way if you're going to block the motherfuckers anyway.
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Me: I joke about writing the same McCoy centric story over and over again in different ways
Me: and like. I love doing it and imma keep doing it because it makes me happy.
Me: but also. I do sometimes wonder if it's like. A little Much.
Me: like maybe I should branch out or something
Me: [reads another fundamental and extremely insulting misread of McCoy's character by someone who is clearly making a Choice to cast McCoy as the villain, because they have to get him out of the way of spirk, because they're too???? idk immature??? to realize that even when you're in a relationship with one person, other ppl can and SHOULD still be important to you]
Me: lmao I hope I AM too much actually!!!! I hope it is 100% obnoxious how much I love that doctor!!!!! Time to write more versions of the same story of McCoy being forced to realize that he is loved and cared for!!!!!!
Me: I KNOW MY NICHE AND IMMA DIE IN THAT NICHE, THANKS
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haha oh no im definitely not at all disturbed by the prevalence of leftists on all platforms who are loudly 'anti-genocide' when it comes to the palestinian cause (and a couple others at best :3c) yet the only time ukraine [ʊkrɐˈjinɐ] leaves their mouths is in critique, in stark comparison to the former or in complaint about their (american) government sending aid.
at first what i saw often was pointing out the differences in western media framing [ukraine vs palestine], and that's fair (until the words and the agenda of western journalists are used to paint, as a whole, ukrainians who have been actively going through genocide as some kind of white supremacists hogging the blanket of global attention when they kinda just want to live and have the rights to their own land, culture, names and families)
but no one is even caring to do that anymore, today bitches just invent metaphorical scenarios and people to get mad at and to throw an entire ethnos away because wahhhh i decided that you care for X but not for Y!!!.... all while doing the exact thing they are condemning. the exact absolute same and they don't even hide it but do lack the self-awareness to realise
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