#I have seen the discourse about that and ngl it kind of bothers me (a lot) bc the book makes it clear by the end that the group formed a

[fluffypotatey]

Hello! Hope you're doing well. Got any other meta about LMK Sun Wukong, the Brotherhood, or of the Stableboys duo, Ao Lie and Wukong? Have a great week, eat your fruits and sleep early regularly. Thank you for your LMK posts!

hey! tbh my week has been shit :) but i’ll have you know that the best place to find stableboys meta is from the account Dr. Chalk on Twitter. literally get my heart ripped out every time (also their art is fire).

[I ended up having a lot to say about SWK under the cut lol]

As for some delectable Sun Wukong meta/headcanons, I’ll have you know that I am a firm believer of this immortal monkey having such shit survival/preservation skills for himself bc of his 7-fold immortality that he will pull suicidal/heroic feats as the “easier solution” (see s3 where this monkey thought it would be a brilliant idea to place the Samadhi Fire INSIDE himself (even when that is like one of his greatest weaknesses as the JTTW book details) as an easy way to ensure none of MK and his friends would get hurt and he could (probably) spare LBD’s host)

Also, notice how the s4 special revealed to us that Sun Wukong feared death so much he went ahead to finding ways to ensure he never dies. Ever. (Not to mention that this fear stemmed from the fear of failing the people he cared about and that since he was the strongest in FFM and their king, if he died, they would be defenseless bc that is literally what happened when Wukong first left to train under Master Subodhi). But now, Wukong has lived for a very long time (longer than he even thought possible). And he is t i r e d (i will NEVER forget that quick cut to Wukong’s face as he said “focusing on the fact that I am an immortal being, who will never die!”)

Although, my theory is that his suicidal tendicies isn’t because he is that suicidal (or maybe not cognizant if it) but because he knows that even with experiencing something super brutal (such as the Samadhi Fire or drowning in Sandy’s sub), better him than anyone else. Like a “I don’t intend to die, but so be it” that I think really concerns me (in a “I wanna study you under a microscope but also give you cocoa” way)

honestly, it doesn’t help that Tripitaka found himself in such dire situations where Wukong would need to save him from, and some of them were suicidal but you kind of brushed it off bc “he is the Monkey King, immortal 7 times over, and crossed his own name out of the underworld” (and I know we definitely did since everything would work out in the end but like…..come on!), so that kind of life risking behavior was met with positive reinforcement so like….I would not put it past Wukong to unintentionally throw himself into these circumstances in order to help or fix an issue (especially if it concerns MK 👀 he will not hesitate and my heart cannot take it T^T)

but yeah

[sukunasweetheart]

//just me venting about sukuna haters sorry

Not me seeing so much discourse about whether sukuna is a well written villain or not... he essentially has no backstory shown as of yet and we barely know anything about him but he is still one of the most naturally interesting and compelling characters in the whole damn series bro 💀 buckle up bc its about to get lengthy (im just glazing sukuna in this post ngl so 🧎‍♀️)

so many whiny ass mfs are weeping about how he "doesn't have any personal goals or a proper reason to be a villain" when that is the whole point???? He lives on his own desires and satisfactions and does whatever he wants to, because he is capable enough to do that. Mfs want "real villains" but cant even handle sukuna 💀 ive seen too many shit ass threads and poorly articulated "critiques" on his character that dont make any valid points. If you can't even separate your personal dislike of a character from your analysis of their writing, dont even bother posting that shit please 😭😭😭 the fact that we haven't even gotten any information about his background yet and people are jumping the gun about him being "poorly written" is already saying a lot 🤨

The fact that yall are so bitter and angry about him that you can write 500+ words about how oh-so-terrible of a villain he is kinda proves that he's doing his job well tbh 💁‍♀️

What also bothers me to no END is how people compare him with villains of other series, who had compelling sob stories that made people empathise with them. Thats nice and all but why should all villains have grand ideals and be subject to feelings of empathy/sympathy from their audience?

Part of what makes sukuna so interesting is how he's not tied down by morals, rules or long term goals in life. He doesn't limit himself, which is what makes him an unpredictable character. He's completely left behind what it means to be human in many ways, and he's clearly not a character written to be empathised with. He is very purposefully inhumane and distant from everyone else, and that feeling transcends from within the series to real life as well. There is a clear lack of understanding bc most of us can't comprehend what its like to just live without being goal-oriented.

Sukuna is a true anomaly in the sense that he doesnt really fit in any kind of box within the series. He's born from man, but its clear that he separates himself from humans (and nobody else considers him human, either). He's not a cursed spirit. He hovers between life and death. The narrator referred to him as the honoured one, whilst angel referred to him as the disgraced one.

These little contradictions in his character make him all the more complicated and interesting to think about. And even recently, he's been shown to waver a little bit momentarily in the manga, questioning his own irritation at yuuji. He's capable of self reflection, and though sukuna does whatever he wants for the most part, he doesn't blindly go into things without some thought first, he's a constant thinker and analyser, and an intelligent one at that.

And honestly, he is always such a joy to watch and read, his personality is so flavourful, and the way he carries himself is very attractive. He's not afraid to get messy or of getting hurt, theres so much chaos in the way he does things and yet he also has a huge element of gracefulness to him, which shines through the poetic way he speaks. Its undeniable that sukuna simply oozes charisma...

And this isnt talked about enough but this man is genuinely so effortlessly funny (in a kind of sinister way i guess?) Like yes he is an old ass man having real beef with one FIFTEEN YEAR OLD for very little reason, he accidentally healed yuujis arm and somehow expected him to be grateful for it despite how he literally ripped his heart out afterwards, then he proceeded to sit on him after kicking him down likeeee 😭 what kind of behaviour is this sir

His facial expressions at yorozus yapping 💀 THE WAY HE COMPARED YUUJIS FACE OF DESPAIR TO THE HARIMA STATUE 😭😭😭💀😭💀💀😭 omg that was so foul but i was fucking losing it ngl

How he randomly compared gojo to a fish and started talking abt his scales... thats a very unique and descriptive comparison, isnt it? Even in the recent leaks, he was 100% ready and squaring up to a literal child talking abt "youre starting to get annoying" LIKE HELPPP 😭 HE FR SAID "fuck them kids and fuck you too"

I saw someone saying that sukuna has no passion, like are we talking about the same character....? This man is a literal jujutsu NERD 💀💀 he truly recognises talented sorcerers and the only time hes seen to be having genuine fun is when hes fighting a mf... is that not passion? This is literally sukuna when it comes to jujutsu: 🤓

Anyway im done here now, im pretty sure i missed a lot of things i couldve talked about as well but ive done enough yapping

[roundearthsociety]

This is going to be a tad personal but how do you manage to be trans and catholic? Some of the biggest anti trans voices like Matt Walsh, Michael Knowles and Desantis base their views off that religion. Many trans people on here, Reddit and IRL have nothing but disdain for Catholicism because of the Vatican’s statements and how they’ve been treated. Likewise, a lot of Catholics I’ve seen on tumblr, Reddit and various forums view it as a sin, mental illness or pedophilia and oppose affirming care as well as IVF.

I’m an American exvangelical, who does have some conservative Catholic family members, and I’m trying to broaden my perspective a bit rather than writing Catholicism off as an irredeemable, hateful colonizer ideology and viewing paganism and Reform Judaism as the only valid religions like most Tumblr users do. How do you put up with it when many refuse to affirm it, including the pope who’s still very conservative? I’m not asking to attack your beliefs but are simply curious whether there’s more nuance than people will claim.

This is something that's a bit hard to answer, as someone who's not that good a theologian nor that good at theory. Plus, I'm not side A, so I wouldn't be all that good at discussing Catholicism While Queer with you I suspect. Anyway I will be assuming you, the reader, have got some level of legitimate Christian faith. Because otherwise I'm not sure how to like. Give you that.

So let me preface all of this by recommending you look into queer Catholic organizations such as New Ways Ministry, or especially DignityUSA which I've heard good things about. There are also some Tumblr bloggers on the more affirming side of things, most of them aren't really doing all that much advocacy work either but you might find it interesting to scroll through, idk, and-her-saints or shoutsofmybones's blogs for example, and take a look.

Also: you don't have to give up on Christianity entirely if you can't / would rather not be Catholic! Even if the specific ritual and community aspect is especially important to you, the Episcopal Church is probably decently well implanted where you live and is worth looking into, especially since it doesn't have the embedded political elements that the US Catholic Church tends to have.

As for my own personal answer below - please don't bother to get mad at me for this, it's like 4AM and I'm not too interested in writing a thesis here.

Gender-wise it's honestly pretty straightforward. I know I function better being generally recognized as another sex than I was assigned at birth, with characteristics to match; everything else in terms of gender roles names etc is really just getting a lil silly with it ngl. This is neither especially uncommon nor especially new, and the generally recognized way to deal with this has long been to just let people do their thing. While there are issues with the way that's being done (hey! you should freeze your gametes if that's available to you! don't count on never wanting kids, especially if you're a teenager! trust me on this one.), a lot of the modern discourse around it boils down to "this is disgusting to me so it must be morally wrong". And like, I'm a biologist, I can't really find it in myself to be grossed out by this stuff anymore.

Anyway the Church is far from a monolith. Even at the institutional level there's plenty of tolerance; my home diocese is based in a large and ancient Mediterranean city so God knows it's had ages to get used to the weird shit, not counting the handful of trad strongholds. My understanding of the situation in the US is that it's Kind Of Really Not That though, so I'd strongly recommend heavily looking into your local Catholic diocese and parishes before making any moves, because Catholic faith and practice are a very community-bound thing and it's not really something you can do at a distance. Thankfully though, once you start avoiding the political activists trying to use faith as a means to an end (as is the case for most of the people you cite in your ask), you'll find that it's relatively more chill than you'd think. Let me elaborate.

My own case is complicated enough that I can't reasonably apply any of the details to this, but ultimately what's important to note here is that Christianity is functionally about how everyone is flawed, and everyone fucks up, and sure you'll be forgiven but you've got to own up to it first. The members of the Church, even the Pope, even (most of) the Saints in their earthly lives, are no exception. They can be misguided, fearful, or just plain hateful; in such circumstances, it's on them to do better, not on you to adapt to their flaws, and they know this if they're honest to themselves. This, in turn, must apply just as much to you and me; as a Christian, you (generic) have everything you need to do better, and to know anything that prevents you from loving other people is probably not the way to go.

But anyway yeah. I'm trans and Catholic because both of those are just kinda who I am, and I don't intend to stop being either because I'm not interested in replacing myself with the cop in my head. So the Church can have fun with that.

[bellatrixobsessed1]

we’ve been mutuals for ages so i thought it was time to ask about your unpopular atla/tlok/kyoshi opinions :D

xD Tbh I feel like my opinions tend to be more controversial with Avatar than unpopular. Obviously I'm open to discussion if anyone wants to have one or if anyone needs clarification on any of these opinions lol. My goal isn't to cause fighting and more discourse but rather open up some discussion. Mostly I'm a to each their own kind of person; even if I don't like a certain ship or agree with certain headcanons I won't be bashing people who do ship/have them. And I don't think that xyz headcanon is wrong just because I disagree with that.

Disclaimers aside lol;

Some of the ones that I know are unpopular for Avatar:

I don't ship Azula/Therapy (there's a lot to get into here and I've done it quite a bit). My bottom line is that I don't mind Azula/Therapy so long as it isn't being used as a means to belittle people who do ship her with other characters. I'm also fine with it in the light that Azula/Character while she's getting therapy or something like that. There's a lot more to it, anyone can feel free to ask for clarification here. But I kind of don't really even see it as a ship so much as a concept. And as a joke I don't really find it that funny as I feel like it takes a very serious topic and makes it sound 'cute' or 'quirky' and that just ain't it for me.

I don't ship Zukka. Tbh I don't really feel strongly about it at all.

I don't ship Mailee either. I've seen quite a bit of Mailee content that is pretty anti-Azula so I tend to just stay away from that. Though I'm down for recs with fic and art that aren't anti-Azula

I don't think that Azula is a lesbian. I feel like she is Bi/Ace or Aro/Ace. Which is probably due to me being aro/ace and wanting some rep lol.

I am very very neutral to Suki. I feel like a lot of people really like her. I think she's just eh. I have no strong opinion on her either which way.

I don't really hate any character. There are some characters I like less/don't find as interesting but I don't really hate any of them.

I do feel kind of bad for Ozai as he was also probably abused as a kid. The reason I don't feel as though he's redeemable though is because he's a grown man who is pretty set in his ways.

Foamy mouth guy isn't funny.

I feel like Katara's power/strength is more in healing than fighting. Like that's her specialty and it kind of bothers me when people downplay that because imo it's refreshing to have a character who is considered great and powerful not because they are the strongest fighter but because they are a great healer and defender. Aang is also a good example of this.

I don't really talk about this much because it really isn't that deep xD but I get confused when people talk about Katara's bloodbending as if she can just do it any time??? Correct me if I'm wrong but she can only do it during a full moon. Amon and his family are the only people who could do it without a full moon. So it kind of bothers me when people just casually toss 'oh Katara could totally kick Azula/Toph/Zuko's ass with bloodbending anytime.'

I like both Azula and Zuko and feel like both of them either get babied or demonized. And that takes away from the complexities of both of their characters.

Iroh isn't completely wise. He has moments where he's not morally correct. And he should have moments like this because it would be unrealistic for him to never do wrong ever.

Kataang vs Zutara is getting really old.

I feel like this fandom can be very hostile to Azula fans and it gets hard to deal with so sometimes I have to just avoid the tag for a while. Idk if this one is an unpopular opinion or if other people feel the same. But then again I've heard that Katara and Aang have also had an influx of hate as well. In general it's just sad to see such cool characters getting talked about in the ways that some people talk about them. I've seen people say that "it's Azula's fault that she's being abused by Ozai" and "Katara needs to shut up about her mom and move on" and "Zuko is whiney and overdramatic." And these statements are just :S Basically I wish that the nice people could start talking over all of the people who just seem to enjoy bashing their least favorite characters more than they like talking about their favorites.

I don't entirely hate the comics. There are aspects of them that I hate but there are also parts that I really enjoyed.

LoK

Not a fan of Suyin. Not just because I like Kuvira but also because of her backstory with Lin. NGL she struck me as kind of a brat.

I'm not a big fan of Opal or Zhu Li either. Like I don't hate either of them but they just aren't my cup of tea.

I liked Tanho from the start.

Meelo is kind of annoying imo.

I don't like Mako at all. He lost me when he cheated on Asami.

Idk if this is unpopular but I didn't really like season 2.

I was kind of disappointed with Kuvira's backstory. I liked aspects of it but I had different expectations.

I don't think that it was a rushed backstory so much as the writers only had like 80 pages per comic to work with. It would have been better if it were in the show or something.

Korra wasn't a bad Avatar. She had her own road blocks to overcome and her own learning to do just like Aang.

I don't really have any for Kyoshi except for maybe that I don't think that Kyoshi is this aggressive murder machine lol.

Again anyone can feel free to discuss. I try to keep an open mind with these types of things.

[posi-pan]

ngl one thing that bothers me is like.. biphobia is rampant in the pan community, and panphobia is rampant in the bi community, but for some reason i rarely see both sides acknowledged? i ID as pan, and it's genuinely kind of distressing seeing how many pan folks (purposefully or accidently) stray into biphobic territory while trying to defend/uplift our community. similarly, its really disheartening seeing bi folks stray (purposefully or accidently) into panphobic territory while trying to uplift other bi people. like.. we all need to recognize that there are hateful people within our own communities without treating it as if the actions of a few dictate our communities. ive identified as pan for almost 5 years now, and ive seen that so many people are unwilling to admit that there is a LOT of biphobia in our community, but also that many bi people are unwilling to admit that there's a LOT of panphobia in their community. if we want to stomp out pan/biphobia, we have to look at our own communities and recognize the problems in our own communities, but there's so much discourse around "bi vs pan" that nothing really gets done about it.

yeah this is something i’ve talked about before. both communities have issues that need to be addressed, but it often turns into finger pointing and generalizations and whataboutisms. i personally don’t think the issues in both communities are equal in quantity or content, but regardless, neither community is without issues and they do damage. acknowledging that doesn’t mean the whole community or identity itself is bas. more people need to also be cleaning up their own community if they’re calling out other communities.

but yeah. almost all the conversations i see people having about this topic revolve around false information and generalizations and the fabricated feud between the two. very rarely do people just talk unbiasedly with factually correct information about the topic as a whole. i’m always pleased when i come across a post or thread or article that actually is unbiased and doesn’t rely on false information or generalizations.

[hermitknut]

What I know about Witcher from Tumblr

Prompted by a friend of mine.

This is Gerald. Gerald is having A Day, like, permanently. Gerald needs a holiday. Gerald really needs to negotiate better employee benefits. Gerald is (the? a?) Witcher, which is kind of like a travelling Slayer without a hellmouth. Not sure if he’s got super strength or anything in particular, haven’t seen anything about any powers, so he might just be A Dude. Judging by the gifsets I’ve seen, the only things he ever says are “hm” and “fuck”. He was in a bath once. 

JAKES THE BARD! I have never seen this show or any clips from it but I feel like I would like him. Gives off strong “loveable little shit” vibes. I only know three things about Jakesy, 1. Gerald’s boyfriend (Gerald did not make this decision), 2. sings that one song everyone keeps quoting, 3. wears his pseudo-medieval outfits as sluttily as possible (look that one meta about the medieval equivalent of flashing your bra keeps going past my dash okay).

I don’t know who this is but I like her dress.

Eowyn????

Is this Jenny (...yennefer? is that her name?)...? Done with everyone’s shit, fashion sense, I keep seeing YikesTM discourse about her. Absolutely no idea if she’s a villain or not. Can do magic.

NGL my friend sent me a bunch of other pictures too but I don’t even faintly recognise them so I didn’t bother; honestly thought this show only had like, three or four significant characters...

[gallickingun]

That’s completely understandable! I definitely feel that as well. It may take a while, but like you said, things will get better. I’m happy to pop into your inbox at any time to offer kind words and comfort - ❤️

ngl this made me tear up 🥺 and God who gives a fuck anymore ill at least put it under a read more but i gotta get it out

but like i just feel like a cancer to everyone right now.

i am afraid to follow anyone else because im so scared of making them uncomfortable with everything going on. and anyone who reaches out to me through dms or ask box messages i second guess always. are they really being nice? or are they sitting on the other side of the screen laughing at me for having a bad day when they think i deserve it? when people see me in their activity feeds, do they laugh bc they think im trash or do they even care? i used to want people to care but now i wish no one even knew who i was. and likely most people don't. likely im just making this a worse deal than it truly is but God im so tired of not knowing who is here for me and who is here for the tea.

anytime i sit down to write anymore im always bothered. are people going to judge me for writing this when i should've been doing matchups even though ive refunded them all? are people going to find something ive said wrong in this and tear me apart for it? am i going to mistakenly use a phrase i shouldn't? am i going to make someone uncomfortable by posting this? does this go directly against what fanon says and will people laugh at me for writing it?

wow there are so many servers ive wanted to join and participate in but i can't for fear of making people uncomfortable with just my presence, no matter how active i am. and then there's the unknown of what people are thinking when i join in on a collab or when i participate in a writing sprint. are they made uncomfortable by me being there? so usually i end up never joining the server or staying inactive, and even then im still a problem. and then there's bloggers i want to reach out to but i can't because i don't want to make them feel weird by not responding to me, or them to feel like im "clout chasing" when really i just like their writing and their personality and i just want to be friends. but i can't even make friends anymore because im the devil of the discourse right now.

ive had people i was becoming friends with block me out of nowhere bc of who im assuming they associate with, or the posts they've seen about me. people who only know me based on the stuff that's getting spread. i know i fucked up, but gosh did we really have to start a whole discourse blog for my wrongdoings? most of the time im okay but lately now im just giving up. maybe i am this horrible snake, maybe i am a disgusting waste of space. at this rate, i may as well be, since that's what everyone believes.

i want to write. i want to open commissions to write FOR PEOPLE. i want to work on my patreon to provide resources and extras and stuff. but i cant. im frozen, im stuck in the mud, and i cant move on.

this app has brought me so many friends and wonderful opportunities but its also made me the most s*icidal ive been in years. but i cant talk about anything bc then im gaslighting and manipulating people by discussing my mental health. so now i question if i even have mental health issues at all, or am i just making it up? is what my ex said really true, that ill never be okay? that ill always end up alone?

god, the imposter syndrome is real. has everyone just realized how big of a fraud i truly am? is this the end of the act? am i the monster they've claimed me to be?

idk. maybe. i don't even know me.

[theeeveetamer]

What's all the discourse of Dimidue being unhealthy and racist coming from?

You know Anon, I’m not really sure. I usually try to disengage with areas of the fandom that piss me off or annoy me because they’re just not worth my time.

From what I can tell? It’s a bunch of people that didn’t even play Azure Moon, or didn’t bother to get any of Dedue’s supports. That, or people who are applying real-world standards to a fictional universe.

So... Even though I hate this here’s my opinions on it all.

Dimidue is Racist:

I’ve seen people mention that Dimitri only saved Dedue out of some “white guilt” complex but that’s really not the case. White guilt is not a concept that exists in Fodlan. You know why? Sylvain explicitly states that prior to the Tragedy of Duscur (only four years ago) the two countries actually got along quite well. Racism between the people of Duscur and Faerghus is a very new thing, that resulted directly from the murder of nearly their entire royal family, and the retaliatory massacre. Which, fun fact, the former is not an idea that Dimitri subscribes to. He explicitly states that he knows the people of Duscur aren’t responsible, that’s probably at least part of why he saved Dedue (he was saving an innocent man).

Perhaps they’re confusing Sreng and Duscur as the same thing, because the people of Faerghus haven’t had a great relationship with the Sreng people? NGL I was kind of under that impression at first too since the game never lets you sit down and really look at the map... But they’re not, the library/wiki explicitly states that Sreng and Duscur are completely different peninsulas. If you look at the map of Fodlan, Duscur is explicitly stated to be part of what is now Kleiman territory, pretty far west and not at all attached to Sreng.

So the only conclusion I can come to is... It’s because Dedue is black? News flash guys... A black person and a white person being in a relationship isn’t inherently racist. Not by today’s standards, and definitely not in a world where the historical racism and prejudice simply doesn’t exist.

Now you’re applying real world history and standards onto a completely fictional world and characters. Also why the fuck would this Japanese game give half a shit about American sociopolitical and racial issues?

Dimidue is unhealthy:

As for it being unhealthy... I guess that’s because it’s a lord/vassal relationship. But frankly I refuse to take those people seriously unless they have exactly zero problematic ships of their own. I’m not shitting on these ships, like whatever you want to like, but don’t be a hypocrite about it and don’t take a shit all over someone else’s ship because it just makes this entire environment toxic.

Power imbalance? That applies to basically every lord character/anyone ship, or any noble character/commoner character ship. So sorry guys, you’re not allowed to ship Edelgard or Claude with anyone anymore. Byleth either, for that matter! S/he was these kids professor that is so many shades of power imbalance I can’t even. Leo/Niles was a lord/vassal relationship, guess you can’t ship them. Chrom has to be single for the rest of his life, sorry ladies.

It’s codependent? I mean, Dimitri and Dedue have a bit of, codependent dynamic. Here’s the important thing though: They can exist without each other. Dedue has several endings in which he decides to leave Dimitri’s side, and Dimitri lets him go with a smile. They’re two people that have been traumatized in a very similar way, and they use each other to get through it. That’s not necessarily unhealthy... That’s literally the entire purpose of group therapy.

You could argue that Dimitri goes crazy when Dedue dies in Azure Moon, and that proves that they’re codependent... But wouldn’t you? Someone you explicitly find “irreplaceable and cherished” just died, on top of the deaths of your entire family and the humiliation of being stripped of your power and being forced to live in the slums. Like dude, just thinking about my mom or dad dying in the future has me in tears. And I’m not even that close to my parents. Thinking of my cat dying has me in fucking tears. I had a nightmare where I had to mercy kill the little guy and I was fucked up for days. Think of it like that, and yeah Dimitri going crazy with grief is really not that codependent.

Dedue is only following Dimitri because of a life debt? Not really. There’s nothing about Dedue or Dimitri that implies that he couldn’t leave or be dismissed at any time. Not only that, but Dedue doesn’t really have any reason to leave. They have explicitly stated shared goals. Dedue doesn’t just follow Dimitri because he saved his life, he follows him because they have the shared ambition of clearing the people of Duscur of guilt. That, and Dimitri explicitly states that Dedue has probably saved him (emotionally) far beyond whatever he did for Dedue.

Dedue will blindly do whatever Dimitri wants, including but not limited to killing innocents and children, or getting himself killed in his place? That’s fucked up, sure, but keep in mind... Dimitri never orders him to do any of that shit. Because he wouldn’t. Because he’s, at his core, a massive bleeding heart and Dedue knows it. In fact, he does the exact opposite of ordering Dedue to die in his place. He begs Dedue to go on living without him.

Dimitri is mentally ill? Don’t even get me fucking started. I don’t need to write an entire post to tell you that mentally ill people are just as deserving of love as any other human being alive.

[ryollie]

Hey so I wanted to ask, since you are my favourite artist and all, what do you think of my favourite character Charlie? Do you think he is aroace? And what do you think of other people trying to force this HC on other people?

ngl this asks sounds like its gonna spark discourse but hopefully ppl r open-minded ig. its long so im putting this under a read more!

personally....i have a diff take on this kinda stuff? i honestly dont really reinforce just one sexuality and stuff onto fictional characters. like to me a character can exist in so many diff timelines, they dont have to just be stuck with just one sexuality. take ollie for example. he’s bi in my main storyline, but he’s gay in another au, and straight in another. it’s just not really a big deal to me? ive never been a fan of sticking to just one take on a character. its boring lol ! but each to their own. obviously if someone decides their character should just stick to one sexuality only, thats valid! its their character and they do what makes them happy.

as for my own take on charlie. he does seem like he has no interest in dating anybody from what we’ve seen in the game so far, he shows disinterest in dating and only seems obsessed with dragons, so him being aroace makes sense. but also hes like a young teen and its normal for some young teens to not want to be involved with all that romantic stuff at such an early age? he might not be ready for this kind of commitment and like thats valid lol. maybe he just hasnt found anybody that he wants to be involved in yet, or maybe he never will since he doesnt care about dating and just wants to be a kick ass dragon master. who knows!

people trying to force any HC on other ppl r awful lol. like hello, its just a fictional character that you do not own, pls relax. like.... just hc what makes u happy, but let others hc what they want to be happy too. if someone hc’s charlie as aroace, their opinion is valid. if someone hc’s charlie as something else, like gay, straight and bi or whatever, their opinion is also as valid. people who force hcs on people are so immature? u do u, but let other ppl do what they want to as well -- having a diff headcanon of a fictional character isnt harming anyone. like if ur bothered by someone’s hc’s or whatnot, just block them ahsdkskadj simple. no need to start discourse with them. 

(extra.) im friends w a lot of people who hate drarry . u know why? its because we are both civil about each other’s likes and dislikes and acknowledge it - we can agree to disagree about certain things. just because we view certain characters, ships and headcanon them differently, at the end of the day, it literally doesnt matter lol. theres a reason why its called fictional. cuz its not real. and starting arguments with real people over fictional characters is...........sad to say at least

tdlr: i think charlie is aroace but i dont care if someone headcanons otherwise. also people who force the charlie is aroace headcanon on others are forceful and rude and should go outside

[ettadunham]

A Buffy rewatch 5x19 Tough Love

aka you are not immune to… internalized bi erasure?

Welcome to this dailyish (weekly? bi-weekly?) text post series where I will rewatch an episode of Buffy and go on an impromptu rant about it for an hour. Is it about one hyperspecific thing or twenty observations? 10 or 3k words? You don’t know! I don’t know!!! In this house we don’t know things.

And in today’s episode Tara’s not perfect and gets her mind sucked out for it, we kick off the season’s multi-episode finale arc by revealing Dawn to Glory, and we draw some weird parallels between two of our dynamics. Perhaps mostly though, I’ll just talk about Willow’s sexuality, because at some point, we need to properly address that elephant in the room.

Okay, so, let’s just kick this off. If you’ve been in this fandom long enough, you’ve been inevitably exposed to the discourse of Willow’s sexuality. And you might be asking now… what’s the big deal anyway? Isn’t art up to interpretation? Wasn’t that one of my main motivations for this rewatch? Why does it matter that parts of the audience ascribe different labels to Willow?

And well… that’s valid, but it also misses a crucial element of our media, one that I alluded to in my rant about Whedon character deaths. Art doesn’t happen in a vacuum. And the significance of that is only amplified for folks and groups whose experiences aren’t recognized or seen by society in the first place.

To them it will matter whether or not someone recognizes a character by a certain label. Because a refusal to do so feels like an erasure of their own identities. That’s what makes this whole discussion complicated in the first place.

Now, am I the best person to do a deep dive on this? No. Especially not in one of these barely proof-read long rant posts. I’m sure you can find much better sources, so please do that. But it’d feel disingenuous to ignore it too, so I’m just gonna address it to the best of my abilities as well as provide my own in-universe interpretation of what it could mean for the characters.

Great. Now for that pesky discourse.

Personally my go-to analogy to describe it is the classic Shrek onion one.

You see, you peel away a layer of the Willow’s sexuality onion… and it’s still an onion. You peel away all the layers, you chop it up, and sure, it remains an onion, but now everything’s a mess and you’re crying.

The issue is that you kind of need to peel those layers away anyway if you want to truly divorce yourself from the binary thinking that the show itself often engages with. Which is what’s arguably gotten us into this mess in the first place.

Because however you view Willow’s sexuality, you can’t deny that the show is doing a lousy job defining it. Willow does identify as gay/lesbian as of 5x11 and through the end of the series, but the language the show uses makes it impossible to just leave it at that.

In Doppelgangland, when Willow meets her vampire self, she describes her as “kinda gay”. Not gay, but kinda gay. We also see Vampire!Willow making out with Vampire!Xander in The Wish beforehand, so if Vamp!Willow is supposed to tell us something about Willow’s own sexuality, then it’d stand to reason that she’s bi. Right?

Well, apparently not. But then we run into her actual line in 5x11 where she first uses a label, saying “Hello, gay now!”. Notice, it’s gay now. As in Willow just woke up one day and turned gay. The same joke(?) is repeated in Intervention, where one of the characteristics that was programmed into Buffybot about Willow was saying Gay(1999 - ).

Now, that’s not to say that Willow can’t just have a fluid sexuality and identify anyway she fucking wants to, and she doesn’t need to justify her label to anyone. She fell in love with Tara, and that made her reconsider her own identity. Season 7 almost ends up addressing this too in a scene I think, so that’ll be nice to get to.

The issue mostly comes from the show skipping to engage even with the possibility that Willow (or anyone for that matter) might be attracted to more than one gender at the same time. The closest we get to this is with the love triangle setup in New Moon Rising, except I guess in this love triangle Willow also chose a sexual orientation?

It’s like that episode was the quantum superposition of Willow’s Schrödinger’s sexuality, and upon observation, it locked into either one of its two states. That’s why Tara’s been talking about getting a cat in that episode! Guys, we solved it!

Notice also that I’ve yet to really talk about Willow’s sexual history before Tara in regards to this… because for me that’s sort of less part of the point? If Willow was a real person, and you knew that she had this adorable boyfriend before she identified as a lesbian, you wouldn’t go up to her and question how she defines her own sexuality. I mean… I hope so? Don’t be a fucking asshole.

But that’s both the fallacy of the argument and the reason why you should still respect the label Willow identifies with. Because Willow is not real, she’s a fictional character, and therefore arguments can and should be made about how the show portrays her sexuality… And yet, the people who identify with Willow are very much real, and so are their own experiences of people dismissing their own chosen identities.

So, there you go folks. These are my two cents. Willow’s gay, but we need to acknowledge how the show appears to be either completely unaware, or actively dismissive of the existence of bisexuality. This even comes up in the S8 comics, where Buffy’s sexuality after having a relationship with a woman is continuously referred to as essentially “not-gay”. Because I guess in the Buffyverse canon these are your only two options.

Now that we got all that out of the way, we can briefly talk about this episode, I guess.

To keep it on track, I guess we should dissect the argument between Willow and Tara that sort of caused me to whip this whole discussion out here.

Now, this is a fascinating scene, because it pivots a lot, and reveals a lot about the characters and their insecurities. It also appears to be fueled by Willow’s own lack of self-reflection and Tara’s non-confrontational nature.

It starts with Willow complaining to Tara about how Buffy appears to be trying to be more strict with Dawn. Willow is obviously identifying with Dawn in the situation. But Tara says she completely understands Buffy.

This then probably reminds Willow of Buffy earlier telling her that she wouldn’t understand when she was talking to her about Dawn, which causes a mood shift in Willow. It also reminded me of season 3 of Buffy telling Willow the same thing regarding her connection with Faith, so as a Buffy/Tara shipper that association kind of delights me, ngl.

But as Tara pushes further, seeing that something is bothering Willow, she reveals the insecurity behind it. Willow isn’t just responding to Tara having this wisdom through this major, tragic life experience that she can relate to Buffy with; it’s that Tara’s done all of this so much longer than she has. She’s been a witch all her life. She’s been out much longer.

That however then triggers Tara’s own insecurities about Willow rapidly surpassing her in her own magical abilities, and says that that “frightens” her. She tries walking back on her choice of word later, but it’s too late, and Willow locks into that.

Now, this is some riveting stuff. Because with foreknowledge, the easiest interpretation here is that this will relate back to Willow’s abuse of magic in season 6. That deep down Tara already sees what having this much power will do to her girlfriend.

This is arguably even reinforced in the episode with Willow going after Glory. It’s once again foreshadowing, Willow attempting to take revenge for something that’s been done to Tara; but it also betrays a certain arrogance in Willow. She actually believes that she can take on Glory, a supposed God. (Which, honestly? She probably could by season 7.) That’s the kind of power that she wields and how she chooses to use it.

Still, in the argument itself Tara pushes this fear of hers in a slightly different direction, saying that she’s afraid that she wouldn’t be able to fit into Willow’s life, after all these changes. And that’s where the previous discussion fits in.

Perhaps to understand Willow’s response, we should remember how magic has been used as our lesbian metaphor for almost a whole season. Because she almost immediately jumps to the conclusion, that Tara’s afraid that she would… go back to boys? Which is of course a classic, toxic stereotype used against bisexuals, despite the fact that no one here canonically identifies as bi, so add that to the discourse.

More importantly, it’s said by Willow. Now, Tara totally drops the ball here, asking her “Should I be?”, which reinforces the validity of Willow’s assumption that it’s actually something that Tara is thinking. Even someone as perfect and precious as Tara is not immune to propaganda.

In Tara’s defense, she once again tries dancing back on it, and talking it out before Willow storms out, but yeah. While I’d like to think that Tara’s question came more from a place of general insecurity, regardless of the gender of Willow’s next possible love interest, she sure fucked up in that moment.

Still, the fact that it’s Willow jumping to this debate, might just tell us more about Willow herself and how she sees herself.

Let’s go back to Restless for a bit. In that episode, Willow’s fear was ended up being about how she was scared that deep down she was still the same girl that she was in high school. That all these things she developed through college that made her stand out were just a facade, and that she was merely hiding her true identity as the same lonely loser she believed herself to have been back then.

So… and bear with me here… if we take that fear as a core motivation for Willow’s character, we can interpret the way she identifies her sexuality as a means to distance herself from her old identity. From this perspective, it’d perhaps even make sense for her to feel insecure about a supposed attraction to men, because she sees that as a regression to her old identity.

I can not stress it enough that this is merely a possible interpretation though. And one that would really only become satisfying if season 7 - which was already largely about reconciling with these different aspects of her identity for Willow aside the obvious theme of power - ended up tying it all together with Willow re-defining her own sexuality. It didn’t though, so I’m still left with the same conclusions, and this thought experiment of a character analysis.

Anywho, this is getting so very long, and there are still a few things that I wanted to touch upon this episode. Mainly the parallel we’re drawing between Willow / Tara and Buffy & Dawn throughout.

Normally, I love a good parallel storytelling. It’s efficient and makes the whole thing more cohesive. Here however, they manage to drive the parallel home so hard, that it just becomes weird at some point.

Like the fact that we have these two conflicts in the two relationships, arguably anchoring the episode? That’s good stuff. I also like the fact that Willow and Tara’s argument grows out of their discussion about Buffy and Dawn’s situation.

There’s actually a lot of great interaction in the entire episode. I love Dawn opening up to Spike about how she feels responsible for what would happen to Tara, and how she feels like she can’t be good because of all the terrible things happening around her. That’s a brilliant scene. Spike’s “Well, I’m not good and I’m okay”? I actually love him in that moment, not even gonna lie.

Buffy thinking that she actually convinced Willow to not go after Glory reminded me of a scene in Angel the series, where the gang thinks they managed to curve Fred’s impulses to axe murder her old professor. Do you all even know these people you call friends??? But again, I liked that exchange.

And okay, Buffy needed to be reminded what she would do if something happened to Dawn to realize what Willow was planning. Fine.

But then you’ve got the doctor asking Willow if Tara was her “sister” (to which she of course replied “She’s my everything”, and it’s fine, I’m fine), and then in the last scene, Buffy explicitly equating Willow’s need to take care of Tara with her own feelings regarding Dawn.

Again, I understand parallel storytelling. I love it. But when you’re equating a romantic and a familial relationship there’s a point where it becomes weird, and for me, these two moments put it just over that edge. This is of course a deeply subjective perspective, and I recognize that.

And then you also get Buffy trying to take on these new adult responsibilities in the episode. She’s dropping out of college to try and care for Dawn, and is faced with the challenge to become a parental authority figure in her sister’s life. The scene where she explains to Dawn that the reason she’s being tough with her, is because otherwise she could be seen unfit to be her guardian just gutted me.

This episode is just way too much, guys. And we’re only just at the beginning of the big finish of this season.

[janiedean]

Saying Kit/Emilia are on the same acting level as Alfie is a big insult tbh. Alfie didn't spent years acting his ass of portraying 3 Theon/Reek to be put on the same level as them. It's also an insult to Lena's acting.

anon

for the fucking good love of it

now I know I am gonna be rude but fuck that noise I’ve been nice until now

A MONTH AGO SOMEONE CAME INTO MY INBOX TRASHING ON KIT TWICE IN THE SAME DAY AND I LOST MY SHIT BECAUSE

IHAVEBEENSAYINGILIKEKIT’SACTINGGENUINELYANDUNIRONICALLY

*SINCE FUCKING SEASON FIVE*. FIVE. AND IT’S AN OPINION I HAD TO DEFEND MORE THAN ONCE BUT NEVER MIND.

I’m GONNA PUT IT EXTRA LARGE JUST IN CASE YOU CAN’T READ.

I don’t particularly like emilia’s but I thought she was pretty much okay in solo so she obv can do better than got but the point is

IF YOU *KNOW* I LIKE KIT’S ACTING AND NGL I ENJOY WATCHING HIS PERFORMANCE MORE THAN I ENJOY WATCHING LENA’S BECAUSE I CAN’T EVEN STAND TO LOOK AT CERSEI THESE DAYS NEVER MIND THE ACTING SHE CAN BE THE BEST ACTRESS IN THE WORLD I STILL WOULD RATHER WATCH KIT JON SNOW-ING FOR A FULL HOUR THAN LENA SAYING A WORD BECAUSE I HONESTLY CAN’T LOOK AT CERSEI WITHOUT WANTING TO VOMIT BUT IT’S FINE WHATEVER IT’S ALL ABOUT FINE ACTING TM IT CAN’T BE PERSONAL PREFERENCE

WHYDOYOUTHINKIT’SOKAYTOCOMEINTOMYASKBOXTELLINGMEKIT’SACTINGSUCKS

NO HONESTLY now I’m capslocking without limit but honestly WHY. no. EXPLAIN ME WHY. I’ve had this discussion AT LEAST TEN TIMES but it’s not even close to it, I don’t make a mystery that I think kit’s a pretty good actor - not on the same level as some of his colleagues but still good and I’ve seen him in other things and let me tell you imo he was better in brimstone than alfie was in john wick IF YOU REALLY WANT MY HONEST OPINION even if I also think alfie’s better than him in GOT but never mind - SO WHY THE FUCK DO YOU THINK IT’S FINE TO COME HERE AND PUT IT IN THESE TERMS?????

No, honestly. PLEASE send me another anon and tell me why because I’d like to know if y’all have taken me for the fucking cat or something because hey you can tell your cat whatever and he’s going to listen without replying, or if you took me for the fucking wall or your free therapist or your bff or whatever.

I HAVE MY PREFERENCES AND YOU FUCKING KNOW THEM BECAUSE AGAIN, I HAVE BEEN SAYING I LIKE HIS ACTING FOR FOUR FUCKING YEARS NOW and when it comes to emilia I honestly don’t care enough to complain about it outside of maybe the liveblog. WHY. DO YOU FEEL THE NEED TO SEND ME THIS KIND OF ASK knowing you’re trashing on someone I like and knowing I wildly disagree with you? because if you didn’t notice sorry but YOU COULD HAVE CHECKED THE DAMNED TAGS where I put everything.

INCLUDING MY OPINION ON KIT’S FUCKING ACTING.

hey, if you HAPPENED TO MISS IT:

this is why you’re wrong at least re kit

this is the last time someone brought out the IT’S AN INSULT TO ALFIE AND LENA DISCOURSE

this is the second to last last time someone brought out that same discourse

this is the last time someone went trashing on a movie I like because they hate emilia who’s in it before it even came out when I said I was excited for it

AND THIS IS WHAT Y’ALL MADE ME POST AFTER ALL OF THE ABOVE.

now: read the links if you missed them and then come back and please tell me why the fuck you woke up this morning and thought ‘oh hey it’s a lovely sunny day, let’s send tumblr user janiedean the umpteenth ask on about how much I hate an actor she likes a lot and an actress she doesn’t give a shit enough about to complain and see how much she tries to be diplomatic without telling me explicitly to just fuck off already, how fun is that???!’, because that’s how it fucking sounds at this point.

I could also rant you for an entire day about how alfie never got the screentime he deserved and has a what is objectively a secondary role at that point so he worked his ass off but he also doesn’t have to carry the entire thing on his shoulders while kit’s been spending seven seasons doing his stuntwork, actually working at improving and if you could actually get the ham from your eyes you’d notice, IMPROVING THE SCRIPT HIMSELF WHEN HE THOUGHT IT WAS OOC AND HE COULD GET AWAY WITH IT AND HE ACTUALLY READ ALL THE BOOK CANON (while alfie and lena didn’t, not that I blame them but kit and gwen are about the only two major-ish actors who actually read the entire thing in the entire cast and it counts for something) AND PRETTY MUCH SHOULDERING 70% OF THIS CLUSTERFUCK HIMSELF but never mind that, because you obviously don’t care and I’m not even obliged to do it.

but: again, since I’m tired of being diplomatic when you are rude in the first place - bc sorry I DON’T KNOW YOU and you doing this is basically coming into my house barging the door and informing me of a thing I don’t care for - I’ll be rude again: I DON’T CARE. YOU HATE KIT? YOU HATE EMILIA?

I DON’T FUCKING CARE, I ACTUALLY DISAGREE, I DON’T OWE YOU TO BE NICE TO YOU IF YOU ARRIVE HERE AND TELL ME THIS KIND OF STUFF WHEN YOU *KNOW* WHAT I THINK and not even doing it half-nicely, like this is straight up rude because you’re basically telling me that my opinion (ie: kit’s a good actor) is an insult to another actor whose work I love (alfie, or did you forget the time I spent a month putting together signatures to bring him a book with compliments from people who like his acting? BECAUSE I DID, fuck’s sake) without even saying hi or bothering to put it nicely, and it’s rude af because you’re basically assuming that since I’m here and I’m nice to everyone then I’ll listen to whatever fucking thing passes through your head.

I AM NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND, I’M NOT YOUR MOTHER, I’M NOT YOUR THERAPIST, I’M NOT YOUR CAT AND THIS IS MY DAMNED SPACE AND IF YOU HAVE TO COME IN IT TO INSULT THINGS I LIKE WHEN YOU KNOW I LIKE THEM YOU CAN CLICK UNFOLLOW AND IGNORE ME FOR THE NEXT TEN YEARS, THANK YOU.

and since this is the fifth time I had to tell y’all this maybe if I put everything in large af capslock it’s the one time you get it.

I didn’t want to get to this point but y’all brought me to it, thank you.

and before you decide whether you want to unfollow me or whether you want to check on your damned manners before you send people things - again, I’m nice and I don’t mind talking to anyone on here but some basic modicum of respect for my ABSOLUTELY NOT UNKNOWN OPINIONS would be nice -, feel free to send me another ask where you tell me why the fuck you thought sending me this ask was a good idea GIVEN ALL OF THE ABOVE.

I’m listening. No, really.

and if your reply is ‘omg you got hysterical over it chill’, you obviously haven’t read the part where I said I’ve been having this discourse for four years and I think I made clear where I stand on.

again: if I could fucking lie for years through all of high school to all my rl friends about how much I fucking hate harry potter and everything connected to it and if I could watch the movies with them even when they knew I don’t like it and they still insisted anyway and when I don’t go on tumblrs of people who like HP telling them I think their favorite book sucks because I know shitting over what people like is rude and gets them down and eventually ends up with general embarrassment because it’s not nice to have someone talking shit about something you like in front of you, Y’ALL CAN BE HALFWAY CONSIDERATE AND STOP SENDING ME ASKS ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU HATE SOMETHING I LIKE AND ABOUT HOW MUCH MY OPINIONS ARE *INSULTS*.

thanks for coming to my fucking ted talk. fuck’s sake.

[eeby-the-mcdeeby]

Thought I'd advertise my various blogs, in case anyone's interested lol. I would like to preface this by saying,

W͘͏é̢̡l͝c͢o͜m̕e̸ ̀̕t͟ó̶ ͡͏̶m͏y̢ ̡͞͞E͜mpir̨̨͘é̶́

Anyway shall we begin?

(there's 22 I'm gonna have to put them into categories lol)

Main

@eggface-the-mcnosehair

My main blog, here! Listing this one in case anyone's looking at this in search results instead of from following me already cause they might be ok lol

I post a lot about social issues and memes/shitposts here. Standard kind of "everything goes" blog (except maybe a little bit more consistent due to my other blogs' existence lol)

@shes-seen-things

My "Personal" blog. Intended for like vents and stuff, I post those occasionally but I also rb helpful "life resources" kinda stuff, and identity stuff occasionally. And sometimes aesthetic stuff that gives me certain vibes

Fandom

@i-lov-them-beans

Sanders Sides blog! I love dark, angsty, theory/headcanon-y stuff. In particular I like creativitwins/king angst, Virgil angst, and just finding Virgil pretty in general. I post story/headcanon ideas, fanart (other people's and my own) and shitposty stuff I guess.

@tails-and-sonic-r-fab-ok

My Sonic blog, mostly inactive but I do post occasionally. I'd like to get back into Sonic but it depends on my mental health

@john-thicksoup

Epithet Erased blog, mostly inactive but I do love soup man

@doxifandoms

For any other fandoms I don't have a specific blog for, mainly minecraft and furries atm. I also reblog non-fandom art

Artistic

@an-art-blog-oh-ho

My art blog, I mostly reblog my sanders sides fanart from my @i-lov-them-beans , but there's some original stuff too. I seem to like robotic/ai characters for some reason

@doorways-project-official

Videogame dev project set in a cartoony anthro fantasy world with the main characters Dak the crow and Tirl the kangaroo. Hopefully gonna be v aesthetic, check it out!

@icetech-project

More videogame dev project. This one's also cartoony and anthro, but set in a high tech futuristic world with dragons and other mythical creatures, starring an ice dragon girl!

@deathmoon-project

Not a videogame project, just an idea I had. I may cancel the idea ngl, but the blog is p aesthetic if you wanna check it out.

@well-dang-its-a-writing-blog

My writing blog, kinda dead but I've been wanting to revive it. I intend to post mainly poetry original post-wise, I also reblog writing resources, memes, and inspo posts

@nature-photos-n-stuff

Pretty much dead. Might revive it at some point.

Interests

@fun-not-cringe

Kinda scenecore + other things. I wouldn't say dead, more just sporadic. I'm still trying to get over the effects cringe culture has had on me.

@oops-i-spilled-my-languages

Also not very active but I do post sometimes. I'm very into like, modern English linguists i.e. the linguistics of memes and online speech, but occasionally foreign languages too. I love affixes.

@stressed-depressed-veganess

Vegan activism blog, not much to say really but if you're looking for inclusive vegans go check it out I guess

A-spec

@romance-n-sex-repulsed-aroace

My biggest blog heyyy. :D Designed as a safe space for people who are romance repulsed and/or sex repulsed (but you don't have to be either to follow), I reblog stuff relatable to sex/romance repulsed people, pride/positivity aro/ace stuff, and non-romantic/sexual calming/stimmy stuff

@aspec-is-amazing

My other main aspec blog, this one focuses more on appreciating the whole spectrum at large, and community discussion. Mostly positivity but sometimes I'll post discourse-y stuff about intra-community issues (no aphobe "discourse" tho)

@clean-shitposts

To go with @romance-n-sex-repulsed-aroace , this is a blog for shitposts, memes, etc that are completely non-sexual for all your sex-repulsed shitposty needs

@aro-emo

Mostly dead, but occasional aesthetic reblogs. The intention was that whenever I searched the emo tag, I'd always get loads of relationship/romance-y stuff, so I wanted a blog for non-romantic non-sexual emo stuff.

@doxion-somo-icons

Icon making blog, new so there's not much there but I have a personal focus on Sonic and other cartoony stuff with aspec identities

Other

@mmgoodposts

I'm not bothered whether people follow this one tbh but it's an archive blog for posts I find iconic or otherwise particularly noteworthy and want an easy way to get back to.

@dayoftheweekposts

Another archive blog, this time for those posts that you've gotta reblog on certain days like Radical Saturday or Day 15

Prolly gonna be making more, I already have another one that I was gonna make but I haven't yet. We'll see. But there's definitely going to be mǫ̴͘r̡͘͘͝ȩ̸̀͟

[bienmoreau]

Hi, I saw your post "Please don’t let fandom ruin something you love" and i just wondering what exactly do you mean while putting tfc and trc and i was wondering what made you feel this way. If u don't wanna share with it, sorry that I am bother you, if u want, i am okay with private answer since i dont wanna put your into troubles with fandoms. And have a good day :)

heya no worries.. 

umm i think i covered a fair amount of it in this ask here

19. What is the one thing you hate most about your fandom?

wow.. okay.. well. i think one of my biggest issues is the weird two faced feel to it. where it looks/seems like it’s really welcoming and friendly (and for the most part it is for sure) but with the boom in size it also got this really nasty aggressively rude and unpleasant side to it. in both interactions and content. and yeh. its exhausting ngl. and is the primary reason for my current efforts to withdraw from it as much as I am.

its not just this/maybe not quite as strong as hate.. but I’ve seen this fandom through like all of it.. and idk i don’t like a lot of what i’ve seen. it doesn’t help that TFC was my escape from a pretty horrific last two years at uni and because i was so involved in the early days the boom and the following drama and nastiness was really close to home for me and made me really stressed and unhappy on top of all the irl shit i was going through. 

I’m normally pretty good at stepping back from things that aren’t good for me/my happiness (the tmr fandom 5 years ago for example) but i did and am still struggling to let go of tfc in the same way for a number of reasons and that’s causing me to just sideline like the whole main fandom. i only engage in very select parts/people now and even with that i still see an awful lot of content/discourse that i just don’t have the mental time or energy for. so as and when i do see it/my friends still in the fandom get caught up in it its really not good for me irl. 

the fandom and tumblr in general (this is all thinking in generals here tbh tho if i tried i could narrow it to specifics) very nearly ruined my enjoyment of these books (or at least of being a fan of them. the books are still a masterpiece and ill never not love them) honestly if it wasn’t for Jean/jerejean/the Trojans and the friends i have made through these as topics I would be long gone from anything tfc fandom related (except my url). 

as for trc its a little different. again i do still have a few very good friends who i talk trc with and i still really enjoy those characters. but a similar thing happened with the scale of fandom/disparities in content and opinion and people just being straight up nasty to each other/my friends/etc. 

its too much bad shit muddying the waters of something i love and it makes me not want to engage with it on the same level as the majority. with trc i made a shared blog with a very good friend for our tiny tiny rare-pair and pretty much only talked to like 7 people about the book after the raven king came out. i still love the characters and will happily talk about them/post-trk HCs etc. but i want next to no part in the main fandom because it does my head in and just isn’t good for my own sanity and happiness. 

also y’know the amount of seriously questionable content created in both these fandoms (and Vld which is why its cutting it close to being on the list atm) makes me very uncomfortable.. and while i will normally stand by ‘to each their own’ i have less than zero interest in associating with or being part of the creation of that kind of content.