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myreitha · 2 months

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More gold painted things - this time some shoes a friend asked me if I could jazz up for him :)

As usual, the paint is Jacquard Lumiere Metallic paint in the color 552 Bright Gold!

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#art #artists on tumblr #gold paint #leather #shoes #he was so happy with them it made me glow #I love making people smile #these were some of his backup shoes #and he said he's now excited to wear them again!#that's exciting #okay #really #I showed him the vine gloves and without hesitating immediately pulled a pair of shoes out of him bag and asked if I could do it to those #I was not expecting that

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andthebeanstalk · 11 months

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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kagoutiss · 20 days

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pelican town, ‘72

#stardew valley #stardew valley spoilers #sdv #sdv spoilers #grandpa #mister qi #mr. qi #idk how dates work in stardew universe im just bullshittin #i love qi’s huge fucking eyebrows you dont notice them at first but theyre there #(gives our collective grandpa a ponytail) i think he had one. whatever #’why isnt mister qi blue’ my hc is he is blue from long-term iridium supplementation #and was originally just a regular person #but also it’s nice to see ur fav be like a normal human color #if u read tag essays tho consider this:#qi discovers secret to immortality (consuming iridium in a specific manner)#wants to share discovery with his farmer (player’s grandpa) and in that way. they will have all the time in the world to build #a perfect farming/business empire whose legacy will last forever and ever and theyll be 2gether forever #but it turns out. like a lot of normal people would. his farmer does not want to live forever #and obv he doesn’t #in an attempt to try not to ever lose the thing that means more to him than anything else in the world. qi inadvertantly ensures he will #because his farmer is dead. and he’s going to live forever #but. it’s kind of ok. because he has infinite money and was able to figure out how to talk to his dead bf #and now YOU help them fulfill their joint goal of making the farm’s legacy last forever #smile. heart #sobbing

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tubbytarchia · 3 months

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Somewhere in the woods, a moth tires of seeking light

#gempearl #shinyduo #shiny duo #not meant to be shipping propaganda for the poll but I mean... feel free to take it as such!!#the solitary plants feel out of place and maybe the color gradients could be better but its fineeeeeee. Not my proudest background...#also haha get it. Moth tires of seeking light. There's light all around her but its symbolic you guys #vaguely inspired by an estonian song. Some of the lyrics:#Luck pat her little girl’s head and repeated that beautiful is everything that there is #The girl then smiled and that was enough for her heart to understand where the sun lay #one of my favorite songs ever. Very beautiful and Id love to make an animatic or smth for it but the lyrics get a bit too specific :(#Shame that its in estonian and probably offputting to a lot of people too but.... õnn ja arm by mari pokinen.......#hermitshipping #commission #centaur cuddles tee hee <3 #horses etc cant actually twist their bodies that much without it hurting them I think. But please suspend your disbelief for me pleasee #tubby art

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oceanwithouthermoon · 3 months

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i always feel bad when i see how the point of a lot of saiki's personality traits flew right over the heads of a lot of fans due to him being an unreliable narrator and a tsundere lol.. so a lot of things he says are immediately proved to be untrue and often just him putting up a front, but some people dont pick up on it..

like i see a lot of "haha saiki would never want to watch a romance movie" guys there is an entire chapter (170) dedicated to him being like "i much prefer mysteries to romance stories.." and then immediately becoming absolutely enamored with a romance story.. he was lying, guys, LMAO

less specific ones include:

"i hate children, they annoy me" *goes out of his way to help kids, comfort them, be kind to them, etc.*

"i only use my powers for self gain/my own convenience." "anyway my mama told me to never use my powers selfishly so i always use them to help people and i try my best not to use them for personal gain<3"

"those guys are so annoying, i would never hang out with them willingly." "yeah it took them about two sentences to convince me to go with them. their thoughts seemed like they really wanted me to go, so i did. i didnt want them to be upset. not that i care about them or anything."

(sorry i post about this kind of thing a lot, i just giggle a lot at how the entire manga is so easily misinterpreted and thousands of people have watched the show but didnt pick up on the main characters most defining character traits and frequent bits.. i think there needs to be a masterlist or something disproving all the extremely common misconceptions about saiki k lol)

#not hating lmao its just silly #i once saw one of those 'how saiki k characters would drink their coffee' posts and for saiki it said 'black coffee'#and i giggled #what do you mean you think the guy who only smiles during really sweet moments or when hes eating sweets would drink black coffee #thats so out of character but they obvi were just going by personality which u guess is funny #that mf prob would make homemade pumpkin spice lattes drowned in sugar and creamer and whipped cream and sprinkles #hey genuine question to people who watched the anime this way: how was it still funny ?#him being a liar tsundere unreliable narrator is often the MAIN bit.. like in EVERY chapter..#did u only pay attention to the silly mini jokes within the episodes and those were somehow still enough to make you love the show ?#or like.. what was it ??? IDK I GENUINELY DONT GET IT #saiki k #tdlosk #the disastrous life of saiki k.#saiki kusuo #meows post #meownalysis

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barbaracleboy · 10 months

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Forgive me if I’ve posted this here already but I made a meme!

#made it a while ago but still! super fond of this design trope it makes characters look so lax and friendly #pikmin #bug fables #etrian odyssey #not gonna tag every Character or Franchise represented here because I feel like that'd just flood too many peoples' tags with a random meme #I put Pikmin and Bug Fables 'cuz they're small and EO because I placed #like #every Innkeeper from the series in the center there #it seems to be series tradition to have an innkeeper with closed eyes and a comfy smile and I think that's lovely

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coolnonsenseworld · 1 year

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Just a little sketch as a thank you for support so far!!

Linktr.ee/mezzy

#klance #voltron legendary defender #lance mcclain #voltron #keith kogane #laith #mezzy cuddlers #as sofia said getting squished is a kove language #and you can see how much Keith loves lance by how much he lets himself be squished #why do i feel like posting sketches like this is shameful.... what did that to me #lol #art is just for fun and making people smile #and like insoiring deep thoughts and questioning life #but thats not the point rn #i hope you enjoy even if its not all rendered and shiny

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tillman · 11 months

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Makes me so sad when people apologize for reblogging a lot of art in a row of a character they like or making a bunch of posts about them. Like I understand . But also no no no no this is why we follow you. Please post your funny guy. We like your funny guy. I enjoy seeing this funny thing of yours. Please show them more.

#txt #owner of the galehaut post speakimg. but. I love when people r excited about a thing they like ok ? makes me smile

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fromtheseventhhell · 2 months

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If we get a scene of Arya crowning Jon, it needs to parallel the scene of Jon gifting Needle to Arya for me. A personal scene between the two of them that's about their unconditional love for each other. It isn't about Jon becoming King but about Arya supporting him in the same way he supported her. "Girls get the arms but not the swords. Bastards get the swords but not the arms" come full circle with two outcasts supporting each other occupying spaces that society says they can't

#arya stark #jon snow #asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #and it goes without saying that Jon will continue to support Arya's non-conformity when they reunite #I've seen a lot of people frame this theory as though we think that Arya is going to /make/ Jon King but that isn't the case for me #it's about their love and support for each other and Arya passing Robb's crown onto Jon would be a full-circle moment for both of them #The thought of them having a more mature conversation where they both discuss their insecurities is just so 🥹#/Jon will want me even if no one else does/ /she could always make Jon smile/ their relationship is just elite I don't make the rules #Their scenes in AGOT aren't enough I need them attached at the hip when they reunite!#either way their reunion is going to destroy me 😭

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dreamsy990 · 3 months

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something about the erasure of platonic love in fandom bothers me. maybe its just that im aroace, maybe i just dont 'get' the differences between loving and being in love. but it bothers me.

#are you in love with the friend you hold when they cry #are you in love when you smile whenever you see someone #are you in love when you wish they were by your side because they always make you laugh #where is the boundary. where does love turn into something more #is it not knowing what youd do without them?#is it devotion? is it wanting the world and more for someone?#do you just know? is it a gut feeling?#i dont know and i probably wont ever know #but i think people see romance as something far more universal than it really is #anyways. bonus points if one of the characters is a minor i see that more than i should #not saying its inherently wrong to ship these kinds of characters also #its literally fine do what you want #i just think. maybe not everything has to be romantic #doodles #this is probably my hottest take ngl

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lokimobius · 14 days

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Owen Wilson at the Deadline Contenders Television 'Loki' panel, April 13, 2024.

#owen wilson #mobius m mobius #lokitvedit #mcuedit #marveledit #mobius #loki series #mine #HIS SMILE!!!!!!!#I'M SO GLAD IT SEEMED LIKE HE ENJOYED HIMSELF #seeing people on twt say that they got to tell him they loved him makes my heart swell #this felt so special #i need to hear him talk about mobius more #his brain works in mysterious ways and i need more of it

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odeu-m · 2 months

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b4 death B) - angel w a little hat below cut <3

tried to stick to their death dates a bit but. idk i only googled for like 5 mins. also i wanted those old news print colours 😌

#alastor #niffty #angel dust #hazbin hotel #fanart #i wanted to like. idk not necessarily match their designs but what i think they'd have looked like when alive #a lot of people give angel heterochromia which i dig but i like the idea he's got the same thing as david bowie - 2 different sized pupils #i wanted 2 make niffty deranged but also sweet bc i love her dearly but i do think she killed people #alastor i tried to like give him a cab calloway vibe like charming but then also his scary little smile #Had to give Al the little glasses chain for extra cuntitude #angel i think was strange to make bc. he's the least human out of these 3 to me. so he could've looked like anything.#you can pry him being a bleach blonde out of my cold dead hands tho this man has dark hair naturally #needed him to look Fruity. but only a little. the amount of times i'd give him makeup then had to force myself to remove it #i love talking abt visual headcanons im so shit at writing to so you'll have to put up w drawings just so i can ramble abt them in the note #human niffty #human alastor #human angel dust #.ctf

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terracyte · 2 years

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[Does civilian Bruce even know Duke is a meta? Or is he just like "My son is so chipper that he lights up every room he walks in!" And all the kids are like 👁👄👁] via anon

anon thats the cutest thing ive ever heard- i feel like bruce probably didn't know but the second after he found out he makes this joke immediately and frequently

#something happy for the civvie bruce au!!#thank you all for still sticking around despite me being slow as hell creating anything #i just think. duke!#hes great i love him also himb smile i concur #dc #terra art #bruce wayne #duke thomas #batfam #civilian bruce au #AND LET BRUCE MAKE DAD JOKES I SAY #canon bruce would too honestly #just so infrequently and with a deadpan delivery that people need to do a double take every time #and he only uses it for shock value #and general enjoyment

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zstanaly · 8 months

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Who framed Roger rabbit Sanlu au!!!!!! It’s literally them!!!

And the quote that roger says “A laugh can be a powerful thing. Why sometimes in life, it’s the only weapon we have.” Is so Luffy especially with what gear 5 stands for!!!!!

And Sanji and Jessica both being alone for a while and being misunderstood until Roger/Luffy shows up and makes them carefree and have that childlike wonder that was taken from them !!!!

#Sanlu #who framed roger rabbit #sanlu au #sanji #jessica rabbit #roger rabbit #Roger and Luffy both being Looney Tunes and their mission is making people smile :)#Jessica and Sanji being head over heels for them cause they sacrifice and show how much they care #I LOVE THIS AU PLEASE YALL GET IT RIGHT YOU SEE IT #ITS ALSO THE UNDYING DEVOTION GAH #lusan

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speakofcompersion · 11 days

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