#LISTEN TO INTERSEX PEOPLE

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

every day i log onto tumblr and resist to urge to tear apart perisex queer ppl with my bare hands

[cayde6feetunder]

tfw you agree fully with OP but they push the complains about terms like tme/tma as being ~ transmascs complaining they’re being labelled as tme ~ like terms like tme/tma aren’t disgustingly intersexist and while there are some people who do complain because they’re being labeled “tme” (I may not have ever seen this ever but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a possibility it happens) I and many others don’t fuck with it because it’s fucking intersexist and trying to dismiss that as an actual real issue with the terminology is dishonest. Get real.

[intersex-support]

Sorry if this is a bad question to ask, for someone who’s (as far as I know) dyadic, but in lieu of the previous ask you received; dyadic people who don’t identify with being intersex and don’t call themselves intersex, but want to, and are planning to have either salmacian surgery, (which is either a penis preserving vulvaplasty or a vagina preserving phalloplasty depending on agab) or gender nullification surgery (removal of all external genitalia) is that a good thing or a bad thing? I agree with you on how identifying as intersex would cause harm and muddy the waters for intersex people, but I’ve heard that if a nonbinary wanted to get nonbinary-specific bottom surgery procedures, that it’s bad and intersexist, and I’ve seen a lot of people be opposed to a dyadic person receiving either one of these procedures? I’m sorry again if this is a bad question to ask. Thank you for reading this.

Hi anon,

I think people can get whatever surgery they want and I totally support that! Whatever procedures bring people comfort or gender euphoria or make people feel at home in their bodies-absolutely nothing wrong with that and I support people having the autonomy to make those choices!

It would be a problem if people referred to those surgeries as "intersex surgeries" or like "transitioning to intersex" or something like that, but as long as people aren't using intersex language, I personally think there is absolutely nothing harmful to the intersex community by people getting those surgeries. Bodily autonomy is such an important part of intersex justice, and I think an area where we really can have a lot of solidarity with trans people is advocating for all of us to have the ability to make the choices we want about our body and access the gender affirming care we want. So I absolutely support trans and nonbinary people accessing the surgeries they want and think there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting surgeries or having that type of dysphoria or anything like that.

Hope that makes sense!

[theforesteldritch]

Genspect (an gross anti trans organization) is currently using intersex people as a tool to further their transphobia. Not only are they spreading misinformation, they and the people following them are speaking over us and they don’t care.

They were mocking the term intersex. They were saying that sex isn’t a spectrum, there’s only two sexes, all that bullshit. They are speaking over us, mocking us and spreading misinformation. All to spread hate about trans people, which I also am.

I called them out in the comments, and I’m sort of regretting it. Because I am tired of having to not only defend the fact that I exist but my own body’s reality. I am a bit of both male and female. It is not a disorder and it is not something wrong. Sex is a spectrum, and I fall outside of the most common categories.

For people seemingly so obsessed with ‘biological reality’ (and of course not understanding basic concepts about the difference between sex and gender) they sure love to spread misinformation about us and how our biology works. They’re reductionist, and try to reduce sex to chromosomes or gametes or whatever. But the thing is, no one singular trait makes up sex. I’m so tired. I’m proud of being intersex but the hate and the stigma and the discrimination that we have to live with every day is just so enraging and frustrating and exhausting.Our bodies are not tools for some hateful agenda. Our bodies can’t be classed into categories that they don’t fit. Our bodies are natural human variation. Intersex people deserve better.

[butch-bakugo]

My Tumblr will do this thing where I'll be in the middle of a post and suddenly an ad loads and sends that post skyrocketing into oblivion and suddenly I'm like.... 83 posts down.

Like 80% of the time its a mild to moderate annoyance. But then theres that 20% of the time where it's funny or more of an act of self care where I'll be reading something absolutely brain dead and disconnected from reality and suddenly it's thrust out of my hands and im instantly reminded that some 14 yr old afab trans woman bi lesbian trans-japanese white girl on the internet truely isn't worth my precious seconds on this planet to read their post, frown, maybe report it and move on and honestly? Ty tumblr.

[timegears-moved]

i hate seeing perisex bitches say "intersex people don't want to be in the lgbt community" like oh my god shut up shut the fuck up you're all so annoying jesus christ

[queenofzan]

i love it when people are like “but we need gender markers on paperwork so ~medical professionals~ will know how to treat you” like gender markers on paperwork tell medical professionals literally anything

but sometimes people are like “oh doctors need to know what chromosomes you have”

lmao

no they don’t? but also. how the fuck would a doctor know that. they didn’t karyotype me before they put the f on my birth certificate. most people have never been karyotyped because most people...don’t need to be....it’s not that necessary for current medical practices....

[dullahandyke]

[Image description: a meme from Seinfeld. In the first panel, Seinfeld asks, "You're crying from a 2009 manga about some girls spontaneously growing penises?" George replies, "The genuinely sweet camaraderie between intersex girls got to me." Seinfeld comments, "All right." End image description]

so ive started trawling the tv tropes page for 'hermaphrodite' for more intersex rep to hoover up and accidentally hit a home run first try

[the-gayest-dragon]

Challenge for TERFs:

Define "female” without excluding ANY afab person and without including ANY amab person.

(Spoiler alert: you can’t)

[neonlav]

I've been reading a lot of articles on trans rights & issues lately. I have to; I live in the u.s. in a state where my rights have been & are being taken away, and anyway I want to keep up with what's happening across the country as this hate movement continues to grow. and I read a few per day, and today there were two pieces by trans people that focused on the social identity of being trans, what desire is and how we use it to enact change or shape our lives and bodies or to look down on other trans people, full of envy or revulsion. and especially in the second one, but in many, many, many of these personal trans articles I have read, it is so obviously written by a binary trans person. it can be in the way that laws and bills are stressed as suddenly, surprisingly not the answer to trans liberation, or transition being the only thing you would be envious of in another trans person, or that medical procedures and passing are the way to happiness, or simply never considering that not all trans people want to transition (even binary ones!). like, nonbinary people fucking know the laws aren't gonna save us. we're not gonna be on the sport team we deserve, or in the right bathroom, or with the right gender marker, or stealth passing at work. people like me who are genderfluid or multiple genders or use neopronouns fucking know we don't fit into the mainstream respectable trans movement, but y'all could even pretend to remember us.

honestly, I think nonbinary people should be leading this talk about new systems, about revolt and uprooting the policies and institutions that have transphobia baked into them. even if every transphobic bill was repealed & defeated tomorrow, trans people still would not have the freedom we need to be ourselves, and nonbinary people would continue to struggle to exist in a binary society where squeezing yourself into an ill-fitting single, static gender and conforming to it reigns supreme, and passing, being seen as you are, is never an option except to those closest to you. I don't have any particular call to action to wrap this up or anything, and I'm not looking to start arguments either, I'm just very scared and stressed and annoyed

[la-morrigan]

TW: This post contains a word that is commonly considered a slur to intersex people. I didn't censor it in order to not cause confusion of what the word is, and also for the sake of accessibility for visually impaired people.

Hey so I might get some flak for this, but since it's Pride month and I'm an intersex person, I feel the need to say this...

If your argument (as a perisex person) is:

"But there are more than two sexes"

or

"Sex is actually a spectrum!"

and not

"Gender and Sex are two different things and while gender can be influence by one's sex, that's not always the case"

You are missing the point entirely.

Intersex people are not your "Gotcha!" moment to use in arguments with transphobes.

Intersex is a umbrella term that includes a multitude of variations that can range from genital differences to hormonal differences to chromosomal differences. Many intersex people tend to align to male or female gender-wise, and though there are certainly Non-binary intersex people, calling an intersex person "Biologically Non-binary" can be incredibly dysphoria-inducing.

Intersex people already have to deal with misconceptions about what being Intersex is, on top of a personal sense of dysphoria or self-consciousness (though not always because everyone is different). We don't need you spreading misconceptions in our name.

The concept of intersex being a "third gender" seems to me to be a rehash of the Hermaphrodite sterotype. That is to say, a belief about intersex people that lumps us all under one idea of what Intersex is that isn't even accurate.

Please think about the people you speak about and whether they would want you using their existence as an argument point. 9 times out of 10 that answer is

absolutely not.

As a disclaimer: This does not apply to Intersex people who may be reclaiming certain terms. That is a personal, individual choice that is absolutely valid, but shouldn't be used as a general Intersex thing.

[dykerys]

People love to hate onto omegaverse and talk about how transmisic and intersexist the universe is but recuse to listen trans and intersex people who write omegaverse at the same time lmao

[hiiragi7]

I feel so... down whenever I want to watch queer or trans videos because I know in the back of my mind that none of the current large queer content creators' content or community is safe for people like me, intersex people.

I love their work otherwise, but it hurts badly to hear them toss around casual intersexism in their videos constantly when discussing queer and trans issues and nobody ever mentions it.

And because these are large, popular creators, nobody has ever listened when I've tried to ask they adjust their language. My dms go ignored or unseen and my public comments get drowned out by fans defending their intersexist comments. It's emotionally draining and exhausting, I just want to be included in my own community.

Edit: For anyone who wants it, there is a list of examples of what I mean here.

[icryyoumercy]

after nearly 900 cases of people dying of diarrhea, this text brings up one random dude who died of lightning strike before going right back to discussing people dying of diarrhea

there is zero explanation as to why this is deemed relevant to include