#Modest clothing

[i-used-to-be-an-anti-feminist]

I see so many well intentioned women talking about how modesty is important when it comes to men's objectification of them. Like, they will condemn men's lust, but say, "but we have to do our part too." I just need you guys to understand that there is literally no amount of clothing you can wear to keep men from sexualizing you. It sucks, but it's true.

I dress very modestly by the typical conservative Christian standard... Loose clothing, long dresses/skirts, nothing low cut, etc. Usually the only skin I expose is my forearms, neck, and face... But I am not exempt from being sexualized. I can't tell you how many times I've heard stuff like, "it's so hot when women leave things up to the imagination" and "I love your librarian/teacher vibe, it's so sexy." Men sexualize nuns and muslim women, who are completely covered. No woman is exempt from this.

Why is this important? So you can stop blaming yourself for men treating you like sexual potential instead of a person and hold men accountable for their own willful inability to control themselves.

To the Christian women, you are not responsible for men choosing to lust after you. Lust is a choice. I am same-sex attracted, and when I find myself attracted to a woman, I simply choose not to fantasize and lust after her. Men are capable of the same, they just like to shift blame.

As a Christian, I dress modestly as an act of humility more than anything else, but I know there is nothing I can do to control the sinful actions of men. Please stop blaming yourselves.

[wellspankedwife]

i was getting ready to take the baby out for a jog (aka fast walk for me). Had the baby strapped into the stroller and I was getting a water bottle from the cabinet. Sir came into the kitchen as I was reading the top shelf to grab a bottle. "Change your shirt" he said. "I can see your midriff."

I have a rule about modest clothes.

"It's only because I was reaching up. It won't happen outside," I answered. I showed him when my arms were down that the shirt covered everything.

He gave me a Look. "Please change your shirt."

"Yes Sir," I agreed and ran to the bedroom to change.

I came back to the kitchen and he bent me over the counter. He didn't spank, but reminded me about following the rules. "Next time, Yes Sir is the first answer."

"Of course."

"What is your rule about clothing?"

"Modest."

"Is an exposed belly modest?"

"No Sir."

"Do you want to revisit your clothing rules?"

"No Sir"

"Next time?"

"Next time I listen the first time."

He patted my butt gently. "That's my good girl."

[everlastinghistory]

Saying little girls should wear appropriate clothing is protecting them:

Recently, there has been a surge in people saying that if you say little girls should wear little girl clothes you are s*xual1zing them.

Why? Because people refuse to take responsibility. For themselves, or for their kids. Because they will blame every outside force while doing nothing to actually protect their child themself.

There are thousands of videos on TikTok that have hundreds of thousands of saves. What are these videos of? Little girls in these outfits you say people are s*xual1zing your kid for saying they shouldn’t wear.

It’s not coincidence that the videos with the most saves have some form of s*xual undertone, or that a little girl is wearing a crop top in them.

Where do p€d0ph1les go when they can’t access real p0rn? They go to those TikTok videos. They go to the family vlog channels that put their n4ked baby taking a bath online for the world to see.

Nobody is s*xual1zing children by saying you should be dressing your daughters appropriately for their age.

They’re worried because there are bad people out there whether you admit it or not. There are people out there who will legitimately s*xualize your children for wearing crop tops, for wearing dresses with those little cut outs in them…

Little girls should be dressed in ways that protect them from that s*xual1zation, not in ways that make it easier.

It is not s*xual1zing a child to point out the fact that p€d0ph1les will be drawn to certain things. It is protecting children from the people who will s*xualize them.

[thecurlyhousefairy]

The more I'm into my femininity, the less showing my clothes become.

As the years went by, I found myself attracted to long skirts, long dresses, long shirts. I found myself attracted to feminine, yet modest cloth, that hugged my curves yet did not show them. I love only suggesting my curves.

I didn't lose my femininity one bit, rather it got so much stronger.

You see, now my husband was the only one to see it. Now I was a present to him, and a mystery to the world. And yes, that felt really so good.

The lingerie collection I got as a present when I told him about this is a most loved testament that he may enjoy this as well. ❤️😌👀

[lounesdarbois]

Lucas de Heere, Wives and daughters. En 1560 ce peintre flamand originaire de Gand visite Londres et y dessine les autochtones qu'il observe dans la rue. Nous aimons particulièrement chez lui cette œuvre qui représente de gauche à droite trois dames de haute lignée et à droite une femme d'extraction plus modeste, épouse d'un commerçant. Cette dernière est plus distinguée, plus pudique, mieux habillée, les traits de son visage sont plus fins que ceux des dames nobles qui ont les yeux globuleux et la tête ronde. La vraie noblesse se cache parfois chez les gens les plus simples, l'élégance aussi. C'est encore le substrat du merveilleux film Gosford Park.

[ladyhearthkeeper]

I want to wear more modest clothing but I’m struggling to find some. Any brands, links, resources etc… to help me, please?

Hello Anon,

I had a busy day...I just saw your question.

Well, for most of my life I went at usual clothings shops around here and looked for items that I could layer.

And then I discovered modanisa and just loved the variety of modest clothing they have and in all sizes. You just have to be careful about the fabric you pick.

Shipping fees vary... but usually it's worth it. I'm in Europe so I usually get my clothes very fast. I particularly love their cotton dresses. They are so perfect in the height of summer.

But other than that, it's about developping an eye for what is modest or not, and finding it in clothing stores in your area.

Today I wore a gauzy mini dress with some sort of large pants. Since the sleeves were see through, I was wearing a loose blazer on top. I bough these clothes years ago in a normal shop. I usually prefer dresses or skirts but the weather was strange today.

So it's about being creative with what you find and like. Looking at a piece and wondering what could make it modest or if it's already omdest according to your standards.

I hope this helps... If not, there are many lovely ladies on this website who also choose modest clothing and would love to help.

[mididressobsessed]

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[jeannyanswers]

could you maybe also give some tips for cute, school appropriate outfits? My schools dress code is really strict so it’s hard to come up with ideas

Hey there Anon!

So in this post about romanticizing school I mentioned that it can be helpful to wear a cute outfit that you feel confident in.

And while I personally never went to a school with a dress code I can definitely see how that can be hard to navigate.

So I came up with some outfit formulas and examples, that will hopefully give you some inspiration (I hope these fit your dress code, but if not I’m sure you can adjust accordingly with your own clothes)

Thanks for the question Anon!

[femme-et-traditionnelle]

Cleaning and ways to make house homely. Also modesty fashion. It's hard to find people like you who are just genuine and dress modestly for genuine reasons

Alright :)

For cleaning, ever single morning, after getting ready, I tidy the house a little. Usually, it includes putting things back in their rightful places, wiping surfaces, doing some laudry, putting away the dishes that were cleaned and left to dry the previous evening, hoovering quickly. Already this makes the house looks better and gives a sense of accomplishement that helps keep me motivated for the rest of the day. Then, depending on the schedule for the day, the afternoon might include some deep cleaning (scrubing the bathtub, cleaning the floors, washing the windows). I don't keep a journal for those, but I think that when I will have a bigger family, it might be very useful so that nothing gets forgotten and I am always on top of my organisation 😅

To make a house homely.... I think decoration plays a big part in this and I am not yet in my own place so I don't have much experience at this. When I was in my appartement, I tried to make it fit my liking as much as possible with the limitations of the contract: I would light up scented candles or incence daily (they look nice and smell good), get some cute cushions for the couch, as often as possible had fresh flowers on the tables. The top most homely thing probably is to always have some warm, just baked cookies ready, so that in case of an unexpected visitor, you always have something to offer them 🤭 Being a good host is an important part of a homemaker's duties.

Regarding modesty fashion... I've been wearing dresses exclusively since I was 15 years old (had to wear jeans for about 2 years due to my job back then but days off were always dresses or skirts), but not always the modest kind. At some point they were quite short, I didn't quite notice, nor care, back then though 😅 However, the feeling with midi or maxi dresses is completely different. They help feel more elegant, refined, and to be honest I feel like a princess in some of them 🤭 However, though for the last few months I have noticed a slight change in this, I find it difficult (around here) to find such dresses. It isn't quite in fashion you see. My wardrobe is mix of intense midi dress hunting in the stores around me and online shopping.

It's been a while now that I am dressing "modestly" and to be honest, I no longer pay attention to it. It just comes as natural. Legs are covered, I add a cream-colored shawl over my shoulders when I go to church in summer, cleavage is lessened with the help of brooches. And, to be honest, long dresses are so practical! In summer they are way less hot than any kind of bottom that cling to the legs, and in winter they give enough space to layer tights underneath, therefore offering extra warmth. You can crouch to catch a kid in your arms and your modesty is still perfectly kept by the skirt's fabric. The perfect clothing style for a homemaker and mother ❤️

That's all I can think about right now, feel free to ask more 💐

[modestusforma]

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[bigenderrevert]

Wore my Niqab and Jilbab to Masjid again Today, I felt great

[mochacherie]

Obsessed with her beauty

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[marsmerizing-sims]

they are finally available for public download!

get them here

Please let me know if there is any issue with the CC. especially missing texture problems. I will try to fix them (can’t promise tho, I am still figuring out how to make them properly).

[atelierpapirouge]

✙ JANUARY UPDATE ✙

atelierpapirouge.com will finally be online at the end of the month/early February.

The articles available for sale :

belt (2 versions)

purse (3 versions)

shirt (2 versions)

skirt (1 version)

I'm still trying to find solution for the tees to be available asap!

[ladyhearthkeeper]

The weather is icy and there's frozen snow everywhere.

I'm still wearing long dresses and skirts like I always do. I see people staring at the skirt or dress peeking out of my long coat.

Do they think it's not a weather appropriate outfit? But I am warm enough with leggings and good boots covered by a pretty dress.

Some if my dresses or skirts are actually made from a thick cloth.