#Now don't get me wrong

[lem0nn-juice]

Honestly it's kinda sad how much black butler's reputation got ruined. Rather it be from the weirdos in the fandom, people seeing out of context panels or scenes, or overall misinformation.

Like black butler, at least the manga, is a genuinely good story and it's kinda sad how much people aren't willing to at least give it a chance before jumping into the wrong conclusions.

[staryflowers]

Killing all the songs titled "Never Been in Love" that are about being in love with a ROCK

[axyer]

Soul being a cat to start your day 😌

[mathysphere]

I feel like if you made a pros and cons list for PCStitch vs WinStitch Winstitch would be ahead by about an entire extra column. And yet every day I dream that PCStitch will someday add the bare minimum (Pattern Keeper support) so I can finally never use WinStitch again

[unhingedmess]

[mintycurry]

Omar has an acting agent now! It seems to be a pretty new development, or at least I previously didn't know TEN even has an acting agency. So, good for him 💫

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[taylors-karma]

Is it weird that I'm neither an America or Cirie stan

[humblemooncat]

10. How do they resolve their arguments? (Orias)

Honestly, Orias has the same general approach to resolution with both Thancred and Urianger.

Whether she's had a heated argument with Thancred, or a more subdued discussion with Urianger, once they've been separated for a bit to cool off, she'll go to find them later on and in the gentlest of voices tell them how loved they are and that if they wished to talk things over she's there to listen, or just sit with them if not.

It's not so much a damage control thing as a "I understand we have our differences, and I want you to know I'm still here regardless. So let's try to move past this together"

She loves them both very much and ain't nothing getting in the way of that if she has any say in it.

[codeblue2]

hawkeye get your gun is such a weird episode. cause i adore the a plot. the hawkeye-potter interactions give me life the drunk hawk-potter interactions give me friggin immortality i love it everytime we see more of hawkeye's pacifism

but why did the klinger plot have to be... have to be.

[muppetfreak]

Mr. Riordan, it is truly a pleasure getting to experience your second draft.

[ikpwecanfly]

Something I haven't seen discussed yet is not only did buck and Tommy kiss, but they JUST kissed. Tommy kissed him once, just communicating that "okay is this what you want us to do?" And then he set up a real romantic date where he's going to pick buck up at 8 and everything.

Buck who has a shit load of trauma from partners wanting him for nothing more than his body. From always having to be the person adding the romance into every relationship to convince people there's more to him then sex.

Baby boy just got asked on a wholesome date and got promised romantic helicopter flying lessons and he won't even have to drive and goddddvdhebusjabsjsjdnxns

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[rthko]

I think an under-discussed component of "Twink Death" is that whatever allowance we are awarded to express femininity and androgyny is tied to youth. It can be charming in a "boyish" way, but it's a phase we're supposed to grow out of when we reach a certain age and revert to the generic category of men. Are many afraid to age because we live in a youth-obsessed culture and want to remain fuckable? Well yes, but I see a real fear that suddenly our gender expression will be seen as embarrassing or perverted. It's also of course fucked up that gender expression should be tied to body type to begin with!

[aeide-thea]

on principle opposed to describing art i dislike as 'masturbatory' because even though it's an alluringly contemptuous word to sneer it's impossible to reconcile with my pro-masturbation stance

[sneezypeasy]

Oh, and one more thing: Can I just point out that the "I dun fucked up, I guess I'ma wait outside your room all night until you'll let me grovel and atone for my misdeeds" is not, and has never been, a platonic trope?

(I mean, we all know who wrote this episode and how she felt about these two as a couple, but it bears mentioning that even administering a heavy dose of Death of the Author here doesn't absolve this scene from being way more shippy than it deserves to be.)

[krazieka2]

Fire Emblem Engage Outfit Swap! Yay