#Understanding Yourself

[kimkey-thoughts]

I still think about this passage from Wendy Mass’ Heaven Looks a lot Like the Mall;

[enter-pineal-earth]

Dream Theory and Hopeful Application

Something I've learned about my dreams is that they reflect and process the day, and especially what seems to be the last thing you did or thought about before falling asleep. For the 'shifters,' all they thought about was their scripts, which would effect their dreams. The dreams became so vivid that they truly believed they were in another reality.

I haven't used this blog properly; I don't use Tumblr much anymore, but this could be valuable.

Keeping a dream journal is tough for me, as my mind tends to separate my memories created between the states. Dreams are reality, just your personal psychological reality. Openly talking about them and treating them like reality in your waking life may lead to them being not only easier to remember, but more vivid.

This is why getting a good sleep schedule is important. Think about the whiplash you get when you're suddenly woken up from a dream. You want to be able to transition back to reality in a way that isn't going to hurt integration, but, more importantly, feeling ready for the day to come.

Often, our dreams are aimless, just mildly interesting rehashed of our day, or full of constant obstacles that only make sense inside the mindscape. Your needs, your wants, your anxieties, your fears, all of those tend to control you in worse ways than in your waking life.

I often have dreams where I need to use the toilet, but they're either full, broken, lack privacy, or the combinations of the three. Maybe that means that, in real life, I should just flush a used toilet that wasn't flushed. I mean, we all pee and poop alike. You don't have to look at it...

I suppose what I'm saying is, if you don't have control of yourself in your waking life, how are you going to control your reality within your dreams? If you don't do something meaningful or learn something valuable in your day-to-day, then how are you going to get something out of your dreams?

We spend a third of our lives asleep, and we've been given this gift of dreaming. I suggest that we use it wisely. Practicing mindfulness and intentionality in your waking life will effect how you dream, giving you more agency all around as you build the habit.

When you dream, pay attention to the environment and ask your mind, and perhaps God, why it is the way it is.

Journal your dreams and your days. Integrate your realities, and see how it effects your memory and understanding of yourself and the real world.

I also want to caution treating dreams like waking life. Dreams are reality, but their primary function is to process events in your waking life. With the right approach, it can be therapeutic, but you have to put in the work to get there. Don't treat the characters you meet in dreams as real people, they only exist because real people exist.

Treat your dreams as a place to be free, somewhere to go to recharge from the happenings of waking life. A proper place to retreat, reflect and process your thoughts and emotions.

When you look at your hands, appreciate the predictably and solidity of the real world, because when you're dreaming, that isn't a guarantee.

[sweettalkertime]

You're the Problem.

If the title has triggered you at first glance, please continue reading. There is something profound in one’s dignity and pride. Some say it’s what holds most back from their full potential. I personally think it’s what holds back their chance to grow. I’ll be transparent. I’ve encountered many whose pride and dignity are more significant than they are. This makes them think they’re better…

[evolvingbeautyandmess]

USUAL DISCLAIMER: so these blog posts are big dictated are being dictated to my phone via speech to text and I typically as if it's able person do not have a spoons to properly edit them so that this going to remain as is. So heads up. Also I don't know why Google sensors curse words. Lately I've been reminded of the importance of:

Letting yourself feel whatever you are feeling even if it's not what you think you should be feeling or what feels good to feel.

By doing this you can then not only question any negative thoughts you might be having to actually see if they're factual and thus worth reacting to (if applicable) but also get to the core of what's really really actually bothering you.

The other day I nearly bawled my eyes out because I had run out of a certain food that I wanted to eat. And I stopped and kinda observed myself and thought seriously lol?

But of course it was not about that food item lol. There was a deeper thing that I was not processing and addressing and it was spilling over into more superficial situations.

(I was also overwhelmed on I sensory level but that's another post. also perimenopause. pretty hormonal. it's a moshpit in my uterus right now lol. )

[opinionatedblog]

Why Having Faith is So Important

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[mariafraniayu]

The best job for you...

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[taraxippos]

One of my all time biggest pet peeves with historical(ish) fantasy is when the writer constructs a religion with a clear bias that it's stupid and false and therefore only the Stupid People and/or commoners believe in it and all the smart/elite main characters are like, quasi-atheists or otherwise just routinely flout established religious conventions of orthodoxy and/or orthopraxy because they're Too Smart for it or etc.

It's usually an extension of assumptions that people in the past were just less intelligent than in the contemporary, just being like "I know that the sun is a star millions of miles away that the earth orbits, but this ancient religion describes it as a chariot flying through the sky" and not really bothering to learn the context and just (consciously or subconsciously) settling on 'that's a crazy thing to think and was probably believed in because they were Stupid'.

And that whole attitude pisses me off so much. People were as 'smart' 10,000 years ago as they are today. These beliefs aren't just desperate, random flailing to explain phenomena that could not directly be accounted for either, it's not like people just looked at the sun and went "Uhhh I don't know what the fuck that thing is, actually. I guess it might be a chariot or a boat or something?? Yeah let's go with that." and based entire religious practices on this. Every well-established belief system exists within broader contexts of cultural values/subjective perceptions of reality/knowledge systems/etc, and exist as part of a historical continuum of religious practices that came before. Even when not Materially Correct, they have context and internal logic, they're not always dead literal with zero levels of allegory, and they're never a result of stupidity.

[art--harridan]

[Image description: A digital drawing of Iris Campbell from the film Final Destination Bloodlines. It depicts her on the night of the Skyview premonition, wearing her blue dress with white accessories. One of her hands in being pulled to the left out of frame, her body being tugged along with it. Her other arm hangs limply. Below the engagement ring, her ring finger is coloured a bright red, which drips off of it into a curved line. This line travels to the right and splits off into eight different lines of varying sizes, each one with an arrow tip. One of these arrows travels behind her head, and spirals as it travels. These tips all point towards a penny falling downwards. Iris is turning her head and gaze towards it. Her eyebrows bunch up and her mouth falls open slightly as sweat drips down her face. The background is a bold, warm yellow, which contrasts greatly against the blue of her dress and the red of the arrows.]

waiting for the penny to drop

[technically-human]

Stone, please, your boss is about to cause an international scandal

[medicalcommunitypsychotherapy]

Navigating life’s turbulent waters is not always easy. In today’s fast-paced world, finding solace and understanding within ourselves can be challenging. Yet, among the various mental health treatment options available, talk therapy emerges as a beacon of hope.

[toss-a-coin-to-your-stan-account]

i know that when people say "hey we made it through the last four years! we can do it again!" it's usually because they're just trying to tell themselves it'll be fine because they're scared too so I don't want to be a dick about it but like. they didn't have a guy make a fucking nazi salute to a fucking cheering crowd in his inauguration on day fucking one eight fucking years ago. i mean not to damper down the optimism or nothing but. i feel like it's important to point out that it's not just going to be a Repeat of 2016-2020 All Over Again. it's probably going to be more like the Fucking Worst of it that we got in 2020 (or the 2021 Fucking Insurrection) will be the Starting Point for whatever the fuck happens next and we should. idk. plan for that

[opinionatedblog]

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[bluebeesknees]

Pull me in 💙

[mojput-mypath]

BAD GIRL

HRVATSKA VERZIJA JE TU

BEING RUDE

I have recently been somewhat, some may even say, incredibly and increasingly - rude. I have always gone by the logical reasoning that if many people give you the same or similar feedback – it must be correct. I think most of my family, friends and colleagues believe I have been unwell. Mentally and emotionally unstable.

On the bright side – I don’t think the same.

I know I am tired and have to take even better care of my work-rest balance. That is probably a challenge for most of us. Other than that – I have never felt so good about myself. As always, I reserve the absolute right for you to judge me wrong, to judge me as selfish, to judge me as unwell. I reserve this right even for myself at another point in my life, looking back.   What is happening, is that an incredible force is pushing something out of me. Don’t get me wrong, I have always been ‘outspoken’. Now, I am a torpedo. I am not able to filter myself one bit. And yes, I am hurting people. Which in turn also hurts me back.

I MUST IMPROVE!   I have always carefully listened to others’ judgements and advice, and took it for granted. They must be right; I must be wrong. There is something that I can manage better, that I can change within me. Of course, that is right - there is always room for improvement.   I have not always done, or was unable to implement what was suggested. Nevertheless, I kept the judgement inside of me. I kept believing that there was something wrong with me. Something about me is to be corrected and fixed.   I am not perfect. I am also not faulty. I come as I am. Now, this is how I am, tomorrow I will be different.   I started to speak my mind and heart out. Definitely not in a yogic way. The yogic way would be not to disturb anyone else’s mind. I definitely disturb others’ minds and hearts by speaking out. I definitely disturb my own.  

WHAT IS THE REALITY?

Having said all this, there is a BUT to it. Whether it is my ego, my mind, or it is the truth (for me), I honestly believe that nothing went wrong. That everything that was said was meant to be said. It pushed us all through to another place.   Again, don’t get me wrong, I am not justifying my behaviour. I speak exactly what I want, when I want. I have no filter. And I have been and still am punished and judged for it. I speak with anger and resentment, I speak in front of the wrong people, at the wrong time. This much is crystal clear.   BUT. I have not spoken my true mind and heart, for what seems to me, an eon. There is and was something in me that wants to hide, that does not want to reveal. That runs away from conflict and speaking directly. Most probably I am now blabbing out whatever whenever, exactly because of this old fear of speaking directly. If I have had the capacity to speak my truth at the right time and in the right place to the right people, I would not be so compelled to speak without any filter now.   I feel as everything I am speaking out, is carrying the weight of years of unspoken burdens I have been hauling along.   It might not all be directly aimed at the person in front of me. It is just some old unspoken words and feelings coming out of me. An old resistance.  

SPECIAL ABILITIES

Coming back to the beginning – people are telling me I speak things in front of the wrong people, I speak in a rude way, I speak the unnecessary truth. I touch a point in people that hurts them the most.   I have criticised a mother for the upbringing of her child, I have criticised a colleague in front of a volunteer that had nothing to do with the situation, I have spoken my truth to a child that is most probably not able to understand what I spoke of, I have come in between an employee and a boss.   I manage to pin-point the most painful, the most critical point for people, and speak of it – and disturb absolutely everyone in the process.   Am I practising this? Am I planning it? I don’t think I am.   Am I just unaware of the situation, acting in ignorance? Could be, but I am not 100% sure this is entirely true.   Am I acting on the energy presenting itself between myself and the other person, the situation? I think this could likely be the case.    

YOU ARE WHAT YOU SPEAK

Everything you see in others; you see because it is in yourself. What you have not experienced – you cannot see. Eskimos have 47 words for snow. And in their reality, there are 47 different ways of seeing and experiencing snow. In your reality and your vocabulary, how many words are there for snow? 10?   What is not in your reality, you do not understand, nor see. What is in your reality, within you, is what you are able to see.   What I speak to others is what I also carry. That is why I am able to see it!   If I criticise someone not being clear in communication, that is because I myself am not clear in communication. If I see someone hiding away from confrontation and dealing with people, is because I do the same!   I also believe what I said was needed, whether for me to understand another’s point of view, whether to shake something for the other person. Or both.   My intention is to recognise even more clearly why this is happening. I will recognise it myself. I have trusted others’ judgements more than my own, for the majority of my life.   Even if my truth is so different from how others are perceiving me. I give priority to trust myself.