#advicepost

[limbobilbo]

Is there a website where I can like check to see who has computer parts for the cheapest? Thinking about budgeting for some upgrades.

I live in australia so preferably something that prices in aud or has the option to see in aud would be good

[anddreadful]

look. look. you have to honor what you want and what you feel you need, even if it’s cringey. you have to. if you don’t, if you ignore your weird animal desires and your petty hungers because you feel shame about them, or because they’re not practical, or they’re not what you “should” want, you starve your soul. and one day, you’ll meet people who don’t starve their souls, who give themselves the things you denied yourself and are happier than you for it, and it will hollow you out further with resentment and rage.

the good news is that it’s never too late to start. you can always ask yourself what you want, and maybe if what you want lives at the heart of your disdain. do you know what it feels like to have a well fed soul? would you like to?

[makerandbean]

I haven't seen the original post, so I don't know what the stain is, but some bluing could help, a baking soda scrub, or some (i usually go with dawn) dish soap if the stain is oil or protein (like blood) based.

the stain is mysterious and yellowish on inconveniently off-white silk yarn, so i’m a bit leery of doing blueing in case it turns the surrounding cream-ish to bright white. dish soap was what initially helped to get the stain reduced a bit! but baking soda is a good shout - i’ll check if that’s silk-safe…

[perssonofsweden]

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[astral-daughter]

every trans reddit advicepost is some shit like "my (20something trans woman) boyfriend (20something cis man) doesnt ever want to acknowledge my body during sex what should i do" and it hurts my soul to read every time u can do so much better than him

[squishysphealgirl]

maria where is your whimsy. take joy in having a rock throw at you

Oh yeah? Well I'm gonna throw a rock at you

[carmechanicservice]

How Do You Choose the Right BMW Tuning Specialist Near Me?

Finding a bmw tuning specialist near me can be the first step toward enhancing your vehicle's performance and efficiency. Tuning a BMW requires detailed knowledge of its engineering and software systems, making it essential to work with a professional who understands the intricacies of the brand.

A proper tuning service does more than just increase speed. It ensures the balance between power, fuel economy, and mechanical safety — all while maintaining the vehicle’s longevity and reliability.

What Does a Tuning Specialist Actually Do?

ECU RemappingThe engine control unit (ECU) controls many functions of your BMW. A tuning specialist can adjust these parameters to increase horsepower, improve throttle response, and refine torque curves.

Custom Performance ModificationsWhether it’s upgrading the turbocharger, exhaust system, or air intake, a specialist can fine-tune parts for better flow and combustion. These adjustments require precise calibration to avoid mechanical strain.

What Qualifications Should You Look For?

Brand-Specific ExpertiseBMWs have unique mechanical and electronic systems. A tuning expert with BMW-specific experience is more likely to deliver results without compromising reliability.

Access to Specialist ToolsTuning tools vary by manufacturer. The right specialist will use BMW-approved software and hardware to make accurate changes that align with factory standards.

Are Their Services Tailored or Generic?

Custom Tuning vs. Generic MapsSome tuners apply generic settings, which may not suit your specific model or engine variant. Custom tuning, based on dyno testing and real-time data, ensures optimised performance.

Adaptability to Driving StyleA good tuner will consider whether you prefer aggressive performance, daily comfort, or efficiency. This level of personalisation makes a noticeable difference in the driving experience.

What Is Their Approach to Safety and Longevity?

Balanced Power GainsExcessive tuning can lead to overheating, premature wear, or engine damage. A professional will find the right balance between power increase and mechanical safety.

Maintenance and Monitoring AdvicePost-tuning, certain parts may require more frequent maintenance. An experienced specialist will inform you of any changes in service intervals or warning signs to monitor.

How Do You Know They're Reputable?

Proven Results and ReviewsLook for testimonials from BMW owners and evidence of successful past projects. Photos, dyno results, or case studies show what the tuner can achieve.

Transparent CommunicationA good specialist will clearly explain what tuning involves, potential risks, and realistic expectations. If they promise extreme gains with no downsides, proceed with caution.

Do They Provide Aftercare?

Ongoing Support and UpdatesAs software updates are released or your vehicle’s condition changes, a quality tuner will offer continued support and adjust the setup if needed.

Warranty AwarenessSome tuners can work within the bounds of manufacturer warranties. Even if tuning affects warranty terms, a professional will disclose this upfront and advise accordingly.

Are the Gains Worth It for Daily Use?

Performance Enhancements for Everyday DrivingMany drivers opt for tuning to improve mid-range torque or throttle response, making urban and highway driving more enjoyable without aggressive driving.

Improved Efficiency in Some CasesWith precise calibration, tuning can sometimes enhance fuel economy, particularly in turbocharged models where boost levels can be optimised.

Choosing a bmw tuning specialist near me requires a focus on expertise, transparency, and precision. With the right approach, tuning can safely enhance your BMW’s potential while preserving the qualities that make it a pleasure to drive.

[lifewithanonym]

welcome

hello friends! welcome to my first blog & first blog post ever!!! 

I am keeping myself as anonymous for now as i have created this blog to be like a “diary.” I am going to be sharing EVERYTHING thats going on in my crazy life from silly stories & embarrassing moments to fashion and relationship advice... you name it! 

my GOAL with this platform is to create a space where everyone feels that they can be themselves & share the things they want. I hope we can help each other by giving advice & learning from one another. 

i hope you are interested in joining me of my life journey & i can’t wait to hear all about yours. 

xoxoxox 

- anonym 

[evenings-last-light]

It’s never too late...

A year ago today I was not happy. I mean I said I was happy but looking back I was not. You may or may not see it but in the left picture my eyes yell at me a deep dissatisfaction with who I was and what I’ve done. But if you just looked at the surface I was doing better than most. I had finished college that spring. Held a job for 4 years at that point. I had a girlfriend who I had dated for 4 years and lived with them and a beautiful dog in a cozy apartment. On the surface it felt like I was being ungrateful because I had so much.

What didn’t stand out to me then but does now is every time I was asked what I wanted I either couldn’t or didn’t want to think about it because most of what I wanted I couldn’t have, or rather thought I couldn’t have.

It was around this time that I started questioning my sexuality. Completely ignorant I thought my only options were gay or straight man. I knew I most identified with gay women but I thought gay women wouldn’t want to date me (wrong) because I was a man (wrong again)

So I started dating gay men and identifying as one. It seemed right at first because it wasn’t straight but I quickly realized that not only did I feel less like myself but the people I surrounded myself with didn’t see me as I wanted to either

I was stuck. I felt like I was lying to everyone and making things up. However out of all things it was openly trans women on tumblr that ultimately made me realize not only could I be seen as a women by looking through their transformation photos but also that I could be interacted with as a women by their stories

It’s a very gay thing to say but tumblr saved my life. Because of my undiagnosed bipolar disorder at the time and mounting depression levels my mental health was anything but healthy. Convinced however that this might be the answer I sought out other trans women to talk to and was met with both enthusiasm and support. Every time I felt like I wasn’t “womanly enough” I would be told time and time again I was. Eventually I stared to internalize the idea I was a women and sought out help through the local pride center. All it took was an email and I had both the names of the doctors who handled transgender health care but also of therapists in the area who specialized and could write letters of recommendation

Each day since has felt like I’m living for myself a little more. And everyday I take the love that was given to me when I needed it and give it back to the community and my friends because I learned the most important thing in the world is being open enough so that others may feel the confidence to do the same

Everyday when I look in the mirror and think about what I’ve done to get here in such a short amount of time I’m reminded that it really is never to late 💜

[betterbemeta]

what do you think of people who feel guilty whenever they’re winning at whatever game they’re playing because they think the loser isn’t having fun/hates them for winning

I am actually a sore loser. It is hard for me to have fun at games if I am not winning. I go out of my way to avoid luck-based games and to manage my emotions when I compete at anything. Competition can send me into temporarily-induced seto-kaiba-like munchkin temper tantrum mode where my logical reasoning is off the table and I believe any loss on my part is due to either being inherently inferior to the victor, or still my fault for having all of the choice to take the right actions to overcome the victor and failing to. I can even begin envy the victor and grow angry at myself at not doing exactly what the victor did and being better at it than they were. Sort of a “any time you’re not in first place means you made a mistake– just make no mistakes and you’ll win” toxic brain farce.

I’m getting better at this. The intense emotions involved here used to send me into meltdown mode a few years ago. Unpacking this is pretty hard so let’s throw out the suitcase and say it’s probably driven by perfectionism or difficulty regulating investment of effort (”why did I invest effort in playing or preparing to play if I didn’t correctly arrange my chances of winning to be the maximum from the start?”) on my part and falling short of abusive voices in my head. It’s not anything somebody else is doing to me, just by winning at a game.

Even then, I don’t hate the person who’s winning. I mostly hate myself for not overcoming the person who’s winning. I wouldn’t want you to feel guilty because I am assuming this is a mutual game where we both consented to the terms of victory or defeat, manually or because we’re playing the same pre-made game like an arcade/console game or a multiplayer computer game.

But I also wouldn’t think you’re foolish for feeling guilty. There are a lot of people out there whose lives depend on maintaining a social equilibrium with those around them. Sometimes if another person you depend on is kind of invasive, you might rely on never putting them at a disadvantage, or you might fear their emotional outbursts. It would be understandable to worry that you could be made to engage in a game with them, compete honestly and win, and see them get angry at the outcome because they were from the start not prepared to deal with equality within a relationship.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I am a person who gets upset when they are losing, and although it hasn’t been a journey of my finest moments, even I am expected to learn to behave and accept that losing a competition doesn’t hurt my internal status quo. If you and someone you value are competing, I believe you should compete honestly and guilt in that moment is evidence of underlying problems that probably should be worked out, or at least talked out– whether it’s a personal problem like mine, or a problem in your relationship, or even a problem transmitted to you from a past relationship or environment that’s hard to shake.

I basically grapple with being the angry party in the scenario you fear and even I want you to be happy, and to navigate and understand the feelings that might be leading you to be unhappy.

[divinelylxst]

How to tell if your friendship is toxic 🙅🏾‍♀️🏥

ALL YOU DO IS ARGUE: it could be about little things, or big things.

YOU CANT TRUST THEM: trust in a friendship is key but if you have an inkling feeling that you can’t trust someone you’re probably right. This relates to all aspects in the friendship

THEY ARE SELFISH: now, if your friendship is always about the other person and not you , if they like to talk about themselves and vent about their problems but not listen to yours , that’s a big sign

THEY ARE JEALOUS OF YOU: your real friends will always be happy for you whenever something is going right for you and encourage you and y’all will grow together , a toxic friend however will be so apathetic and will discourage you and call your dreams unrealistic and feed off of your positivity

GOSSIPING: you should never keep a person in your life who has negative things to say about you behind your back , if your friendship is always about talking about what another person is doing they’re probably doing the same with you , we all love to spill the tea but will hate it if it’s from our cup

NEGATIVITY: we all have our bad days when we feel as if it doesn’t get better and we are upset , no one is going to be positive all the time but the same thing is for negativity do not surround yourself with negative energy and problems, leave that person where they need to be don’t let them feed off of your positivity.

BEING AN ASS: there are ways to be a funny and joke around but you can still be respectful, now if that person is making remarks on your appearance and saying hurtful things and coming for your insecurities that’s another huge signs to leave them out of your life

CHILDISHNESS: say you happen to get into an argument and they stop talking to you and start talking shit , and then try to get back into your life , don’t let them continue to have some sort of control over you like that. Tell them to leave you alone and leaves it at that or don’t anything silence is loudest

FLIRTATION: this one might be reaching to some but if you have a friend and as soon as you tell them about who you like and then they act as if they liked the person first or if they start flirting with that person after you say that that’s not right , they ain’t got respect for you

JUDGING: people who judge other people excessively are shallow asf , if your friend happens to do this to you all the time , or they give you weird looks when wearing something or judges you when you tell them something personal , they ain’t worth your time

LYING: having a “friend” that lies about themselves and who they are as people or lie about others are dangerous, stay a million feet away from them , as this relates to trust as well , even if they lie about themselves I promise they will lie about you too. And they would most definitely lie to you too

DRAMA : some individuals live for drama , but others like to involve you in it and get on your last nerves , these are the people who are always ready to fight and starts shit with everyone or expect you to fight all their battles is trying to take advantage of your kindness and they needa go.

[celinelinesse]

Watch I DON’T GIVE A SHIT here.

Action - Reaction. The probably most simple concept. We know that everything we put out into the world, provokes a reaction. Most of the time this reaction ends up being judgemental. Which is, don’t get me wrong, nothing entirely bad. It’s normal, even humane. You see something and you judge (”nice, eww, how beautiful, I would never do that”...). 

But I am sure, the second you read the word “judged”, you thought of something negative, something uncomfortable. Nobody wants to be judged because we are scared of putting out the wrong message, being judged for something we are not. So what do we do? Try to direct other peoples reaction. 

Simple example: Picking out an outfit.

You go with something basic, casual, you leave out any attention-grabbing accessories or colours because - you know - you don't wanna grab attention. Blue Jeans, White Top, Sneakers, nothing wrong with it you think. So this is what happens:

There might be people who like your outfit, because its simple and basic.

There might be people who dislike your outfit, because it’s simple and basic.

There might be people who like your outfit because you wear the same shoes they like.

And there might be people who hate your outfit because you wear the same shoes their cheating ex-girlfriend liked.

Same action, four different reactions. Why? Because reactions are always based on PERSONAL experiences, memories, feelings, emotions, moods, opinions. What means peoples reactions are based on facts we can’t even consider. So even if we try our hardest to please people and influence our impression on them, we won't ever be able to control how they chose to judge. 

“Judgement is always about the judge while its never about the judged.”

I uploaded a video with the title “WHY I FART IN PUBLIC - I DONT GIVE A SHIT!” - with the intention to raise awareness. (In case you are curious what the heck is going on there, I highly recommend you watching it!)

So in fact, I put out something with provokes a reaction (in this case a certain reaction). I can’t control if you just see the title while scrolling through your feed and think “what a freak” - therefore, judging me for being a weirdo. Or if you actually click on the video and understand the message I want to spread. And this is a simple example of everything we do. Absolutely no control about what others do with what they receive.

When we have no influence at all when it comes to how other people receive our actions, why do we even try? Why don't we try to please the only person in the world where we know the opinion of, where we know the reaction, which would be OURSELVES?

[makerandbean]

Hey friend! Depending on the type of stain on that cape let, there’s a couple ways you can get it out. I’m not sure if you’re still needing help,p or not. If it’s a yellowing/old stain from the yarn sitting you can use Retro Cleaning solution. This is specifically made to use for vintage fabrics that get yellow. So it doesn’t have any harsh chemicals that’s gonna break those fibers down. My mom has restored many old quilts this way- family heirloom quilts.

Also retro clean has a wash solution. Try doing that first before you start using the heavier chemicals like shout or tide.

Youshould be able to find any of those in your local fabric/quilt shop but you can also look at Joann’s if you’re in the USA.

oh gosh you sent this like a month ago and i’ve only just seen it!

thank you so much for the advice - part of the problem is that i have no idea what stained it! i picked it up from the arm of my sofa one day and noticed the stain… but had no idea how it picked it up.

it seems to have Mostly come out with soaking + blocking, and the pattern is busy enough the remaining yellowishness isn’t terribly noticeable. but i will check out that retro cleaning wash! good to know for future reference too…

[perssonofsweden]

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[whereverthewindblowss]

A letter to anyone thinking about moving out for the first time and buying a house:

Don't.

Haha.. no, but really. Let me give you some advice that I wish I would have gotten this time last year.

Moving out and buying your first home is a lot of fun, but also a ton of stress and new responsibility. My advice is this:

1.) If you aren't already saving up money in a savings account- I suggest you start way before you think about moving out. A large safety net is a good thing.

2.) If you find a home you like, but it needs painting or fixing up in some way that will need to be done semi quickly- move on. Find a home that doesn't need repair and one you can live with the color scheme for a little while. You might think you can just move in and re paint everything but let me tell you, good paint is expensive ($40+) a gallon expensive and you will need to spend that money elsewhere or hang onto it. If something in the house or on the property needs repair- move on. Repairs for anything aren't cheap and no you can't just call your friend who does fencing to come fix it because more than likely he will be busy and never get around to it. Find a home that's good to go as is.

3.) Already have pets you can't leave behind? By all means, bring them. Want new pets because you think it will be exciting and fun? YOU'RE WRONG. Don't get any new pets until you know without a doubt that you have the funds to feed them and for vet bills. Because if something can go wrong, it will go wrong.

4.) Before you move out and buy a house, go to an adult's house (someone adultier than you) and make a list of everything they have in their garage. Lawn mower, weedeater, clippers, chainsaw, weed killer, shovels, rakes, etc. Now go out and purchase all of that before you buy a house. Do not think you will just be able to borrow your neighbor's or your best friend's yard tools because they said you could. What they mean is- you can use them on their time and IF they're feeling generous that day. Have your own shit before you buy a house.

5.) Sit down and make a budget. Add up your mortgage, vehicle payment, insurance, light and water bills, and food for the month. See that extra $500 a month it says you'll have left over? It's lying to you. You will have nothing left over, because bills take all. Stuff will cost more than you think and you will be poor. Learn to buy food to cook at home and take lunchables and sandwiches to work. Eating out is a thing of the past now.

6.) A lot of your friends or family will try to give you advice. MY advice? Go ask someone who you trust and has experience, but won't just tell you what you want to hear. Your family might not have all the right answers, and some of your friends will want you to succeed- but not better than them. It's a different world when you're on your own and you learn quickly who you can and can't trust.

7.) Last but not least- go with your gut. Take advice from others, but ultimately go with what you feel is right for you, because when you get out there, YOU will be the only one dealing with the consequences of your actions.

 I sincerely hope this post helps someone out there. I know I wish I would have come across something like this before I bought my house last year.

[pamscott-blog]

#AskPamAdvice This is a beautiful 😍 way to look at it 👀 . The thing about relationships is they are hard so live in the moment and keep an open line of communication always 🗨 . Aslong as you are communicating 🗯 and being open and honest with the person you love ♡ then you're into a winner 🥇 . If you expect them to be open and honest you have to be that way too 👌🏼 . You can't have double standards. Try put yourself in their shoes 👡 every so often. I hope to expand on these subjects on my blog 🖋 in the future ✨ * * * * * * * * * * * * #pambehindthediamond #pambtd #diamonddust #AskPam #advicepost #advice #marriage #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice #relationshipquotes #relatable #marriagequotes #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #communication #doublestandards #blog #bloggerstyle #adviceblog #adviceblogger #soulmates #bestfriends #sleepover (at Glasgow, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/BtS8WnzlejK/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=14760sg8u8505