#always the bear

[decadentpostnacho]

Rant. Trigger warning, r@pe, and sexual assault.

I can say with utmost certainty that I passionately hate all male specimens who try to ridicule and belittle women's very real fear of men. Women are saying confidently and honestly that they would rather encounter bears in the forest than men. And instead of reflecting and asking yourself why that may be, you make fun of them for it.

"My mom got mauled by a bear and wrote a book about it, y'all are just too privileged, so you choose the bear." No, Chad. Use your frontal cortex. You look at least thirty. What happened to your mom happens so rarely that she got a book deal out of it. Do you think every molested and r@ped woman could write and sell a book about that?

"You are just repeating the same points over and over again." Yes. Because they are valid. The real problem is that you don't even seem to get the things we repeat over and over again into your thick skull.

Bears are more likely to leave you in peace than men. Statistically, there are about 40 bear attacks per year. Globally. This is offset by the following, annually, globally: 89 000 femicides. 250 000 rape cases. 433 648 cases of sexual assault.

Junko Furuta, Mary Vincent, Kelly Anne Bates, Anita Cobby.

There's a registered case of men r@ping, killing, and eating a lizard. I repeat, a lizard.

These are the registered cases. How many women don't talk about those experiences?

Sincerely, I would rather be brutally mauled by a bear than encounter a man in the woods, and I'm not even conventionally attractive.

Edit

I forgot to mention this in my fit of anger from before. I have encountered a bear once, while hiking in a wild park in Norway. It came out of the brush, maybe 50 meters away from me, and looked at me for about five to ten seconds before turning around and leaving. That was my wild encounter with a living, breathing brown bear. A very fascinating and incredibly beautiful being I kept a respectful, intimidated distance from.

Now men are a very different thing. Experiences with men on hikes or even just peaceful walks through forests range from ignorance which is very fine, over slightly creepy questions such as "Are you alone here?" to following me for twenty minutes until I had to fucking climb a tree and watch this fucker walk by.

Not all men, no. But enough that women have to worry about every man they encounter being like this. With the bear, I know I'm not supposed to bother it, especially when it has cubs. Men are unpredictable.

[maro0on]

always. the. bear.

[uglygirlpretendingtobepretty]

I will always choose the bear. At least the bear would see me as a human being.

[a-hearts-a-heavy-burden]

TEMP POST TO FIND THE ARTIST

I saw this on TIkTOK and we can't find the artist. I figured the best place to search was Tumblr. Can y'all help me??

[vulcanstarr]

getting hit on by old looking guys who seem to be the age to have children is disgusting when people have told you you look like a very tired highschool freshman.

[elodieunderglass]

Oh I forgot to say.

Bug (4) is going to start school now so we’ve been doing literacy practice. One set of exercises was about “opposites” and I drew a card reading “fat”. Ok what’s the opposite of fat.

Bug thought about it and then said dreamily: “meat.”

[deathvalleyqueen]

Why as a mother - I despise mother's day

This is deeply personal to me and not everyone else's experience. This is only my second mother's day technically "Single" but honestly I have been a single mom since my son was born. Even when his dad was in the picture.

He never gave me gifts for mother's day, or even despite our son having a lot of medical issues that I manage - myself. No nursing no outside help from friends or family. Certainly no help from him. The two actual "mother's day gifts" were both phones the newest one I can't even use cuz he forgot i need a sim card - because he changed his phone plan and it was convenient. This year - I found out he also put the 20-something plaything he moved in after she got fired for stealing and kicked out of her parents house for selling drugs and is the reason he hasn't seen his son for more than few hours in a year and the reason he was so high on his kids birthday he forgot to even text me to tell his kid happy birthday - on said phone plan. With a more expensive phone and setup than I have. Ya know...cuz the one sucking his dick is obviously more important than the mother of his child.

The only people in my life who have ever made me feel special on Mother's day are my friends. For Real. My best friend - got me my first Mother's day gift a few years ago. A watercolor pallet, brushes, a few little shower steamers. These weren't insane gifts - they were thoughtful from someone who knows me. Another friend, who happens to be one of my DMs this year insisted on buying me Hades 2 on Steam because I said "I am avoiding the content on it cuz I know I can't afford it." My friend buying me a game, made me cry.. That same best friend - helped me pay for my computer repairs so I am not cut off from the world entirely.

Each year, when I see friends who are also moms getting flowers, having breakfast made for them, and being treated like decent humans by their partners. I am reminded why I made such a shit choice for the father of my kid - because I saw my mother be treated just like I was and thought - this is normal. It's not. It's abusive. I was raised in abusive family - and thought that abuse was love.

Now that I am away from all that - all Mother's day is a reminder of how women in my life (myself included) were never really valued by the men the chose to love and give children to. That the only people who genuinely care about the mental health and wellbeing of mothers are their friends.

Always the fucking Bear.

[watermelonlovershigh]

You know it sucks that i'm attracted to men because every other day i hear a story of a man abusing their wives and in some cases killing their wives. Like, why can't i just like women. Life would be easier in some aspects. 😭 Perfect men only exist in our heads.

[luminarai]

hey, hi, I was just on the former bird app and came across this info from a brand new study and now I cannot stop screaming internally??? what the actual fuckkkk

theres' an article from the guardian here and here is the actual study:

[lesbian-space-fish]

I finished my hannigram love crime sweater!! I love it so much it’s my favorite thing I’ve ever knitted <3

[ruushes]

assorted bat practice... on top of everything he has the audacity to be hard for me to draw

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

I know those eyes.

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[ionomycin]

Low tide

[trickstersaint]

an aromantic person is someone who (fill in the blank here) // april 10 2024

[loganswdc]

every day i learn something new about logan sargeant and his racing career, not just about his performance in f1 but in f2 and previous series, too. and every day i end up so sad because he genuinely has so so much potential and can do so much but he keeps being give a poor hand of cards. this guy out qualified his teammate in f2 TEN TO FOUR. and who was his teammate?? liam lawson. liam joined redbull’s driver academy in february of 2019 while logan only got to join an f1 team’s driver academy in october of 2021. that team was williams. which, as we know, hasn't exactly been the best performing team in recent years. oscar piastri got to join an f1 team’s driver academy in january of 2020 (the renault sport academy, later rebranded as the alpine academy). liam and oscar both got the opportunity to do f1 tests for YEARS prior to their f1 debuts in 2023. liam had 4 and a half years of experience in f1 cars before 2023. oscar had 3 years of experience in f1 cars before 2023. even if it was just testing and practice sessions, it's still something.

what did logan get? one measly fp2 session, post-season testing, and then jumped right in to pre-season testing in 2023. he already had a seat in williams then, so with the experience from before the pre-season testing in 2023 he got to do maybe 800km of testing in an f1 car. the others — in this case i mean oscar, liam, and heck even nyck de vris — had opportunities to drive f1 cars and gain experience for YEARS before logan. if you look at nyck de vris: he got signed to the mclaren young driver programme in 2010. he joined the audi sport racing academy in 2016.  granted, he left the mclaren programme in before the 2019 season and left audi after the 2019 season, too. but he then went to mercedes as a reserve driver and tester for 2020 and afterwards. this means he got just about a DECADE AND A HALF of teams putting their time and energy into training him to join f1.

logan got a year. one. single. fucking year. that is entirely incomparable to the other rookies from 2023, who had so much more experience before hand. and yet logan was jumped into f1 and the expectations were so high for a guy who hasn't had the chance to train and learn and gain experience.

and yet when we look at the 2022 f2 season, logan sargeant, a rookie, was 1 point off from his teammate —the one and only liam lawson — scoring p4 in the championship. he outqualified his teammate 10 to 4. he was the first american to win an f2 race (that is, of course, following the rebrand from gp2 to f2, but regardless, that’s still an important thing to note and an achievement of his that should be celebrated).

logan sargeant has so much potential and if only williams would show him a little more faith unlike what they’ve been doing, if only they’d give him the same upgrades as alex, if only they wouldn’t force him to drive a car 15kg overweight from that of his teammate’s car, if only they wouldn’t force him to use outdated rear and front wings from the season prior. then perhaps he would have a chance to show what he can do. perhaps if he wasn’t stuck in a team with a crap car who have shown zero faith (which has been vehemently obvious since the circus in australia) in him and made him absolutely miserable, a shell of himself — which you can clearly see in recent interviews and photos of him — then maybe he’d be able to show how good he really is. and maybe if williams hadn’t been so adamant about taking him out of f2 so quickly and let him develop for one more year, we’d be seeing headlines that say “logan sargeant, first american f1 driver on the podium since michael andretti in 1993.” and perhaps we could even see him winning races.

no matter what someone says about his current f1 performances — though most base that solely off of where he ends up on the grid rather than looking at his actual driving and seeing how good he is as a driver considering the crap circumstances he’s in — logan sargeant is a better driver than what everyone says. he is trying so insanely hard to get a car that is miles off from the rest of the field to place as high as humanly possible. no one can say that if you put another driver in that car that logan is driving they'd be doing better than he is now. the fact is, they wouldn't be. he's been given an absolute tractor and is expected to score points when that car isn't built for getting in the points. and yet logan managed to get p10 in the miami sprint race — which should be recognized and commended. because he was in an awful car and he absolutely shined that day. that was just the start of showing what he could do. but he hasn't been given the same resources as alex, those being the upgrades, so what more can he do compared to what he's doing now?

and i am actually sitting here crying as i type this because this is a driver who is giving it his all even when the entire world is against him, even when his entire TEAM is against him, and he is persevering to the best of his abilities. and i know exactly what it’s like to sit here, wanting to reach for your dreams and show everyone how good you are, but to have only your closest friends and family on your side, rooting for you. what it’s like to look everywhere around you and see everyone calling you crap and saying you should quit and that you aren’t and never will be good enough. to look around and see your closest friends and family cheering for you, yet feeling like crap because you aren't doing as well as you would want, feeling inferior to everyone around you.

news flash: logan sargeant is and will always be good enough. he just needs the opportunity to show it, and williams is ruining that for him.

and yes, i will defend him with my life. people who try to say otherwise can try to do the same hours — the WEEKS — worth of research that i’ve done about logan and his career because he IS a good driver and HE DESERVES BETTER.

any hate comments towards logan will be deleted, because i have neither the time nor the energy to deal with that and argue with logan haters. i've said all of what i know and can remember about him and his career above, and will add what i can as time goes on and i remember something else or learn something new. if you have the time to hate on logan, you have the time to do your research and examine the fact that he has the potential to do well, but is not in a position for that because of the abhorrent circumstances he is currently in.

thank you for coming to my ted talk. edit: i'd also really recommend reading this twitter thread!! it goes into some more depth on logan and his f2 / f1 career, and even a little bit about his f3 career. it's very informative and articulates much of logan's career and why he is a better driver than many believe very well. https://x.com/herrocult/status/1795747913588761027

[sophsun1]

The Bear + Carmy being relatable af