#and deserves to be treated with basic human decency

[4liyahmajidah]

I can’t stay silent about this anymore.

It’s already bad enough that I’ve waited this long to speak on it — but the way the queer community treats touch-me-nots is absolutely out of line.

What happened to basic respect? Respect for someone’s preferences, their body, their boundaries? Just human decency?

Instead, people drag touch-me-nots like they’re less than. Like they don’t deserve love, intimacy, or healthy relationships — and for what?

Some of my friends identify that way, and let me be real: nine times out of ten, when I hear their stories, it’s rooted in trauma. Sexual assault. Repeated boundary violations. Or simply being pushed into roles because the hypersexualization of masculine lesbians is on a whole other level. It’s dehumanizing.

And somehow, people think that makes them the problem?No. The only weird person in this equation is the one who has a problem with someone else’s boundaries.

You don’t need to have sex with someone to experience love, intimacy, or connection in a deep, ongoing relationship. It’s not a necessity — that’s a myth. But the current climate of queer relationships? It’s bleak right now, to say the least. The dating pool got pee and Dookie floating in it. No lie.

And let’s not forget: we are human beings with choices.

So if someone identifies as a touch-me-not — how the hell does that affect you? In any way, shape, or form?

Let’s revert to default settings and just mind our business.

Capeesh?

[purplecatghostposts]

I keep a list of every Fic/AU idea I have for different fandoms in my notes app and there’s a lot in the Marble Hornets one (95 if you want to be specific, though some are discarded) and sometimes I read through them to determine which ones I want to make, right? And there’s a solid string of fic concepts where I basically kept going, “Yeah what if I fucked up Alex Kralie Specifically?” Because I was in the mood for Alex Whump for like, a hot minute and it shows.

[hilacopter]

torn between not being able to trust goyim to not be antisemitc anymore unless they really prove me otherwise and going "I guess we'll get along" when they find out I'm Israeli and still treat me like a human being

[chrrywvea]

i'm on s3 ep2 of the blacklist & oh. my god. watching red threaten that guy who kept treating his girlfriend like shit did things to me

[corpseroot]

Not gonna lie fellas. Being the PTSD, multiple disorders, debilitating trauma friend rly sucks bc I'm filled to the brim with that shit and I don't wanna ever mention it bc it ruins the function vibe.

[malachitezmeyka]

Last thing I expected to do today was spend 10 minutes arguing with my grandma over a cat that's been dead for nearly a decade and yet here we are

[beawritingbooks]

Fat people, you are allowed to be lovingly touched. You're allowed to be pleasured, to be focused on. You're allowed to do any position you enjoy. You're allowed to have the lights on and your body seen by your partner(s). You're allowed to be cuddled and kissed. You're allowed to be in public with your partner(s) and hold hands. You deserve love and affection no matter your weight.

[eltehdork]

We need more celebrities like David Tennant and less like Drake.

Just regular people with talent who care about other humans and just kinda stay in their lane otherwise

[genderqueerdykes]

incredibly fucked up how many people see treating men with kindness and empathy instead of being cruel and vitriolic as "coddling them"

isn't it?

it's frustrating, because some people genuinely do coddle men and it's an issue. i used to live with an adult cishet man who was coddled by his mother and grandmother and it was disturbing to watch. no matter what mistakes he made they told him it was okay, no matter how much money cost, no matter how much property was damaged. thing is, most men don't get this. they don't get coddled- they usually are faced with the opposite.

being kind to a man and treating them with respect isn't "coddling" them, it's treating them the way they deserve to be treated. it's basic human decency. telling a man it's okay they fucked up or hurt someone because they're a man and men are "just like that" is coddling them. telling them that well it's okay to do that because they're a man is coddling. but basic kindness and empathy? that's just how you treat other people. period

[starstruck-sillies]

Bro, as someone who was dehumanized my entire damn childhood, it's not something to be taken lightly. That can cause serious harm, and I'm living proof of it. It's not okay to call random people you don't like "creatures" in a negative way. By doing so, you are actively disregarding the fact that they have human emotions, and implying they don't deserve the same curtesy and respect as any other human being.

If you're going to get involved in syscourse, learn to treat people at least semi-decently first and yknow. Treat them like people??

-Xero

I swear some syscoursers seem like they're a just a few inches away from declaring "creature" a slur. 🙄

[ragecndybars]

i don't fundamentally disagree with the notion of, like, not praising people for doing the absolute bare minimum. however, i am very much opposed to its common usage as an excuse to treat people poorly under the presumption that they probably deserve it, then deflect any criticism for doing so. ie. making a rude comment about a cishet person under the assumption that they're bigoted, being informed that said cishet person is actually an ally, and then angrily responding "so, what, am i supposed to reward them for the bare minimum???" no, buddy, you're supposed to not be mean to people just because you incorrectly assume that they would be mean to you if given the chance. showing ppl basic human decency is not a "reward", it's like. more of a basic right.

[wistericaine]

renewed manners | blaise zabini

blaise zabini | fluff | wc: 746

summary: the slytherin boys tease blaise about having a polaroid picture of you two inside of his wallet

Blaise felt that he was a rather normal man. 

He grew up in a somewhat broken home—though he doubted anybody’s was truly perfect—with a good mom who hung around bad men. Bad men who helped him know what a good man was. 

He’d learned early on what not to be. Treat women with respect, open the doors for them and pull their chairs in unless they stated otherwise. Protect them from dangerous assholes that would want nothing more than to break their hearts. Make sure that you’re an emotionally mature man, don’t invalidate their feelings and don’t act like a holier than thou kind of man. Respect them in a positive way, in a way that would make someone feel cherished and loved beyond belief. 

Maybe he had fallen off his rails when he began to hang out with the Slytherin boys more often. He found himself sleeping around with different women from time to time—though his manners remained the same even still. Opening the door to his bedroom became a regular occurrence in Fifth Year, though he kept the door to his heart shut off to even the closest of his friends. 

That was until you came along. 

A lovely girl that he had been paired up with during a Potions project, completely innocent in a way that he had never met before. You hadn’t wanted Blaise for sex, for money, or for anything else that would annoy him. You never hated him either, though he wasn’t sure whether you hated anyone that you knew. 

He had relearned himself when he began to hang out with you more. He held the door to the library instead of to his bedroom, and he had offered his heart in slow but sure increments. It was romantic and it was sweet, and it was everything that he had ever possibly needed to change. 

And if he used his experiences with them to know how to treat you? It was nothing more than basic human decency to him now.

“Who’s this in your wallet?” 

“What?” Blaise asked confusedly, looking over at his friends. He hadn’t hung out with them for a while, mostly because he had been hanging out with you so much. That wasn’t a bad thing on his part, at least not through his perception.

He hadn’t even noticed that Mattheo and Lorenzo had stolen his wallet until he had turned around. “This girl. In your wallet.” Lorenzo said, holding his opened wallet. There was a polaroid photo of him and you in there that his mother had taken of you both—hidden away in the kitchen with you resting on the counter.

“Who is it?” Mattheo repeated.

Blaise hummed and took the wallet back from his friends. “My girlfriend.” he murmured.

“Oh?” Theodore said, leaning over the couch. He had a smirk on his face that was hidden by his cigarette. “That’s who’s taken you away from us?”

“Mhm.” he nodded blankly at them. “I’m going on a date with her later, so I can’t stay long.”

“She’s pretty.” Mattheo whistled. “She good in bed?”

Blaise scowled at him, scoffing at his question. He hadn’t realized just how much his friends obsessed over sex, not until recently. “None of your business.”

“Whatever.” Mattheo rolled his eyes.

“Down bad.” Lorenzo chuckled, gently shoving Blaise’s arm. “We’ve still missed you though. New drama that happened, y’know.”

Blaise hummed quietly and looked over at Lorenzo. “Like what?”

“Theo and Pans are dating!” Lorenzo said excitedly. 

Blaise raised his eyebrows curiously, looking over at Theodore. “Congratulations.”

“Thanks.” Theodore murmured.

Blaise sat down on the couch and opened his wallet again, looking over the photos his mom had taken again. He had introduced you just recently, though you two had clicked immediately. He remembered how his mom had taken to you as soon as you walked through the door, borderline ignoring him for you.

He didn’t quite mind though, he really thought you deserved it. 

Maybe he’d introduce you to his friends soon. Only if you suggested it first though. As much as he had slowly distanced himself from their behaviors recently, he still considered them decent people.

“Okay but, are we not gonna talk about Blaise turning into a sap?” Mattheo chuckled. “A picture of her in his wallet? Really?”

“Never heard of that before.” Theodore whispered conspiratorially next to Blaise's ear. “He’s leashed up like a dog, I bet.”

Lorenzo laughed out loud at that. “Blaise’s a dog now?”

Blaise sighed dramatically, rubbing his hand over his forehead. Maybe he should distance himself further.

thank you so much for reading! i'm not sure whether i like this little drabble's style or not, but i wanted to do a character study of blaise compared to the rest of the slytherins. i feel like out of everyone in that group, he'd probably be the most respectful to women, hence this wonderous little drabble here <3

© wistericaine 2025. do not copy, translate or claim any of my works as your own. reblogs + comments are so very appreciated! have a lovely day, love!

[psychotrenny]

While "don't be an asshole to people if you don't want them to dislike you" may seem like obvious advice, the thing is people generally don't act unnecessarily unpleasant to those they fully respect as fellow humans. The sort of casual cruelty we think of as "asshole behaviour" tends to originate from a contempt for the target; the idea that they're a lesser being which ultimately deserves to be treated like this. The idea that the target might have a problem with it isn't even considered, and if said target tries to protest then actually they are the asshole for forgetting their position and disrupting the proper social hierarchy.

That's the fundamental problem with social advice that boils down to "Just try to be niceys :) ". This sort of behaviour doesn't exist in a vacuum and is at least heavily influenced by the power dynamics of social relations (both real and perceived). You can observe this on a macro scale when it comes to bigotry, with structural oppression strongly influencing interpersonal relations, but similar forces operate on a much more localised social-group scale as well. That's not to say that this behaviour is good or natural or inevitable, but the forces at play here must be recognised before we can effectively attempt to change them.

If you're serious about "not being an asshole" then it's not enough to just be nice to those who "deserve it"; you need to practice at least a baseline of respect towards everyone whether you personally (with all your limited knowledge and unconscious biases) think they "deserve it" or not. Otherwise you'd be better off devoting your life to all the petty politicking and gossip and performative cruelty necessary to ensure you stay on top and don't find yourself on the receiving end of such contemptuous mistreatment. If basic respect and decency is a privilege, then you'll always be at risk of losing it

[awakefor48hours]

I just want to say, when the time comes to it, you have to defend criminals.

You cannot dehumanize them. You cannot advocate for taking away their rights in any way, shape, or form.

Whenever the government tries to take away prisoners' right to vote, vote against it. If the government tries to take away prisoners' right to have access to clean water, medical attention, vote against it. Why? They’re human beings and therefore deserves human rights. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. Being in prison should not, under any circumstances, take away someone's ability to be seen and treated with basic human decency.

There’s also a selfish reason for this. If laws are passed that take away the rights of prisoners, you can become a prisoner at moment’s notice. The law will look for any reason to lock up people for anything they don't like.

Just to make sure it's not lost in translation, I am not saying have to treat these people like they're your friends or to even forgive them for their crimes. All I am saying is to treat them like human beings. That's all. Whenever the law finds a way to dehumanize people, it will be abused to dehumanize us.

[cressidagrey]

this is purely because i’m not seeing enough hatred for white horse lorenzo….GROWN ASS MAN TREATING HIS BABY SISTER LIKE THAT! Charles has been treated like the main character his whole life and Arthur is an offshoot of that, WHATS LORENZOS EXCUSE?! I need him to get a proper dragging when the Leclerc brothers downfall happens because there’s absolutely no reason for him to be treating her like that! She didn’t take anything from him, she hasn’t stolen any attention off him, she’s not done anything that can even be remotely twisted towards lorenzo to make her seem like a bad sister, he’s just pathetic! a copycat! a piece of crap! Charles can apologize and say he was just wrapped up in his own dreams and ego, Arthur can say the same plus play the young and naive, monkey see monkey do card, then Lorenzo is just like “sorry for just being a shit human being…that’s it”, all shit excuses and shouldn’t be forgiven in my opinion but my moon sun and rising are all petty grudge holder signs so that’s just me, but his excuse is by far the worst, and he needs to suffer

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk

No because you ATE this and left zero crumbs!! White Horse Lorenzo is a grown-ass man with every opportunity to be better, to be the big brother Belle deserved, and instead he actively chose to be a cardboard cutout of disappointment. Like??? Sir, you’re pushing 30, why are you still playing background music in the Charles Show™ when your sister is literally screaming for acknowledgment in the form of basic human decency?! You're absolutely right — he doesn’t even have the "blinded by the spotlight" excuse the younger two can cling to. He’s just… willfully disappointing. 

[bitdemonic]

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i’m only going to state this once, if you read this let it be known that i’m not joking or being lighthearted in the slightest.

before any and everything, i am a black woman. we are amongst the minority of people that are emotionally/physically abused, disrespected, and disregarded just for existing; punished for being bold, for having pride, for being born. we shake rooms with our presence and make people cower with our demeanor and for that we are punished—all we have is our voice, that’s all we can use to be understood and heard, but more importantly go down with in a fight.

for some strange, intolerable and ill mannered reason, this platform’s communities still goes against our word; paints a narrative and runs with everything but the truth, essentially silencing black women’s voices over and over again. this is what i do not, will not, and never will stand for.

as a black woman, i do defend my people against racism, whether or not it’s subtle, blatant, or undetected—too many of y’all have gone without confrontation and that ends with me, it also ends with my mutuals. we are loud as HELL when it comes to our respect and will continue to be, because if not then who will? a lot of people on this platform are stuck in a mindset that hinders their perception of living, breathing humans but the minute they’re checked it’s white women tears, not on our watch.

idgaf who, what, or how y’all believe, act, or think but know i get ignorant when it’s about mine. i post content and go about my business, but this week has been extremely hectic and broadcast as such because it is DESERVED. i’m not one to be silenced, nobody but myself has the power to do so. if i ever am involved in an online altercation, dispute and interaction know that it’s because it’s my right to use that voice. i talk a lot of shit but it’s never unwarranted; my friends have been lied on and talked about all damn day, but can anyone say we’re in the wrong? if you do then remember that you’re a part of the problem.

“it’s not always racism,” “you’re always saying it’s black vs white” “it’s not always about color”—but it is. it always will be, that’s written years and years beyond our time, it’s legitimate history. history repeats itself, doesn’t it? when situations or circumstances arrive and it regards skin tone, culture, or appearance some of y’all will never understand what we do. being black is a double edged sword and it’s because of announcements like this.

come at me with the utmost respect or get met with absolute disrespect, it’s that simple. none of y’all are above getting cussed out and you’re definitely not above God—there is nothing or nobody that can instill fear in my bones, especially if it pertains my expression towards humans alike. many of y’all haven’t been checked but keep on fucking around and you absolutely will.

i post tarot and will continue to, it’s my passion and profession, but it will NEVER come at the expense of basic human decency. stop crying wolf if someone (black!) tells you you’re in the wrong, you’re inherently reverting to your ancestral, white washed [or tone deaf] ways and silencing our freedom of speech. follow this page with discernment of these guidelines because at the end of the day you’re in my space, it will not be altered to your specifications. i have opinions, i have concerns, and i have authority, all of which will forever be used.

treat black women with the same courtesy as your next door neighbor, nobody is above anyone and whenever that is tested it will be met with consequences.