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inkskinned · 1 year

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he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

#i used to think it was romantic too and then i was like. now i see it as a HUGE red flag #writeblr #it is also almost EXCLUSIVELY said by immature ppl who think this is normal #fyi even if u think it's funny and ur like 'im an introvert it's just TRUE' like. you need therapy (ily tho)#healed introversion is just ''i would prefer to be by myself'' not ''i hate every person'' ... hate is not normal. that is not healthy #im sorry. i know it feels accurate. but if you're walking around with that kind of rage....#1. you're making a LOT of assumptions about every single person u have ever met. which is often unfair and unkind #and also usually involves judging people based on their worst moments or little mistakes #2. you are being unfair to the person who is ur ''exception''#3. there is a VAST difference between ''ur my favorite person'' and ''the ONLY person i like.''#idk i think this is just a personal bias thing tbh #im sure there are people who have this experience normally #but i have YET to find a man who thinks like this and ISNT absolute DOGSHIT. although tbh.... like. im sure he exists #when u hit like 30 some of the things that were once kind of hot now just sound fucking exhausting. like ''im in a band''#edit in the tags: i used to kind of be like this too. but the thing is that like. my life became so much more peaceful #once i started believing that people are generally good. like yes i am mad at the world at large #but it's just.... a very hard way to live. you're not a bad person or wrong for the ways other people hurt you and taught you to be angry.#but that anger will continue to hurt YOU. it will punish YOU. it will prevent YOU from making new deep connections. it will protect you yes #but it will also cause MASSIVE blowback. bc if you lose the One Person... your life will fall apart. i know this personally.#i really recommend just trying to be... cautiously optimistic instead. like. yes #people can be horrible and cruel and there are some communities (incels for example) that aren't worth that optimism #but i think like... most people will hold a door for you . most people want to help you find your wallet .#i hope one day you are able to find peace. i hope that rage eventually smooths over. i know how hard it is PERSONALLY #and i know what must have happened to you. and im deeply deeply sorry we share the same wound.#but i promise - sometimes we all need someone else to help us carry the weight. eventually the rage has to die so that we can let help in #i had to spend years biting at outstretched hands. i still often do. im still very wary . and my heart breaks that you flinch too.#here's the thing: i don't blame you. but we were both acting out of fear and pain. .... not out of healthy behavior. and ... change #was needed. i needed change too. rage was useful for a while. then it just left me isolated and bitter. i had to (with effort)#choose to let that rage go. and let people in . VERY SLOWLY THO LOL

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worseandworse · 2 years

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Well that’s officially the last time I try to open up to friends

#I told my friends that I’m having a rant hard time carrying about anything #including people to an extent #and instead of seeing it as a red flag #my best friend sent me a Google doc about how he wants me out of his life #And I understand my actions have hurt him #I get it #But being told ‘we both knew that this was never last’ when I genuinely thought we’d be friends for the rest of our lives is really hard #might kms later who knows #/hj

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canisalbus · 6 months

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You mentioned before that the people who would have access to Machete's bedchamber would likely already know about Vasco. How did that come up in your mind? Did they get caught in the act or was the subject broached with enough trust? How did those people handle it? Sorry if this is a bit vague but I thought about it today and I'm very interested. :)

I think it just has to be the case, I can't imagine how they could manage to hide the fact Vasco is bunking with him from everyone, for years and years. Machete doesn't live alone, he has staff and servants who do his housekeeping and run his errands. Even if Vasco didn't stay there for any extended periods of time and snuck out the back door to avoid attention, I'm assuming at least the people who do his laundry and change his sheets would eventually detect that some sort of funny business had happened. But the number of people who are in on it is still very very small and tightly controlled. His assistant Vittorio definitely knows and helps to manage this situation, so does his personal doctor, and on top of that maybe a handful of most trusted high-ranking emplyees, which he has vetted extremely carefully and pays handsomely for their discreetness and prudence.

#or something along those lines surely there has to be a way for this to work people have had secret affairs since the beginning of time #if you hire someone #or more likely promote someone you know who has worked for you for years and has proven to be trustworthy and unlikely to betray you #and there's a very high risk that that person will find out your secrets it's better to bring them to their attention yourself #in a controlled setting ahead of time #instead of waiting to see if/when you're caught and not knowing how they will react #right?#and his private quarters are indeed private you don't go snooping in there without a good reason and an official permission #answered #anonymous #Vaschete lore #Vasco hanging around there often probably isn't an immediate red flag it's a big house and people can have friends and guests #plus at the time it was generally more common and accepted for two men to be close friends and openly attached to each other platonically #it's sunday morning and I'm awake trying to piece together the practical logistics of #maintaining an undercover long term relationship between two 16th century statesmen

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uniiiquehecrt · 1 month

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Voice actors are NOT the same as actors.

It takes a specific kind of skill-set and training to be able to warp and meld the voice. It takes a certain kind of talent and dedication to hone that talent into the ability to meld the voice and invoke emotion with one's voice alone. Actors are used to using their voice secondarily to their body language and their facial expressions. It's all mirrored back on camera. They do have nuance. But it's a different kind of nuance and a different kind of training to produce that nuance.

Voice actors might get their likeness transposed on their character's design, and maybe their mannerisms might seep into the character's animation. But when it's all said and done: their presence is in their voice. They are bringing a character to life, showing that emotion in their voice, trying to keep a specific accent, drawl, pitch, tone in that voice and keep it consistent for their recording sessions.

The voice actor is like a classically trained musician who can play first chair in a competitive, world-renown orchestra. The actor (who fills the voice actor's role) is like a moot who played violin in beginner and intermediate high school orchestra and thinks they can get into Juilliard with that 2-4 years of experience.

This doesn't mean that the HS orchestra moot can't play. They can even be really good at it. Maybe they won competitions and sat first chair. But they are not in the same league as the person who's been training their whole lives and lives and breathes to hone their craft using the instrument and all of the training they've ever acquired to perfect it. They are not meant for the same roles. They are not in the same caliber. You do not hire the HS equivalent when you want to play complex music in a competitive orchestra.

Actors are not the same as voice actors.

And furthermore, actors - especially big name actors - taking the roles of animated characters for big budget films or TV pilots makes no sense anyways when - at least in the case of TV pilots - there's not a point to hiring a big budget actors anyways. That money could be used elsewhere (like paying your animators), and the talent that is brought onto the screen for X character could then be hired on to voice said character no recasting required.

I wouldn't say voice acting as a profession is in danger exactly, but it's certainly being disrespected and overlooked for celebrity clout, and this has ALWAYS been an issue. Shoot, even Robin Williams knew that much - which is why he tried so hard not to be used as a marketing chess piece for Aladdin and got royally pissed off when it happened anyways. People shouldn't go to any movie (but especially not animated films) because "oh famous actor is in it". People should go because it's a good movie and the voice acting is good.

People who honest to god think that voice actors are replaceable because "oh well anyone can voice act" or "I like xyz celebrity so naturally it'll be good" ... Honestly I just wish you'd reassess your priorities because you're missing the point and are part of the problem.

Voice Actors ≠ Actors.

#(i am incredibly passionate about this)#(and seeing celebrity voice actors in what should be a voice actor's role completely burns my buns it doesn't matter WHO it is)#(hemsworth as optimus? someone tell me one good reason why they couldn't get a good v/a to replace mr. cullen properly for the future)#(ben shwartz as sonic? dude literally isn't even a good voice actor OR actor anyways-)#(- A N D jason griffith AND my boy roger craig smith are still RIGHT HERE)#(jason griffith IN PARTICULAR would have pulled back SO many sonic fans that went to watch the film anyways. if not /more/.)#(and on top of that he has the same tonality and energy they tried to force this moshmo to try and emulate anyways so GET THE REAL THING)#(chris pratt as mario? i can at least defend /him/ and say that barring his failure to do a NY accent consistently he wasn't terrible)#(but mario's new voice actor could've been used instead and people would've clearly appreciated that WAY more)#(vanessa hudgens as sunny starscout in mlp g5's pilot movie? literally why. they replace her and hitch's va in the show.)#(don't even get me started on the concept of hiring celebrity singers to do musical theatre roles or not letting musical theatre singers-)#(-dub the celebrity voice actors you just HAD to hire for your film bc you're so worried about not getting enough clout to get ppl in seats #(that you're putting it all in this (1) big name hire bc turns out that you have no faith in your writing ability much less-)#(-animation as a medium.)#(and no before anyone says anything : no this is not me saying that ALL celebrity voice castings are bad.)#(there are some that aren't that bad and others that are actually pretty good.)#(i especially appreciate it when actors are damn well aware they aren't voice actors and try to LEARN from voice coaches-)#(-and/or their va predecessors if applicable.)#(that does not change the fact that the celebrity shouldn't have been hired just because the film wanted to have bragging clout-)#(-oh look at this FAMOUS PERSON we were able to hire — yeah ok. sure wendy. i want to know if this film is quality or not.)#(and 9/10 times the SECOND there is money spent on a non voice actor to voice the main character especially)#(that usually means somewhere along the way animation IS going to get shafted. if not w the animators themselves then in the way of-)#(-the actual animation itself and ESPECIALLY the screenwriting because it's especially been so dogshit lately even before the strike.)#(a celebrity being hired to fill a voice actor's role is such an immediate red flag to me and it is VERY rare that i get to be proven wrong

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mossphorescent · 3 days

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The Akatsuki? More like the Acekatsuki. Ha ha. Ha . ha haha. *Gets shot but does NOT die, as my super cool and based opinions have made me invincible*

#naruto #naruto shippuden #akatsuki #konan #kakuzu #guys shes literally the ace flag plus orange and red what more do you want from me #kakuzu is projecting btw. repressed old man we love to see it.#i hope people see my account and go “oh its the asexual Akatsuki fan guy” some day #asexual headcanons #feels kinda weird to use some random post i saw like a week ago instead of a well established meme #op if you see this. um. hi. cool post. sorry?

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smaeemo · 2 months

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pretended I was empath so I would get “INFJ” instead of “INTJ,” because the prior is the rarest mbti and I wanted to be quirky and different

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greatwyrmgold · 9 months

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Someone get this kid a therapist for Christmas.

#the thing that snaps her out of this shitty headspace is realizing someone ELSE is going to die INSTEAD of her #it's good that she doesn't look forward to her own demise for the rest of the chapter but that is such a red flag #satsuki minazuki #liar satsuki can see death #manga panels #tw sui ideation

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coolspacequips · 5 months

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I think if all ppl can say about allura is that she's an obstacle to kl or that she's dead to be kl angst or that ppl shipping her w Lance suck then maybe just don't talk about her ever LMAO

#ppl will truly be like 'Lance is bi 😊 but yuck allurance is het trash' bi means liking more than just ur same gender fuck u lol #i love kl but i can't fuck w the fans too much at large bc they love to talk about k and l screwing on alluras grave if they remember her #just say ur hateful and go dont bring allura into this didn't the show treat her bad enough FUCK #at least l fans there's a 50/50 chance they recall dead dead out of the way of Keith allura with some kindness #but k fans it's a 75% chance they hate her and go out of their way to talk about how awful she is and gotta say i don't trust like that #u can dislike any character for whatever reasons but the optics on this are bad and the specific things they say are red flags fr #so many ppl say Lance is bi bc it's a popular fanon to explain he's a flirt w girls but we actually want him to be gay #instead of actually saying it bc they think he's bi... the whole fandom was/is specifically v biphobic #i hc everyone as bi and that means sometimes it's a mf ship but it's still queer like come on #anyway this is for no one I'm just idek bye #text posts #might just delete this I'm so tired 😫#not even to touch on specifically the misogynior of it all #it's 2024 and I'm still seeing fresh takes that are the exact same shitty takes from years ago

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fragilething92 · 2 years

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Me watching the Halbrand/Sauron reveal after simping for his cocky, manipulative ass all season:

"So first of all, how dare you. But yeah, that absolutely fucking tracks as far as my terrible taste in men goes." 🙄

#self-callout for clocking that something was off and he was probably sauron early on and simping regardless #bc my dumbass sees red flags and gets curious instead of running #i have exactly zero sense of self-preservation #rings of power #the rings of power #halbrand #sauron

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msfcatlover · 2 years

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So the Joker’s little “BANG!” guns can launch that flag pole out with potentially lethal force (at least, according to Batman Beyond). Which very much seems like the sort of thing he’d do—it’s a double punchline.

Why does no one ever just pull the trigger twice?

#the joker #batman #batman beyond #//#Brainstorming for my Reverse!Robins AU like: ‘’What if Jason got kidnapped like in the Arkham games instead of his normal death?’’#‘’That’s the universe where Joker invited the other villains to take turns tormenting Robin right?’’#’’OH! Steph is a villain who’s known to have a special bone to pick with Batman’s newest sidekick. She’d absolutely be invited to that!’’#’’She’s still on shaky ground. Jason doesn’t know if he can trust her. Steph has to play along in order to get close enough to free Jason.’’#’’She picks up one of Joker’s guns & makes a joke about it obviously not being real. Aims at Joker & pulls the trigger. The flag pops out.’’#’’Joker laughs. Steph smiles. Jason thinks he’s about to die.’’#’’She pulls the trigger again & shoots Joker in the throat with his own stupid flag.’’#‘’She kills the Joker for Jason. Because even if she’s never accepted back into the family nobody hurts her little brother.’’#’’And as she rushes to free Jason; to check his wounds; apologizing frantically that she didn’t get there sooner…#...for the first time Jason sees his childhood hero in the woman who came back from the dead.#(#I am once again pushing my #red hood!steph #agenda #)#/#RH!Steph #(in the tags)#my writing #mine

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pa-pa-plasma · 4 months

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people do understand that having any strong opinions on other people's harmless sex lives is bad, not just when it's kinkshaming, right. like, shitting on people for being uninterested in sex is also a bad thing. forcing people into sexual situations goes against sex positivity as much as shaming people about doing so willingly. you guys realize that right. hello you guys realize that right

#you guys realize you aren't beating the ''talking about sex makes me uncomfortable'' allegations when disinterest puts you in attack mode #sorry i'm just tired of seeing posts implying that disinterest in sex automatically makes you some kind of evil puritan #or naive ignorant loser child #like you're just reinventing the wheel guys. please train yourself out of seeing disinterest as a red flag #& immediately roleplaying as a bull #''we accept ace people here!'' that's great are you like normal about acearo people when they actually don't want sex though #''ND people aren't babies they also have sex drives!'' fantastic but are you normal about the ones who don't want sex though #''i love trans people!'' okay but are you capable of acting normal when we want to be viewed as people instead of sex objects #answer quickly & concisely

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wild-moss-art · 1 year

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Bruhhh I think the guy that used to live at my place is breaking into my mailbox regularly 😭

#it’s a long story I’ve been finding it open or half open in the morning fairly often #and I do get important mail for him which is what I think he’s looking for. I’ve never had anything important go missing #but like. he KNOWS I’m willing to give him his mail bc at first I’d text him and he’d say he’d come get it but never would #if he’d just communicate w me he wouldn’t have to fucking break into my mailbox #and like I get IMPORTANT mail for him like tax docs!!!!#during covid I got his covid relief checks!!!!!!#I get stuff for his business!!!!!!#he even had his groceries delivered here once…… he did come get those #he could just text me instead of taking a crowbar to my fucking mailbox!!!!!!!#he is so weird I actually think he never updated his government address from my place #like. if he’s homeless or smth I get it and im fine with it. but I need him to tell me and not break into my shit #he has given me a ton of other red flags too. I just don’t know what his deal is #I don’t need to get into it too much but the state of the house and interacting with him has always been so confusing #and I’ve lived here for over 2 years at this point!!!!!#I’m gonna have a chat w my post officer next time I see her and see what she recommends

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sysig · 1 year

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Yandere x Yandere is an underused trope imho (Patreon)

#Doodles #Original #Yanderapy #Surprise surprise! They're both yanderes lol #That was actually the main element of the accidentally-combined-ideas - one of them was supposed to be not-yandere in one of them #Buuut I do stand by that yandere/yandere couples are underutilized for comedic and dramatic purposes and I'm only too happy to do it myself #In this case it's more on the comedic side because they're rather yandere-Lite™ - neither of them are interested in Hurting the other #Being weird and all up in each other's business and a little toxic and thinking about each other a lot? Yes lol #But also part of the comedy is that Because they're so into each other there's not really any need to escalate to violence #They just like each other too much!#And also Mitsuru was in therapy enough to pick up on some red flags of his own to curb so when he sees them in the wild he has workarounds #Ishida is pressing a boundary (and he knows it) to see if he can get Mitsu to agree to isolate himself #The thing with Mitsu is he's also a little dumb and innocent ♪ He's slow to pick up social cues and process new information #So he sees the behaviour (using negative-talk as a way to isolate) and instead falls back on his established skill (setting boundaries)#Without recognizing that Ishida meant anything malicious by it or that the response he was trying to illicit failed lol #He's a bit lovestruck as well so of course he's going to assume the best! Ishida also thinks it's cute so he knocks it off after a while lol #If I ever do go into drama with these two it's going to be interesting >:3c I do have some ideas just In General but them specifically hmmm #For now I'm happy to have them just be a silly comedic duo tho haha

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agentcoops · 9 months

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going insane thinking about the reunions coop should've had

#25 years........#andy was SO EXCITED to see him and mr c did Not reciprocate appropriately #its been 25 years so i have to forgive andy for falling into a state of acceptance regarding people not matching his energy #but dale would've been so so excited to see andy they would've been hugging and grinning and he would've rushed in to see lucy #mr c was not giving cooper energy and i understand why everyone believed it was him bc its literally his face but.#dale would've been so excited he was so excited on the phone!!!!#also i can not emphasize enough. how much i wouldve been sobbing. if instead of frank it was harry on the other line #oh but the duality of frank speaking to someone he believes to be cooper and learning its not thru the phone call #while cooper makes the phonecall expecting harry on the other side and then its not #i loved frank but god i cant imagine how i would've gone insane if it was harry #but also. it couldn't b harry bc i know in my heart he would KNOW that wasnt cooper #thats exactly why hawk didnt enter until after it was revealed he wasnt cooper. bc he wouldve KNOWN #andy is allowed 2 be oblivious. because he is my special boy #and also bc its very in character for he and lucy to take things at face value and ignore the red flags bc of their excitement

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mejomonster · 1 year

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Every time I go on a dating app I feel hopeless -.-

#rant #genuinely frankly i would probably do better at speed dating im person but that doesnt exist here #i go on app. i see poly partnered people looking for another partner. i do not seek to be that #i almost talk myself into just trying to be friends in case They know someone id like before i realize #thats a bit convoluted. i see one person actually just looking for friends like me and feel relief #and maybe i could make a friend but i want love i want romance and is pursuing that instead primarily #exactly why im a great friend whos been single for years? i see several men who absolutely did not read #rhat im fucking nonbinary. i see a person whos single and wants only hookups so my demi ass is out #i see a single person with no fucking hobbies jn common who i dont personally find aesthetically appealing #i see someone hot finally and immediatelt wonder what Red Flag theyre unavailable i must be subconciouslt clocking into #ah. yes. theyre oceans away making our chances of intimate long term commitment slim unless we both are significantly interested #and they give one word answers indicating theg dont want to chat. which us the only way i have to build a connection for now.#and then i wonder if im picky cayse im noticing incompatibikities. or cause no one compatible is around on my app #or is it self sabotage? or would Dating a red flag be sabotage?? or am i too demi to fucking do this i fucking hate this #i dont even know if id like someone in 5 months IF they were compatible and single. and then rhe chances of them liking me thay long?#well lers just say ive not yet had a partner ever say they liked me back. i mean theyve lied for several months. then come clean rhat #they never actually liked me and i was just convienient so :/#i am so tired. i hate dating apps. i could probably self sabotage in 1 minute tho and message a married poly person #who cannot therefore marry me and who i cannot be the primary priority of. then i guess that would be self sabotage #cause id So clearly be letting myself crysh on someone unavailable wooh. -.-#jm so so tired man. i jusr wanna crush kn someone. kiss someone. bang regularly for decades.#oh and id Reallt like to fall in mutual love. the awful state of things? mt parents suggested to me #i get with someone i dont like romanrically and just make myself have a relationship #cause i guess they have no faith in me finding mutual love. which ngl makes me so incredibly sad even rhey dont believe i can

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harrowharkwife · 1 year

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swear to god if i open a fanfic ONE MORE TIME only to be greeted with an author's note saying "i asked chatgpt to tell me a story about-" i am going to go fucking NUCLEAR

#it's NEVER tagged!!!#i am so sick and FUCKING tired of hearing about chat bot shit. it's irresponsible tech that is only gonna help spread misinformation #/be used as a tool by corporate America to crank out shitty computer generated content #bc anything is better than having to hire people and pay them what they're worth am i right guys!#my job won't shut up about chatgpt i don't wanna have to see this shit on AO3 dot gov! please! is anything sacred!#I've already started running into endless variations of the same regurgitated paraphrased clearly AI-written garbage misinformation article #half of the time whenever i try to google something! i just keep getting AI generated garbage instead of any actual helpful information #side note: is Google like... super fucking broken for anyone else in terms of 'i can't find any useful information about anything anymore'?#or is it just me?#but AUGH. tech bros will be our downfall i swear to god #keep the AI shit out of art and creative endeavors it's a slippery slope and it's not leading anywhere good #this is fucking nfts all over again #or at LEAST if you're gonna be posting chat gpt prompts to ao3 fucking TAG THEM AS SUCH #I'm at the point where i hear someone say AI or chatgpt in an excited tone of voice #and i just consider it an immediate red flag #I'll delete this later it's unnecessarily cunty and i realize that but my GOD im sick of it #is it not enough that all of these writing bots are training on ao3 fics without the authors consent or permission?#now we have to encourage it by putting AI shit on there to begin with?

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