#antiromantic!!

[louisetaylor]

Aros and aces, honestly experiencing and loving something: man i just love being platonically nice to someone and caring for them! so fun! I love it so much :D

Someone annoying: Yes, being good to each other and walking dogs and washing dishes is Actually What Makes a Marriage Work! Romance won't get you through the bad times when someone's sick or the car won't start! Romance is inessential, like dessert!

Me who deeply desires romantic love: does...does that mean...the romance I want doesn't matter? it's not as important as dogs and dishes? it's less than? it's unworthy?

Every pastor ever at every wedding ever: Marriage is Hard! Romance is a Lie cooked up by Society! Love is Not a Feeling!

Me, crying: but...I want it...I want love to be something I look for and find and take care of...I want romance...I want romantic love...

Tumblr: You know romantic love is a made-up story, right? Written by Society?

Me: But...but it's written by so many different people, in so many different ways, and I'm writing it too, and everybody in the Whole World is telling me my dreams don't matter, that Romantic Love shouldn't be deeply valued and important.

So I'm askin' if it's true.

I'm askin' me, and you, and you, and you.

[giffan]

[hopeless-anti-romantic]

There's a certain intrigue in just observing people.

Every now and then I'm struck by the fact that there are human beings, other than myself, living their own little lives, with their own worries, their own responsibilities, doing their silly little tasks, their weird habits, their own peculiar interests and fascinating hobbies.

Whenever it strikes me, i can't help myself from looking out the window, be it out of a bus, a car or out of my apartment, and just observing.

I might look at the vegetable stall aunty, carefully arranging her vibrant produce. Or the mom of two dragging her toddlers along to the bus stop, carrying their cute water bottles while she wrestles the boy's arm away from his sister's face. Or the cranky taxi driver blaring his horn at the old man parked in front of him, who was only a few seconds slow to shift into gear as the signal lit up green.

It occurs to me that they too are living. I get so caught up with my life that i forget.

Being reminded of this, every time, every single time, I question the basic function of life. Or more specifically consciousness. How do chemicals and electrical signals translate to something intangible and incomprehensible.

The science of the body is mostly understood and well studied. In contrast, the science of the mind although just as well studied, is not always concrete in all its various specificities.

How much of a consciousness does an amoeba have compared to a caterpillar? Is the conscious even measurable? Or what counts as consciousness, is it freedom from being driven purely by biological instincts? I hope to find my own answers to these...

I fear I've strayed a little ways off from my initial thoughts. Thinking more on it, it occurs to me that most of what I've done is for other people, and yet i keep forgetting that they live a life both separate and interwoven with mine. Even this moderately long post, it's for all the silly, the intricate, the stressful, the lonely, and the loveable lives lived by whoever happens to read it.

That's it. Thank you for reading all of... THIS.

[borvooven]

I need more aromantic movies, everytime I get attached to a character it's ruined by them startung to flirt with some girl and it's so fucking annoying it literally ruins everything

[mantabanter]

Ive read dunmeshi through like. Several times. But I feel like im missing something though where is all this kabru laois yaoi energy coming from in the fandom i never picked up on any of that.

[jisungsdaydreamer]

i love how i'll already have a a major wip in progress, but i get distracted and start writing a new idea that will probably be deleted but might see the light of day one day. that's how i procrastinate; with more work.

[isobug]

HQ Antiromantic and Antisexual Flag Remakes

An Aro-spec Romance-Negative/Repulsed/Adverse identity and an Ace-spec Sex-Negative/Repulsed/Adverse identity.

Made because I was doing a request and realized that these flags had some weird scanlines on some of the stripes

The two stripes before last one also had some major contrast issues for me as a half-blind person so I redid the color on the 2nd to last to be less similar while still trying to keep the original gradient

Flags were originally made by @beyond-mogai-pride-flags [ LINK ]

Should both be 5000 x 3000

[lateseptemberdawn]

It's so confusing even to me sometimes especially when it perhaps matters the most how I am an empath as in I will feel like crying while watching someone else cry out if their hearts and I could literally feel their pain but then I'm also so detached like so much so that if someone I know is going through something (as in trouble in paradise (yeah I'm eloquent)) and completely losing it over that person, not being able to function properly like not eating being sad feeling depressed -- it just makes no sense to me??? Like I can't even begin to try to comfort other than just pat pat like??? So you found out they don't care about you don't you just instantly lose all feelings as well? Don't you feel cheated and ridiculed?? Does that mean nothing to you, your self-respect?? And if it does all those things then why do you feel sad. What do you feel sad for. I would feel angry. So incredibly angry and I would simply think I was an idiot to not notice the signs or to stay for as long as I did and it would be like a switch just completely off. I don't think I could ever hold a human above myself. And this makes me wonder if I could ever love at all.

[lilietsblog]

so ‘the last trial’ has been appearing on my dash

and i just want to obsess over a song that meant SO FUCKING MUCH to me

(translation mine, i do it literally without preserving rhyme or rhythm, it’s just the way i like it)

there lived a dark magician who served the moon, he saw a beautiful maiden in his dreams, she reached for him with trembling hands, she begged ‘come to me’

afraid that the maiden will be tormented by her enemy to the last the besotted fool opens the gates, the maw of the abyss greeted him, he was swallowed by the triumphant darkness.

he thought back then that love saves and opened the gates - that was foolish, what happened next we both know, the dark moon swallowed the dawn.

poets say that the world will be saved by love, but so far you and i know a different example, world drenched in blood, incinerated by war, because of a fool’s love.

poets wove false fables, meanwhile mages found protection for the world, they cursed the abyss with an alliance of enemies, hoping to close it off from love

the beautiful prisoner is locked away again, but there’ll always be a key for the lock, love unites the incompatible, love opens any gates.

if love wasn’t a tool maybe it would indeed save souls, but in all ages people are the same, and their love serves evil and pride.

poets say that the world will be saved by love, but our world hasn’t seen pure love in centuries, and that which will open the gates of the abyss isn’t worth much.

i was obsessed with it for a while and now that ive thought of it again i am again

i dont really vibe with the ‘pure love hasn’t been seen in centuries’ part but the rest of it just. i love how it does acknowledge that the power of love is a thing, in fact it’s a key plot point - love opens any gates, love makes the impossible happen, it’s just not a good thing

like this is in context specifically about romantic love, and rare is a story that does anything other than glorify it, you know? this is so fucking mecore, like it specifically calls out the romantization of romantic love, it’s in-universe meta, i fucking love it (not that kind)

if love wasn’t a tool maybe it would indeed save souls, but in all ages people are the same, and their love serves evil and pride.

[r0ck-n-rolll]

spacecoric + antiromantic + ansexual benny the spaceman iconz !! for @dangervestfriends ^_< -☆

like or reblog if u uze or zave ♡

[hopeless-anti-romantic]

What if someone gets signs since 2 years that they are meant to be this renowned person, but what's the point of revealing such an extraordinary information? Should I do something extraordinary too? Like the recent one was, as I had asked universe of the truth, I noticed in a random email "perhaps you ARE meant to be together after all"

Interesting thought, because I feel like this is a common trope of fantasy hero stories. The protagonist is given a prophecy of being the saviour of the world, or they're raised to be this all conquering hero. But I don't think this outlandishness would work out in the real world.

Imagine you've lived life as just another person, and you start seeing signs that you're meant to be more. This places an overwhelming pressure onto your shoulders to do more, be the person that you're being shown to be. Suddenly you've become Atlas, the weight of what feels like the world balancing on your back.

But say it's destiny, that you WILL become what the signs or visions say. What more can you do besides going where life takes you. Your story is already written for you. You have little to no choice in where you end up. You can either feel like you've lost your purpose, or for someone who's had no purpose, it's like a light at the end of the tunnel that they can finally reach. What you make of it is how you want to see life. If you feel like achieving the version of yourself that you're being shown would make you happy, do it. I don't know how the world works underneath, and i feel like no one actually can? But we live and we learn. So live as you want, be it believing the signs or not.

[seung-scrittore]

huening kai 👹

AHHHH WHY ARE THE DAWGS OUT 😭‼️

[tsuncda]

THEME CHANGE THEME CHANGE THEME CHANGE 😤🥵😩

also the new url is FANTASTIC highkey one of my fave skz songs 🥺

THANKYOUTHANKYOUTHANKYOU!!!!!!!!!! I thought it was time for a bit of a change,,,, i'm a little on the fence with parts of it, but i'm solid with it for at least tonight <3. also how could i NOT do an SKZ theme when that trailer came out and i can't stop thinking about it—

(also we can pretend like you didn't already help me choose the icon and you're completely surprised by this theme change <3 for dramatic gravitas <3)

[hanaafifiportfolio]

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