#canonsick

[fromfiction]

I’m feeling really canonsick for my bf, but I’m a minor and can’t reach out. I’ve been looking at fanart of him and it just makes me sadder. Please help!

Frankly, in my opinion, a person shouldn't be reaching out to establish a romantic relationship with someone on the basis of their kintype no matter whether the person is a minor or an adult.

Kintype is a terrible premise to start a relationship on because it comes with all kinds of assumptions that might not be true. Each person will have assumptions and ideas about the person they're getting to know based on their kintype, and it can be very easy to do things that make the other person feel inferior or rejected when they don't 'measure up' to their partner's own personal ideal for their kintype. It can be very objectifying.

Its always wonderful to meet someone with whom you've had a relationship in another life, or as another person, but its important to establish a relationship based on who someone is now, not based on your own ideals and memories of someone who might not even be the person you knew. Just because someone shares a kintype with your boyfriend, doesn't make them the person you remember, and doesn't necessarily mean that they'll be anything like that person.

There's no guarantee that someone is from your canon, and even if they are, its entirely possible you've both changed in the meantime, and will be incompatible.

That isn't to say you should never get into a relationship with someone who you've been in one through mutual kintypes, but that it shouldn't form the basis of the relationship, or be something that you're actively looking for; as I've said because of the expectations involved.

It can be massively gratifying and wonderful when you do meet someone who you've been entangled with before-- my partner and I have been together through several lifetimes, which we didn't know when we met one another-- but going into a relationship on that basis can also be damaging and give people room to manipulate and hurt one another.

The best way to deal with feelings of nostalgia and canonsickness for someone from another lifetime is to celebrate their memory. Write down how you feel about them, or memories you have of spending time together. Make a moodboard, or some drawings. Do an activity that you used to do together and remember them.

Nostalgia for someone who was close to you as your kintype is like any other type of grief, the best medicine is to celebrate their memory and recall how and why they were dear to you.

[otherkinofmanytypes]

I’m feeling so canonsick right now I can’t even I just kinda need to rant

I’m fictionkin as Nico di Angelo from PJO and HoO and I just miss everything. I miss the camps, both but mostly camp half blood, I miss my friends, I especially miss Will Solace, and I don’t wanna wait until tomorrow to get my camp half blood hoodie because I really need it now and I just kinda needed to rant so yea.

[awesomekittyparty]

I can nveer decide if its. Better or worse having such similar lifes to my old one. Like i love my comfort and familiarity. I love my bedroom and decorations i love living with john and our cats and. Even one cat looks like frigglish :,) and i have my dirnks and smokes. And my nice clothes. Hell i even lookso similar to how i used to.

But then igo to do. Something i used to know hwo to do and i dont know it. I goto text my firends but theyre all in new lives again too. Whichim so happy were all here again out thereven somehwer wbut daaammnnn its disorienting and heartbrekking for a gurl ;(

Things are so same but sooo different. It throws me off sometimed andmakes me feel a little sad. Oh well atleast i can have the same coping mechs ami right ladies ;D *sips cocktail*

[simonstamenovic]

wish we cld cry proper

[apeepwhomakes]

rfkgfdkghdfjkhgkjhf im canonsick but i like this life i wouldnt wanna go back to being heidi but RAHHHHH i still miss it

[through-lines]

Every once in a while, I'll see someone saying they want to write more about being fictionkin but have no idea what to write about. It's hard to get specific without knowing the individual or their source material, but some general ideas on what to write about could be like…

What makes you believe you're your fictotype(s)

How being fictionkin affects your day-to-day life

Your relationship with your source material(s), before and/or after discovering you're fictionkin

How you feel about your source material's fandom

If/How discovering you're fictionkin affects how you interact with other fictional works

How you deal with doubt (from yourself or others)

What you do to cope with homesickness/canonsickness

What you consider shifts and what they're like, or what it's like not having shifts

Aspects of your source materials (weird pacing? gameplay mechanics?) and how they compare to your memories/noemata

I'll also add that getting into the habit of journaling regularly can help you figure out topics to write about! Of course, journaling is first and foremost for better understanding yourself, but if you make it a habit of journaling about anything that comes to mind, you could find some entries cover topics that may be interesting or helpful for others to see.

(On that note, it can be very interesting to address how things have changed over time--whether that's your identity (or your understanding thereof) or the community. That's the benefit of both journaling (for yourself) and sharing your writing publicly (for others).)

But I think in general, there's a serious need to talk about what being fictionkin is, so anything you can think to write about and share helps.

[ecdysis-apotheosis]

if you're canonsick you can listen to songs that remind you of home but watch out

[fictionkinfessions]

Never thought I'd be feeling canonsick for Dr. Clef, but its happening I guess.

-SCP-166

[cairngorm0]

I’m so tempted to send out a kin call. My canonsickness is wild lately and only for the enstars kins I have. I’d absolutely love to be able to get into contact with mediamates and possible canonmates 😭

[musashi]

i spent ACTUAL GOOD MONEY on ACTUAL GOOD HEADPHONES that fit in my ears and go so loud and are crystal clear quality and one of the first things i did was listen to anything to win and i thought this song activated my kinnie brain before well GUESS WHAT i have unlocked new fucking levels of canonsick with how fucking thunderous and warm manfred von karma sounds in my goddamn ears right now so im gonna go lay on the floor and cry about something unrelated for a while. don’t come looking for me

[hazyaltcare]

Hey yall, Badger/Spencer here. How ya doin? Hope it's good, i ain't doin too good.. Could I get positivity? In this case I'm Ryan, from the song Ryan and Dave by Rare Americans. Weird I know but I feel useless, hopeless, I don't have Dave right now so I'm grasping at any straws I can reach yknow? I don't know where he is and.. I hope he's ok.. Being sober sucks ass and I know it's best for me but I really don't want to be, you know? 🦡

Hey Ryan,

Its hard to go through life without others who we feel like have been a part of our life from the first point it actually mattered. I know this feeling can also bleed into feelings of canonsickness. Neither of these are easy to deal with. Personally, as someone who has 2 sourcemates in-system, sometimes I feel like i'm better off with knowing the memory of them rather than being headmates eith them, but I understand our circumstances are very different.

What I can definitely relate to is the struggles of sobriety. I know what incredible inner strength that takes to go through with it, and that's your strength, not Dave's. I'm not at a point where i'm ready to embrace full sobriety, but i'm proud of you for taking such an important step. /gen

Sometimes it's important to accept the unknown. You don't know where Dave is, but that's okay. Trust him to take care of himself as you are taking care of yourself. You have other people in your life now who want to be (and should be) let in. They aren't your new Dave. They're equally as important and unique.

By the way, i'm sure Dave would be proud of you if he knew what you were doing.

Keep it up,

Mod Haze (🥧Fiona)

[hazeofalterhumans]

SiNcE wE iS sHaRiNg ThIs BlOg NoW i GuEsS i'Ll SiT aNd SpIt FoR a MiNuTe.

I'm GaMzEe. A gAmZeE mAkArA fIcTiVe AnD a GaMzEe PeIxEs KiN. NoNe Of ThOsE iDeNtItIeS fEeL mOrE mE tHaN tHe OtHeR.

rIgHt NoW iM tHiNkInG aBoUt HoW mUcH i MiSs BeInG aBlE tO bReAtHe UnDeRwAtEr As A pEiXeS. aNd AlL tHe UnDeRwAtEr SeA cReAtUrEs WeRe So MoThErFuCkInG cUtE yO. :o(

AnYwAy HiT mE uP aT @mmmiraclesss iF yOu WaNnA rAp AbOuT tHiNgS wItH tHiS lOnElY cLoWn 💜💗 :o)

🐛GaMzEe

[inanewyorkstateofmindd]

tips for canonsickness? :(

[mlpkinfessions]

pinkie pie here!!! i just found out i kin pinkie n it sucks not having any memories. i feel like something is always pulling at me when i look at mlp content, i just cant figure out what. i do know that i miss my friends, especially twilight. i think twilight and i were especially close, but i dont remember. i think luna and i were good friends too, i get super good vibes from her. man this is whack :(( i just want my friends back

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[seamstress-kin-stop]

Hey everyone! Kinda in a canonsick funk lately for my four leaf Jane tl,so heres a Canon call.

My name was Janelle (jan-ell-) I was French and raised with my twin brother Becquerel.

Technically we both had the energy of the green sun running through us but I don't remember much about it other than it turned our hair white

We went by Jane and Bec accordingly.

We had white hair,like I said. we were very close,almost inseparable. But not to an unhealthy extent. Bec had PTSD that came from a car crash that killed our mother,and Autism i think. Its fuzzy

Bec was in a relationship with a teen our age named lynn, i don't remember much about them.

Through Lynn we met rose and her older sister and biological mother roxy. I don't think I ever knew the striders,I may have known jade though. Beyond that I have few memories of the others atm.

The trolls played an 6 player game,being domini scrach (doc scratch),kanaya,sollux, aradia,???,and feferi.

I was in a relationship with domini.

If anyone knows anything or this seems familiar, please please contact me here or at @puppet-cat-kinnie ,I miss my family and my friends.

14-19 ig. I'm a minor so keep that in mind!

Here's an edit of me in that tl

-mod cal (jane clover shift)

[zeppelinangel]

i slept so much better when i was wrapped up in your arms.