#cis or trans

[transworldofgirls]

[dalesramblingsblog]

IDK man this gender BS is so confusing. Like, I don't really like being seen as a man and assumed to be into all these conventionally manly things and fulfilling all these conventionally manly roles. But that's not really out of some desire to be seen as a woman, it's more like... I just don't want people to make assumptions about me based solely on my physical appearance.

I have zero desire to physically transition, I'm perfectly fine with my body and gender presentation the way it is But it sucks just knowing that me, who I am, is read from a distance as the one thing that I can never measure up to: a conventionally masculine man

I don't wanna be seen as a man, I don't wanna be seen as a woman, I don't wanna be seen as non-binary. I don't wanna be seen as anything but who I am, take it or leave it, and I hate that I have basically zero control over that because we've all decided men can't be feminine or whatever. I guess transitioning would make it more likely for me to be seen as feminine, but I'm also perfectly happy living as I am. But oh no, I can put on Vespertine and cry and apparently that's feminine so apparently despite the fact that most people would clock me as a man at a distance of fifty yards, man card revoked.

It's all so fucking made up and I wish none of it impacted my life.

[atowncalledher]

Hey. Guys. Men. I love you y'all are so cool.

[horizonboundtrainer]

May's forced by politics to sire at least one child with Zinnia whether either of them like it or not. May might not care about bloodlines but there's hundreds of thousands of people who do. ( Modern biotech makes the whole thing a trival matter. ) Preferably a daughter because the Lorekeeper is always legally a woman and it'd be easier for a girl to handle the whole thing than one who isn't.

( It's been done before btw. All male Lorekeepers get treated as women while conducting duties for as long as they hold the role. This is seen as normal. )

She's much more ambivalent about the whole matter than anything tbh. May would be be the kind of parent who has all the time in the world for everyone's children but her own. Like sure, it's easier when there's more than two parents involved but those poor kids are gonna end up with issues.

[arcadialedger]

It’s International Women’s Day! Ladies, time to listen to Shania Twain and kick down a fucking door.

[nedlittle]

it makes me sad the way cis women are so terrified of and disgusted by their own body hair. and i'm not talking "i have to shave for sensory reasons" i mean i keep seeing videos of women using hair identifier spray on their faces and hands so they can shave the tiniest barely-there bits of peach fuzz that came free with their bodies. hair that serves a purpose and that purpose is cleanliness and protection. i mean when i was in elementary school girls who had barely hit puberty were talking about shaving their arms. i mean full-grown adult women who will have a breakdown if they see two days of stubble on their legs/crotch/ jaw/pits because god forbid you don't look like a perfect plastic barbie doll. god forbid your body that keeps you alive comes with hair that may not be soft and glossy and photogenic. some women are so afraid of having any hair apart from their head and eyebrows that they've uno reversed themselves into six different kinds of gender dysphoria that they can't recognize as such because they're convinced that this unnatural state of highly-groomed capital-informed beauty is how women have always been. you're so scared of looking "gross" or "ugly" or "mannish" that you can't even look at your body in the mirror and recognize what it is. sister you are an ape. why are you so determined to deny your nature.

[scramratz]

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

My twin brother is the most important person in my life. He is a wonderful, kind person who (like me) often struggles with communication. But I never doubt that he loves me and he supports me. Where he struggles with stating feelings, he excels in gestures to show his love and support. On top of learning how to braid hair, he also did intricate research into fashion to help me develop my style, stood with me in the face of transphobia in the workplace, and buys me plushies when he knows that I'm sad. I would not be where I am today without him.

[jackalpants]

THE CHAFF PROJECT

Hi! Are you cis in the UK and you'd like to support trans rights? Great!

How: buy a trans flag pin and wear it in public.

Why: chaff is an overwhelming amount of false positives so that when a missile gets close to the plane, it hits the chaff and not the plane.

In practice: the goal is to make it DIFFICULT to identify trans people to target with bathroom bans, and to create many FALSE POSITIVES for businesses.

Basically, you might get accused of being trans and kicked out, because of the badge. You say: I wear the badge because trans rights matter.

You follow up with a letter to the business saying you're fucking furious because some nosy dipshit just tried to play fucking genital police with you in the loos. You know lots of trans people (don't name any, if you do) and you wear the pin in support and you're disgusted at them for allowing this.

Blame the business for allowing the behaviour.

Businesses see that their cis customers are getting bothered over a badge and may clarify trans-inclusive policies, so they can kick out the bathroom botherers instead of nice cis allies.

You only need to buy and wear the badge, and you are protecting trans people. You can be genuinely heroic. Even one cis person doing this helps, and everyone you get to join in helps even more.

Non-affiliated badge link:

https://rainbowandco.uk/collections/trans-pride/products/transgender-pride-flag-badge

[pers-books]

Nicola Coughlan Raised Over £70,000 for Trans Rights Following U.K. Court Ruling

The Bridgerton star called the ruling “stomach turning and disgusting.”

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Bridgerton star Nicola Coughlan has raised over £70,000 (roughly $96,000) for the trans charity Not A Phase following the U.K. Supreme Court’s Wednesday ruling that the legal definitions of “man” and “woman” are based on a person’s “biological sex.”.

The ruling’s long-ranging effects are still up in the air, but it is poised to have chilling, far-ranging effects on trans rights in the U.K. As legal researcher Jess O’Thompson explained on LGBTQ+ news site Queer AF, trans people in the U.K. can now be excluded from all “single-sex” spaces under any circumstances and cannot make equal pay claims.

British anti-trans advocates have been publicly celebrating the news, including Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling, who posted a photo of herself enjoying a cigar and drink on X with the caption “I love it when a plan comes together” after reportedly donating over £70,000 to For Women Scotland, the anti-trans organization that had brought the Supreme Court case forward. Yet other U.K. celebrities, like Coughlan, have wasted no time publicly reaffirming their support for the trans community in the ruling’s aftermath.

On April 17, Coughlan took to Instagram to announce that she was launching a fundraiser for Not A Phase, a trans charity that aims to improve the lives of trans adults across the U.K. “through awareness campaigning, social projects, and funding trans+ lead initiatives,” per the organization’s official website. The actress originally set a fundraising goal of £10,000 and pledged to match donations up to that amount.

“To see an already-marginalized community… be further attacked in law is really stomach turning and disgusting, and these people celebrating it [are] more stomach turning and disgusting,” Coughlan said in a video. “If you are a cisgender person who is an ally of a trans person, I think now is the time to just… speak up and make your voice heard, and let your trans, nonbinary friends and just the community at large know that you’re there for them and will keep fighting for them.”

Just an hour after launching the fundraiser, Coughlan shared on her Instagram Story that fans had already met her £10,000 target. In just over 24 hours, the fundraiser has raised well over £70,000 at the time of writing. She has since set a new fundraising goal of £79,699.21 (roughly $105,725).

Coughlan isn’t the only cis U.K. celebrity who’s spoken out on behalf of trans rights following the Supreme Court’s ruling. On April 17, The White Lotus star Aimee Lou Wood re-shared a post from LGBTQ+ activist Ellen Jones to her Instagram Story denouncing the ruling.

“Pure rage,” Wood captioned her story. “This country is a hell hole.”

Coughlan’s Bridgerton co-star, Charitha Chandran, also called out the ruling in an April 17 TikTok that has received over 2.3 million likes.

“How pathetic to target one of the most oppressed groups in our society,” Chandran said. “Honestly? Loser behaviour… You don’t care about women. You just want to target those who are already oppressed.”

[stormtide-leviathan]

I don't actually want to pass as cis, I want to be visibly a trans woman and be gendered correctly because people see trans women as equally women as cis women

[chilewithcarnage]

before you jump to compare a trans woman to a male celebrity, first bang your head against the wall several times until you see red

[borgerman]

when i was in elementary school i was watching something on tv with my mom and the subject of body hair (on men) somehow came up. i said i thought armpit hair was gross, a sentiment i no longer share, and my mom jokingly asked if i'd make my husband shave. i looked her dead in the eyes and said "yes."

anyway guess who turned out to have very little interest in men at all

[cat-in-a-mech-suit]

Being forcefully raised as a woman is not any less traumatic and emotionally repressive as being forcefully raised as a man. Femininity is not inherently pure and safe. Coercing someone to perform femininity is not any less toxic than coerced masculinity. Being dysphoric around femininity or having trauma from women doesn’t make you a misogynist.

[scramratz]

My hottest take (and I genuinely do believe this) is that most trans women pass perfectly well. They just don't pass as supermodels. Every "nonpassing" trans woman I've ever met looks like your average midwestern cis woman.