#controlling a problem vs helping a person

[vaguely-concerned]

there's a self-help/mental health adjacent post that's going around and it seems to be really helpful for a lot of people which is very good. I also personally hate it with all my fucking heart

[northopalshore]

The 1st house & 7th house of the ascendant persona chart

You & your partner

Since my specialty is love, I thought it would be fun to do a comparison between you and your partner post ; more specifically, your character & how you are seen vs how your partner's character is like & seen as! It's also how you sort of act together. Note that this is not the only way to interpret these placements!

♡ 🕊️ Movie title: Drowning Love (2016)

Masterlist| Ascendant persona chart| Juno in the ascendant persona chart

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🕊️ Your rising sign & yourself

˚₊‧꒰ა ♡ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

‧꒰ა Aries ໒꒱ ‧

You are passionate, and bold, have the energy of a leader and someone that everyone can trust. Though the duality lies within your quick temper and constant sense or need of urgency. You are fun most of the time but still hold a lot of combativeness. For some people, you may seem like a ticking time bomb as well! You have a lot of energy and may appear quite argumentative to people who don't know you well (and those who know you as well haha!). Between you and your spouse, people just know you are the leader in the relationship but also the one that tends to take the "my way or the highway" route. You also show more emotion compared to your partner.

‧꒰აTaurus ໒꒱ ‧

You have an astute sense of elegance and loyalty, though you also prove to have quite the stubborn (& lazy) streak! People tend to trust you easily, and find you nonthreatening! You may often get compliments for how down to earth or cute you look by strangers or people who sort of know you. Compared to your partner, you are seen as dopey, friendly, feminine (for women especially), you just feel like a partner and usually the one that gets approached (or has more friends). You could gain a lot of attention for your looks as well.

‧꒰ა Gemini ໒꒱ ‧

You are very fun, and are usually the one that lightens the atmosphere around you. When you're with your spouse, your enthusiasm only increases and you are usually seen as excited and eager to do something. You are a social butterfly whether you actively search for people to talk you or not, people notice you due to your friendly and expressive personality. You are usually the one to start most conversations with your partner and maintain that level of enthusiasm throughout. Either way, you may be a beacon of optimism to you partner.

‧꒰ა Cancer ໒꒱ ‧

You are caring, gentle and supportive. You have a very sensible yet emotionally expressive way of carrying yourself compared to your spouse. You are likely the more "subtle" counterpart that people (especially women) are drawn to a lot. You have a sweet angelic presence and treat your spouse with much care and respect (though you can let your feelings get the best of you at times).

‧꒰ა Leo ໒꒱ ‧

"I'm quite the catch" I can imagine you telling yourself lol. You have a strong, confident and likeable personality. You may have a lot of friends and admirers and love to stand out and catch peoples' attention whenever you go out. You are very attractive; that's a given and are have a louder presence than your partner usually. People notice you before your spouse due to that radiance that you possess. You are very proud of your partner as well, and may like to show them off.

‧꒰ა Virgo ໒꒱ ‧

You are a very hardworking person and may be the one to help people around you quite often. You do have a tendency to be judgmental of others, and quite critical of yourself as well. You have your shit together and most of the time have to be in control of even the smallest things in your life. You are the problem solver in the relationship and may be quite the "nag" to your partner. Constantly pushing themselves to be and do better for their own sake.

‧꒰ა Libra ໒꒱ ‧

You are elegant and gracious. Between you and your spouse people will always look to you with adoration and sometimes question your choice of uh partner. You may also be quite the popular one around the opposite sex and that may irritate your partner lol. Compared to your partner you are seen as more level headed when you are together.

‧꒰ა Scorpio ໒꒱ ‧

You are seen as a quiet, calculating individual. You tend to speak only when spoken to and have somewhat of an uninviting look on your face. It's as if not everyone is willing or able to talk to you. Some of you with this placement may associate yourselves with alternative fashion as well i.e specifically ones that wear a lot of black. Either way, you are extremely devoted & attached to your partner, taking the position of the protector in the relationship.

‧꒰ა Sagittarius ໒꒱ ‧

You are seen as quite the people person! People also find you quite attractive and friendly. You go through life with a very open minded approach, and possess a sort of innate wisdom to you. You treat your partner as your friend and your companion. Someone strong on their own but you're always there for them when necessary. People are easily drawn to you as well because of how friendly (and likely how attractive you are).

‧꒰ა Capricorn ໒꒱ ‧

You are very adult if that makes sense. People see you and know how reliable you are, you could even have people assuming that you're older than your age too. You just look like you got your shit together & may even have the track record to prove you are tougher than most people are willing to be. You are very supportive of your partner and very understanding as well; you're not easily shaken by measley problems or misunderstandings in your relationship. Between you and your partner, people know you are not easy to mess with and likely have the final say in the relationship.

‧꒰ა Aquarius ໒꒱ ‧

You are very sharp though some may categorize you as an idiosyncratic. You give space to your partner and likely look very pleased in the relationship due to your partner's ability to let you be yourself. People think of you as the people's person between you and your spouse. You are likely the one to deal with socializing and even thinking of new things to do together and may even dranging your partner into doing things they may have never thought they would do. You are also the likely the smarter one out of the two of you.

‧꒰ა Pisces ໒꒱ ‧

People find you to be quite the sweetheart. You are very sweet and compassionate, and may relinquish all thoughts whenever you are next to your partner (a true passenger princess/prince). Though you are quite sociable, you aren't exactly the one to actively try to get yourself in the spotlight and would much prefer staying somewhere familiar with your partner. You tend to be the more clingy counterpart in the relationship.

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🕊️ Your descendant & your partner

˚₊‧꒰ა ♡ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

‧꒰ა Aries ໒꒱ ‧

My what a partner! They have a very strong character, and are not one to stand still in the dark doing nothing. They may be quite competitive in nature; meaning they may enjoy (or have the habit) to compete with you, tease you or even get on your nerves for fun (or for their own benefit like proving a point/the sake of it). People may see them as domineering, and quick to anger or get upset easily but it's not the only thing to them. They are also one to stick with you when the going gets tough

‧꒰ა Taurus ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is incredibly friendly and though are quite composed in nature may have a bit of a shy streak. They may be slightly clumsy as well and a lot of times you may find yourself being the one to pick up after them or look out for them. Even if they are independent on their own, with you it seems their mind may go autopilot. Your partner is also very sweet and is seen as quite reliable to other people. You may often get a lot of compliments for your partner too.

‧꒰ა Gemini ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is creative and incredibly humours. They have a silly, open energy that always brings a smile to your face and to others, they are quite the fun person to be around. They may have very animated expressions or way of speech that feel rather cartoonish (?). They seem to be your funny guy/girl that brings energy, optimism and thought provoking ideas into the mix whenever you're around them. They are your person to talk to who is always supportive of your ideas (whether good or bad). They gas you up.

‧꒰ა Cancer ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is a shy but friendly person. They can be quite clingy & sensitive but for the most part are very supportive & sweet regardless of their gender. They could have an innocence to them and may have an eager side to them as well. Your partner may be seen as rather immature or pure to others. They can't seem to shake this good boy/girl vibe to them. They are dependable and always by your side. They tend to be straightforward with their intentions too. Not one for mind games.

‧꒰ა Leo ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is quite the charismatic bastard (lol). They have a strong personality, a sense of loyalty, yet value your independence and personal life. They have a strong character that likely took years to build and are generally masculine or confident of themselves. They may be a little self centered and narcissistic, but they have a generous approach to life and those around them.

‧꒰ა Virgo ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner may look like quite the goody two shoes lol. They are neat, well mannered, practical and sensible towards you and others around them. They may be quite the people pleaser though; always doing things for you and others. Your partner is likely quite smart and calculating as well but they have an approachable enough approach to other (though they may be intimidating to some). They just look and feel like they were raised well.

‧꒰ა Libra ໒꒱ ‧

You partner is quite agreeable and has a "classy" energy to them. They are very well dressed in public and may keep some sort of pleasant appreance when they are out and about. Your future spouse is likely very popular, and may be quite the Casanova whether they intend to or not. People may unintentionally (or intentionally) flirt with your partner while you're in public as well.

‧꒰ა Scorpio ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is quite the intimidating person, they could come adorning a grey cloud on their head as well! They are very private and sensitive, but love to keep you & the people they loves close to them. They could come off as more gloomy or condescending/closed off than you are and people may be somewhat hesitatent to approach you due to the terrifying presence of your spouse!

‧꒰ა Sagittarius ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is quite the popular person to be around; meaning they have many friends as is well respected wherever they are at. They are very funny, and has quite the extensive knowledge (street smarts & experience). They have high ambitions but are down to earth and lighten any room they walk into. Usually very realistic although they may have a tendency to aim a little too high at times. They treat you as their equal for the most part, but do tend to idealise you or praise you to the heavens. They have a big personality lol.

‧꒰ა Capricorn ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is extremely self-sufficient, and may be quite focused on their self and career for the most part. However, when it comes to your relationship, they are the type to stick it through until the end. They may be the one to plan things for you and " take care" of you so to speak. They are responsible and assertive; they may take the lead in your relationship and act like your guardian. People know that the way to get through you is to get through your partner.

‧꒰ა Aquarius ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is quick witted and seen as someone very capable at what they do. They are likely different from the type of people you usually surround yourself with (and stick out like a sore thumb) but to me, that's a good thing; they are able to show you a different world and way of thinking. They are smart, entertaining and secure about themselves and who they are, though you may find their eccentricities to be rather embarrassing at times. It adds to the fun of being together.

‧꒰ა Pisces ໒꒱ ‧

Your partner is an extremely relaxed person. They have a mellow but reassuring personality, often being the type that people vent to. They are a good listener & do have a lot of patience, though they can be a bit of a drama queen or have tunnel vision at times i.e victimize themselves. They are typically wholesome and may always be seen next to you as well.

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🕊️ Your relationship

Note that since the degrees are the same for your rising & descendant, I'll be interpreting that as the vibe of your relationship for this post specifically!

˚₊‧꒰ა ♡ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

👉🏻 (°0 )

Your relationship is strong yet unpredictable. Both of you seem to be drawn to each other like magnets and are a catalyst (either for growth, love and affection or complete destruction and rebellion) for each other. People may have very mixed feelings about the both of you as well. Emotions run high between you and it can drive either you or others crazy at times.

👉🏻 (°1,°13,°25)

Your relationship is quite the rollercoaster. On one hand you are both independent and tough, but then that energy may be put up againsts each other; causing arguments and stubbornness to ensue. Still, there is this light-hearted young love to you that people will find entertaining. The type of love to make you feel giddy like a first love/highschool sweethearts.

👉🏻 (°2,°14,°26)

Your relationship is very sweet and stable, you may be quite physical (fond of PDA) when you are together. I see this in charts of couples who like to hold hands and kiss each other in public; even more so when it's just the two of you. Rest assured that your relationship is seen quite fondly by most people as you both are well mannered and presentable. Your relationship itself is also solid and secure.

👉🏻(°3,°15,°27)

Your relationship is very friendly and flirtatious at the same time. You may bounce between acting like friends and lovers, but you are always with each other and stick to each other like glue at times. You will have a lot of inside jokes and a lot of fun together too. People may think that your relationship is exciting and has a lot of drama or gossip surrounding it.

👉🏻(°4,°16,°28)

Both of you are very attached to each other, usually one of you is more dominant than the other (like the leader in the relationship). Both of you are supportive and relaxed around each other. Though comforting, your relationship may be rather codependent and smothering to others as well. Your relationship may have quite the healing effect to the both of you as well. You both are able to express your deepest burdens and let your guard down. That's what's most prevalent to others at least.

👉🏻(°5,°17,°29)

You relationship is very fun, you may find yourself laughing a lot together and people can see that. You have the type of relationship that makes you feel like a child again, both of you are very fun and expressive with each other. A little dramatic yes, but it's fun nonetheless. You both may be rather loud together and always have some sort of antics when you're out and about which draws attention to you whether you wanted it or not (like being loud at a restaurant). You may be quite the popular pair as well.

👉🏻(°6,°18)

Your relationship is very practical and mature. That being said it's not boring. You fit into each other's lives perfectly and you both put in the work to be with each other. You may always be seen together and mellow each other out (there's balance between how you act). You actively support each other and back up any thoughts, decisions or actions that your partner takes & vice versa. People can see that you teach each other to be better people.

👉🏻(°7,°19)

Your relationship will look very exclusive to other people. You feel and act like a proper partnership ( and may exhibit parent like energy too). You both may have that white picket fence type of relationship; proper, romantic and idealistic. You bounce well off each other and have a very romantic yet fair approach to your relationship.

👉🏻(°8,°20)

Your relationship is private, and protective. Both of you look like you are an untouchable pair, one that has each other's back and always there for each other. It might be difficult to see what the both of you are doing behind closed doors, but everyone will just know that you both are in deep (in more ways than one lmao). People will also think you are quite scandalous together (something about your relationship is rather controversial).

👉🏻 (°9,°21)

Your relationship is supportive, and has a very casual feel. Both of you really feel and act like old friends and have no problem communicating your thoughts together. You have deep moments, but they may come across as teasingly; like you aren't in a rush to do or go anywhere because you know you can do whatever with your partner and they'll be there. Both of you are the wise friends that walk through life in your own pace.

👉🏻(°10,°22)

Your relationship is strong, enduring. People can tell that your relationship is one that can stand the test of time and may put some sort of expectation onto you & your partner as well like "The world ends when they break up" or something along that line. Usually this shows up in relationships that last a looooong time and has very few shake ups in between. Congratulations!

👉🏻(°11,°23)

Your relationship is good-humored, eccentric, flexible, liberal and exciting. You tend to love joking around with your partner with this placement. It's like two weirdos that come together to form their own two person weirdo team and now it's them against the world. Both of you encourage and enable each other to be wilder and less restrictive around each other. You may have quite the unconventional relationship.

👉🏻(°12,°24)

There is something mystical about your relationship, and almost elusive. Your relationship is very private, romantic and idealistic; to others you look like true lovers. One that seems to have everything figured out between you two. The type of relationship that people idealize. You both may seem to be intune with each other on every level. You may worship each other too.

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🕊️ Planets & asteroids in the 1st & 7th house

˚₊‧꒰ა ♡ ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

‧꒰ა 5129 Groom ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st house

You are seen as quite the man , or the leader in your relationship. You take your responsibilities & your spouse (usually feminine) very seriously.

In the 7th house

Your partner is very loyal & hardworking. If you are the male (if you find yourself more masculine too) counterpart, they are very loyal to you and may think of you highly. They themselves are self-sufficient.

‧꒰ა 19029 Briede ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st house

You are seen as extremely lovely, some may associate you as a lover or a wife (specifically after marriage), the mom friend & see that being a wife suits your image a lot or you place a lot of pride into being a bride.

In the 7th house

Your wife or your marriage is very important to you, some people that have this are extremely devoted to their lover. Your partner is a lovely person with a natural caregiver energy. They just look and feel like a wife/male wife to others. They are charismatic and smart as well.

‧꒰ა 3 Juno or 1487 Boda ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st house

You take your relationships seriously, and are quite the dedicated person. Your partner means a lot to you and you may have a somewhat public relationship with them; meaning you are usually spotted either working or spending time with your partner. You likey mirror your partner in some way; they see themselves in you and you in them. You may be quite proud of your relationship as well. Your relationship, and marriage is the first thing that people may notice about you since you tend to flaunt it/show it off.

In the 7th house

Your partner is a reflection of you, they are loyal and dutiful, and may appear quite professional to some people. Your marriage is well-established and is deeply tied to the both of you. People may see you as sort of a brand together or think of you as one. People may think your partner is really devoted and carries that "spouse" energy really well.

‧꒰ა Sun ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

You are likely the one to lead, and also the more lively/social and noticable out of you two. Your personality is strong and infectious; regardless of what sign it's in.

In the 7th House

Your partner has a strong presence and is unapologetically themselves. They stand out a lot whether it's intentional or not in their perspective. They tend to be rather positive and assertive as well; they light up any room they walk into (or dim it depending on other aspects/placements lol).

‧꒰ა Moon ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

You are the more emotional expressive person in the relationship. People may find you to be easier to read than your spouse and may form a connection with you easily. You may be quite clingy or enjoy depending on your partner from time to time. You are very nurturing to your partner but may be quite moody around them too. You can be seen as rather immature or "pure " as well compared to your partner.

In the 7th House

Your partner is very affectionate and kind, though they may have a codependent or erratic streak to them when it comes to their reactions. They are vulnerable with you and people are also easily drawn to them due to their openness. In retrograde though, they could be tight-lipped or be rather dry and prefer to be on their own for the most part. They also might find physical affection rather uncomfortable (depending on the sign like it's that way for Cancer but in Aquarius that retrograde suddenly makes them more physical).

‧꒰ა Mercury ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

You are seen as very intelligent and a bit of a smarty pants by others. You tend to be the more reliable one in the relationship; planning dates, activities, trips for the both of you, being the one to face the dreaded reception in any hotel or restaurant you go to.

In the 7th House

Your partner likely handles a lot of the socialising or planning on your behalf. They will also be quite generous with compliments though they expect the same in return. Your partner is very sharp and perceptive, they may be quite the yapper as well lol at least that's how they come across.

‧꒰ა Venus ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

People find you to be very charismatic. You are very generous with your partner even if it's sitting in "rigid" signs, like Virgo, Capricorn or Aquarius especially, you will still likely reciprocate your partners affections or even initiate them. You may be open to the idea of public displays of affection as well.

In the 7th House

Your partner is a very attractive and romantic person. People are easily drawn to your partner and may find them to be even more attractive when they are next to you (or compared to you lol). They dress nice, look like and smell nice too. They may be quite affectionate even in public. They adore you greatly but may treat you as an accessory at times.

‧꒰ა Mars ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

You are very attractive to the opposite sex (but men especially even if you are a man and straight lol) and that may be a little irritating to your future spouse especially if you work out a lot; it's really obvious. You are more active or athletic than your spouse and it shows. You tend to make most of the first moves and like being quite direct with your actions compared to your spouse. You are this extremely protective and may have a bit of a jealous streak around them.

In the 7th house

Your partner is a doer, and may be quite restless. They have a lot of energy and may like dragging you along to do a bunch of different things together. They are quick, and may have a lot of movements (meaning they use a lot of body language when they talk).They are attractive to men They may have a rather stubborn streak to them as well. In retrograde or in Pisces/conjuncting Neptune or Uranus they may be a bit lazy or have the tendency to procrastinate a LOT compared to you (have a go with the flow attitude).

Ex: Blake Lively has Mars in Aries° 9 Sagittarius in the 7th house. Ryan Reynolds is everyman's crush lmao.

‧꒰ა Jupiter ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

You have a big personality and often capture a lot of people's attention due to your outward personality. People may come up to you a lot in public and find you incredibly.. well incredible. In retrograde though, you may be on the rather shy and quite side but it doesn't negate your socializing skills. People do notice you but they don't really "idealize" you per say. You have quite charisma but that retrograde instead, gives you that desire to be seen (could mean you are a little bit narcissistic lol).

In the 7th House

Your partner is fun, energy and lively. They leave a big impression wherever they go and may be quite popular too (like socially) and have lots of friends. They may be quite the talker and be seen as very naturally magnetic to others. Around you they are very funny and optimistic but still seem like the "wiser" counterpart. They may always have some sort of lesson or revelation that they hand to you now and then. In retrograde, your partner may be seen as "easy" to some or overly cautious. People may think your partner puts a lot of blind faith onto you as well.

‧꒰ა Saturn ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

You are very practical around people & your partner, better you two people tend to trust your judgement more than your partner's just because of that older/mature vibe you give off. Likewise, you tend to be the problem solver or the one you partner comes to for support or to vent out their frustrations. In retrograde however, you may be a little immature at times and set some sort of tunnel vision in your head (you can appear to be one-track minded), also you may have a more youthful presence.

In the 7th House

Your partner is a loyal person and people see them as such. Your partner isn't one to play around and are rather sure of themselves. They are hardworking and serious. They may come across as boring, controlling & domineering to some. They could look rather bland when compared to you. It may show up as the opposite if its conjuncting Uranus or Saturn is in Aquarius; meaning they can be seen as quite flighty and unfaithful or lazy, may be a bit of a player or look like one.

Ex: Cardi B has Chiron retrograde in the first house and Saturn is in Aquarius (7th House) which means they opposite each other. If I recall correctly after listening to her album Invasion of Privacy its quite evident that Offsets' infidelity made her quite insecure of herself (even though she's beautiful & usually very confident about her looks).

‧꒰ა Neptune ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

You are well liked by a lot of people and are quite the people-person. You may like to keep yourself busy or surround yourself with a lot of people. You are willing to go the extra mile for your partner, you likely feel like an angel to your partner though you may not see it yourself. You possess much versatility and are more easygoing than your partner.

In the 7th House

Your partner is quite the obfuscating enigma lol, though they are seen as someone incredibly romantic and would go to the far end of the sea for you if you so please. They have a go with the flow attitude, and may prefer to follow your lead with whatever choices you make. They may worship you to the ends of this earth. In retrograde, they may look like a puppet on your string at times.

‧꒰ა Uranus ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

Anywhere you see Uranus it can cause the previous attributes (at least some of it to be the opposite of what it's meant to be). The context depends on the sign itself but Uranus here specifically makes you more carefree and outgoing. You tend to be self sufficient for the most part and do not really require a partner to be fulfilled in life; you are usually seen on your own, doing your own thing. If you do have a partner you may seem like close friends or not be seen together much.

In the 7th House

Your partner is a very independent person. They are quite intelligent ( in their own way) and have a variety of people around them for the most part. They are your energizer, your personal weirdo that loves to spice up or wreck your day with their antics lol. They will seem like your best friend that's very different from you; like if you are naturally well mannered & book smart then your spouse is creative and has no filter.

‧꒰ა Pluto ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st house

You are sexy as hell yes, but you are also possessive as hell over your partner. You can be a bit oppressing around them, constantly looking to have their attention and see what they see. You could look rather rude to certain people especially when they're crossing the boundaries that you set up in your head. In retrograde though, you are very lenient (much, much more lenient that expected) to the point that your partner may want you to be jealous & protective to some degree.

In the 7th House

Your partner can be quite the handful. As in, hand full of your neck when you so much as sit too closely to the opposite sex (eye rolls, side eyes, expect all the eyes). They are very expressive but also very picky with what they choose to express. They are incredibly sensual and loving when it's just the two of you but it's advisable to look out for yourself because they can be quite petty lol.

‧꒰ა Chiron ໒꒱ ‧

In the 1st House

You have the tendency to overcompensate for yourself when you're with your partner and although you mean well, they may find it difficult to trust you and you can see that. You may also break a lot of hearts when you start dating or being seen around your partner either because you are desirable or your partner is. You may feel a bit insecure of yourself as well compared to your partner. If it's in retrograde, then your partner may make you feel rather insecure about yourself especially if you are usually quite the flamboyant type. Either way, people will find you to be emotionally vulnerable yet have a healing presence.

Ex: Priscilla Presley has this placement. If you paid attention to their relationship back then or have read her book/watched Priscilla. Then you know how she felt trying to compensate for that power imbalance she had between her & Elvis. Seemingly always doing more.

In the 7th House

Your partner is quite the timid person and they may have a lot on their mind (the type to stress or overcomplicate things), they may have a fear of intimacy or rejection and may seem pale (or think of themselves that way) in comparison to you. Your partner is a natural caregiver and have a tendency to say yes to too many things they they might regret later. They have this eagerness to them; not wanting to let you down. In retrograde though, they may adopt a victim mindset and be rather pessimistic.

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In the 1st house

You are an eccentricity. You are very independent and a little strange, people may find themselves easily drawn to you because of that exact reason including your partner. You may be the "stand out character" between you and your partner and may have interesting (or rather dangerous) ways to present yourself with your partner. People may be jealous of your partner for being with you as well.

In the 7th house

Your partner is an unconventional type of person. Very bold & powerful , but also slightly narcissistic or uncanny in some way shape or form. You yourself may have (an) unconventional relationship (s) as well. Some individuals with this placement may choose not to marry, or have trouble fitting in with their partner. You could feel like they do not being you fulfilment (or people may think you do not like being in the same boring relationship for that long). If you do get together with someone, they are usually criticized due to their character or looks; thinking they aren't as up to par as you. People may also be jealous of your partner.

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[bunnwich]

HELLO! Do you have a summary of how you portray Leona's personality in your stories? I'm a big fan of your Leona and Yuu stories and I've read them multiple times www /gen I always feel like you just nail how he would act and say things and you inspire me to work on my own fics and get better at writing scenarios with him. Than you in advance ily🙏 🦉anon

How I Portray Leona in General and in Romance

HI ANON! So I've gotten this question a few times and someone in my discord asked me basically the same thing so I'll share with you what I wrote a few months ago about Leona and the general way I write him. (it's quite funny bc a lot of these things come up in Chapter 7 when we see his dream. I AM CURSED WITH APOLLOS'S GIFT OF PROPHECY WITH THIS MAN ISTG)

I hope this is helpful?? I would like to point out that the way I write Leona is fully based on my biases and life experiences. And that a big part of fandom is projecting what you wanna see in characters while still making them feel like the same character we know in canon, yk? Good luck with your fic writing! And thank you!! mwah mwah.💚 --

So Leona takes himself as a direct person, BUT he hides A LOT. He purposely misdirects people to get a reaction out of them. (Ex: pretending to be incompetent to anger someone) or he's playing with them. HE LOVES GAMES. Everyone is a chess piece, he has to feel in control bc that’s all he has ever had over everyone else; his wits. He’s a dickhead. He will say offensive shit to scare people off.

It’s a test to see who sticks around. He has no reservations when it comes to this. You take him as he is. And despite how some people write him he’s kinda silly? Like dad jokes. Why does he joke so much about eating people, who knows? (He says shit like Namby-pamby ffs) Why are you a 40y/o in a 20 y/o body?

I HC he purposely talks casually and gruff to distance himself from his upbringing. (I like to mix proper language and slang with him bc it feels right? Also lots of animal puns, and nicknames. HE'S CORNY AF)

In general, I don't think Leona is an entirely romantic person in canon, however in my timeline, I do HC that he, like Scar has this “want vs need problem” with connection to others. He thinks it's just praise he wants (or to be king) BUT he NEEDS TLC. What was Scar MOST jealous of at the end of the day?? Mufasa’s connections, a ✨queen✨, a family! BEING KING DID NOT MAKE SCAR HAPPY!! He needs to be needed and in Chapter 2 novella, he admits he HAS to numb himself to not care. I feel like this is something he constantly battles with. Yeah, he's lazy but it's partly bc he’s tired. He’s burnt out.

On the surface, he projects 100% nonchalance. He wants you to think everything he says is just "off the cuff", but it's not. He plans everything!!! He’s a mentor, big bro, caretaker. He is not the best at comforting words but he enjoys being a leader bc people appreciate him and look up to him. Something he never got at home.

Leona and ✨Romance✨

He fools himself into thinking he has the upper hand at first and keeps his distance keeping an eye on the object of his affection. Why would you catch his eye? Well, his greatest strength is picking up on OTHER STRENGTHS. Chessmaster. He is a mentorrrr and caretaker lowkey, he wants others to NEED him and rely on him. HE WANTS YOU TO NEED HIM.

At first, he would place himself in your path, trying to be helpful in a very tsundere type way. But he would still be causal and keep ruffling your feathers to gauge how you feel for him. He guards his heart pretty heavily. And more and more he is slowly collecting info about you he would find more ways for these meetings to happen until he realizes: "Oh shit, I’ve caught feelings." This one is the winner. He’s the king of nonchalance but also...he’s a very overly sensitive person. No doubt he’s freaking out a little, he doesn't wanna screw this up. But, he’d never show it.

I do think he wants to be challenged and given some pushback (insert manga panel about "something being harder to get and therefore is better"), He wants to WORK for it, to prove himself to you that you SHOULD choose him. He wants to impress you. It makes him feel alive. A person who keeps him on his toes.

And once this ”game” of cat and mouse starts to happen. He might start to let his guard down if you are shown you can be trusted with his VERY VERY delicate feelings, that you DO accept his flaws, treat him differently than all others, and see past his gruff demeanor. It is a test of sorts. He is testing that you can “handle” him. MORE GAMES.

He’d let you set the pace though. He won't be the first to give in. To kiss you or confess first. But he would fall first HARD. He’s not been given much one-on-one attention in his life so he would crave that time with you. Physical touch is a big one, but he would not be pushy. He'd tease your boundaries and become addicted to your time together.

But yeah, this push and pull goes on for a while, all the while he’s gauging how you react to this. Memorizing it all.

He’s def one of those texters who erases their sentence like 5 times when they are nervous bc he is cookin' up the RIGHT response to endear you. (Not in a sappy way of course more in a: “I know you miss me, mouse.” snarky sorta way.) Though he can be self-deprecating on bad days. He’ll act confident, though soften up behind closed doors.

I think once he realizes that you have picked up on his simpery and there's no going back...all bets are off. He doubles down, no longer ashamed of hiding it. (Assuming at this point the person has reciprocated these feelings too!) He wants to be yours and he’s not subtle. Someone to be by his side.

Then you get the REAL simp Leona, who lowkey mumbles the sappiest shit to you in his native language when he holds you, (bc he’s still embarrassed to be vulnerable, though this will fade over time) He’ll be your biggest supporter, and wants you around him as much as you can be.

This just keeps going until you're married. Congrats you now have a lion to take care of forever.🦁 Hope this helps!✨

[rowie264]

Season 1: parallels are just nice addition to the story, making it deeper if you notice them

Season 2: parallels explain the plot, characters' actions and motivations

I have huge problem with Jayce being stuck in that chasm in alt_timeline as a parallel to Viktor's life (beside the fact that Viktor just watched him suffer when he could easily help him but not the point). This parallel just doesn't work for me because writers fucked it up.

First, i must say that parallel itself is not entirely correct.

Jayce breaks his leg on accident while Viktor was disabled because of gasses where he grew up. Personal mistake vs something beyond your control.

Jayce crawls his way up to survive in the wild while Viktor was fighting his way up among people. Fight against nature vs fight against society.

These little nuances wouldn't even matter if the show wasn't trying to convince you that Jayce understood Viktor and his motives after this expirience.

Because he didn't.

More precisely, writers didn't.

They wrote "you've always wanted to cure what you thought were weaknesses" speaking about Viktor's leg and desease and this line ruins everything because it's simply not true.

It was never shown that Viktor saw it as weaknesses. He just wanted to save himself from dying.

So the parallel doesn't work for me because in the end it just looks like Jayce judged wrong (even though the show sets it up like he was right)

[genderkoolaid]

this is a genuine question-- not trying to bait. you seem reasonable and knowledgeable and opinionated about lots of issues.

what's your opinion/ stance on paraphilias? how do you see the distinctions between "kink" "fetish" and "paraphilia"? and any other takes you have about "harmful" paraphilias that you don't see discussed often, etc.

Some general thoughts on the topic:

I am strongly against the idea of thoughts or feelings alone bearing moral weight. I think the idea that they do does far more harm than good, as it puts pressure on people to micromanage their internal experiences through shame, and that prevents them from being able to have a calm and reasonable understanding of their own thoughts and feelings. When you aren't afraid of having thoughts or feelings, it is much easier to identify how they influence and make choices accordingly.

All of these categories are made up by people, so I don't think there necessarily are distinctions. IIRC "paraphilia" is a specifically psychiatric term. As people have discussed elsewhere, what is considered normal sexuality vs abnormal sexuality varies heavily across cultures, and I'm not super concerned with making a clear cut distinction for every experience. I think all things considered that the medical model of "it's not a clinical issue unless it's causing problems in your life & harm to yourself or others" is a good enough way of approaching things.

I think a lot of people conflate having certain thoughts or feelings with having impulse control issues, and assume that people with certain thoughts or feelings must be incapable (or will inevitably fail at) exercising their free will in navigating those feelings. Which ironically can create a self-fulfilling cycle where people get scared or ashamed of their feelings and never practice relating to them in healthy ways, so they do feel out of control. And for people with impulse control issues, they deserve support and assistance in that.

I choose to believe and act as though everyone has inherent worth and dignity on an existential level, and that cannot be changed or destroyed. No kind of sexual desire makes someone less of a person, or less deserving of being taken seriously and compassionately as a person.

Harm, both doing and receiving it, is an inevitable part of life and we will never get rid of this. The best way to deal with the inevitability of harming and being harmed is to build and maintain practices that help is navigate healing those harms.

I guess my "opinion on paraphilias" is that to a large degree it's none of my business what goes on in other people's minds, that shame and the model of thoughtcrime does more harm than good to everyone, people should be allowed to engage in weird sex stuff alone or with others who are consenting without having to justify themselves to strangers. Sex stuff and relates issues can be scary and complicated but we have to be brave about it and come up with ways of navigating these issues that are best for everyone, holistically.

[jubileebloom]

As much as I appreciate the people defending Ford in the wake of TBOB's release, and discussing the importance of avoiding victim-blaming and being aware of a person's environment, there's something specific that rubs me the wrong way about some of the things I've read.

The thing about abuse is that takes agency away from its victims. This is actually something that broadly applies to different forms of trauma, as I've just been going over in one of my classes on Adolescent Development. My professor for that class specializes in trauma-informing and training, so she has an entire unit on trauma as part of the syllabus, and one of the things she emphasized was that giving people agency and control over their own choices is critical to helping them recover from a traumatic event.

When it comes to Bill's possession of Ford, the lack of control is even more literal. Ford literally has his body puppeted by a demon, and his mind altered as well. Others have taken agency from him to a lesser extent—Stan limiting his choices in education, Fiddleford potentially using the memory gun on him, as another analysis post I can't find did a really good job of breaking down—but it's not as all-encompassing as Bill's abuse, and Stan and Fidds both make better choices later in the series. Bill refuses to.

But I'm getting off topic. My point is, Ford's loss of agency is one of the most crucial pieces of his character arc. It's why he lashes out so strongly when he returns home, against his will, to find that his identity has been stolen. It probably factors into his need to be the "hero", to be the one to defeat Bill. And even though he ultimately isn't that "hero", and he does let the Mystery Shack continue to operate, he does ultimately get more of a choice in the matter. He chooses to go along with the plan. He chooses to go with Stan on their long-overdue adventure.

But there's something else he does too. He apologizes.

Why is that so important? Because in regaining his sense of agency, he also undertakes the accountability that goes with it. He isn't solely to blame for everything that happened to him, or even necessarily every choice he made, but he did make bad choices.

And that's the thing that bothers me about some Ford analyses and defenses. Some people go too far and say that Ford isn't to blame for anything that he's done. Not only is that untrue, but it is once again stripping him of his agency. He is an adult capable of making his own decisions, and ergo capable of making bad decisions. And we need to accept that, without infantilizing him or blaming everyone else around him.

One of the things that compels me so much about Gravity Falls is that is generally does strike this balance pretty well, of personal agency vs. external circumstances. (There's also an excellent analysis post out there somewhere about Dipper and Mabel's agency, how the show doesn't force them to fix the problems of their predecessors or burden them exclusively with saving the world, but does still let them have agency and power in the fight and in Stan's recovery.) There are so, so many things that happen to the main cast that are mostly outside of their control, and also bad decisions that a lot of them have made that cannot be excused, at least not fully, by their circumstances.

And the beautiful thing about that agency is that these characters are also able to use it to become better people, to regain control over their lives, to take back power after it was taken from them. But you have to let them, and that includes letting them be people who messed up, owned up, and worked to make it better.

In fact, I think the reason that Ford is so quick to own up to his mistakes when it comes to Bill is because that's one of the ways he's taking back his power. He's incredibly stubborn when it comes to holding other grudges, but with Bill, he readily admits to Stan and Dipper separately that he's made some "terrible mistakes", to use his words. And he isn't to blame for falling for Bill's manipulation—Bill was the one actively manipulating—but no, he should not have summoned him to begin with. That doesn't make him deserving of anything Bill did to him, but by admitting to the mistakes he did make and working on a way to defeat Bill, it's letting him take back some amount of control in the whole situation. He can't make Bill change his ways, but he can own up to and correct the things he did wrong.

He does overcorrect a bit; I do think he blames himself too much for "falling for Bill's flattery." But generally, I like how he also doesn't try to blame Bill for every single thing that went wrong with the whole portal deal, like he (initially) did with some other situations, especially everything with Stan.

Anway. Let Ford make mistakes. Let him be wrong sometimes. Let him have his agency.

[avelera]

Thinking about how one of Mel's flaws as a character, as I see it, is that she's fixated on being the power behind the throne, rather than the power itself, despite already having all the ability she needs to be an effective and incisive ruler.

We first see this characteristic of Mel's when she's a child, picturing the sort of hand-picked regent she would select to be her family's puppet.

But Ambessa points out even back then that there's no reason Mel couldn't rule directly. This I imagine is part of the whole fox vs. wolf theme that is a source of tension between them.

In Mel's defense, there's plenty of good reasons to be the power behind the throne. It gives you a lot more deniability and an easy escape-hatch if something goes wrong. You can always throw the puppet to the wolves and start fresh. But it demonstrates a lack of commitment to always be hedging like that and it also lose you a certain amount of direct control. After all, the puppet can always grow teeth.

I think about this in relation to Jayce's Man of Progress image and how he needed to be the face of Hextech (and eventually a Councilor). Because why did he need to be the face of Hextech? Why couldn't Mel do it?

Mel was one of their first believers. She enabled their creation on the night of its inception. Why couldn't she be a partner in Hextech from the beginning, handling the public-facing side from the start? Or taken over from Jayce once it went from prototype to proven quantity?

I'd argue that if she had, a lot of the tragedies that befall Mel later would have been averted.

First of all, it's not as if there's an air-gap between the State and Hextech. There'd be no appearance of impropriety if Mel championed Hextech from the point where the Hexgates open. The Hexgates and Piltover had become synonymous by that point, there's no reason she couldn't continue to advocate and get funding for Hextech even as a Councilor. She had a skill for it, and the knowledge, and connections.

She could have allowed Jayce to remain in the lab, working on new innovations, occasionally coming out to offer the more scientific explanations as needed. But she didn't, why? (Doylist, obviously because we wouldn't have a story, etc. etc.)

I would argue it's part of the flaw or challenge she's facing in the story: she always wants to be the power behind the throne. So she helps elevate Jayce and supports his public persona. This persists until she sees an opportunity for an even bigger play by making Jayce a Councilor. Again, she sees a bright, charismatic, well-intentioned and easily-moldable person that she can work through to enact her own goals in Piltover and, because she is actually a good person, theirs too. She's not entirely self-serving and that's where she's different from Ambessa.

But this is where the problem of setting up a puppet sets in. Because Jayce has agency and he grows teeth and he pushes back on things Mel wouldn't want and does things she wouldn't advise with her superior political experience. Had she been the one in power instead of the power behind the throne, she could have avoided this, she could have molded the situation more specifically to her preferences, based on her superior knowledge. Jayce didn't want to be out in front of the crowd. He wanted to stay in the lab. Mel being the public face would have worked just fine for about 90% of the public appearances a representative of Hextech would need to make to the world. (I say this as someone who works as a public face in tech and has been a startup founder myself, such a role for Mel totally exists and often goes to someone who is a bigger name when the founders themselves are not charismatic or would simply prefer not to do all the wheeling and dealing.)

And this flaw loses her the relationship she could have had with Jayce, I'd argue. If she'd more directly worked alongside Jayce and Viktor, and taken over being the public face, she wouldn't have needed to manipulate Jayce or raise him to the Council, which were the dealbreakers that made him break up with her later.

Of course, they may not have had any reason to date in such a world but then, maybe they would have anyway as partners, now with a stronger foundation beneath them of working together, with both Jayce and Viktor relieved that the public, political side is being handled by a pro with a ton of resources (not that there wouldn't have been tension at all but certainly, this is a world in which I could see some flavor of MelJayVik happening harmoniously).

There's a Silicon Valley AU buried in all of this, free to a good home, but a world where Mel came on as a full partner early on would certainly be fascinating.

[bumbled-bees]

How Lily Draws In Her Audience

One of the more disturbing aspects of Lily’s influence is that she specifically attracts people who are vulnerable—people who have been abused, marginalized, or mistreated—and then weaponizes that against them.

For abuse survivors, especially those who are still healing, it’s easy to latch onto someone who speaks with absolute certainty. Lily presents herself as someone who’s been through it all, who knows what abuse looks like, who sees through manipulation—but in reality, she just demands blind loyalty and paints anyone who questions her as an abuser.

A few ways she traps people:

She presents herself as an authority on abuse. Since many of her fans are survivors, they naturally trust her judgment. But she exploits that by redefining abuse to suit her needs, convincing them that anyone who criticizes her must be an abuser.

She provides a "safe space"… that’s actually a trap. The more people invest in her community, the harder it is to leave. If they start questioning her, they risk losing their entire support system.

She feeds into their fears and trauma. Many of her fans have a deep fear of being manipulated again. Instead of helping them build healthy skepticism, she teaches them to see her enemies as manipulators while blindly trusting her.

She isolates people from outside perspectives. Any criticism of her is framed as “transphobia,” “abuse apologism,” or “bad faith.” This keeps people locked into her narrative because they fear being seen as bigots or enablers.

Lily also specifically appeals to neurodivergent and LGBT+ fans by framing herself as a champion for marginalized groups—someone who "tells it like it is" and "fights for the oppressed." But in reality, she weaponizes their experiences and struggles to keep them under her control.

How She Hooks Neurodivergent Fans

A lot of neurodivergent people, especially autistic folks, struggle with black-and-white thinking, difficulty navigating social nuance, and a strong sense of justice. Lily exploits these traits by:

Presenting herself as a voice of moral clarity. Many ND people prefer clear-cut rules over messy social politics. Lily gives them that by framing every situation as good vs. evil.

Encouraging "righteous" anger. Many ND people have been dismissed, gaslit, or ignored in real life. Lily taps into that frustration, making them feel validated—while directing their anger toward her enemies.

Punishing critical thinking. If someone questions her, she dismisses them as "brainwashed," "supporting abusers," or "part of the problem." Since ND people can already struggle with social cues, they may second-guess their own instincts and default to trusting her version of events.

Using a rigid rule system. Her community operates on a set of unspoken but harsh, inflexible rules. Break one, and you’re ostracized. Many ND people follow strict rules in social settings to avoid conflict, so they adapt to Lily’s without realizing they’re being manipulated.

How She Hooks LGBT+ Fans

Lily markets herself as an unapologetic trans woman who doesn’t care what cis people think. This attracts other trans and queer people, many of whom have faced discrimination and feel like they have to “play nice” in society. Lily offers them an alternative:

"You don’t have to be polite anymore." She encourages LGBT+ fans to be openly hostile to their critics. This is appealing to people who have been bullied, harassed, or discriminated against. But instead of healthy boundary-setting, Lily fosters a siege mentality—"you’re either with us or against us."

Weaponizing transphobia accusations. Any criticism of her, no matter how valid, is labeled transphobic. This makes her LGBT+ fans afraid to question her, because they don’t want to be seen as betraying another queer person.

Claiming she understands LGBT+ oppression better than anyone. She dismisses any queer person who criticizes her. She uses this as a way to delegitimize her LGBT+ critics—even though many of them respect her identity but simply disagree with her behavior.

Lily’s entire mode of operation hinges on controlling the narrative. She doesn’t present arguments—she declares facts and expects her audience to accept them without question. If you challenge her version of events, you aren’t just wrong in her eyes; you’re malicious, an enemy, a “stalker,” or a “bad faith actor.”

This is why she never provides evidence or proof for her claims. She doesn’t feel she needs to. Her authority as a figure in her community is enough for her followers. If Lily says something, then it’s true by default. Any contradictions or inconsistencies get hand-waved away because her fans trust her, not facts.

Her black-and-white mindset reinforces this. There is no room for nuance in her world. Either you support her fully or you’re against her completely. There’s no middle ground. This ensures that even when people start noticing inconsistencies, they’re unlikely to speak up for fear of being branded as part of the enemy camp. It’s easier to rationalize the contradictions than to risk being exiled.

This same strategy applies across all aspects of her behavior. She tells her fans Joon the King’s documentary is just drama and should be ignored—so they ignore it, despite the fact that it presents mountains of evidence.

This is why Lily thinks she can lie so freely. She assumes her audience won’t remember or care if she contradicts herself. And in many cases, she’s right. Because she’s conditioned them to trust her above all else.

[momochanners]

After a good night's sleep, I think I can better solidify my thoughts in regards to the Dragon Age trailer.

First, let's start with the positives:

- Companion diversity: This has always been part of the series' DNA that has been clearly depicted with every iteration, so those who cry foul over "Asian & Black elves", prosthethics, etc etc...I really don't get that, because values and sensibilities evolve over time. Even the series itself has course corrected when needed, eg. Player character creation influencing the family ethnicity of the Couslands in DA:O vs the Hawkes in DA2.

- Unlocked romances: Letting players choose whoever they want to romance regardless of their sexuality and race has always been a positive for me. Allowing everyone to enjoy the experience equally is great (and I'm sure the nuances of player race & gender will be addressed through dialogue and banter). Moreover, CRPGs are long and time-consuming, so to be locked out of character romances mid-way through is never going to be a good time (from personal experience and observing fandom in the past).

Now the negatives:

- Maybe it's me being on the older side of the Bioware fandom (15 years in Dragon Age, 20 years if you count older games like KotOR and Jade Empire), but I cringed very hard watching the trailer. If you followed the development of this game in the past decade, the cancelled live service element that was to be DA4 in one of its iterations was so all over the way the companions were introduced that it brought out a visceral reaction in me. The tonal whiplash from how foreboding Dreadwolf was presented in the past to the patronising happy quippy MEET OUR LITTLE GUYS YOU'RE SURE TO LOVE also did not help as a first concrete look of what to expect after all this time (also poor anachronistic choice of soundtrack when you already have Trevor Morris' compositions right there). I was so dismayed when they went with a looter-shooter-esque lighthearted vibe when they could've leaned hard on the foreboding established mood and momentum they've already got going with Dreadwolf. 

- The branding switch this late in the game that comes with it, especially one as drastic as this will always come with questions and ambivalence. I feel that mitigating uncertainty from announced changes (party number, combat mechanics, setting and environment, etc) should've have been prioritised to reassure existing and lapsed fans before appealing to new ones in such a jarring way.

-  I'm simply baffled at the marketing suit who signed off on whatever this is to be their "best foot forward" at reintroducing the final form of this game? If only there were confident with the world they've already built instead of relying on trendy gimmicks, the amount of damage control I'm seeing prior to the gameplay reveal tonight was so avoidable. Controlling the narrative from the get go is so very important especially now as opinions can easily snowball overnight into behemoth-like proportions especially from bad faith actors. You would think that lessons were learned from DA:O's "THIS IS THE NEW SHIT" and DA2's "Press a button, something AWESOME happens" debacles.

(The thing is, despite it being my least favourite DA out of the three, imho Inquisition has the best marketing campaign in the franchise despite the developmental troubles going on in the background. So it has been pulled off successfully before!)

- I think the Bioware layoffs, especially the recent extensive gutting of senior staff in September 2023, significantly depleted my goodwill as a fan. To see Varric being paraded as a mascot in the trailer, game promotion and supplementary media while having his creator unceremoniously let go after years of building the franchise we love left me so very cold. And it's a me problem, but seeing many other fans barely acknowledging that save for few hollow words before getting back into the fun frustrated me so much. I get being excited to finally get something solid after years of false starts, but with what was lost along the way...I personally don't feel right to approach this installment without cynicism.

Idk, I'm just a bundle of conflicted feelings over this series I guess? When it's so good, it's really good and stays with you as memorable gaming experiences that stays with you for life, but when it stumbles and fumbles the bag...it hurts to see.

[my-quirk-is-fred]

My take on the male loneliness epidemic:

It’s real, but not only is it not what people believe it to be, but it’s also not actually treated accurately by those that claim they are affected by it.

The cause of the epidemic is not one thing, not one factor, but a multitude of reasons that even men refuse to acknowledge and consider.

Whenever I see a man (and in some cases women), usually right leaning or incel-like, go on a tangent about the epidemic, it usually comes down to how they cannot get female strangers specifically to validate them. Seriously. There are men who complain about how women don’t appreciate or trust them (ex: bear vs man hypothetical), how they can’t get anything out of them (ex: a relationship), etc, and it always seems to actually downplay the epidemic that they claim to be effected by.

If you are lonely because you want a woman to validate you, then that is a self inflicted expectation that was inflated by the real issue. Women are not the real reason you are lonely.

Gay men are also affected by the same epidemic as straight men. And it’s not women who make them lonely.

So what is the cause of male loneliness? What is the root issue? And what is it that contributes and continues the epidemic?

Let’s dive into this, shall we…?

1. The start.

The male loneliness epidemic actually starts when you are a child. As a young boy, you are expected to be tough, responsible, in control, etc all while the adults push the expectations of getting a wife or a girlfriend on you.

You are expected to wear and like ‘boy’ colors, you are expected to like rough sports that may not have been your choice to begin with, you are expected to have your personal boundaries broken if it doesn’t align with the adult’s wants (ex: they cut off your long hair because it’s “gay”)

If you cry, they mock you for being pathetic.

If you emotionally reach out to another boy, you are called gay by your equally affected peers and adults.

If you reach out to a girl, everyone assumes you are romantically interested in her, which leads to you or the girl distancing yourselves from each other.

You are not allowed to develop emotionally, you are not allowed to explore boundaries and relationships, and you are not allowed to be human.

That. That is the core. The beginning of the infection.

It’s not your fault. You don’t deserve to be beaten or mocked when you cry.

But unfortunately, that is going to be ingrained into you for the next several years…

2. Growing expectations.

As you get older, people expect you to take on bigger responsibilities and they expect you to like it. They want marriage and to grow up faster than is possible. They expect you to ‘man up’ while giving mixed signals about the opposite sex.

“You don’t need a woman but you need a woman to have your emotional, physical, and spiritual needs met.”

Women are treated as both the answer to your problems AND the cause of them. It confuses and hurts your mental health without you understanding and it leads to unrealistic expectations. And it doesn’t help that your deprivation of emotional connections to non-romantic relationships is screaming for something to relieve it.

You now expect to have a spouse or a woman to fill that gaping hole that the adults in your childhood had dug and infected with confusing and damaging ideas.

You expect to get a high labor job that could literally kill you to prove your worth to this nonexistent woman, your peers, your mentors… and yourself.

You are at a stage where you have mental blocks that are keeping you from reaching out to people, developing your emotional intelligence, and understanding the growing hurt you are feeling due to shame and fear.

You think it’s weak to cry, you think that either you or the women are the problems, and you view other men as threats with or without your knowledge.

You unknowingly seek out validation from abusive men, hoping they will tell you that the women are the problem, that you’re perfect but you need to get a better job, and that there’s nothing wrong with you.

3. The self infliction “stage”

You spiral, you miss what really causes this isolation, and you worsen the problem to the point where everyone steers clear of you.

You have now entered a stage that you don’t realize you are in. It makes you bitter, it makes you neglect your true needs, and you take it out on strangers and those close to you who have to walk on eggshells around you.

It’s not your fault that you were groomed into being lonely… but you are an adult now. And as an adult, you need to clean the mess. No one else will. Some may help, but it requires you to actually let them into your house to see all the ran down furniture and the mold that spread throughout your living space.

4. The solution.

There is no simple solution. It is not a physical wound, it’s wound that remains in the complex system that is your mind. No one is the same, and some people have different priorities and recovery stages.

The first thing you can do is recognize and understand. Other people who aren’t as affected as you have figured out the root issue and have addressed it without pushing their luggage on others. You do not need a ‘bad guy’ to blame. You need yourself.

Self love is much deeper than just wanting for yourself… self love is addressing your flaws and ridding yourself of bad habits without tearing yourself down. It’s like your pet dog, you cannot simply let your dog lash out at others, you cannot let it indulge in too much of something or too little. Your dog, as much as you love them, may have problems. If you love your dog, you will not let it eat chocolate or chase down a cat.

If you love yourself, you will not expect others to fix things for you and will find yourself with someone backing you up… yourself.

Yes, to ‘cure’ loneliness is a group effort. It requires you to reach out to others and vise versa, but in order to do that, you need to understand that everyone is an individual with limits and boundaries. You need to understand that they cannot control your identity and value. And you cannot control theirs. If they cannot be emotionally available, then you need to remind yourself of your worth and leave them be.

You won’t be cured of your childhood conditioning overnight. You will still suffer. The best you can do is work towards ending the cycle. Starting with letting that little boy be a kid and emotionally reach out to his peers, male and female.

5. Conclusion/tl;dr

You don’t need a wife. You don’t need a gender specific validation. You need friends. Real friends. Real family. Real community.

Romantic relationships and surface level validations like compliments and simple acknowledgment are temporary solutions. They are Bandaids that your peers and society has hyped up to unrealistic standards. They are not your solution.

If someone found a special someone who has helped them, then props to them, but do not expect that delicate bond to fix everything nor occur so soon in your lifetime. Bonds need you to be responsible in order for it to work.

You need to have platonic bonds with others, even if you don’t think it’ll help. You need to be able to work independently without demonizing your needs and dependency for emotional connection outside of a romantic relationship.

What strangers think of your vulnerability does not matter. Your ‘femininity’ and ‘gayness’ doesn’t make you less. Who cares. If you’re happy for once, then do not concern yourself with expectations you can live without.

Now go watch transformers, share your interests with fellow autistics, and make cool shit 🫵

[julietcpulet]

Resentment vs. Change

The palace women vs. Jinshi and Maomao

(Spoilers) So much of the end of LN 4 focuses on the different ways people learned how to respond to the resentment and abuse that has built up since the reign of the former Emperor. It’s contrasting Jinshi and Maomao who have both grown up suffering consequences from that reign but are using it to make decided change vs the palace women from that time who decided instead on paths of revenge and self-destruction, often becoming abusers themselves.

We see Jinshi who has been compared to the former Emperor multiple times by the women who only would’ve known him then, unfortunately because no one knows Ah-Duo is his mother and that’s who he resembles. As such he’s been subjected to fearful resentment and claims of illegitimacy as well as the terrible weight of guilt from these women for an accountability of the past Emperor’s actions that is not his own, merely for his looks. Instead of making himself a victim though he’s tried to improve the lives of those in the rear palace, the women trust him and as evidenced by his speech to the fake Loulan, he knows all of them there, down to the smallest detail. We could say that’s a frightening thing but Jinshi has shown incredible restraint for a person of only 19 years of age. He knows their names and details in order to care for them as people and individuals. Later he makes it clear this system of “a garden of women” doesn’t appeal to him and his whole goal is to keep those he loves away from it (namely Maomao). The point here being that instead of letting the abuse and trauma he’s experienced of living a life of others looking at him as if he’s at all similar to the former Emperor just because he bears a resemblance, he took that chance to make the line between them clear, to do something wholly different than that Emperor and his own father.

The same goes for Maomao. She was a product of palace politics in that her father was taken from her mother due to what happened with the La Clan because of Luomen’s involvement in the delivery of the consorts children. This pulled Lakan away from the family and while it resulted in Luomen becoming her adopted father, Maomao suffered immense trauma from her mother descending into sickness and abusing her as a baby. She also didn’t have the best upbringing with the courtesans. But instead of letting these things sour her towards revenge or bitterness, she uses her knowledge to help others even if she can act like she merely wants to be a bystander. She doesn’t let the problems that have come about in her life be a deterrent to helping people going forward. Like when the opportunity presents itself she maneuvers things in such a way that her father and mother have the possibility be together again. Also she puts forward Luomen to come back to the rear palace even though he was banished and it’s at great risk to suggest him. She believes in Gyokuyou and even I would say Jinshi to accept him back without treating him as a criminal. These choices show that while Maomao has been through a lot she manages to find opportunities to improve the situations of those around her without making it about being a victim.

As for the palace women, many took the opposite path like Shinmei and Shenlu. Yes, we know and are shown that they were brought into the rear palace and taken advantage of by the former Emperor, that is a fact not to be diminished. But I believe the whole point here is about what a person chooses to do with their past. Can they move past it and make better out of it or does it just become resentment never to be changed? The palace women chose the path of never ending revenge that got them nothing but fear, destruction and sadness. It was disheartening to see these women blame Jinshi for appearing in a way he had no control over. Like him taking the blame on himself and being willing to take the scar from Shisui so her mother could get revenge on a man long dead. It proves that some people (Shenmei) will hold onto victimhood and grudges to the point of becoming abusers to others who shouldn’t shoulder that blame.

To me the story is meant to portray the importance of the choice to acknowledge the wrongs of the past but learn to put them in their rightful place. Not to keep dwelling on what has gone and harming those who had no part in it but to help those who can be helped now. And that’s the difference Jinshi and Maomao show for the present. Taking steps to try and root out the problems of the rear palace, to change it for the better for the women now in the ways they’re able. Maomao with her medical knowledge and Jinshi with the power he holds. From eliminating face powder, disciplining harmful ladies in waiting and being able to help a difficult pregnancy, to so many other instances, it’s things like this that have shown Jinshi and Maomao are about change and not about making themselves the victims regardless of what they’ve suffered. Because no amount of payback would make a person feel better for abuse but proving that good could come from choosing not to dwell in the past, that’s a worthwhile endeavor.

[qqueenofhades]

This is dark, and I totally understand if you’re not comfortable answering this, but I genuinely feel like you’re the best person to ask.

How do I stay informed without spiraling into this absolutely unhealthy, blood boiling and borderline mouth frothing anger?

I feel like a barely follow anything any more so cutting down media consumption isn’t an answer, but in the small bit of news I saw tonight I’m literally hot to the touch and having an invasive thought spiral of “Why isn’t he dead? Someone needs to kill him! SOMEONE KILL HIM! KILL HIM KILL HIM KILL KILL KILL MAIM UNTIL THERES NO REDS LEFT FOR THE SAKE OF US PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD KILL THEM ALREADY-“

This isn’t healthy. I know it isn’t healthy. But even knowing the statistics of non-violent revolution vs violent revolution, I can’t help but feel like we’re watching a trolley problem unfold in the worst ways because the modern population is a bunch of cowards.

This isn’t helped at all by the fact I have personal reasons from the last admin that I need to see them SUFFER. And far worse than just some dealership fires.

Oh hon. Please recognize that I am only a tired middle-aged queer academic on the internet with no formal medical or psychological credentials and thus am definitely not the best person to help you here, but because you have said that you value my opinion and trust my advice, I hope that you will consider what I say and see what you can do. (It is hard. It is super hard. I know.)

First, please consider whether you need to be informed. I know that a lot of us have guilt complexes around "consuming" the "right kind of news" and having the "right kind of opinions," because social media has beaten it into us that is the only way to Do Activism (wrong). If you're feeling so completely wrung-out right now that even a little information is overwhelming you, you can just not look, period. That is okay to do. If you need permission from Someone On The Internet to just cold-turkey yourself, then this is it. If you want to stay on Tumblr but can't take seeing any political/news content at all, then you can block, unfollow, tag-and-content screen (remember that you can do more than just block tags; you can block any words that you don't want to see), literally whatever you need. You can block the usernames of people who consistently post political content that distresses you, even if you agree with it. You are not obligated to be constantly informed to the point of trauma. You do not owe anyone a social media presence, or your attention, or so forth. After all, you alone can't do a whole lot to change it, and you need to take care of yourself. We are in a shitty, shitty time right now. Things real bad.

That said, it sounds to me as if you also need to take the next step and get some proper support, especially because you recognize that these thoughts are intrusive, spiraling, and unhealthy but don't feel as if you can stop them on your own. Uncontrollable rage response is a common PTSD symptom, and we are all hella traumatized right now, for literally every imaginable reason. This is a real mental health issue and not just something that you can control by screening your internet content/news consumption/social media presence further, though that might help. So I would really suggest that you start the process of finding a therapist or similar other medical professional who is trained to help and support you and who can offer structured resources that friends and even random well-meaning Tumblr users such as myself can't. It sounds scary and difficult, but it's not, you can do a bit at a time, and it will be necessary so you don't feel so completely raged-out and shaken and scared all the time.

If you have health insurance, you can go on your provider's page and easily make a list of nearby doctors for different kinds of issues, i.e. in this case mental health and counseling. Many of them have extra identity-or practice-specific information listed (such as "LGBTQ-friendly" or "great bedside manner" or "does telehealth appointments" and so forth) and you can also read the reviews for individual practitioners to see if they sound like someone who might be the right fit for you. In other words, you can do a lot of screening even before you arrive in their office and see if they're someone you might be able to work with and open up to. (And as noted, many of them also have virtual options if Zoom feels less threatening for an initial contact.) Make sure that they ARE in-network because you don't want to get socked by expensive appointment fees (health insurance sucks etc), but if you don't have insurance or only a very basic coverage level, you can also search for local or community health-center practitioners who might be able to offer sliding-scale fees or major discounts. There are usually affordable options if you do a bit of looking. If you are at a university in any fashion, make use of the student health and counseling centers. They are there for you!

As I said: things are just flat out terrible right now, and we can't do much about it on an individual level, but we still have to figure out how to take care of ourselves and get through it somehow. Please do not feel guilty if what you need to do right now is go into total news blackout and get some professional help. That is honestly the least of what could be expected from living every day in a stupid and traumatizing situation like this one, and there are plenty of other people who will carry on fighting back while you are tapping out to do some self-care. You do not have to do this alone.

Eventually, you may be able to regain some equilibrium and plan out how you're going to manage the next few weeks/months/years, how you're going to find joy in small things, how you're going to plan to continue living your life even in the face of rampant murderous and unavoidable idiocy, etc. This may or may not be comforting, but as a historian, I can attest that people of previous generations have pretty much always thought the world was ending due to [insert stupid issue du jour.] That, unfortunately, is the story of humanity in a nutshell, and until we break that cycle, it's going to continue that way. However, the bright side is that the world has not ended and has gone onward, and the odds are decent that it will do so again this time. I can't offer much more than that, but I think that's important.

Courage. Take care of yourself. We can do this together. Stay strong. Much love. I am proud of you.

[animeyanderelover]

Hello again! Could I get a scenario where the darling is super emotional and cries all the time. She's not particularly scared or trying to be manipulative, just cries really easily. I thought it'd be interesting to have Ash from black Butler, Kanike from Tokyo ghoul, Shiapouf from hunter x hunter, and any other emotional yandere who you think fits. Crybaby vs crybaby. Thanks!

I’m currently on a vacation so I had to keep this limited to only a few characters.

Tags: @lovley-valentine7 @leveyani @chxxz @jamayah @cynniical @shenryu-sama @maggiequinn59 @flaming-vulpix

Tw: Yandere themes, possessive behavior, obsession, delusional behavior, isolation, manipulation, abduction

Crybaby vs. Crybaby

Ash Landers

▫️Tears are droplets of innocence, at least the tears that you spill are. It is a sight that he would even consider beautiful if it wouldn’t be for the grief that is piercing the essence of his soul when he sees you spilling tears of purity. Initially Ash mistakes your tears as a sign of fear, a thought that tightens his heart with anxiety and self-hatred but he doesn’t wish to bother you with his problems and keeps the stress and anxiety to himself, leading to emotional meltdowns when he’s all by himself. He’s convinced he’s doing something wrong every time you start crying and that behavior is hard to shake off even when he eventually figures out that you are just a very sensitive person. The sensitivity of yours is only more of what makes you so pure and perfect in his eyes. It is your tendency to cry so easily though that leads Ash to cuddle you even more all to not overwhelm your fragile feelings and to keep all anxiety and stress away from you. He will worship tears of happiness and joy but he will damn everyone, including himself, if your tears are ever caused by sorrow.

Shaiapouf

🎻His demeanor really depends on what stage of his obsession he is in already. If he’s still in his earlier stages where he overloads you with tons of expectations to be perfect Shaiapouf is going to be the main culprit for your tears. He may pretend to be nice but the disappointment due to your lack of self-control is written all over his face. He’s strict and his words are harsh, belittling you and even using his abilities on you to calm you and your tears down. If we’re talking about Shaiapouf after he has properly embraced his obsession things look quite a bit different. He’s using your sensitivity to manipulate you further into his arms, actively encouraging the overwhelmed meltdowns so that he can be the one to smother you and help you to calm down. He was born a servant, he needs to be needed by you and it just so happens that you need him too. That is at least what he tries to indoctrinate into your mind with attentive touches and sweet lies. What used to be a burden in his eyes has now turned into something precious and sweet which only gives him more reasons to isolate and protect you. After all the world outside would only overwhelm you.

Kaneki Ken

🔲Kaneki is already very fidgety and nervous, frightened that his darling is simply going to despise him and view him as the monster he thinks he is deep down as well. So the first few weeks after the abduction aren’t pretty. He knows that you tend to cry easily, his heart always tightened and hurt when he stalked you but it is still so much worse when he is the cause of your tears, especially knowing that those aren’t happy tears. You may as well have poured acid over his skin and it would have hurt him less than watching you spilling tears because you are frightened of him. His stomach is churning and worms are feasting through his pained heart, his own vision blurry as he stutters out apologies, longing to reach out for you yet terrified that you would only flinch away from him and only break his bleeding heart more. It is this initial trauma that has him trembling whenever you cry long after you’ve gotten through the worst parts and your tears are no longer his fault. His presence is hovering over you as soon as Kaneki senses that you’re crying, terrified that something or someone upset you.

Fudo Akira

👿Even after Akira’s transformation he has remained the crybaby boy he has been since his childhood. He’s highly sensitive and it is very likely that he may even start crying together with you when you start spilling tears first. At first he is a tad bit ashamed of it. In this new body of his he was hoping to be able to toughen up and to be your pillar of comfort yet his own tears get stained in his own tears the moment he sees you as he is just weeping with you, no matter whether you’re sad or very happy about something. Akira starts getting more comfortable the moment he realises that you actually seem to take comfort in the fact that even someone as intimidating and tough-looking as him has a very sensitive soul. So he just starts crying with you to comfort you and help you to regulate your emotions. If there is a negative reason behind your tears and it happens to be a person as well Akira may just pay them a visit later for some civilised talking but he prioritises you always first by comforting you before he weaponises his new strength and appearance. He hates it when your tears are those of grief and fear after all.

[crystalandrose]

Bill breaks out of theraprism and unleashes all the alt. reality pines kids that are desperate to replace the once that lived, but Also this includes Evil!Ford, which- excited to see bill is alive in this reality when bill died in his- makes a deal with bill and now its possessed evil ford vs canon ford and both think the other is an idiot that threw away their chance at true happiness/fulfillment.

(More ideas on this below)

Evil Ford thinks that Canon Ford is stupid because he 1) spent so much time in the portal and wasted most of his time (if he was gonna go against bill, why also push everyone else away, all his other relationships were worsened cause of bill so why go against him if hes already suffering consequences) 2) threw away a chance to be happy AND be recognized for his talents/heroism/etc.

Canon Ford thinks Evil Ford is stupid because 1) cannot fathom a world where he is happy with what Bill's plan was 2) Doesn't think Bill genuinely cares about him, is just using him.

"Can't you tell, you're being used!"

"What's so wrong with feeling- no- BEING useful?" *continues fighting*

An issue is that 1) people cant tell the two apart enough visually when not possessed and 2) mabel/dipper/others feel bad about beating up a guy that looks just like their uncle. Stan, not so much.

I also thought itd be interesting if Bill and Evil Ford are so in-sync that their voices both speak at times when Bill is possessing him (similar to how certain fusions in SU overlay voices, would also have similar lines like "It feels so great to be back!"). They may be evil- but they have a more stable relationship so maybe possession is more of an equal control deal.

Along with the regular journals, Evil!Ford has a golden journal with an eye on the cover that he always holds close. Its cursed so only Ford's eyes can read it (this includes canon ford!) and inside it has details about cipher, communications between the two, and more personal diary-type entries. While Evil Ford still had Bill in his mind (in his universe bill still "died" after/before/during weirdmaggedon) so they could communicate that way, Ford still let Bill take over while he slept sometimes (so that he could get more work done) and Bill would spend time looking at other realities (explaining his absences). So the book was a way to jot down communications without forgetting. So Canon ford gets his hands on it somehow (maybe they imprisoned evil ford in order to trap bill or something) and is reading trying to find a way to get leverage with Evil Ford but its like a teenage girls diary or like a note being passed in forth and its just a bunch of flirting 💀.

(An idea I had is Evil Ford put something in the book saying "to allow other eyes to see, recite this aloud" and ford- sleep deprived staying up trying to find answers in the book- gives in and recites it so others can help. But upon reading it a glitter explosion happens and the words "LOL YOU THOUGHT STEALING MY EYES WOULD WORK?" either pop up or are said. Evil ford in the cell laughs and said that was a trap for eye-thieves and he never even thought alternate fords eyes would be a problem.)

Last thing: Given that the canon universe is the only one where Dipper and Mabel survived maybe?, Evil Ford's Dipper and Mabel died while Ford was away. Evil Ford feels guilt, worrying if it was somehow his fault for not returning to GF sooner or prioritizing protecting his family (he believes/did make a deal with Bill that his family would be spared). So when he sees the Canon twins, he stumbles and stutters a bit in his resolve. He can't bring himself to go against them, only when he is possessed by Bill is his body able to not hold punches. (Maybe canon bill and evil ford's bill are a bit different, and during possession evil ford realizes this and is worried).

[hipstersoulgushers]

Red Vs Blue major antagonists ranked on bedside manner:

Tex - 3/10 You might live but it she makes you feel like shit about it. Calls you 3 months later asking you to watch her dog to “return the favor”

O’malley - 0/1000 You’re dead even if he knew what he was doing, he’s more interested in twisting the knife than doing his job.

Wyoming - 7.5/10 He’d be nice the whole time and you’d leave with a lollypop at the end, BUT! Knock, knock, he wasn’t taking you seriously whatsoever.

South - 4/10 Slayific conversationalist approximately 5 minutes before she leaves the room and you don’t see her for 90 minutes and she comes back with coffee, laughs and asks why you’re still in her office. Doesn’t apologize and blames you.

The Meta - 2/10 grrrr….

Washington - 9/10 He is communicating clearly and listening, he understands your concerns. He still might give you a hard time if he thinks its something you can control.

Insurrectionist Leader/CT - 8/10 Honestly not even that bad, he is a little mean and he recommends pretty aggressive treatments but at least he’s listening and staying on task.

Locus - 7/10 There to do his job, he’s going to say something strange about your chart and imply your condition is fatal or says something implicit about who you are as a person. He doesn’t seem concerned about it but you leave feeling like you should be.

Felix - 4.2/10 Appointment for you? Clearly this is appointment for him. He immediately breaks HIPPA telling you about a girl named Brittney with your exact condition, goes on for at least 15 minutes about how he Personally tried to save her from her unrelated tragic death. Says he can get you morphine if you give him 20 dollars.

Sharkface - 10/10 A little prickly but by god does he get you. He’s taking meticulous notes and asking questions you wouldn’t have even thought to bring up. Gives you prescriptions he thinks will help without any argument, gives you a print out of accessible resources. The only choice if you’re not a coward.

Temple - 3/10 Not that bad except he keeps asking if you’re related to someone he knows. He also doesn’t know where anything is. When he does find your chart he says it looks like you would be good at deep sea diving. He hands you a hand written business card for a cult that meets at the local aquarium on Tuesdays. He says he has to go and you are left without actual medical attention.

Zero - 5/10 Same issues as Temple but he actually does give you medical attention. He’s very quick to start accusing your loved ones of being the cause for your medical problems and recommends cutting them off. You can’t tell if he’s joking.

[tesslinua]

Storm of Magic Region Quarterfinal - Dainix VS Erin

Propaganda

Dainix:His hair!!! He’s so pretty he probably has anime sparkles. His eye is so soft, and the eyepatch is cool. Puppy energy. I want to hug him and for him to take care of me. Being partially shirtless and transmasc is such a move. Self confidence is hot

HE IS SO PRETTY OH MY GOD. his ponytail. and his dumb little sidebangs. and his stripes.... very based of him to go around shirtless all of the time i enjoy it vvery much for normal reasons i like seeing his chest and his abs and his back. that one frame where he hugs erin in petrichor? i stare at his back muscles and get a fever every time. also he is so nice and sweet personality-wise i think he'd be one of the most dateable. he has some issues yeah but hed be willing to put in the work yknow?

i try to describe why hes pretty but i get so dizzy thinking of how pretty he is and pass out

Erin: Hotter when evil

He's a sad pathetic little wet rag hubrising and faking his way through life and he SUCKS and I HATE him and I hope he DIES /posi think i can safely say i am THE erin enjoyer. so buckle up. okay. for starters. i love me a good twink. that's the baseline. plus he has pretty black hair. plus he has indigo eyes (the best color). plus he wears a waistcoat and a cape. his TATTOOS. his fucking tattoos. how long did those take. theyre so intricate and they cover the entirety of both forearms. he couldve just gotten the runes necessary and hid them with a bandana like tarren but this freak doesnt do anything halfway. why would he? he's the elemental magus. he has to flaunt his status. that panel where he has his shirt open showing the void rune and he's got this concentrated/frustrated/stressed look on his face while he's reading his journal? makes me lose all higher brain functionings. also his eyes reflect the color of whatever magic he's casting. Pretty. he is. such a smug showy hubristic bastard and his ego infuriates and infatuates me. normally i hate people like this BUT he's also pathetic. he gets so cranky when falst steals his bag and when theia doesn't let him in the archives. and that fucking "by now, i… i hope you'd trusted me to know what i was doing" in ripples where hes looking down and he's so small in the panel. COME ON MAN whats your fucking problem. he's so sure of himself all of the time but it's so easy to make him crack and every time it happens i am filled with unbridled desire. i need to make him crack i need to make him realize the throne he thinks he's on is made of glass i need to watch him doubt his status and power. he is so much hotter when he's stressed. like when alinua says kendal didnt wake up post-zuurith? the pure anguish and fear in his face? Goddamn. not to mention the boat arc. that was the best example of him being soooo sure of his power, his control, and then having all of that shattered. "i HAVE to do everything alone! nobody can match me! nobody can help me in a way that matters! it always comes back to me to carry the weight, and if i fall, nobody can catch me! gods and legends want to help me? can any of you part the clouds, still the seas?! can you save me from the dragon?" drove me fucking insane every time i think about that i need to eat glass (yes i looked up that page to get the quote exactly right yes i spent approximately 10 minutes kicking my feet and giggling) seeing him get beat up is so nice i think it should happen more <3 i lov e seeing him battered and bruised and afraid and bloody and also i had never experienced sexual attraction to anyone, real or fictional, until i discovered erin fucking ruunaser, so like. thats an accomplishment i think.