#dae talks

[daemonishy]

labru is like “what if i was really good at reading social situations and i understand the body language and motivations of almost everybody i meet except YOU, because you LOVE MONSTERS and you’ve got no interest in people and i DONT understand you and that TERRIFIES me to the point where i regularly think about k*lling you . but i won’t do it because deep down i’m kinda obsessed with you and i want to know you and i want to know how you see the world so different from me . which is even scarier. let me stand by your side please i can be useful.” and i was meant to what? go on with my life normally after that?

[daeranilen]

my baby boy is having surgery for a foreign body obstruction and i'm being so brave about it (sobbing incoherently at home alone) please keep us in your thoughts

[daemoninwhiteround2]

@astolat I just finished The Last Graduate and honestly, how dare you?

[daemonsdemons]

I don’t get the obsession with needing to be able to say slurs that some people seem to have, like literally asking if their identity has a slur or making them up, and especially to just use it as slurs like I’ve seen people do not only with the r-word but the f-word and t-word, calling random people it and shit just bc they’re gay or neurodivergent so they’re allowed to. They don’t understand the concept of reclamation whatsoever nor do they respect it and its purpose. Like they’re just internalized ableist and homophobic and wanna justify putting that on others bc they’re one of the good ones so they’re allowed to.

Reminds me of this tiktok I saw where two white queers (istg it is always white people pulling this. do they think they’re missing out on something by not being oppressed like poc???) were excited that someone yelled at them in the street for being lgbtq for the first time like guys maybe take having our rights stripped away and having our identities and disabilities disrespected to the point many of us are abused, neglected or killed a little more seriously instead of seeing it as some fucking game.

maybe this is a swing at a hornets nest but watching people go down the pipeline of 'reclaiming slurs' to just calling people the r word as an insult again and bite at the bit for any extra slurpoints they can 'reclaim' in this manner has been insane to watch as an autistic person i cant lie

[daemonsdemons]

wanting to be internet famous but also hating the idea of being perceived

[daeligeek]

Excuse me universe where’s the market for wedding dresses designed specifically for men’s bodies?? I want heckin pecs ok and current wedding dresses I just feel would not tailor well to that

[daeranilen]

I'm never going to be over Zac Oyama's impression of Grant in Deja Vu. It's simultaneously so lazy and SO spot-on. He has his speaking cadence on lock, bothered with absolutely nothing else, and smashed it out of the park. A+

[daeranilen]

The thing I always think when I look back on my childhood is, maybe I wasn't really a girl, but I had a girlhood. I understood myself through lightweight feminist frameworks about gender nonconformity that I absorbed from organizations like the Girl Scouts. I had an articulate and deeply held activist commitment to my girlhood. That my body and my life and my sexuality were frustrating to me were women's issues, and I saw this reflected in the girls and women around me.

Even now, having lived as a gay trans man for several years, I have a hard time articulating what made me Different from the girls and women I knew, even though it should be obvious. My closest friends growing up were boys. I hated "girly" clothes and the "womanly" parts of my body. I fought my mother for almost a decade to cut my hair short-short. I insisted on joining the boys' team in gym class. I got constantly teased about wanting to be boy. I had so many opportunities to think, "Huh, maybe these shitty children are on to something," and I refused them all. I didn't want to be a boy. What I wanted was to befriend who I wanted to befriend and look how I wanted to look; to protest the class arbitrarily dividing itself by gender when the teachers hadn't required it; to stop having people tell me, wrongly, who I had to be. I wanted autonomy. I wanted respect. These are very queer and trans things to want, but I could not - cannot - imagine anything more girl to want, either.

Would I have felt differently then, if I had known becoming a boy was something I could do? Maybe. But that's how I think about it now, and how I would have thought about it then: Becoming. Manhood is a thing I am slowly acquiring, and I am acquiring it badly, the way a person who moves to a foreign country acquires the local language badly. It does not come to me any more naturally than girlhood did. But I like it better, so I keep doing it badly anyway.

...I guess that's thing, isn't it. In so many ways I am even more aggressively who I have always been, and at the same time she feels like someone I knew a lifetime ago - like maybe she's out there somewhere still, girling badly in a country I no longer call home.

trans people will literally go “i have a complicated relationship with my history with gender and sometimes see it as a gender i ‘used to be’ and i don’t really look like a cis person of either gender and i don’t think i can fit it into simple categories” and everyone will spontaneously combust

[daemoninwhiteround2]

for anyone waiting for it, thought I'd let yall know that draft one of chapter two of Breast is Best is done, once I've completed draft two I'll post it to AO3 and crosslink it here

[chergeegee]

platonic daegyu from 2 months ago

[itadooori]

quick lil dae-ho thing

[daemonsdemons]

also built on the idea that you have to be visibly born with it to be intersex because at that point they can only do something like surgery to "fix you".

even though hormone imbalances and puberty are usually how people find out they're intersex, Including for those with genital differences (i.e. being intersex bc u have a teste instead of an ovary or something not visible like that), if we treat that as just an abnormality we can continue to treat the person with the condition as wholly cis and ignore intersexuality

I think part of why people don't like to call PCOS and gynecomastica intersex is because it challenges the image of intersex people being super rare. We're more common than you think.

[yanoverload]

listen getting him pregnant might not fix him but it will make us both happy.

god imagine him breaking into your house before you come home from work and then acting all cute like hes your housewife and not a freak...

also yes. its me phoenix wright.

That's funny because it's something he would do LOL

You could throw a vase at his head and scream and he would find it kinky (⁠◍⁠•⁠ᴗ⁠•⁠◍⁠)⁠❤

[creamecafe]

Mostly I've seen everyone headcanon that Kang Dae Ho talks you through it. But I can't stop thinking about if he stutters and messes up so bad he's embarrassed 😭😭

The same with Myung-Gi too 😭😭

[daeranilen]

I work in an office of these people. They are staggered by how immediately and directly this administration began to impact me as a gay trans man who'd been hoping to bring his overseas fiance to the U.S. this year. They're upset and worried for us, and they've made a point to check in with me now and then.

They're also the same people that literally raised their voices to talk over me when I admitted to being afraid on election day. They told me that no election had ever meaningfully impacted any of their lives so obviously nothing was going to happen to me, and anyway the most important thing was getting rid of those scary illegal immigrant men camped out by the international airport and those lazy illegal immigrant women popping out anchor babies, because that would make prices go down by preventing these people from claiming so many hardworking American citizen dollars in tax credits.

I cannot overstate how close to a verbatim quote that previous sentence was.

It's been a real lesson in... you know, I was going to say "the incoherence of the average American's politics," but that's not even the right phrase. The fuck you, got mine-ness of it. One of the people I'm referencing is an immigrant who went through a genuinely challenging and complicated immigration to the U.S. as a teenager. Another is a single mom of a kid with multiple chronic illnesses. They don't perceive any connection between themselves and the people this administration is targeting first. As far as they're concerned, they worked hard and did things right and didn't take any handouts - all these other people are failures at best and leeches at worst, and it would be better if they just weren't here because maybe then there'd be a tax credit for the deserving.

In my better moments, I hope seeing me and my fiance as undeserving targets keeps making them uncomfortable and making them question what they thought they knew. More often, I just hope they choke on their precious fucking pocket change.

It is interesting that the American people seem to disagree strongly with Donald Trump on most cultural issues (transgender issues, abortion, race relations, and LGBTQ issues) and yet his single strongest issue approval is on immigration. The median voter seems to want xenophobic wokeness

[sloane-kdramas]

Man couldn't let her believe for a second he was inexperienced.

I see you both, communicating about sexual desire like adults.

Other dramas, take note!