#demisexual rayla

[raayllum]

I saw some people sharing their experience so I want to share mine. When I first saw the aspec thing I was like "what the hell is aspec?" I legit thought It was just about asexuality stuff and I was kinda confused then I think I read one of your posts explaining It with the headcanon about Rayllum maybe being demiromantic/demisexual and I was like oooh? I'm straight myself but while my girl-friends had no problem finding boyfriends I have always been more closed off and connecting with people in that way has always been difficult‚ I have had crushes but I don't think I can connect with someone romantically unless we have a deep bond first‚ and that's kinda hard. I always found people that dated a lot and had one night stands pretty weird because I just didn't get why would you that kinda stuff with people you don't love but searching about demi stuff made me notice It was a me thing. Their relationship is so special and strong you know them both can't have these kind of feelings for anyone else. So yeah this part of the rayllum fandom and the two little idiots little actions opened my eyes‚ been thinking about if for a while but this helped me a lot! Really this fandom is so enjoyable

Thank you for sharing!! <33 I've found there's a lot of demi people in the fandom in particular and I'm always glad those posts resonate (since while I do very much see Rayllum that way I fall elsewhere on the aroace spectrums), especially if it helps people develop better understandings of themselves!!

How generally aspec friendly the Rayllum fandom is / their dynamic is to be read that way, esp in arc 2 just makes me so happy. I think it's near and dear to a lot of our hearts <3

[eliina88]

My LGBT headcanons for the characters of The Dragon Prince:

Callum: Straight. Is pretty versatile in his preferences, as long as they're not too butch.

Ezran: Asexual. Closest thing he'll ever have to romance is his love for jelly tarts, lol.

Rayla: Straight demisexual. Fell in love with Callum because she adores him.

Soren: Gay. Likes men as beefy as he is.

Claudia: Straight. Though she's fine with pre-transition trans guys.

Viren: Bisexual. Totally had a thing for Harrow - and Aaravos, too, but he keeps it to himself.

Aaravos: Pansexual. And this bastard is a shameless flirt, I tell you.

[moondustgleam]

Being demisexual online has me looking at all my mutuals posting online about Taylor swift and Sabrina carpenter like... I guess I see it? Idk what the hype is about but get it ig?

Then they post about gwen stacy or rayla tdp and I perish by literally choking on my drool

[rados-things]

Tagged by @pastel-yell!

{𝓑𝓪𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓼}

Name: Rayla Lithos

Gender: Female (She/Her)

Age: 24

Species: Au Ra Raen

Zodiac: aquarius / aries / cancer / capricorn / gemini / leo / libra / pisces / sagittarius / scorpio / taurus / virgo / unknown

Abilities/Talents: marksmanship, outdoor survival skills, and highly athletic

{𝓟𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓸𝓷𝓪𝓵}

Alignment: lawful / neutral / chaotic / good / neutral / evil / true

Religion: None

Sins: envy / greed / gluttony / lust / pride / sloth / wrath

Virtues: charity / chastity / diligence / humility / justice/ kindness / patience

Languages: Common Eorzean, Hingan/Doman

Family: orphaned at a young age; Kai Oshiro as adopted father

Friends: Lavender Abernathy, Suzuma Kusakari, and the members of The Obsidian Blades theater troupe

Sexual Orientation: heterosexual / bisexual / pansexual / homosexual / demisexual  / asexual / unsure / other

Relationship status: single / dating / married/ widowed / open relationship / other 

Libido: sex god / very high / high/ average / low / very low / non-existent

{𝓟𝓱𝔂𝓼𝓲𝓬𝓪𝓵}

Build: twig / bony / slender / average / athletic/ curvy / chubby / obese

Hair: white / blonde / brunette / red / black/ other

Eyes: brown / blue / green / black / other - silver

Skin: pale / fair / olive / light brown / brown / very brown / other

Height: under 3 foot / 3-4 foot / 4-5 foot / 5-6 foot / 6-7 foot / above 7 foot

Weight: under 100 pounds / 100-150 pounds / 150-200 pounds / 200-250pounds / above 250 pounds

Scars: None

Facial features: None

Tattoos: White tattoos accentuating the scales on her back and chest

{𝓒𝓱𝓸𝓸𝓼𝓮}

Dogs or Cats? Dogs

Birds or Hamsters? Birds

Snakes or Spiders? Snakes

Red or Blue? Blue

Yellow or Green? Green

Black or White? Black

Coffee or Tea? Coffee

Ice Cream or Cake? Ice cream

Fruits or Vegetables? Fruits

Sandwich or Soup? Sandwich

Magic or Melee? Melee

Sword or Bow? Bow

Summer or Winter? Summer

Spring or Autumn? Autumn

The Past or The Future? The future

This was super fun! If anyone does this, please tag me, I'd love to learn about your WoLs! ♡

[learties]

🏳️‍🌈demiromantic flag callum to go along with your lovely demisexual rayla?

pride rayllum package deal for you @raayllum

art ask meme • demisexual Rayla

[swtzutara]

i just think it’s really ironic how a lot of people who headcanon rayla as bisexual are, in fact, biphobic. they say things like “if rayla ever breaks up with callum is would be nice if she shows her bi and get a girlfriend” and just,,,,,, a girl doesn’t need a girlfriend to “show her bi”. i just really really really wish you people would stop using relationships to validate bisexuality. i’m a bisexual girl, and i’m still bisexual if I’m dating a boy or a girl or a non-binary person. i’m still bisexual if i’m not dating anyone at all. rayla is my favorite bi headcanon and it’s so upsetting to see so many biphobia from people who ironically also headcanon her as bi. there’s lots of things the show can do to make this canon without hurting bi people. she could say she had a crush on a girl when she was younger. she could blush around a pretty lady. she could just SAY she doesn’t like just boys. bisexual women have the highest rates of sexual assault and abusive relationship, people don’t want to date us because we “cheaters”. it would just be so nice to see a bi girl dating a guy who loves her and respects her, and you all have to ruin it with your biphobia 

[gale-gentlepenguin]

Maybe Rayla, everyone's favorite ninja elf?

My favorite thing about them: I love how adorkable yet boss she can be

My least favorite thing about them: I hate how her tribe basically shunned her, not cool moon elves.

My favorite canon relationship: Rayllum

My favorite non-canon relationship: none

The sexuality I headcanon for them: Rayla seems to like people that compliment her and are kind to her, so I imagine she is more Demisexual.

What I’d do if I could spend the day with them: I want her to teach me those sick assassin moves

Random fact about them I like: Human Rayla had me cracking up for a while

(Send Me A Character)

[ask-runaan-anything]

Runaan’s Rules

This is an ask blog that shares Runaan art (tag me in your art and I will share!) and has the odd rp.

Asks:

Ask anything you want. It’s right there in the blog name.

I love worldbuilding, weaponry, and combat questions!

Headcanon and AU asks are welcome.

I could talk all day about Rayla.

Riddles and puzzles are very Moonshadow.

So are dark subjects. Bring them on.

I’m here to help if I can.

Keep it SFW. I will if you won’t.

Harassment gets you reported and blocked. And possibly shot with poison arrows.

Art:

I’ll share any art with Runaan in it (unless I find it disturbing). Runaan and Rayla art is the bomb. Dramatic Runaan art pleases my soul. Sweet Tinkaan art is a blessing. Crackship Runaavos art makes the universe go ‘round.

If you make Runaan art, please consider tagging me. I’m thrilled to share more Runaan art with the world.

If you’re drawing solely for one of my art prompts, you can always submit it directly.

AUs and Headcanons used on this blog:

Please respect that I rp Runaan as a panromantic, demisexual gay elf in a committed relationship. Between that and being Moonshadow, he’s lucky anyone’s patient enough to give him the time of day. He literally does not know how to flirt. I’m not joking, it’s a disaster. Why do you think he blushes all the time? Adorkable.

Canon Runaan is trapped in the coin in Katolis Castle.

AU where Runaan is able to reach the realm beyond life and death and can manipulate its existence to create a cozy cabin with a garden, a porch with papasans, a weapons vault, and other rooms to pass the time.

Current AU that Runaan is literally Rayla’s uncle because his sister is her mom.

Current AU that Tinker and Runaan are already a couple, but not necessarily married.

AU where Runaan shares a meta world with other characters he never met in canon

AU where Runaan has Netflix in his coin and has watched the show.

There is currently no Tinker blog that I interact with, and that will remain the case until at least after S3 drops.

Roleplay: As I said, I’m selective with my rp partners. I’m only interested in rp’ing with other TDP characters and a few trusted followers I’ve come to know. No self-inserts or OCs.

If I’m interested, I expect to have a chat beforehand about the expectations we both have and to keep in touch during the rp. That’s how I roll, when I’m gonna roll.

[raayllum]

asexual awareness week and rayllum week overlapping is truly a perfect turn of fate

[nazumichi]

Dragon Prince

Callum - transmasc and bi!

Rayla - she/they nb, demisexual and bi.

Claudia - aro lesbian.

Soren - gay and transmasc.

Amaya - she/he/they nb lesbian.

Janai (I forgot her name) - transfem lesbian.

[blutopaz15]

taking the moon magic page in callum’s spellbook and running with it to fuel the demisexual rayla vibes in current wip ✌🏼✌🏼

[raayllum]

happy pride month featuring. demisexual rayla and mayhaps some aro spec vibes too

Rayla has never really felt the stirrings, before, as other elves call it.

 Her training ramps up when she’s twelve, but the other kids her age are starting to be consumed by crushes, blushing and making fools of themselves unnecessarily. It’s hard to understand, and even more annoying to watch. Can’t they just focus on what needs to be done? They’re the future warriors, defenders and protectors, of their village. They don’t have time for silliness, never mind the time consuming foolishness that comes with often short lived romantic (or even sexual) entanglements she sees the older assassins in training partake in. 

She supposes she’s just much more mature than they are. It’s the only explanation. 

Then she meets Callum. 

It’s not that they suddenly start, exactly — but for the first time, it feels like there’s potential for them to. How else is she supposed to explain this want to always be close to him, unable to resist from placing her hands on his shoulders, getting all up in his face as she teases him with her human impression? This maddening need to see him smile, to lift his spirits on the rare occasion he’s the downtrodden one (a situation that becomes less and less rare once he learns the truth about his father)? The racing of her heart and incessant thoughts in her mind that she can’t lose him, her fingers hesitantly touching his cheek, because she’s felt so many things since she ran away with two human princes and a dragon egg, but this — this is something else. 

His hand in hers makes sparks buzz in her chest, their interlaced fingers before the blind Sol Regem wholly for their own benefit. Her heart feels like it’s about to burst out of her chest with fondness and affection when she catches him blushing, when she catches him staring at her the way she imagines she’s been staring at him for quite a while now.

Once the embarrassment of the Oasis has faded, Rayla curls into his arms that cool night on the back of the ambler, and lets herself chase that warmth, a blanket draped over their laps and his lips firm against hers.

They explore a little more at the Nexus and the castle—kissing in dark alcoves and pressed against walls, pulling him close by his scarf, exploring more confidently the further they go, as far as his shirt being off one unbearably hot summer night, anyway.

Then she leaves, and is achingly cold. 

It’s not as though there are no offers while she’s away. The pubs and inns she frequents as she crosses through Xadia, when she can afford to and when camping isn’t an option, are home to many travellers looking for a good time. When she breaks her leg falling from a stupid tree, the clerk at the apocathery is very sweet, and asks if she’d stay a little longer once she’s healed up. His eyes are so green it’s almost tempting, but Rayla knows what she knows, and especially knows her heart.

There’s no one else. There never will be.

The jitters grow worse the closer she gets to Katolis when she finally turns around, Stella doing her best to soothe her nerves to little avail. 

She misses his birthday by one night and spends most of the next day crying, pacing outside the city walls till it’s almost nightfall. What will he say? What will he do? How has he changed, and what if he hasn’t? What if he still...

She climbs through his window, catching sight of the back of him first—broader, taller, with shorter, spikier hair swooped to one side—and then he turns around, gasping.

Still her Callum.

Boom. Stirrings. 

She spends most of the night admiring him once he’s relaxed enough to fall asleep, basking in the fact she’s by his side again, that she can do this—that he didn’t leave.

She thinks of the time one of the other Moonshadow kids had made a face when she didn’t have a crush on anyone, calling her strange.

Runaan had taken her aside and explained that sometimes, falling in love works differently for people, if they fall in love at all. That it was the same for him with Ethari. “Sometimes you fall in love only once,” he’d said.

She watches the way the sun catches Callum’s hair, illuminating a face that’s only grown more handsome since she left. In spite of everything, or perhaps precisely because of everything, she smiles.

This is it.

[raayllum]

i’ve said this before I KNOWWW but i will never stop talking about how demiro/demiace coded these losers are. seriously as a demiro+ace person i feel so seen, the platonic development before they get to the romantic part of their relationship and how the platonic feelings don’t actually disappear once they’re “a thing” like UUUUFFFFHHHHH!!!! so insane about it honestly. they’re so alterous i love it

no literally like arc 2 rayllum means soo much to me, they're just everything to each other - life partners, romantic partners, qpr vibes off the charts. as i said pre-s4:

They were always friends / partners / a team first and foremost, and I think that’s what we’ll get to see on display the most in S4: even after two years, even with all this hurt and anger between them, they’ll always look out for each other and want to protect each other, care about each other - no matter what they ‘are’ to one another in a relationship sense. That’s forever, baby

and

[I'm not sure which I want more, re:] Callum and Rayla not being a couple again immediately (but still not broken up), unsure of what exactly they are because of all the big feelings (particularly Callum’s anger) in the way, but also ending up in a “It doesn’t matter where you are or where you go or who you are or who I am to you, I will always look out for you, I will always care for you, I will always love you” before they get back together

we love all forms of aspec rayllum headcanons in this house but especially "misses his best friends for two years" demiromantic callum and "is only super touchy-feely & comfortable about it with him" demisexual rayla

[raayllum]

Hi I was the anon the asked about parallels. If you didn’t get that ask just forget about I wanted to add a question about how do separate fictional relationships romantic or otherwise with real life ones. I’m asking how to take your fandom glasses off( for lack of a better term?

I know this is probably obvious but it’s healthy to outgrow a show right and realize it was holding you back

Re: this ask a little while ago

Well, fanon/canon romantic relationships vs real ones are very different things (I am assuming that some of those are like, celebrity based, but that is an assumption so it may not make all my advice/thoughts accordingly accurate to what you're looking for, depending on your circumstances).

Characters in a story do not have legitimate agency, as they are not real. They cannot decide to have feelings for another character, nor can they decide to be with them. The writer(s) or fans must realize the potential and, by virtue of being real while the characters are not, can engage with said potential in a variety of ways. This is especially true when it comes to ascribing/projecting versus recognizing our experiences in characters. For example, I very much read and interpret Rayllum as an aspec dynamic (Callum as demiromantic, Rayla as demisexual) and Ezran (among various other characters in TDP) as Autistic as an aspec and Autistic person, but those are ultimately headcanons. At most I might argue there's coding, whether intentionally on behalf of the creative team or not, not is anyone else Wrong for not headcanoning those characters the same way. They're not real, and the wellbeing of real people always takes priority over the wellbeing of fictional characters.

Secondly, there's a wide range of shipping and what it means out there. This is because shipping doesn't always mean "these two characters live happily ever after with babies" (or even if that is the end goal, is not where the root of interest lies). I have characters I ship as in "they didn't even really date and are now longstanding divorced from one another" (Viren/Harrow), "this would never be canon but I like it anyway, and possibly ship either or both halves with other characters in canon anyway" (Terry/Corvus), or "I only ship this 10-15+ years later when they're in very different stages of their lives" (aged up Soren/Opeli or Claudia/Ezran, for example).

This also means learning to read shipping signs even if 1) the ship isn't your cup of tea and 2) how to recognize a lack of shipping signs even if the ship is your cup of tea. Just because I like a ship doesn't mean I think it is, or should be, canon, and just because a ship doesn't work for me as much personally doesn't mean it's 1) a bad ship or 2) isn't happening.

Now, in real life, most of us don't necessarily choose who we develop feelings for (although I know that can vary for people who are on the aromantic spectrum sometimes, myself included) but like

In a fic, or a book, or a show, often times we are privy to characters' direct thought processes. We'll see scenes where they are alone or not with each other. This allows us often to get a very personalized peek inside their head, to really definitively know what they're thinking (and why).

There is no real world equivalent to that; all we have is taking people at their word or at their writing, and trusting that they mean what they say. And maybe we trust that because of consistency, or time frame, or said words being supported by actions, but it is trust. It takes a long, long time for trust to turn into knowledge, in relationships.

A good example of keeping heads screwed on straight (ironically for a queer couple) might be me and my partner. We're both big Rayllum fans and ended up seeing a lot of ourselves in them as people and as a couple. I relate most heavily to Callum but Rayla is my favourite; they relate most heavily to Rayla and Callum is their favourite. And while the similarities are sometimes useful and often times funny, we are decidedly not Rayllum and they are decidedly not us.

More than out growing a show, I think (although that can happen too) it might be more useful to frame it as outgrowing a mindset. If we make any given thing - particularly fictional concepts we do not own and thereby don't have any ultimate control over, and that going a certain way - or anything, really, too much a part of our self-perception/identity, we will undoubtedly have a very hard time if/when those things don't go our way, and inevitably at least one of them. Self hood needs to be grounded in meaningful relationships with art, hobbies, trusted people, and selfhood. Ships and shows can be reflections of that, but probably shouldn't be much more - and never taken that personally

[raayllum]

I’d love to hear more about aro-spec Rayla if you have any more headcanons/meta!

So I usually see Callum as aro spec (demiromantic) and Rayla as ace spec (demisexual) and I have a tag here for those headcanons / general discussions of aspec Rayllum. I have made aro icons for Rayla in the past though & general aroace Rayllum icons here! 

[learties]

🏳‍🌈 Rayla with a demi flag for the art ask meme?

there she is! thank you @shiramoonshadow 💜

art ask meme