#dismantling abuse

[bixels]

I'm not explaining why re-imagining characters as POC is not the same as white-washing, here of all places should fucking understand.

[alwaysbewoke]

Stole his adult whole life 😢

After serving 44 years for a rape and burglary he did not commit, 68-year-old Ronnie Long reached a settlement with the state of North Carolina for $25 million - the second largest wrongful conviction settlement in U.S. history. Long was initially given only an insulting $750K in compensation. But after filing a civil lawsuit, he was awarded an additional $25 million along with a formal apology.   In 1976, Long was only 21 years old when an all-white jury that was “hand-picked by local law enforcement” convicted him of raping a “prominent” 54-year-old White woman in Concord, NC. He was given two life sentences. An appeals court finally overturned his conviction in 2020, citing jury tampering by the police chief and false testimonies from detectives. Prosecutors also deliberately suppressed evidence that could have proven his innocence, including: a rape kit that collected 43 different fingerprints and a suspect’s hair that did not match Long’s. Semen samples also “disappeared” from evidence.   After his release, Long was eager to spend time with his family, including wife Ashleigh, who he married from prison in 2014. Sadly, both of Long’s parents died before seeing him freed and exonerated from this American nightmare. His mother passed just 30 days before his release. He told CBS News, “I know my mother and father died with a broken heart...I’m gonna tell them now, when I visit the gravesite, ‘Your son is clear.’”

[violetren]

I love that El's reaction to Peter telling her that Neal might end up in jail again is for El to ask if Peter is gonna be ok.

Something was in the air 2008/2009 that two network shows had barely subtextual OT3s and to varying degrees follow nominally ex con(s) screwing over rich criminals.

[brucequeensteen]

all r-dfem blogs on here are always posting 3 things: a) most vitriolic disgusting display of shaming people for how they look which almost always implicitly or explicitly aligns with some kind of eugenics or racism, b) how everyone who isnt them or disagrees with them is stupid or misguided or has no hope left for them, and c) how lonely and isolated they feel all the time . I wonder when they will join the dots

[deservedgrace]

You're not wrong, and I'm not listening, but as long as people are using this language that means that other people are listening and I'm going to call that out, especially if it's purposely veiled in nicer sounding words to make people more likely to accept and be okay with abusive language. I'm talking about it BECAUSE I stopped listening and I want to give others the chance to stop listening too

[grunesdragon]

The Council

At long last, the Dragon Lord returns. For too long has his family been bound by fear. But he comes under the scrutiny of those who, in the meantime, made their own designs on power.

detail:

[meatriarch]

my nancy may be a boy mom but she is Not a Boy Mom™, iykwim.

but theres a very harsh, stark contrast with my portrayal of her on how she raises / treats any son / son-in-law ( ie. johnny ofc or others ) vs how she would treat / raise any daughter / daughter-in-law ( ie. maria in mirrors image au ), or other in-law through her kid. yes the affection and maternal love ( staring at the Boy Mom™ types of mothers & indirectly emphasizing a very specific Brand of them in particular that i Do Not Entertain that some pockets of the fandom like to place onto nancy generally - again, iykwim ) more often than not will come far easier to her towards any son that she may have. theres an inherent bias / thought process in her that sees having a son as more beneficial and far easier to shape and mold into the type of killer shes conjured up in her mind for their respective futures. daughters ( in-law ), on the other hand, like maria in her au of being taken & raised by nancy, have to constantly fight to win over her approval across the board in ways that a son - particularly johnny - never quite had to.

maria, especially, but really any sort of softer-hearted daughter would have an incredibly harder time really connecting to or bonding with nancy. best way to slide an example over off the top of the head on this is cautiously gesturing over to The Bear series / Donna type dynamic but in the way those manifest being purely manufactured by nancy - intricate and purposeful in order to crumble them down and manipulate them to do as she wants rather than the types of methods she'd use for sons / on johnny ( ie. her way of shutting down on lamb's johnny to get him to listen etc ).

[fayevalcntine]

If y'all are absolutely insistent on referring to Louis as a woman can you at least please, for the love of God, not act as if the femininity he's ""performing"" is white and then go off on a tangent about what "white womanhood can even be if a Black man can be one" when white supremacy has a considerable history of upholding white women/womanhood in order to continue their racist blood purity beliefs? At least go into Black femininity as an overall topic of discussion

[furiousgoldfish]

Abusers gaslighting you will most often be about a situation where they did something wrong, cruel, hurtful and abusive, very much intentionally, and then their version of the story switches the blame on you, it depicts you as being the one who is cruel, hurtful and abusive, or alternatively, you're cruel hurtful and abusive for remembering the situation or calling them out for their behaviour, when they claim none of this even happened. If the abusers often gaslight you and try to make you second-guess your own memories and senses, eventually you will struggle with trusting your senses and feel like you can't trust your own memory and have to take on their version. But here's some reasons why gaslighting can be caught onto and confirmed that it doesn't make any logical sense.

If this person/people are claiming that I am the one who is continually hurtful, cruel and abusive, why are they insisting on keeping me in their life? Why do they keep taking measures to make sure I can't get away or am dependant on them, if they truly find me selfish, hurtful, insane, and abusive? Wouldn't they want to make way for me to get away from them, instead of endlessly convincing me that I'm the one who is in the wrong in every single situation?

If I am remembering things wrong, how come it's only the memories where my abuser/s look bad? All memories where they look good are somehow correct, that can't be right? If I remember things wrong, it would be both good and bad, not only situations that make them feel bad about themselves.

If these people seriously believe I'm someone who invents crazy stories of abuse, cruelty and torture, how do they still feel safe interacting with me? Aren't they worried I'll suddenly come up with an imaginary scenario telling everyone they did something horrible to me that they didn't do? Why don't they keep away from me if they truly believe me to be such a freak?

If I am truly someone who is doing awful and abusive things to these people/this person, how come it's never called out until I come out calling them out first? Why is my behaviour only addressed after I speak out first? How come it's never a problem all the other time when I'm not actively trying to figure out what the truth is? How come it's only relevant when they'd like me to shut up and stop asking questions and asking them to acknowledge reality? And then suddenly I am a problem. If I am a problem, I'd be a problem the entire time, not only in specific situations that they want to get out of.

If these people truly believe that I am losing my memories, inventing new memories, can't be counted on to remember the past correctly, or to comprehend and understand what is going on around me, why wouldn't they be concerned about this, and try to get me help? If they truly believe I have memory distortions and reality distortions, wouldn't they want to make sure I'm getting some kind of help, that I'm being supported to get a better grip on reality? How come this is only an issue for them, but no concern for me, other than me being condescendingly told to 'get help' or that I need to be 'institutionalized', in order to scare me, is that how loving people react to their loved one losing grip on reality? People are deadly worried for their loved ones who are losing the sense of reality, this usually happens due to a serious brain disease and people struggling with it can no longer safely take care of themselves; it's a cause for concern and extra care. Yet they show no inclination to want to care or help at all for this perceived 'problem' they claim I'm having, and use it to scare me into believing that this is my own fault. Does It make sense for them to react with such relish and condescension if they believe that this problem is real? Wouldn't they only act like this if they invented this idea in order to hide their abusive behaviour behind the lie that I remember things wrong, and need to shut up about it?

If I remembered things wrong, that would be a discussion, we could sit and talk about how I remembered things and why, instead of my version being shut down and me being told off for even voicing it, that is not a normal reaction. In what situation is a person who 'remembers things wrong' not even allowed to speak their own memories? Why would it be bad that these 'wrongly remembered' events ever come to light? Wouldn't it be interesting to know, if someone remembered something completely wrong, to hear their version? Rather than being dead-set on shutting that down, like those memories are an active threat for their well being.

It doesn't make sense. If abusers truly believe that you're a person disconnected from reality, who is also cruel, selfish, abusive and unreliable in every way, then they would react very differently to you than they do. If they had a truly bad opinion of you, and you were a harmful person to their well being, they would not want to keep you around, they would not dare to take their shit out on you, they would  not dare to tell you what to do, how to think, what to believe, they'd be scared. But they're not. They're instead acting like they're right to control your every movement and thought, and right to tell you which of your memories you're allowed to remember and voice.

Their behaviour suggests there's something in your memories they're dead set on suppressing and hiding, even at the cost of your own sanity. That is not a behaviour of loving, concerned, innocent people.

[tenitchyfingers]

Zionist nazis: *do ethnic cleansing of a peaceful and unarmed population living in a concentration camp with no human rights, being constantly controlled, killing people in routine raids, killing peaceful protesters, harassing civilians, insulting and demeaning and dehumanizing them in every possible way*

Palestinians: *push back in the lightest way*

Zionist nazis:

[alwaysbewoke]

[2-kamikou-1]

also im not adding this onto the mrs asahina post because it's less fandom related but I think more people should talk about how labeling abusive parents as narcissistic as if they're synonymous or even correlated is harmful to the children being abused as well

[variousqueerthings]

been reading a lot of clive barker recently and find him to be incredibly whimsical, life-affirming, and wondrous so I decided to read his ya series "abarat" which as it turns out isn't finished, so we're waiting at a point of utter despair for the most part, rip to the kids (that being said I do wish I'd known of it when I was a kid, no matter how frustrated by the wait I might have been)

anyway, do think I will write a little fanfic that nobody is going to read of christopher carrion and finnegan hob working through their mutual realisation that they were both being used by princess boa (meanwhile she's shooting finger guns at them, love her, love how she fucked up not one but two incredibly powerful silly boys, love that she just loves being bad, it appears to be her whole raison d`etre), and then they make out or smthin, unclear

[halo-eater]

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[struggling-to-find-home]

So you're telling me

That I spent FOUR GODDAMN WEEKS fighting in a cycle of horrible binges and being too depressed to eat anything

Worked through countless on mental and emotional issues

And now

NOW

When all of that is finally over

MY APPETITE DECIDES TO COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR??????

What in the ACTUAL FUCK

>:(((((((((((

[all-ship-are-bad]

RitShou

So we go for another popular one? Another bad one too 😤

For starters, Shou is the son of Touichiro who was the head of a terrorist organisation. So obviously by association, this makes him a villain too, especially since he likely worked for him at some point. This cannot be forgotten and forgiven.

Not to help Shou's case he literally kidnapped Ritsu once and even burned down his house, staging that the family died and causing distress in Mob. Which, obviously, Ritsu would never forgive since he loves his brother so much and only wants his best.

How can you ship someone who did things like this? What tells me he won't do something like this again?

And like all the other proposed MP100 ships, there is a power impalement between the two. After all, Shou is a much stronger esper than Ritsu, which could be used for even more abuse and force him to do things.

Shou is literally such an evil and bad character, how could think in ANY kind of way that this ship would be alright 😨