#dont fetishize gay people

[justgotpunched]

Are you a top or a bottom ma'am I am threat to national security

[thepileofclothesonyourdesk]

non queer girls are like: Of course im an ally! I love fetishizing gay men!!

[usercelestial]

gay people like watching gay people kiss each other? what are you gonna do about it? should we call the president? should we call the cops?

[nilovalentine]

you guys ever think about how many of the 'straight women fetishizing gay men' from 5 years ago are now gay trans men. Isn't that kinda funny

[simcardiac-arrested]

as a russian who doesn't talk to russian people online what the shit is happening there hello

look man i myself have put in the effort to Not talk to online russians for like (checks hand) 7 or so years (of course i’ve met some really great ones but this isn’t about them and they probably know it) but i’m sure the community didn’t change much. actually from the glimpses i see it seems to have gotten worse. don’t even get me startedddddd man

[mintaikk]

When your mom says she has to go through your phone but you have a lot of stuff there questioning your gender, talking shit about her, like a gazillion art references, random memes saves, NSFW art refs, audio of you ranting to the Void, audio of you practicing terrible voice acting, thirsting over fictional characters, documents full of suicidal ideation, honestly so much shit that I'm not sharing here:

[stormblessed95]

Hello storm, i asked this question in another jikook blog but as you are very detailed in your responses i wanted your perspective on it as well. Do you find it a bit strange that from the Taekook perspective Tae seems to only be gay for Jungkook? Let me explain.

Tae has a whole squad of male friends (handsome males), he hangs out with, seems to be close to Park Bogum and even went to an art exhibit with him and they have their own version of GCF, yet not only have I seen Tkkers shrug them off as friends but have 0 malice for Park (not that i want them to) but seem to loathe Jimin? How come? Doesnt Bogum threaten your ship just as much if not more than Jimin?

So in the Taekook world Tae and Kook are deep in love in a ltr and their only threat is Jimin? How does that work. If Jungkook is Tae's type and vice versa, Jimin doesnt fit that mold so why be threatened by his prescence? Park Bogum is tall, gorgeous, talented, if anything he posses a bigger threat since he fits the mold of guys Tae should be into. So why is he shrugged off but Jimin hated and seen as a p*rv and a threat?

I know i am asking a mouthful but when you spend a few minutes thinking about the mind of a Jimin anti, it really shows how irrational these people are.

The tkkrs who do think Tae is only gay for JK, or vice versa where JK is only gay Tae (this is also about the jkkrs who think JK is only gay for Jimin too btw) aren't doing anything but fetishizing a mlm queer relationship for their own fantasies and gratification for their own abysmal love life and/or their own sexual gratification. Both are a problem. It's not okay. And I absolutely blame the media for the crappy representation and fetishizating stereotypes they give queer characters. Because that's then also how these types of shippers view BTS. As characters for them to play out their fantasies with. It's not okay. These are the same people who will ship the members but then at the same time not actually support queer people or the community. It's the "ew gay people" crowd who also go "lol so who do you think the bottom is??" It's the same people who always view one as "the man" and the other as "the girlfriend." They are cosplaying support for queer people behind a ship that they don't TRULY believe in. Because if Tae or JK ever came out as gay, or confirmed they are boyfriends and are gay. Those same people who gloat about winning but also have a really fucking hard time continuing to support them "in their sins." Either you think they are queer and you support them regardless of if they are in the gay ship you want them in, or you don't. Full stop. There is no "I'm only gay for...." there are LOTS of sexualities out there where you are attracted to a variety of genders or non at all. It's all okay, but people don't get to decide that for you. Because that's a cop out of actually supporting and caring for the person(s) you claim to love and support in their queerness and otherwise.

As for the irrationality of being a Jimin anti? You absolutely answered that for yourself. Lol they aren't "threatened" by their other male friendships because they don't actually view think they are gay, therefore other men aren't a "threat." Jimin a "threat" simply because he is the most rival ship, they want to win and they throw all their homophobic and misogynistic ideas and tendencies onto him. It's fucked up.

Idk if any this ended up making sense or if my angry rant just ended up wordy and ranty. But oof this is a topic that gets my gears grinding 😅 thanks for the ask

[storyofundertalelover]

fujoshis when you tell them that sexualizing gay men is uncomfortable and we dont really like it

[lightningfilledsaber]

sigh I’m not doing yaoi discourse in 2023. takes three seconds to look up how it originated versus other gay genres/subgenres like yuri, shounen-ai, bara, or BL. I seriously don’t give a fuck if people create/engage with yaoi but ignoring its origins is not helping anyone especially if you’re trying to reclaim the genre.

[vampirebiter]

i hate those posts thatre like “omggg how do i buy mxtx books without my parents knowing im buying nasty sinful gay stuff heheeheheh”. like ok well step one is to kill yourself

[deepseacityunderground]

sorry, why do we hate sarah z now?

whos "we"?

i think she has ~ fandommommy hating on wlw ships racism is fandom drama shippingbrain nostalgia goggles liberal centrist ~ vibes. i also think her media analysis is shallow and overblown, often twisted to fit her own bias. i also dont like how she responds to criticism. i also dont like the casually racist pasts of her and her clique.

most importantly, i dont like 1hr retrospectives about boring early 10s' fandom spaces full of bigotry and grooming, wherein the spaces are portrayed in a gushing, positive light, apart from a tokenistic nod to said bigotry and grooming about halfway through.

[butchdykenormallen]

i need to. get away from social media before a floating hammer falls from the sky and hits me in the head randy style

[mrs-march-ahs]

Do you do male reader or just fem? Im sorry if i already asked this i dont remember who i askdd this before

Not really, sorry! I've only ever written female or gender! neutral readers

[dashiellqvverty]

looking at negative reviews of drive away dolls and so many of them are so ridiculous <3 it is by no means a perfect film and very much not for everyone like you do not Have To Like it... but so many of the takes are just like "ugh of course this was made by A Straight Man" (and the ppl who acknowledge, but cannot wrap their heads around, whatever ethan coen and tricia cooke have going on). like people are DISGUSTED by it and particularly t.e/rf/s of course (bc it "centers men/penises") and its like.... sorry you hate fun idk

[otasuneyaoi]

the rise in fujishis is so weird and the fact that theres gay men defending them is whatever but from the perspective of another gay man can we maybe stop doing things to deliberately make gay people uncomfortable via yaoi. thatd be awesome

[silverlightsart]

"my brand" "im being told to do this with this" "my content" shut the fuck up shUT THE FUCK UP THE WORDS U SAY TO ME ARE MAKIN NO SENSE TALK TO ME LIKE A FUCKIN NORMAL HUMAN BEING