#finding your way

[nobeerreviews]

I want to write you a poem every day until my hand breaks

and assure you that you’ll find your place

-- Lucas Regazzi

[praiseinchains]

Sometimes the best way to find out what you want in life is to spend time doing what you love and see where it leads.

[pink-alchemy]

[spacedadsupport]

Jean-Luc Picard @SpaceDadSupport My father and brother often mocked my poor winemaking skills and that hurt me terribly in my youth. I had to find my own path before I could excel. It is all right if you are still seeking yours. You’ll get there. I have confidence in you. 12:27 PM · Jun 8, 2023

[andreai04]

One does not realize how powerful a dream is, in the sleeping world as well as the waking one, until it has been stolen from them.

[living-dead-ghost]

Sometimes I wonder if I know who I am

They tell you to be yourself like everyone knows exactly who they are

And yet they pretend to be everything they are not

How could I ever know myself

How could anyone

[dyslexic-asexual]

I think wanting to Lose Contact so much is a manifestation of my desire to lose myself -and by that of course I dont mean become lost TO myself. Rather, I want to find myself, or perhaps I already have, and thats why I feel so lost here. Because I really just want to be lost to other people- people who have the wrong idea. If they cant get knowing me right, then they dont get to know me at all. And I think thats what people mean when they say they want to run away, to disappear, to escape- they want to go somewhere they will be truly known, whether thats by nature, or by a small community, or just by themselves.

Maybe finding ourselves is a process, maybe because we have to build a place where we can be found.

[ethan-rileybrown]

I don't know when I'm going to feel like myself again, ready to let go of someone who was only in my life for a short while but had such a big impact on me. It's so rare to come across someone who ticks all the boxes. I know that in the beginning, we tend to idealise that person and see everything through rose-tinted glasses.

It was the typical "It's not you, it's me" situation, and there's nothing I can do about it. I was too blind, and let's admit it, happy that someone saw the real me. I was being myself and showed my true self, and even like that, I was interesting enough. I've realised that sometimes we meet people, but the timing just isn't right. We never know what's going on inside the other person's head, and I need to understand that. I need to stop thinking about him and move on because to him, I was just another "try," another insignificant guy.

[unhinged-irl]

Having mourned the loss of so many people who didn’t acknowledge that I was part of their life, I wonder what I have learnt?

Initially, it was the bitter disgust and raw hurt of rejection, without being evidently rejected. There was no closure.

But eventually, it is now an understanding. People in general are so complex and while many may have facetious reasons for what they do, I have learnt, now that these rejections were self rejections.

What can I do to mitigate this? Value my own time, my own company and my own energy by engaging fully with people who reciprocate it. Understand that the loss of people who do things half way is not really a loss but a gain for space and people who match my life and my self in some way or another.

[too-much-imagination]

I desperately try to be someone.

Therefore, I am not myself.

[quote-assassin]

“Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

– George Bernard Shaw

[nowhereinminutesbecamesomewhere]

I will find myself one day

[rivetgoth]

It's honestly crazy that discussion around testosterone HRT skews so much towards the beginning stages of it (to the point that you have dozens of guys thinking their transition is "failed" if they don't pass by like a year in lol) and what the initial changes of the first couple of months to years look like, like the classic laundry list of those early basic changes like bottom growth, voice drop, etc, when IMO literally none of that compares remotely to the depth and intensity of the long term total masculinization you start to experience like 3-5+ years in.

[coffee-with-a-stranger]

A map is a powerful metaphor for guidance, direction, and self-discovery in your personal and spiritual journey. Recognize that a map represents a navigational tool that can help you identify your current location, explore new paths, and reach your desired destinations. Embrace the idea that mapping out your life's journey allows you to gain clarity, set intentions, and chart a course towards your goals, dreams, and aspirations.

Cultivate a mindset of exploration, curiosity, and intention as you create your own map of life. Consider the various areas you wish to explore—such as personal growth, relationships, career, spirituality, or creativity—and identify the steps or milestones that will help you navigate towards those desires. Embrace the transformative power of intentional mapping, as it provides you with the framework to visualize your journey and clarify your vision for the future.

Practice using journaling, vision boards, or other creative means to chart your own internal map, documenting your values, aspirations, and experiences along the way. Embrace the opportunities for reflection and adjustment, understanding that your map may evolve as you grow, learn, and encounter new experiences and insights.

By embracing the concept of a map with intention, clarity, and openness, you can navigate your personal and spiritual journey with purpose and confidence. Let the act of creating and following your map serve as a guide to help you stay aligned with your goals while remaining flexible and adaptable to the changes that life may bring. Through the process of mapping your journey, you can cultivate greater self-awareness, understanding, and empowerment as you explore the unique terrain of your life and uncover the rich experiences and opportunities that await you.

[johnesimpson]

Opening Up to the Precarious Life

Alan Watts, Rebecca Solnit, et al.: 'Opening Up to the Precarious Life'

[Illustration, by Julian Peters, of a passage from T.S. Eliot’s The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock. You can read a guide to the poem here — which is where I found this illustration itself. The complete 24-page comic can be viewed at Peters’s own site, here — you can even order a print version of it.] From whiskey river’s commonplace book: This is it. This is my personality, this is my body,…

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