#how to validate for a standard?!!

[mauvearts]

the ever ongoing struggle of finetuning for hours because the colours look different on every device i own T_T

[littlemizzlinguistics]

Studying linguistics is actually so wonderful because when you explain youth slang to older professors, instead of complaining about how "your generation can't speak right/ you're butchering the language" they light up and go “really? That’s so wonderful! What an innovative construction! Isn't language wonderful?"

[hyacinthsdiamonds]

I'm sorry but the irony of Nico calling Max unprofessional is sending me so bad like sir there's an entire garage full of people, who were literally in the trenches trying to survive the Brocedes fallout while just doing their jobs, who might have a few things to say about your (& Lewis') level of professionalism at that time 😭✋️

[mikuyuuss]

I personally think that, Mitsuri was always meant to be somewhat conventionally/stereotypically attractive, except that she still isn't conventional enough by the settings standards.

I'm just basing this from my own personal experience, but from where I'm from, reputation matters, and that includes your outer appearance. It's definitely a lot looser now, but there are still times where some people have specific expectations for women. Sometimes it's not enough to be girly and feminine, you have to be a specific kind of feminine. Sometimes It's also not enough to be conventionally pretty. It definitely helps, but if people notice something odd about you, they will gossip about it.

Having natural black hair is also still a thing. Some people were very judgemental when I dyed my hair pink/red. I was also forbidden in certain gatherings bc some of them have a random policy against hair color, so much that I had no choice but to wear a black wig. Some universities also forbid dying hair in bright colors. A lot of the reasons for this is that it just looks bad to them, and it looks "cheap". It ruins their pristine, uniform image.

I think that’s why Mitsuri’s design is built around her hair. I guess some asian cultures still see brightly dyed hair as some sign of rebellion and non conformity. While my experience isn't as bad, I can only imagine that it must be a lot worst for Mitsuri. Maybe she's only slightly weird by today's standards, but she's a woman living in Taisho Era, so I believe the expectations for her might have been stricter.

That's why I think that in a way, Mitsuri being stereotypically attractive works. I think It shows that the expectations for women are just that specific and narrow, that even though she's already very feminine and checks off a lot of the list, it's still not enough. People think that, her appetite, strength and her hair already stand out too much. By their standards, She's already too weird.

I'm sure everyone is familiar with the phrase "The nail that sticks out gets hammered down."

It also makes sense why she would join the corps. Aside from her wonderful family, she must have felt so stifled by her environment. She must have felt that no matter how hard she tries, she will be forced to hide every little thing that makes her unique. But in the corps, they are fellow misfits not as bound by norms and conventions, so she joins them, because they can appreciate her just as she is.

[lnmei]

hi, as someone who's been getting a lot of inboxes about donating to families, I was wondering how do you go about checking whether these accounts are real or not? As much as I want to help Palestinians, i also do not want to give scammers my money. I tried going to individual blog but it's so confusing, not to mention there is at least a few people saying this *insert blog* is a scam. As soon as I shared one campaign, a bunch more just keep popping up and I'm just hoping to look for some general guidance and not encourage people incentive to give money to scumbag scammers who are making money off the backs of real victims. Trying to check whether a blog is real or not turns out to be very difficult as it's just a he said she said situation as far as I can tell?

Hello! Since you asked I’ll go into some detail.

So there’s a whole process that a number of individual bloggers or groups on and off tumblr do to vet fundraisers to ensure that the money donated to those fundraisers are towards real Palestinians in need! Blogs like @/el-shab-hussein, @/nabulsi and @/ibitsams are Palestinian users who go to great lengths to ensure that the fundraisers they share are real and trustworthy, at least in terms of who the Palestinian families and individuals are that ask for help. You can read about some examples of the vetting process here but TL;DR is that Palestinian vetters will ensure the validity of fundraisers in Gaza by communicating with askers in the Palestinian Arabic dialect, check official government issued identification documents, check with vetted people who claim to be friends or family with the person, and even have contacts on the ground in Gaza to gather this information and verify in person (one of whom has his own fundraiser that is only £806/£20k; please donate if you’ve ever made use of el-shab-hussein’s vetting (proof that this is his vetter))

Ahmed (@/90-ghost) is another user who is a Gazan and longtime tumblr user who’s campaign succeeded in raising him funds to escape Gaza and he has since been vetting campaigns himself, so fundraisers reblogged to his blog are for those whom he has already vetted and trusts. (His relatives still trapped in Gaza are also fundraising; please donate to help his brother and his cousin who’s fundraisers are still yet to meet their goal after months)

Sometimes you’ll see a fundraiser is vetted by association with other vetted fundraisers and blogs; these are friends or family of Palestinians that people recognize or other non-Palestinian Tumblr users are friends with and therefore find trustworthy.

There are a number of spreadsheets that you can check that compile vetted fundraisers, and you can look into what the compilers do to vet if you’re curious; here are a few of the well known ones:

el-shab-hussein and nabulsi’s spreadsheet

gazafunds.com

Operation Olive Branch

Gaza Vetters

Often if you check the notes of a post or search up a blog on tumblr you will see people mention if a fundraiser is vetted or not and use that to find the source.

There are unfortunately opportunists out there! But more often than not these opportunists are scamming and stealing funds from Palestinians they claim to be fundraising for. I have read accounts of thousands being transfered out of funds by an organizer just for the Palestinians waiting for the money to never hear from the organizer again. Due to the nature of gofundme’s policies in Palestine and the complicated process of moving money into Gaza, Palestinians must rely on organizers in other countries and we cannot always know if those organizers are doing the right thing.

Ultimately you must use your own judgement but these systems have been running tirelessly for months to make it easier to know you are helping real people, you just have to trust in the community that’s been doing the work.

Hope this helps!

[good-to-drive]

"Yoko wasn't a nice person" neither were the beatles....

[thekimspoblog]

Is the video game really subverting its genre? Are you sure it's not just doing clever things within its genre, because otherwise the game would be boring and unchallenging and say nothing interesting? I'm just saying, it's cool and all that the internet allows horror game fandoms to overflow into eachother, but not EVERY 2 hour video essay needs to be spent breathlessly sucking off the devs. Sometimes a game is just REGULAR difficult and REGULAR high-quality.

Besides RPGs made over a decade ago, what is the thing supposedly subverting? Clearly not other contemporary indie horror games, because there is clearly a convergent ethos forming of cosmic horror and beginners' traps; that's just what the genre looks like nowadays.

[dreamings-free]

by Peter Bevan | Evening Standard | Sep 4th 2024 (excerpt)

What are the best products for styling hair?

“It really depends on the type of hair and look you’re going for,” says Krystle Gohel, celebrity groomer who regularly works with Louis Tomlinson. “For straight hair, sea salt spray can be great for adding a low-maintenance gritty feel and for curly hair, curling mousse or an oil-based product is great to define curls.”

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So, those with curly hair tend to need creams which help with frizz and breakage while those with straight hair usually opt for volume-enhancing alternatives like sea salt spray or matte clay. There are also pomades and gels which deliver a slick finish or hair spray if you want extra hold. 

Haircare experts Horace, Patricks and OUAI all enrich their styling formulas with worthwhile ingredients, too, rather than the nasties you might find in some of the mass-market brands. Gohel’s favourite brands? “The brands I use most are Paul Mitchell, Bumble & bumble and Balmain. And I love my Dyson hairdryer which I use with the diffuser to create soft waves.”

-> full article here at standard.co.uk

Peter Bevan and Krystle Gohel instagram stories 6/9/24

[luciddaydreamingworlds]

Ready for da beach~

Trying out a pose and some foreshortening that I'm honestly not that great at. I feel like I did good here, tho, I like how this turned out.

I'm also testing out different tattoos and placements. I know generally what tattoos I want her to have and where, it's just a matter of posing them and making sure they look well together without making the space look too cluttered.

[m0thlegs]

As much as purity culture IS penetrating fandom spaces and sanitising them beyond their core intent, I feel like some of you are overusing the phrase "don't like, don't read" (and others like it). Rather in response to people being nitpicky about certain themes merely existing in content (fan-made or otherwise), you guys keep using it as a way to shut down critical discussions of your favourite medias in a way that feels oddly anti-intellectual and ironically puritanical in and of itself.

[mushed-kid]

ok how do i know if my feelings are warranted/‘right’ or if im just dramatic and emotional ?

[19thcenturyfuck]

every time i get into a fandom i tell myself i will not fixate on some bizarre worldbuilding detail. anyway, here i am going insane thinking about time lord societal views/attitudes/norms/etc. about regeneration

[kyliafanfiction]

Boiled down to an overly reductive binary, there's really two approaches people can take to 'spicy toxic problematicness' for a character.

Either it's the starting point for the character, or it's the ending point for the character.

That is, for some people, the real fun is in detangling a fucked up mess of a character and bringing them to some level of... if not 'okay', then at least 'more okay' compared to before. It's not about turning them into a fluffy harmless woobie that barely resembles themselves, all the rough edges filed off, but it definitely does ultimately involve them ending up somewhere more functional than they began.

For others, the toxicity is the goal, the draw, the end game. They want the characters to get... well, worse implies a moral judgement that doesn't always apply, but to borrow a phrase I heard someone use a few weeks ago, they probably want to accelerate a character's fucked-upness. That end point may involve them still being better off in terms of their lived daily reality, maybe even involve them hurting less people, or even helping people, but they're more fucked up than they were before, even if in different ways.

Obviously, this is, as I said, reductive, but separating out the two trendlines when it comes to fandoms for the kinds of characters or ships that attract this kind of binary can be hard, and can result in intrafannish issues, because people may tend to see one as the only acceptable approach, or at least the only form of approach that involves real appreciation for the character.

But neither one is solely valid, even insofar as this binary really holds water in lived reality.

Hard to keep in mind sometimes.

[iceyrukia]

when you appropriate a gender roles applied to women and make it about men

[skrunksthatwunk]

still thinking about how one of my first yyh meta posts got reblogged onto an sjw cringe comp blog in the year of our woke 2022. truly tumblr dot com, the last bastion of progressivism, has fallen (<- sarcasm) and also i'm kinda baffled that they didn't choose like. me putting yusuke in a skirt or something

[floral-hex]

Haven’t been sleeping well because, and this is the stupidest reason, I’m so full of damnable longing. All I do is yearn and pine and want.