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sasjamal · 2 months

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I’ve literally gotten over girls I’ve known and loved for years in seconds. But I barely even knew hiba (but it was ridiculously hawt), and it took me five years and about 22-23 shots of absolut vodka for five years to get over her.

And the moment I was finally over her. I was upset, I didn’t want to be over her. I think in retrospect that’s probably the moment I became in atheist (that lasted all of two seconds, it’s not even scientifically sound lol the scientific method alone could literally destroy atheism in two seconds. You guys are arrogant cock suckers. God is a gangsta, watch what he will do the Jews, your next with your child gender reassigning shit). I only fell for the atheism bull shit because god had destroyed my heart body and soul through hiba and countless other girls lol). But there is too much magic in the world to be anything but agnostic ☺️.

I’m not a follower of any religion but when god works his magic …. It’s something to behold.

If you guys could just see what I see (I literally see devils. Angels, pussies you can physically finger and your finger glistens, murders, rapes, torture, angels,ghosts, friends) you would become Muslim on the spot (it’s just the latest release of god, it dosent mean you’ve been wrong your entire life, you just need to go to your local Verizon and pick up the latest iPhone (Islam specifically the Ismaili Shia sect (which is the shiniest toy from 𝐀𝐥𝐥𝐚𝐡.𝐆𝐨𝐝 😀

Allah has been so gracious and. Kareem to me. That I can almost close my eyes and the world sits up and dances and I can feel. Everything , the drugs just make them cooler but also a lot scarier. But omg if you can withstand gods imagination and knowledge you would freeze in time. I’m so grateful he did not just say kun fa yakun 𝐁𝐞 and it is. I would have never seen him or understood him. News flash it’s ok to marry babies, rape your wife’s, and do unto others what has been done to you.

But I’ll let all you faggots figure that out on your own. Write your books, do your Ted classes, smoke your pussy ass drugs (weed), get drunk cause your a worthless piece of creation.

When I finally learn enough magic to procure cocaine hookers, books and my own social media platform dedicated just to me and no one else can see. I will never be heard from again ☺️

If I’ve done the math right, you need me for about 41 more years, then Leonard clever and I will watch in happiness about our creation (you, the children of god/us). And the refactoring will be complete. It’s a long story and if you have time I can explain it to you. God is odd and he loves odd. But 3,5,7,9 n+1 gods would be impossible for humans to grasp. So religion is the game they all create for our success. Christianity was :, Islam is one, but now we are here on earth and Leonard are clever are nice. But I do gods dirty work (I’m the devil and I no longer Need your sympathy as if your selfish faggot asses ever had any for me anyway). I don’t fuck around. If I get sick of you I wi literally gene test everyone in the world say be, and the fucktards of our experiment (all of you) will die. Clever and Leonard have assured me your end the day of judgement will be painless (it’s just literature, it’s just god using words) but, I am not like my law abiding citizens of the world (the other two gods). I will tear you apart limb by limb by limb. I’m actually a SalFee. Qutubi. I would destroy my daughters and my own life to destroy all of yours). The world has never seen me angry. And. You do not want to. You got a glimpse of it when I sent those planes crashing into the whatever targets I did. I was smart enough to not let the fifth plane hit the pentagon. America is still young but emotional and trigger happy. Of course only god has the right to legislate so all you ‘voters’ are disbelievers in god worshipping yourself. Hate to break it to all you Christian’s Jews and Muslims you’ve all left your god (me Leonard and clever ) the. Moment you cast your first ballot.

But I’ll let you in on a secret, me personally the devil find man made religions interesting and as we fashion our next religions we incorporate. Them into our religions. We pay attention to Bieber,Shania Twain we know everything about.everyone of you.

America is young but it’s time to change. You guys clearly value your own lives more than others,you’re careless with your families,children and weapons and you move to slowly. One thing I absolutely love and you got right that even we did not (the gods, so attaboy humans! 𝐅𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐎𝐦 𝐨𝐟𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐞𝐜𝐡.in the old days we all that freedom of speech was just for the gods, 𝐈.𝐞. we could literally lie to you and. Tell. You. There is a hell lolbiggest lie. We ever told.

But I digress if you need clarification call me or email me.

But you. Got it wrong! Your there! It’s in the constitition!!!! You have the right to hate all black people (I find them fucking. Ugly as fuck, you can hate faggots, you can say or DO whatever the. Fuck you want to anyone or about anyone but you can’t VIOLATE their rights thats all. The moment some country makes it legal to sleep with your. Own daughter (it’s allowed in Islam if you know the loopholes). I’ll. Finally get that perfect blowjob. 😂. I’m. So excited. About the blow job thT I haven’t even thought about the. Day she breaks her period ☺️.what are you. Going to do about it? AbsaFuckingLootly nothing until I break the law.

But I know the Islamic.loophole already,I I also know your loophole create a two party (but for countries) like Pakistan. And America (how the fuck do you think m we became nuclear powers overnight, we literally fuck goats lol).

I qualify for dualcktizenshio I just need one country. To not let the other impression one. Of their own citizens and ideally be a sitting president in one or both countries. I’m. Better at multi. Tasking than Elon musk lol).

Anyway. I’ve rambled on.. but it should.be sixth grade English reading material.

FWIW god damn who knew adderal could light up your nipples and penis for so long. I found a dirty little. Slutty whore, I wonder if she would pretend to be hafsA. My step daughter lol I knew her since she was six and there was a lot of hugs kisses and yea. Just hugs and kisses.

Then. I met. Cocaine. And. I spent 10k on phone sex describing what I. Want to do my. Step daughter.

I swear cocaine will corrupt any male. Seems to make women more chill though .

But dude honestly. Without cocaine I would. Never have thought of turning my daughter into the most devoted loving whore slut. You do not have. To resort to grooming lying rape to get what you want. If you have a good relationship with your daughter she may let you in on. The fact that her hormones are nuts and she sticks a finger into her pussy when she feels naughty (women don’t admit it because they are shy and they are devalued), but they’re whores much worse than men.

Anyway to make a long story short cocaine,thirteen year old horny girl who only has one real man in her life (you). And a mother. Who is literally the whornisst

Slut in the world drunk licking my butt clean with her younger teaching her daughter how to enjoy being even sluttier. Than her mom.

Ok got to go!

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lifeofresulullah · 8 months

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The Life of The Prophet Muhammad(pbuh): The Battle of Uhud and Afterwards

The Battle of Uhud: Part 2

The Speech of Hazrat Haysama

Hazrat Haysama had drawn lots with his son Sa’d in order to join the Battle of Badr. Hazrat Sa’d had won the lots. Sa’d had reached the rank of martyrdom, which he had desired, in the Battle of Badr. Haysama, the father of the martyr Sa’d spoke as follows:

“O Messenger of God! The Qurayshis collected soldiers from Arabs in the desert and from the Ahabish tribe, their allies. They rode their camels and horses and came to our land. They will surround us in our houses and castles and then leave. They will talk against us. It will increase their courage. If we see them but do not confront them and do not expel them from our land, the Arabs around us will set their eyes on us!

It is hoped that God will make us defeat the Qurayshis. If the second one happens – which is martyrdom –, I was deprived of it in Badr. I had desired it so much. My son, who heard that I desired to fight in Badr, drew lots with me. He won the lots. He reached the rank of martyrdom in the end. However, I had desired to become a martyr so much. I saw my son in a very nice state last night. He was walking around the fruits and rivers of Paradise. He said to me, ‘ Join me in the friendship of Paradise! I found the truth that my Lord promised me.’ By God, O Messenger of God, when I opened my eyes in the morning, I started to long for being a friend of my son in Paradise. I got very old. I want to meet my Lord. O Messenger of God! Pray God so that He will give me martyrdom and make me a friend of my son in Paradise!”

The Messenger of God fulfilled the wish of Haysama. He prayed for him.

Malik b. Sinan, the father of Abu Said al-Khudri said, “O Messenger of God! One of the two things will be with us. Either God will make us victorious against them – which is what we want – or He will grant us martyrdom. O Messenger of God! No matter which one we receive, it will be good for us, I think.”

Nu’man b. Malik, who was also a heroic Companion, said, “O Messenger of God! I witness that I am one of the Companions represented by the slaughtered cow you saw in your dream. Do not deprive us of Paradise. I swear by God, except whom there is no God, I should go to Paradise.”

The Messenger of God said, “How?”

Hazrat Numan said, “I witness that there is no god but Allah and that you are the Messenger of God; I love God and His messenger. When I encounter the enemy, I never run away.”

The Prophet said, “You are right and you have told the truth.”

Decision

When the Messenger of God found out that the majority wanted to confront the enemy outside Madinah, he decided to leave the city and fight the enemy in the open terrain. He addressed his Companions as follows:

“If you show patience and perseverance, God Almighty will send you His help. What we need to do is to be determined and to exert effort!”

After the Final Decision

It was Friday.

After leading the Friday prayer, the Messenger of God mentioned the virtue of jihad and how to prepare for jihad and said, “To hesitate to join jihad and to delay is weakness. If you show patience and perseverance, the help of God will come. Show patience and perseverance! If you show patience and perseverance, the help of God will be with you.”

After leading the afternoon prayer, the Messenger of God went to his house together with Hazrat Abu Bakr and Umar. Those two Companions would help prepare the Prophet.

While the Messenger of God was busy with putting on his armor, Sa’d b. Muadh and Usayd b. Khudayr warned the Muslims who were waiting outside by saying, “You insisted although the Prophet did not want to go out of Madinah. In fact, he receives orders from the sky. Let him do whatever he wants and obey him!”

Those words softened the people who wanted to confront the enemy outside Madinah to a certain extent; some of them even regretted it. When they saw the Messenger of God wearing an armor and holding his sword, they said, “O Messenger of God! We do not want the thing that you do not like. If you want to stay in Madinah, let us stay here. We cannot move in contrary to your views!”

The Messenger of God replied:

“It does not fit a prophet to take off his armor without fighting the enemy and before God makes a judgment between him and his enemy.”

After that, he said,

“Do what I have told you to do quickly. Go by mentioning the name of God. As long as you show patience and perseverance, God will help you.”

Islamic Army

The number of the Muslims getting ready for the confrontation was about one thousand.[15]It was about one-third of the Qurayshi army… There were only one hundred armored people.

There were three standards in the army. Mus’ab b. Umayr carried the standard of the Muhajirs; Usayd b. Khudayr carried the standard of the Aws tribe and Hubab b. Mundhir the standard of Khazraj tribe.

The Islamic army was ready to move.

The Prophet mounted his horse, put his bow on his shoulder and held his spear. He left Abdullah b. Umm Maktum in Madinah to represent him. Two armored Companions, Sa’d b. Muadh and Sa’d b. Ubada were in front of him; the mujahids were on his right and left.

The Companion that Desired Paradise

It was when the Islamic army was about to set off for Uhud.

Amr b. Jamuh, who was lame, had a great desire to join the expedition. He had four sons, who always joined the Prophet in expeditions. He called his sons and said, “Take me to the expedition!”

His sons said, “The Messenger of God allowed you not to join the expedition. God regards you as excused.”

Amr, who had the love of God and the Messenger of God in his heart, did not heed what they said and shouted at his sons, ”Shame on you! You prevented me from reaching Paradise in the Expedition of Badr. Do you want to prevent me again from the Expedition of Uhud? I cannot stay at home when everybody goes to Paradise!” Then, he went to the presence of the Prophet and said, “O Messenger of God! My sons want to prevent me from the expedition through various excuses. I swear by God that I want to join the expedition and wander in Paradise limping!” Then, he asked, “O Messenger of God! Do you not find it appropriate for me to fight in the way of God, to be martyred and to wander in Paradise with my lame legs?”

The Messenger of God said, “Yes, I find it appropriate but God regards you as excused. You do not have to make jihad!” Then, he said to the sons of Amr, “You do not have to prevent him from joining the expedition. Let him do what he wants. God may grant him martyrdom.”

Thereupon, Amr b. Jamuh armed immediately and turned to the Kaaba, praying, “O God! Grant me martyrdom!”

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sisterssafespace · 2 years

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Salam alaykum sister(s),

First : thank you for setting up this safe place. may Allah reward you for it.

I would like to ask you for advice on how to not become too attached when getting to know someone as a potential spouse.

When I was younger, I was good at keeping a distance. I dealt with the whole "getting to know step" in a businesslike manner and a very detached attitude. But years went by and somehow it never worked out and I remained unmarried. I thought maybe it was because I was too detached and relaxed about the process, not caring so much.

So I decided to be more approchable and a little less guarded. But as you can guess, disaster struck as I got deeply attached to someone who was not serious about it. It wasn't a relationship but a very long winded "getting to know" in which I thought he was getting ready to take the next step but it turned out he was just keeping me around because he felt lonely. And I kept it up because I was attached to him. It's over now alhamdulillah.

Now, I've been introduced to someone else and I'm scared I'll get attached. I'm hoping and praying this person is genuine and will be serious about this.

It was easier to remain emotionally detached when I was younger : If it didn't work out, I'd still have years left but it's getting later and later to start a family ( maybe I'm your age or older than you). Now, in spite of a healthy relationship with God, supportive family and friends : I do feel very lonely and tired with all this. This loneliness makes vulnerable. And I'm scared I'll get my hopes up and get attached and get hurt again.

How do I remain genuine, warm, approchable but avoid attachement?

Please make dua for me to get married. I don't want to complain and I want to trust God... I just don't want to make the same mistakes again.

Wa alaykum assalamu wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuhu dear,

I hope you are at much better place now since you sent this ask, and apologies for the late reply as I was a bit busy outside of tumblr, but kheir in shaa Allah.

I think what you are describing applies to your life approach in general and not necessarily when it comes to potential spouses and marriage, because we all have different attachment styles, and often they get affected by our mental health, our experiences and our traumas.. so it makes total sense that you've become more wary and reserved after your heart got broken the last time. That's a natural defense mechanism.

My idea though is that if you can change your perspective on the " meeting/ getting to know someone " process, it could help. Instead of focusing on how much attachement you should let out toward the guy, I recommend you get more attached to Allah swt because that's the only attachment that won't let you hurt and broken at the end. If you use every atom of love and care that you have in your heart to love Allah swt, the planner, the Creator, the provider, and trust that He swt will give you the right guy for you at the right time for you, then you will find it easy to act around the potential spouse. Allah swt won't let you down, He will make ways for you to be comfortable or uncomfortable if the guy is not your naseeb or rizq. Do not spend your energy worrying about how to act around the guy and how to present yourself during the " getting to know them" period, rather focus your energy on making duaa that Allah swt guide you and ease your affairs. The closer you are to Allah swt the more you will be filled with peace and confidence, which will be radiating in your manners and your interactions with people around you.

And do not forget to make the duaa of Musa (as):

رَبِّ إِنِّي لِمَا أَنْزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ

`My Lord! I stand in need of whatever good You may bestow on me.'

May Allah swt bless your journey and fill your heart with patience and contentment my dear, ameen.

May Allah swt grant the girls of this ummah the pious husband that would fear Allah swt and take good care of them, ameen.

- A. Z. 🍃

#on marriage #sisterssafespace

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chrispineisagoddess · 2 years

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[The Mummy/Warning: Male Pregnancy]

Part 3 / Sorry for Mistakes / Part 2 / Part 1

Ardeth just wanted Jonathan and the thought of having a child with him, it was almost unreal to the Leader. All his life, he did not expect to find love with a man, and an English man to top it off. He was everything the leader could’ve wanted in his other half. The night his lover had pulled him close to let him know that he might not mind bringing a child into this world belonging to them both, he willingly and gladly embraced his lover with no second thoughts. The months leading up to the pregnancy had its ups and down. After a month, Jonathan already felt he was “broken” and couldn’t give birth. I had consoled him through many nights, he did not want to do anything physical and I had done whatever he needed. After that whole week though, Jonathan had been insaciable. Instead of Ardeth usually taking the lead, Jonathan couldn’t keep his hands off of the Medjai warrior. He told Ardeth that no matter what, he was all that mattered but deep down, I knew it hurt him at the thought of not being able to have a child together. — after a whole day of talking to the other leaders about problems relating to some new tourists wandering in the dessert aimlessly in search of treasure and somehow ending up near Hamunaptra, he finally gets back and heads towards his tent. Thered be no Jonathan as he had went out into the city to visit some friends. He walks into the tent and notices a body laying down. He smiles and takes his robes off. He takes a drink before kneeling down to embrace his lover from behind. Jonathan goes to turn and I stare into his deep blue eyes. His pupils are nearly blown. He kisses me and I feel him grab my hand to guide it down. I feel his stomach, the particular spot where his birthmark is. I pull away and look down. I look back up and his smile says it all. “Praise Allah.” I say before embracing him. They lay in bed together celebrating in their own way by basking in each other’s presence and thinking about the new life growing inside of Jonathan.

Thank you for reading! I’m sorry for my bad writing.

#The Mummy #Ardeth x Jonathan #Jonathan x Ardeth #fluff #Mpreg

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ramadhanseries · 1 year

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JUZ 13 - LESSONS

Every person is incited by his nafs. Sometimes he's so overtaken by his pleasures that he doesn't distinguish between halal and haram.

Ask Allah SWT to protect you from the whisperings of your nafs. Make the following dua consciously:

اللهم اتِ نَفْسي تَقْوَاهَا وَزَكَهَا التَ خَيْرُ مَنْ زَكَّاهَا أَنْتَ وَلِيُّهَا وَ مَوْلَاهَا "O Allah! Grant piety to my soul (nafs) and purify it, You are the Best of the ones to purify it; You are its Guardian and Patron." (Sahih Muslim)

- If you're in a haram relationship that you fell into because of one wrong phone call, one e-mail reply, one text...but you want to get out of this haram relationship then "ask" Allah SWT to change your heart and replace the haram with halal. We can only get out of the evils by the Mercy of Allah SWT.

- Two qualities required for managing financial tasks: Accounting skills and trustworthiness - Develop your skills and become of those who benefit others

- Don't brag about your accomplishments, degree or skills. If no one has asked you then remain quiet. Your work and speech "should show" how accomplished or knowledgeable you are. The only exception is when you are applying for a job or volunteering for a task. Then you must step forward and share your strengths.

➖Same rule applies to good deeds. Don't advertise or brag.

- Good deeds and evil deeds leave their marks. For e.g. people who spend their days and nights with the Qur'an, their faces are radiant. They don't need facials to maintain their appearance. Do more good deeds!

- We need patience to live at the level of a Muhsin - he who does everything at the level of excellence.

➖Clean your heart from resentments. Remember that all negative feelings are from Satan. When he reminds you of the people who have hurt or harmed you, think about the people who have been kind and loving towards you. Make du'a for them and ask Allah SWT to purify your heart.

We can't become Muhsin if our hearts are ill.

- When people accuse you of something that you have not done then don't respond immediately. Wait for the right time to clarify your position. For the time being tell yourself, "Allah is most knowing of what you describe." (12:77)

- Good reputation is required to do Da'wah.

➖When things are not according to your plan or desires then remind yourself ➡️ "Allah decides for me, and He is the best of judges." (12:80)

- Move away from an intense/painful environment. Turn to Allah SWT like Yaqoob AS did. He said:

إِنَّمَا أَشْكُو بَلِّي وَحُرْنِي إِلَى اللَّهِ

We don't need to narrate the tales of our sorrows to everyone. Share with the One Who can grant you relief.

"I only complain about my suffering and my grief to Allah..." (12:86)

(This is beautiful patience)

➖Yaqoob AS turns to Allah SWT in every situation

• Does not rely on himself

• Does not rely on his sons

• Does not rely on his wisdom

Only relies upon Allah SWT.

➖Those who plot against others, Allah SWT will humiliate them

- Develop Akhlaq like Yusuf AS

➖Put yourself in his place:

- Harmed by blood relatives

- Separated from the parents at a young age

- Captured as a slave

➖Be A Muhsin

- Evil intention of women

- Unjustly imprisoned

➖Does not complain. Forgives everyone

- Allah SWT is our Wali [Guardian/Protecting Friend]. Yusuf AS was a prophet yet he asks Allah SWT to enable him to die as a Muslim and to join him with the righteous. (Make this dua 12:101)

-"That is from the news of the unseen which We reveal, [O Muhammad], to you..." (12:102) This ayah tells us that the Prophet SA did not know the Unseen. He only knew whatever and as much Allah SWT informed him.

➖SURAH AR-RAD

Live between the hope of forgiveness and fear of His punishment

- We don't care about ourselves as much as Allah SWT does. He has appointed angels to protect us from accidents and harm. Recite your morning and evening Athkar regularly.

Sometimes we recite the Athkar yet are deprived of the mercy of Allah SWT. Scrutinize your homes. Have you blocked the entry of the angels in your homes by keeping pictures of animate beings, dogs, musical instruments (including listening to or watching musical programs on the internet or television)?

Unless we give up disobedience of Allah SWT, we should not expect Him to shower His blessings on us.

Be conscious of the presence of the angels around you. They are recording everything.

➖The Prophet SA and the Sahabah RA would seek protection with Allah SWT upon hearing thunder. Because they knew that thunderbolts were a mean of punishment for perished nations.

➖Do Tasbeeh upon hearing thunder.

- Everything in the heavens and the earth prostrates to Allah SWT. But man? Increase your prostrations by taking pleasure in Salah.

- The one who studies the Qur'an and the one who does not study are not equal. Even after you have completed a Qur'an course, stay connected with it. Do not let your company or environment influence you and deviate you from the right path.

➖TO DO: Complete the Journey through the Qur'an course in Ramadan. Do Aitekaaf. Seclude yourself in the last ten nights to connect with Allah SWT. Celebrate Eid. Come back and enroll in another course.

Do not leave the majlis of 'ilm (gathering of knowledge).

Who are the people of understanding?

Those who fulfill their covenant with Allah Those who maintain ties of kinship Those who establish the prayer

Those who are patient, seeking the Countenance of their Lord

Those who spend secretly and publicly Those who prevent evil with good (see 13:19-23)

➖SURAH IBRAHEEM

- The Qur'an takes people out of the darkness into light, from misguidance to guidance, from anxiety and sadness to contentment and peace

- Ask Allah SWT to make your city peaceful. Ask Him to protect you and your children and the generations to come from Shirk.

➖Be patient over the trials. Be grateful for the blessings for gratitude results in increase in favor.

What is gratitude?

What is ingratitude?

Acknowledging a blessing Praising Allah SWT Being happy about it Sharing it with others Spending it in Allah's Way

NOT acknowledging a blessing NOT praising Allah SWT NOT being happy about it NOT being content with it Desiring what one doesn't have

- Satan beautifies sinful actions for us. On the Day of Judgment he will say, "Indeed, Allah had promised you the promise of truth. And I promised you, but I betrayed you. But I had no authority over you except that I invited you, and you responded to me. So do not blame me but blame yourselves." (14:22)

Control your desires (acts of disobedience, whisperings of Satan) as you control hunger when fasting. When Satan puts an evil thought in your heart immediately "recognize" it and ask Allah SWT for His help.

Allah SWT protects His righteous servants as He protected Yusuf AS.

- Before you do something or take a decision, ask yourself: Will this please Allah SWT or displease Him? Make the pleasure of Allah SWT your guiding light.

Be like the palm tree - firmly rooted (in knowledge and emaan) standing tall (above the filth and laghw) and fruitful (beneficial to the people) year long.

JUZ 13 - பாடங்கள்

ஒவ்வொரு நபரும் அவரது நஃப்ஸால் தூண்டப்படுகிறார்கள். சில சமயங்களில் ஹலால் மற்றும் ஹராம் வேறுபடுத்திப் பார்க்காத அளவுக்கு அவர் தனது இன்பங்களால் முந்தியவர்.

உங்கள் நஃப்ஸின் கிசுகிசுக்களிலிருந்து உங்களைப் பாதுகாக்க அல்லாஹ் SWTயிடம் கேளுங்கள். பின்வரும் துஆவை மனப்பூர்வமாக செய்யுங்கள்:

اللهم اتِ نَفۡسي تَقْوَاهَا وَزَكَهَا التَ خَيْرُ مَنْ زَكَّاهَا أَنْتَ وَلِيُّهَا وَ مَوْلَاهَ க்கு சிறந்தவர். (ஸஹீஹ் முஸ்லிம்)

- ஒரு தவறான தொலைபேசி அழைப்பு, ஒரு மின்னஞ்சல் பதில், ஒரு குறுஞ்செய்தி ஆகியவற்றின் காரணமாக நீங்கள் ஹராம் உறவில் இருந்தால், நீங்கள் இந்த ஹராம் உறவில் இருந்து வெளியேற விரும்பினால், உங்கள் மாற்றத்தை மாற்ற அல்லாஹ் SWTயிடம் "கேள்" இதயம் மற்றும் ஹராமை ஹலால் மாற்றவும். அல்லாஹ்வின் கருணையால் மட்டுமே நாம் தீமைகளில் இருந்து மீள முடியும் SWT.

- நிதிப் பணிகளை நிர்வகிப்பதற்குத் தேவையான இரண்டு குணங்கள்: கணக்கியல் திறன் மற்றும் நம்பகத்தன்மை - உங்கள் திறமைகளை வளர்த்துக்கொண்டு மற்றவர்களுக்கு நன்மை செய்பவர்களாக மாறுங்கள்.

- உங்கள் சாதனைகள், பட்டம் அல்லது திறமைகளைப் பற்றி தற்பெருமை காட்டாதீர்கள். யாரும் உங்களிடம் கேட்கவில்லை என்றால் அமைதியாக இருங்கள். உங்கள் வேலையும் பேச்சும் நீங்கள் எவ்வளவு திறமையானவர் அல்லது அறிவாளி என்பதை "காட்ட வேண்டும்". நீங்கள் ஒரு வேலைக்கு விண்ணப்பிக்கும்போது அல்லது ஒரு பணிக்��ாக தன்னார்வத் தொண்டு செய்யும் போது மட்டுமே விதிவிலக்கு. பின்னர் நீங்கள் முன்னேறி உங்கள் பலத்தை பகிர்ந்து கொள்ள வேண்டும்.

➖அதே விதி நல்ல செயல்களுக்கும் பொருந்தும். விளம்பரம் செய்யாதீர்கள் அல்லது தற்பெருமை காட்டாதீர்கள்.

- நல்ல செயல்களும் தீய செயல்களும் அவற்றின் அடையாளங்களை விட்டுச் செல்கின்றன. எ.கா. குர்ஆனுடன் தங்களுடைய இரவுகளையும் பகலையும் செலவிடும் மக்கள், அவர்களின் முகம் பிரகாசமாக இருக்கும். அவர்களின் தோற்றத்தை பராமரிக்க ஃபேஷியல் தேவையில்லை. மேலும் நல்ல செயல்களைச் செய்!

- ஒரு முஹ்சின் மட்டத்தில் வாழ்வதற்கு நமக்கு பொறுமை தேவை - அவர் எல்லாவற்றையும் சிறந்த நிலையில் செய்கிறார்.

➖மனக்கசப்புகளிலிருந்து உங்கள் இதயத்தைச் சுத்தம் செய்யுங்கள். எல்லா எதிர்மறை உணர்வுகளும் சாத்தானிடமிருந்து வந்தவை என்பதை நினைவில் கொள்ளுங்கள். உங்களைப் புண்படுத்திய அல்லது தீங்கு செய்தவர்களை அவர் உங்களுக்கு நினைவூட்டும்போது, உங்களிடம் அன்பாகவும் அன்பாகவும் நடந்து கொண்டவர்களைப் பற்றி சிந்தியுங்கள். அவர்களுக்காக துஆ செய்து, உங்கள் இதயத்தை தூய்மைப்படுத்த அல்லாஹ்விடம் கேளுங்கள்.

இதயம் நோயுற்றால் நாம் முஹ்சின் ஆக முடியாது.

- நீங்கள் செய்யாத ஒன்றை மக்கள் குற்றம் சாட்டினால், உடனடியாக பதிலளிக்க வேண்டாம். உங்கள் நிலைப்பாட்டை தெளிவுபடுத்த சரியான நேரத்திற்காக காத்திருங்கள். தற்போதைக்கு நீங்களே சொல்லுங்கள், "நீங்கள் விவரிக்கும் விஷயங்களை அல்லாஹ் மிக அறிந்தவன்." (12:77)

- தஃவா செய்வதற்கு நல்ல ��ெயர் தேவை.

➖உங்கள் திட்டம் அல்லது விருப்பங்களின்படி விஷயங்கள் இல்லாதபோது, உங்களுக்கு நினைவூட்டுங்கள் ➡️ "அல்லாஹ் எனக்கு முடிவு செய்கிறார், மேலும் அவர் தீர்ப்பளிப்பவர்களில் சிறந்தவர்." (12:80)

- தீவிரமான/வலி நிறைந்த சூழலில் இருந்து விலகிச் செல்லவும். யாகூப் செய்தது போல் அல்லாஹ்வின் பக்கம் திரும்பவும். அவன் சொன்னான்:

إِنَّمَا أَشْكُو بَلِّي وَحُرْنِي إِلَى اللَّهِ

நம் துயரங்களின் கதைகளை எல்லோரிடமும் சொல்ல வேண்டிய அவசியமில்லை. உங்களுக்கு நிவாரணம் வழங்கக்கூடியவருடன் பகிரவும்.

"எனது துன்பம் மற்றும் துக்கங்களைப் பற்றி நான் அல்லாஹ்விடம் மட்டுமே முறையிடுகிறேன்..." (12:86)

(இது அழகான பொறுமை)

➖யாகூப் AS ஒவ்வொரு சூழ்நிலையிலும் அல்லாஹ்வின் பக்கம் திரும்புகிறார்

• தன்னை நம்பி இல்லை

• தன் மகன்களை நம்பியிருக்கவில்லை

• அவரது ஞானத்தை நம்பவில்லை

அல்லாஹ்வை மட்டுமே சார்ந்துள்ளது SWT.

➖மற்றவர்களுக்கு எதிராக சதி செய்பவர்களை அல்லாஹ் இழிவுபடுத்துவான்

- யூசுப் ஏஎஸ் போன்று அக்லாக்கை வளர்த்துக்கொள்ளுங்கள்

➖அவருடைய இடத்தில் உங்களை வைத்துக்கொள்ளுங்கள்:

- இரத்த உறவினர்களால் தீங்கு

- இளம் வயதிலேயே பெற்றோரைப் பிரிந்தவர்

- அடிமையாக பிடிபட்டார்

➖முஹ்சின் ஆக இருங்கள்

- பெண்களின் தீய எண்ணம்

- அநியாயமாக சிறையில் அடைக்கப்பட்டார்

➖புகார் இல்லை. அனைவரையும் மன்னியுங்கள்

- அல்லாஹ் SWT எங்கள் வாலி [பாதுகாவலர்/பாதுகாக்கும் நண்பர்]. யூசுப் AS ஒரு தீர்க்கதரிசியாக இருந்தபோதிலும், அவர் ஒரு முஸ்லிமாக இறக்கவும், நேர்மையானவர்களுடன் தன்னை இணைத்துக்கொள்ளவும் அல்லாஹ் SWT கேட்கிறார். (எனக்கு 12:101 வேண்டும்)

-"இது நாம் உங்களுக்கு வெளிப்படுத்தும் கண்ணுக்குத் தெரியாத செய்திகளில் இருந்து வருகிறது..." (12:102) நபி ஸ. அவருக்கு என்ன தெரியும் மற்றும் அல்லாஹ் SWT அவருக்கு அறிவித்தது மட்டுமே.

➖சூரா அர்-ராட்

மன்னிக்கும் நம்பிக்கைக்கும் அவனது தண்டனைக்கு பயந்தும் வாழுங்கள்

- அல்லாஹ் SWT யைப் போல் நம்மைப் பற்றி நாம் கவலைப்படுவதில்லை. விபத்துகள் மற்றும் தீங்குகளிலிருந்து நம்மைக் காக்க தேவதைகளை நியமித்திருக்கிறார். உங்கள் காலையிலும் மாலையிலும் அத்கரைத் தவறாமல் ஓதவும்.

சில நேரங்களில் நாம் அத்கார் ஓதினாலும் அல்லாஹ்வின் கருணையை இழக்கிறோம். உங்கள் வீடுகளை ஆய்வு செய்யுங்கள். உயிருள்ள உயிரினங்கள், நாய்கள், இசைக்கருவிகள் (இணையம் அல்லது தொலைக்காட்சியில் இசை நிகழ்ச்சிகளைக் கேட்பது அல்லது பார்ப்பது உட்பட) படங்களை வைத்து உங்கள் வீடுகளில் தேவதைகள் நுழைவதைத் தடுத்துள்ளீர்களா?

அல்லாஹ்வின் கீழ்படியாமையை நாம் கைவிடாத வரையில், அவன் நம் மீது அருள் பொழிவான் என்று எதிர்பார்க்கக் கூடாது.

உங்களைச் சுற்றியுள்ள தேவதைகள் இருப்பதைப் பற்றி எச்சரிக்கையாக இருங்கள். அவர்கள் எல்லாவற்றையும் பதிவு செய்கிறார்கள்.

➖நபி SA மற்றும் ஸஹாபாக்கள் RA இடி சத்தம் கேட்டவுடன் அல்லாஹ்விடம் பாதுகாப்பு தேடுவார்கள். ஏனென்றால், அழிந்துபோன நாடுகளுக்கு இடி மின்னல்கள் ஒரு தண்டனை என்று அவர்களுக்குத் தெரியும்.

➖இடி சத்தம் கேட்டவுடன் தஸ்பீஹ் செய்யுங்கள்.

- வானங்கள் மற்றும் பூமியில் உள்ள அனைத்தும் அல்லாஹ்வுக்கு ஸஜ்தா செய்கின்றன. ஆனால் மனிதனா? தொழுகையில் மகிழ்ச்சி அடைவதன் மூலம் உங்கள் ஸஜ்தாக்களை அதிகப்படுத்துங்கள்.

- குர்ஆனைப் படிப்பவனும் படிக்காதவனும் சமமானவர்கள் அல்ல. நீங்கள் குர்ஆன் பாடத்தை முடித்த பிறகும், அதனுடன் இணைந்திருங்கள். உங்கள் நிறுவனம் அல்லது சூழல் உங்கள் மீது செல்வாக்கு செலுத்தி உங்களை சரியான பாதையில் இருந்து விலக்கி விடாதீர்கள்.

➖ செய்ய வேண்டியவை: ரமலானில் குர்ஆன் பாடத்தின் மூலம் பயணத்தை முடிக்கவும். ஐதேகாஃப் செய்யுங்கள். அல்லாஹ் SWT உடன் இணைவதற்கு கடந்த பத்து இரவுகளில் உங்களை தனிமைப்படுத்திக் கொள்ளுங்கள். ஈத் கொண்டாடுங்கள். திரும்பி வந்து வேறு படிப்பில் சேரவும்.

இல்ம் (அறிவு சேகரிப்பு) என்ற மஜ்லிஸை விட்டு விடாதீர்கள்.

புரிதல் உள்ளவர்கள் யார்?

அல்லாஹ்வுடன் செய்த உடன்படிக்கையை நிறைவேற்றுபவர்கள்.உறவு உறவைப் பேணுபவர்கள்.தொழுகையை நிலைநாட்டுபவர்கள்

தங்கள் இறைவனின் திருமுகத்தை நாடி பொறுமையாக இருப்பவர்கள்

இரகசியமாகவும் பகிரங்கமாகவும் செலவு செய்பவர்கள் தீமையை நன்மையால் தடுப்பவர்கள் (பார்க்க 13:19-23)

➖சூரா இப்ராஹீம்

- குர்ஆன் மக்களை இருளிலிருந்து வெளிச்சத்திற்கு அழைத்துச் செல்கிறது, தவறான வழிகாட்டுதலிலிருந்து வழிகாட்டுதலுக்கு, கவலை மற்றும் சோகத்திலிருந்து மனநிறைவு மற்றும் அமைதிக்கு

- உங்கள் நகரத்தை அமைதிப்படுத்த அல்லாஹ் SWTயிடம் கேளுங்கள். ஷிர்க்கிலிருந்து உங்களையும் உங்கள் குழந்தைகளையும் தலைமுறைகளையும் பாதுகாக்கும்படி அவரிடம் கேளுங்கள்.

➖சோதனைகளில் பொறுமையாக இருங்கள். நன்றியறிதலுக்கான ஆசீர்வாதங்களுக்காக நன்றியுடன் இருங்கள்.

நன்றியுணர்வு என்றால் என்ன?

நன்றியின்மை என்றால் என்ன?

ஒரு ஆசீர்வாதத்தை ஒப்புக்கொள்வது அல்லாஹ்வைப் புகழ்வது SWT அதைப் பற்றி மகிழ்ச்சியாக இருப்பது அதை மற்றவர்களுடன் பகிர்ந்து கொள்வது அல்லாஹ்வின் வழியில் அதைச் செலவிடுவது

ஒரு அருட்கொடையை ஒப்புக் கொள்ளாமல், அல்லாஹ்வைப் புகழ்ந்து பேசாமல், அதில் மகிழ்ச்சியடையாமல், அதில் திருப்தி அடையாமல், தனக்கு இல்லாததை விரும்பி.

- சாத்தான் நமக்கு பாவச் செயல்களை அழகுபடுத்துகிறான். நியாயத்தீர்ப்பு நாளில் அவர் கூறுவார், "உண்மையில், அல்லாஹ் உங்களுக்கு சத்தியத்தை வாக்களித்திருந்தான், நான் உங்களுக்கு வாக்குறுதி அளித்தேன், ஆனால் நான் உங்களுக்கு துரோகம் செய்தேன், ஆனால் நான் உங்களை அழைத்ததைத் தவிர, நீங்கள் எனக்கு பதிலளித்ததைத் தவிர உங்கள் மீது எனக்கு எந்த அதிகாரமும் இல்லை. எனவே என்னைக் குறை சொல்லாமல் உங்களை நீங்களே குற்றம் சொல்லுங்கள்." (14:22)

உண்ணாவிரதத்தின் போது நீங்கள் பசியைக் கட்டுப்படுத்துவது போல் உங்கள் ஆசைகளை (கீழ்ப்படியாமை செயல்கள், சாத்தானின் கிசுகிசுக்கள்) கட்டுப்படுத்தவும். சாத்தான் உங்கள் இதயத்தில் ஒரு தீய எண்ணத்தை வைத்தால், உடனடியாக அதை "அறிந்து" அல்லாஹ்வின் உதவியை கேட்கவும்.

அல்லாஹ் SWT யூசுப் AS ஐ பாதுகாத்தது போல் தனது நேர்மையான ஊழியர்களையும் பாதுகாக்கிறான்.

- நீங்கள் ஏதாவது செய்வதற்கு முன் அல்லது ஒரு முடிவை எடுப்பதற்கு முன், உங்களை நீங்களே கேட்டுக்கொள்ளுங்கள்: இது அல்லாஹ்வை திருப்திப்படுத்துமா அல்லது அவரை விரும்பாததா? அல்லாஹ்வின் திருப்தியை உங்கள் வழிகாட்டும் ஒளியாக ஆக்குங்கள்.

பனை மரத்தைப் போல் - உறுதியாக வேரூன்றி (அறிவிலும் ஈமானிலும்) உயர்ந்து நின்று (அழுக்காறு மற்றும் லாகுக்கு மேல்) மற்றும் பலனளிக்கும் (மக்களுக்கு நன்மை பயக்கும்) ஆண்டு முழுவதும்.

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complimentshubba · 1 year

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he let me learn a lot of things, he is my bestie, friend, enemy, bf, teacher, student, partner, I think anything we could be, to be our role, we can be a role, whatever it is haha.

of course, he is not perfect, but he is enough for me, and I love him.

oh Allah, you know what is inside my heart.

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saqrqa3d · 1 year

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Some parents give their children whatever they desire and lavishly bestow on them materialistic things thinking: "Take what you want and just let me be"!

The father/mother occupy themselves with work and fulfilling their ambitions, and in their free time occupy themselves with relationships with friends, social media and whatever else the parents find more enjoyment in than raising children.

He is busy, but he loves his son and is ‘concerned' for him... He expresses his love and ‘care’ through gifts and material luxuries.

My son asks me for something that is not in his best interest... To explain to him why, convince him, and provide him with the right alternative... is a difficult and "boring" process and the child is obstinate...

So take what you want, son... I will buy from you my ‘peace of mind’ and my time through this device that distracts you from me, so that I may invest my time more enjoyably than arguing with you!

These parents may appear ‘loving’ and doting towards their children, when in fact they are ruining them!

I am afraid that the statement of the Prophet ﷺ: "It is sufficient sin for a man that he neglects those whom he maintains." includes not only those who do not provide their children with the food and clothing they require, but also includes those who destroy them by giving them everything they want to spare themselves the effort of education and guidance!

Ibn al-Qayyim - may Allah have mercy on him - said in [Tuhfat Al-Mawlud]: "How many have ruined both the Dunya and Akhirah for their child, their own blood, by neglecting him and abandoning his discipline and helping him fulfill his desires, while he claims that he has honored him when, in fact, he has insulted him, and claims to be showing mercy to the child when he has, in fact, done him an injustice and deprived him of goodness."

When you deprive your child of something he desires, explain it to him thus: ‘Oh my dear child, I can give you this device that you ask for, and you and I shall both be at ease for a short term, but it is not in your interest, and I am not giving it to you for your own good, because I love you and care about you. Giving your child whatever he wants is ‘sometimes’ an indication of neglect my dear child. It is not you who should envy your friends for their materialistic things, but rather it is them who should envy you for the care shown to you by your father.'

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sabrgirl · 2 months

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ramadan 30 day challenge

introducing the ramadan 30 day challenge!

I made this challenge in the hopes of catering to as many people as I can - so, regardless of anyone's home situation, health, money, whether or not you live near a mosque or a community etc, I think it is somewhat do-able or adaptable for all! you can access anything you need for this (verses/surahs from the Qur'an for eg) online. I also know that for some people (depending on countries etc), ramadan is either 29 or 30 days, so it's fine to finish on the 29th day if necessary.

if you miss a couple days as well (or end up seeing this post halfway through ramadan), just pick up from whatever day of ramadan it is!

it starts off easy and gets harder as you go along! i'm also going to be doing this ramadan challenge and posting my own updates on here, Insha’Allah! if you do this too, please do tag me because I would love to see how people are getting on! ♡ here it is:

recite surah ikhlas 3 times

recite durood sharif 3 times

read Qur'an after asr

recite the 3 Quls (last 3 surahs of the Qur'an) in the evening/before sleeping today

listen to an islamic podcast

write down 5 things you are grateful to Allah for on paper or phone notes app

istighfar 100 times

read all of surah mulk before bed

wake up for tahajjud and pray (at least) 2 rakaats

learn 5 names/attributes of Allah سُبْحَٰنَهُۥ وَتَعَٰلَىٰ

do something nice for somebody else - can even be very small and will still be rewarded for it

wear your favourite abaya/thobe/modest clothing for every salah today. look your best for Allah سُبْحَٰنَهُۥ وَتَعَٰلَىٰ in your prayer like you would to go to a special event

give some (charity) sadaqah (create a sadaqah jar/box!)

read the last 2 verses of surah baqarah before sleeping

make a du'a for your friends and family - name them and pray for something specific for each of them

read all of surah Ya Sin after fajr

pray 2 nafl rakaats (voluntary prayer) today after the 2 sunnah rakaats of zuhr

no backbiting/gossiping about anyone at all and 2 nafl rakaats (voluntary prayer) if you do

pick a surah from the Qur'an and read the commentary for each verse

memorise the dua to recite on laylatul qadr اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّكَ عَفُوٌّ تُحِبُّ الْعَفْوَ فَاعْفُ عَنِّي Allahumma innaka 'Afuwwun, tuhibbul 'afwa, fa'fu 'anni "O Allah, You are indeed Forgiving and love to forgive, so forgive me."

donate to a charity (for palestine!!). even the smallest amount will be beneficial + rewarded by Allah

recite ayatul kursi after each 5 fard (obligatory) salah

pray all the 12 sunnah today: 2 rakaats before Fajr; 4 rakaats before zuhr and two rakaats after; 2 rakaats after Maghrib; and 2 rakaats after Ishaa

pray (at least) 2 rakaats of taraweeh (either at the mosque or at home by yourself/with family!)

pray 2 rakaats of duha (optional) prayer - it is between 15 minutes after sunrise until zuhr time. (not after zuhr!!)

recite subhanallahi wabihamdi, subhanallahil adheem 100 times - (Glory be to Allah and all praise is due to Him, glory be to Allah, the Great)

be extra modest today (tailored to you. wear hijab outside if you don't, or wear your loosest outfit or lower your gaze completely (including lowering it on social media) today etc. whatever being extra modest is for you, do that today).

pray on time, no procrastination or delays. check what local time each prayer is for you and pray then (unless you're praying at the mosque!)

istighfar x1000 times

pray some of the nawafil ON TOP OF all the sunnah prayers that accompany the 5 obligatory prayers: - 2 rakaats of duha prayer - 2 rakaats after the 2 sunnah rakaats of zuhr - 4 rakaats before asr - 2 rakaats after the 2 sunnah rakaats of maghrib - 2 rakaats after the 2 sunnah rakaats of ishaa (extra challenge: wake up for tahajjud too)

level extreme: if you want an extra extra challenge, you can continue doing each one every day as you go along. so day 1 would be recite surah ikhlas 3 times and day 2 would be recite surah ikhlas and durood sharif 3 times, day 3 would be recite surah ikhlas and durood sharif 3 times and read Qur'an after asr... and you get the gist. if you do this, good luck on day 30 when you have 30 things to do lol

note: giving sadaqah (charity) can be adapted if donating money is a struggle - for eg, doing dhikr on behalf of somebody else can count as sadaqah. click here for more info on this.

may Allah make this challenge easy for whoever intends to participate and let the deeds indeed be multiplied by 100 this ramadan and forgive us for our shortcomings, Ameen ♡

#ramadan challenge #ramadan #islam #muslim #ramadan series #religion #allah #sabrgirl #quran #prayers #islamic #muslims #sunnah #ramadan tips #ramadan mubarak

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lifeofresulullah · 1 year

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The Life of The Prophet Muhammad: The Battle of Uhud and Afterwards

THE BATTLE OF UHUD: Part 2

The Speech of Hazrat Haysama

The Messenger of God fulfilled the wish of Haysama. He prayed for him.

The Messenger of God said, “How?”

Hazrat Numan said, “I witness that there is no god but Allah and that you are the Messenger of God; I love God and His messenger. When I encounter the enemy, I never run away.”

The Prophet said, “You are right and you have told the truth.”

Decision

“If you show patience and perseverance, God Almighty will send you His help. What we need to do is to be determined and to exert effort!”

After the Final Decision

It was Friday.

After leading the afternoon prayer, the Messenger of God went to his house together with Hazrat Abu Bakr and Umar. Those two Companions would help prepare the Prophet.

The Messenger of God replied:

“It does not fit a prophet to take off his armor without fighting the enemy and before God makes a judgment between him and his enemy.”

After that, he said,

“Do what I have told you to do quickly. Go by mentioning the name of God. As long as you show patience and perseverance, God will help you.”

Islamic Army

The number of the Muslims getting ready for the confrontation was about one thousand.[15]It was about one-third of the Qurayshi army… There were only one hundred armored people.

The Islamic army was ready to move.

The Companion that Desired Paradise

It was when the Islamic army was about to set off for Uhud.

Amr b. Jamuh, who was lame, had a great desire to join the expedition. He had four sons, who always joined the Prophet in expeditions. He called his sons and said, “Take me to the expedition!”

His sons said, “The Messenger of God allowed you not to join the expedition. God regards you as excused.”

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sisterssafespace · 8 months

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Salam sisters!

How are you? hope ur well 😚❤️

I wanted to ask your advice… I used to work with a brother 6 years ago when we were both in our very early 20s. Let’s call him “M”. From the time I worked with him, he possessed great character and

We ended up bumping into each other a few years later briefly at an event and we briefly spoke and caught up (not alone).

At the time I wasn’t very practicing but Alhamdullilah things have changed drastically- I went from not wearing hijab to wearing khimar, abaya and Alhamdullilah following the Qur’aan and sunnah!

I want to stress that aside from working together 6 years ago, we never spoke outside of work and never had each other on any social media etc. He knows I put on the hijab and we since haven’t spoken. I also don’t use any social media aside from tumblr (I don’t count LinkedIn as social)

We recently connected on LinkedIn - I briefly reached out to ask him to share something related to my degree at the time. He shared it, end of conversation.

For some reason, my mother has always loved this brother, although she’s never met him she’s always told me she’d love me to marry him. We’re both Arab so there would be no issues there. She’s encouraged me to find out if he’s available and or interested. The reason being he doesn’t have any social media and so there’s no way for my father or brother to approach on my behalf etc. However, although I know he’s practicing I haven’t spoken to him in so many years that I have no idea what he’s like as a person now.

I’m interested in reconnecting in a halal way to see if there could be compatibility but I fear looking silly and embarrassing myself. Not only that, I have no clue how to even start the conversation and keep it formal but still gauge whether or not he’d be interested in getting to know each other. Bare in mind, there was a short period when it became increasingly clear to me that he was interested in me, nothing outward or inappropriate but I quickly distanced myself.

What so you think?

I think, this is so cute and precious!

Assalamualaikum habibty, may Allah swt bless you immensely. It is very heartwarming to see that sisters out there are being very respectful to their deen and trying to do things the right way! Allahuma barik laki.

I just find it hard to believe that you have nothing on this brother 🫢🫣 like, as girls we are better than the FBI in these stuff 😅 You should have figured him out by now, especially whether he's married or not :')

I genuinely don't know what to tell you, like wouldn't it be possible that he goes to the same masjid as your brother or like they hang out around the same places or have some friends in common? Can't you ask someone from work, from when you used to work together? Can't your mother happen to know an auntie who knows an auntie who knows his mom?

Anyways, I pray you find your answers soon and that Allah swt facilitate for you whatever has khayr for you in it. May Allah swt grant you the pious kind husband who knows how to take care of your heart, whether it is this brother or another. Ameen.

I will post this and ask the sisters who follow, if anyone has any idea, please do share in the replies !!

- A. Z. 🍃🤍

#sisterssafespace

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basicsofislam · 2 years

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PROPHET MUHAMMAD (PBUH)’s BIOGRAPHY : The Battle of Uhud.Part3

The Speech of Hazrat Haysama

The Messenger of God fulfilled the wish of Haysama. He prayed for him.[ Ibn Qayyim, Zadu’l-Maad, Vol. 1. p. 353. ]

The Messenger of God said, “How?”

Hazrat Numan said, “I witness that there is no god but Allah and that you are the Messenger of God; I love God and His messenger. When I encounter the enemy, I never run away.”

The Prophet said, “You are right and you have told the truth.”[ Ibn Kathir, Sirah, Vol. 3, p. 24. ]

Decision

“If you show patience and perseverance, God Almighty will send you His help. What we need to do is to be determined and to exert effort!”

After the Final Decision

It was Friday.

After leading the afternoon prayer, the Messenger of God went to his house together with Hazrat Abu Bakr and Umar. Those two Companions would help prepare the Prophet.

The Messenger of God replied:

“It does not fit a prophet to take off his armor without fighting the enemy and before God makes a judgment between him and his enemy.”[ Ibn Hisham, ibid, Vol. 3, p. 68; Ibn Sa’d, ibid, Vol. 2, p. 38. ]

After that, he said,

“Do what I have told you to do quickly. Go by mentioning the name of God. As long as you show patience and perseverance, God will help you.”[ Ibn Sa’d, ibid, Vol. 2, p. 39. ]

Islamic Army

The number of the Muslims getting ready for the confrontation was about one thousand.[ Ibn Hisham, ibid, Vol. 3, p. 63; Ibn Sa’d, ibid, Vol. 2, p. 39. ]It was about one-third of the Qurayshi army… There were only one hundred armored people.[ Ibn Hisham, ibid, Vol. 3, p. 63; Ibn Sa’d, ibid, Vol. 2, p. 39. ]

The Islamic army was ready to move.

The Companion that Desired Paradise

It was when the Islamic army was about to set off for Uhud.

Amr b. Jamuh, who was lame, had a great desire to join the expedition. He had four sons, who always joined the Prophet in expeditions. He called his sons and said, “Take me to the expedition!”

His sons said, “The Messenger of God allowed you not to join the expedition. God regards you as excused.”

The Mount Uhud

Thereupon, Amr b. Jamuh armed immediately and turned to the Kaaba, praying, “O God! Grant me martyrdom!”[ Ibn Abdi’l-Barr, al-Istiab, Vol. 3, p. 1168. ]

Rejecting the Help of the Jews

The Islamic army arrived at Thaniyya Hill. At that point, the Prophet looked behind and saw a crowded military unit consisting of archers. He asked, “Who are they?”

The mujahids said, “A group of six hundred people from the allies of Abdullah b. Ubay”.

The Messenger of God asked, “Have they adopted Islam?”

When they said, “No! O Messenger of God!”, he said, “Go and tell them to return. We do not need their help!”[ Ibn Sa’d, ibid, Vol. 2, p. 48; Halabi, Insanu’l-Uyun, Vol. 2, p. 232 ]

The Prophet Inspects the Army

When the Islamic army arrived at Shaykhayn Hills, the Messenger of God stopped and inspected his army. Meanwhile, he sent back about fifteen children, who were too young.

However, some of them did not want to leave the ranks of mujahids and wanted to fight against polytheists although they were very young. One of them was Rafi’ b. Khadij. He wanted to seem taller by standing on his toes. A Companion said, “O Messenger of God! Rafi is a good archer” and Rafi did not want to leave the army. Thereupon, the Prophet allowed him to stay in the army.

When Samura b. Jundub, another young Companion, saw that his friend, Rafi, was accepted to the army, he said to his father, “Dad! The Messenger of God allowed Rafi but refused me. However, I can beat him in wrestling!”

His father, Muray b. Sinan, talked to the Messenger of God about it. The Prophet wanted them to wrestle. When he saw that Samura beat Rafi in wrestling, he allowed Samura to join the army, too. Those young Companions, who were only about fifteen years old, wanted to be among the ranks of the mujahids against polytheists enthusiastically.[ Tabari, Tarikh, Vol. 3, p. 12-13. ]

The Night Spent in Shaykhayn

When the inspection of the Prophet ended, the sun was about to set. Soon, Bilal al-Habashi called the evening adhan. The Messenger of God led the evening prayer. They performed the night prayer in the same way. The Prophet was going to spend the night there. He appointed a patrol group of fifty people to protect the army and to check around.

A Companion Keeps Watch at Night for the Prophet

After leading the night prayer, the Messenger of God said, “Who will keep watch tonight for us?

A voice was heard among the Mujahids, “I will, O Messenger of God!”

The Prophet asked, “Who are you?”

The same voice answered, “I am Zakwan b. Abdi Qays.”

The Messenger of God ordered, “Sit; do not keep watch!”

After a while, the Prophet asked again, “Who will keep watch tonight for us?”

A voice was heard among the Mujahids, “I will, O Messenger of God!”

The Prophet asked, “Who are you?”

The same voice answered, “I am Abu Sab.”

The Messenger of God said to him, “Sit; do not keep watch!”

After a while, the Prophet asked for the third time, “Who will keep watch tonight for us?”

A voice was heard among the Mujahids, “I will, O Messenger of God!”

The Prophet asked, “Who are you?”

The same voice answered, “I am Ibn Qays.”

The Messenger of God ordered, “Sit; do not keep watch!”

After a while, the Messenger of God said to them, “Stand up! Three of you!”

Only one person stood up. He was Zakwan b. Abdi Qays.

The Messenger of God asked him, “Where are your other friends?” He said, “O Messenger of God! It was I who answered your question three times!”

Thereupon, the Messenger of God said to him, “Go and keep watch for us. May God protect you!”

Zakwan put on his armor, took his shield and kept watch all night near the Prophet.[ Waqidi, Maghazi, p. 169-170. ]

That Companion had introduced himself by using his own name first, his son’s name after that and his father’s name in the end.

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phulpakharu · 2 years

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initial thoughts on gintama characters PART 2

here is the original post, if you wanna see. for anybody who's curious, i'm doing this because my mortal enemy (i.e. friend) wants essays about my thoughts on these characters... acting like this show is a class fr. i hate and love you in equal measure my dearest nemesis <3

i know you've been waiting for this one for a WHILE, so without further adieu, here is my initial impression of your babygirl, Takasugi Shinsuke.

(note: i know some spoilers about gintama, so my opinions are not gonna be clean or whatever because of that)

ALSO... THIS IS ALL SPECULATION. don't take me too seriously. i'm not trying to start disc/horse

takasugi is a man i have been waiting to meet, because @takasugisbabygirl is so in love with him, and i want to understand why. also just, the few spoilers i do know about him make me want to off myself.

so naturally, i squealed when he showed up on screen in episode 17. he was finally here !!!! and he wouldn't be showing up again for another 41 episodes, but i'll take the crumbs i can get.

my first thoughts were: 1) oh he's gonna be sooooooo fucked up and deranged for sure, and 2) THAT VOICE

THAT VOICE... oh my gosh. his voice suits him perfectly, Takehito Koyasu played him so well... wow. also, he was wearing a hat !!!!! idk what else to say about the hat, i just appreciated it is all.

okay, so a bunch of other stuff happens in this episode, so i'll scream about that briefly, before getting back to takasugi.

SHINPACHI MY TONE-DEAF SON... I LOVE YOU

KAGURA YOU ARE SO REAL AND WONDERFULLY 14 FOR ENACTING A SOAP OPERA... MY DAUGHTER... I LOVE YOU

GINTOKI I HOPE YOU GOT YOUR COTTON CANDY EVENTUALLY BABE

this ep was fucking DRAMATIC, i think nothing will top how heartfelt episode 13 was for me, it just HIT

KAGURA AND SOUGO WERE SUCH A FUN DUO.. THE SADISTS ARE TEAMING UP !! (i do not ship them because gross, and i have been informed that gin / kagu are unfortunately a big ship in this fandom??? y'all need buddha and allah and christ and five more different kinds of divine intervention fr)

that moment when gintoki and that inventor man (gengai or smth) were having ramen, and speaking about war and loss with that sad fucking piano ost... maybe it hit me a little. genuinely, i hate thinking of gintoki being in pain, i hate thinking of him experiencing loss, even when i'm vaguely aware of his backstory.

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ANYWAYS... back to takasugi. HE WAS WATCHING YOROZUYA AND GENGAI WORKING... i wanna know what was going on in his head. what did he think when he saw gintoki? is this the first time he's observed from afar? what did he think when he saw gintoki with his surrogate children? i just want to know what he thought.

i can vaguely speculate, that he was angry, because i think he has so much of it that he doesn't know where to put it. i think he may have also felt a bit betrayed, seeing gintoki move forward with other people in his life, seemingly forgetting the past. he says as much later on, though not in those words exactly. i'm just fascinated by his heart and mind and thoughts.

speaking offffff....... that moment when he cornered gintoki after the fireworks show!!!! dear fucking god!!!!!! i don't know how to properly articulate all my feelings about this, but i will try.

1) takasugi is tasking himself with keeping gintoki busy, because he knows that even in gintoki's "defanged" state, he's a threat to the chaos and destruction takasugi wants to incite.

2) he's fucking deranged and i already love him

3) the metaphor of the beast. gosh, this was so well done. it was clear and obvious what the metaphor meant, but it's also very layered. just, wonderful! takasugi and his beast that screams outwards, that's unruly and set loose to destroy everything, because he has nothing left to protect, nothing to really fight for, just wanting to burn the world that took everything from him. wow.

gintoki and his beast that screams inwards, that's caged and locked, and silently ruining him on the inside. the rage he feels turned inward at himself for not being able to protect everyone in the past. which then manifests as him doing everything he can to protect his loved ones now. because the past is the past, even if it haunts him, what's done is done, all he has is what's in front of him. (again, this was really wonderfully set up and displayed in ep13, when kagura and shinpachi were taken away by space pirates. that moment when gin see's them being dragged away and the panic and desperation all over his face... dear god.)

4) this leads me into the set-up for what i know will be an ongoing theme of duality. gintoki and takasugi, two sides of the same coin. protection vs destruction. internalization vs externalization. glittery pink comic sans 'i will protect you' vs flaming cryptic gothic 'i will destroy you'. they're two poles, facing each other, mirroring each other, outwardly different, but stemming from the same roots. it's set up sooooo well, and i'm deeply excited to see where this will go.

5) the "fangs" : this was a veryyyy interesting metaphor. gintoki asking whether takasugi provoked gengai into attacking. and then takasugi talks about the "fangs" about the "white demon" and goshhhhh so much foreshadowing??? all for me??? i feel spoiled.

it also offers some insight into how takasugi views the world, but especially gintoki. in takasugi's eyes, gintoki has also lost all meaning, and in a way, he's not wrong. in takasugi's eyes, gintoki has forgotten his past, forgotten what the world did to him. takasugi doesn't, on a fundamental level understand how gintoki can be so... idle. how he's able to exist with the past that he has, and how he isn't just as furious with the world. and therein comes takasugi's belief as to what "fangs" are, and why he thinks gintoki lost his. why find new things to protect when you failed the first time around? why have new things to lose when the loss already broke you once before? why do anything other than let the wretched, indifferent world burn?

i need to mention, this is all speculation. i haven't gotten into takasugi or gintoki's backstories all that deeply. i don't know exactly what happened to them, but i am somewhat aware of it.

anyways, back to "fangs" because we got a little off-track. i think this whole thing is fascinating. because "fangs" can mean anything depending on who the person in question is. for takasugi, it's his desperate ambition to destroy whatever lays before him. for gintoki it's his opposing need to protect what matters to him. for gengai it was about control, about directing his grief somewhere, so he can, if only for a moment, feel less unmoored.

it's just a very interesting thing to me, and i'm excited to see how it's explored later.

aaaaaaaah so this became a little less about takasugi, and more about takasugi and gintoki.... i don't think i can be blamed though. they're literally mortal enemies, deeply intertwined, etc etc. gay as hell.

okay back to takasugi. i'm soooo intrigued by this man. i love his voice and his monologues. i love that he's deranged, but i'll probably be in pain later because i just Know i'll love him and wish for him to be happy instead.

and back to this episode... he is so, gosh... what a wonderfully set-up antagonist. that moment when gintoki grabs his sword with a bare hand, declares easily that he's not defanged like takasugi thinks, and takasugi is so taken aback by it. and again. i want to know what he's thinking. he's shocked, but what else. relieved, maybe? that the gintoki he remembers still exists? that he isn't apathetic at all? fond? i can only speculate, but he seemed kind of fond of gintoki, when he was talking to katsura at the end of the episode, idk idk. angry? definitely. why? i don't know. maybe because he doesn't understand why gintoki lives so idly, when he's clearly not lost his spark or his fangs. maybe because he wishes gintoki was angry in the same way. i literally have NOOOO IDEA, THIS IS ALL SPECULATION.

also gintoki.. mentioning sadaharu... as his beast... mf really deflects and represses his emotions using humor huh. babygirl please go to therapy, or maybe have a parfait.

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uuuuuuh. anyways. idk if this "essay" if i can even loosely call it that, made any sense towards the end lol. i have many thoughts, but not enough words to communicate them all. but yeah. takasugi shinsuke. what a deranged little guy <3

#ruks i hope you're happy.#takasugi shinsuke #sakata gintoki #gintama #mai.txt.ramblings

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textsfromthefifthbasement · 2 years

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Hi, everyone! Here’s the oneshot I wrote for day 1 of Queer Week!

On AO3

Old Friend

Nadir was beginning to think he had made a grave mistake in coming here. The ground shook from gunfire, and barricades blocked his way through the city. There was really nothing else to do aside from hide in an empty building and wait for the turmoil to die down.

A part of him thought it was ironic. Back in Mazandaran, he had thought to himself many a time that death followed wherever Erik led. Here he was years later, still chasing after Erik and running into death and destruction.

Sometimes, in his darkest nights, he wondered if it was all his fault. That morning in Nizhny Novgorod when he had convinced Erik, barely out of his teens, to come to Persia, he had been so hopeful that he was offering him a better life than he could know in Europe. And despite his best intentions, Erik had taken even more power for himself by the shedding of blood and the suffering of others. Sometimes, Nadir wondered if he should have known back then what would have happened, if there was some sign he had missed that would have spared all of their souls…

But Allah help him, he couldn’t hate Erik. Far from it, in fact.

He startled as the door to the building burst open. He tried to sink further into the dark corner he was trying to hide in. Then, he saw the red scarf of the National Guard.

The communard noticed him and raised his rifle towards him. “Who are you, and why are you here?” He shoved the barrel into Nadir’s chest. “You were trying to steal my gunpowder, weren’t you?”

Nadir said, “Please, I’m just passing through. I have no quarrel with you.”

The communard stilled for only a moment before moving to pull back the hammer. Just as Nadir was convinced he was going to die unknown in that ruined building, a red cord wrapped around the communard’s neck. His rifle fell to the ground as he clawed at the Punjab lasso, but it was already too late, he was as good as dead. Nadir felt no joy in watching it, only relief and regret that everything had to go this way.

The life drained quickly out of the communard’s eyes, and then his body fell to the ground like a deadweight, revealing the tall, masked figure behind him. Nadir scrambled to his feet. “Erik?” he said.

Before his old friend could respond, Nadir pulled him into an embrace. “I’ve missed you, old friend.”

Erik’s arms hung limply at his side for a few moments before he stiffly returned the hug. “What happened to you?”

“Nothing I couldn’t handle.” Nadir pulled away and studied Erik for a moment. Had it really been ten years since the night he had sent Erik away instead of following the shah’s orders to execute him? Erik hardly had seemed to change.

In fact, very few things seemed to have changed over the past ten years, save, of course, the increased number of gray hairs on Nadirs head and the night terrors that sometimes plagued him of the shah’s prison. As he looked at Erik, he still saw the contradiction of the man who had simultaneously invented torture chambers for the shah while comforting Nadir’s son in his final days.

He loved him.

Nadir wondered what that said about him, that he would love a man that abhorrent for his actions alone, never mind the gaping hole in his face where his nose should have been.

Erik pulled away from him. “I need to find the gunpowder.”

Nadir said, “Wait, why do you need gunpowder?”

“I built myself a house beneath the new opera house. I wish to ensure that no one will ever bother me again.”

“Not even me?”

Erik seemed to falter for a moment. “Society has done nothing but use me up for whatever I can give and then throw me away like trash. I wish to have nothing more to do with any of it.”

“Was all of it that distasteful? Even those evenings we ate dinner together before…” Nadir swallowed back his grief at the thought of Reza, the poor boy. He had deserved so much more life than what was allotted to him.

Finally, Erik said quietly, “You could have come with me.”

“I gave you enough time to get away before the Shah’s men got suspicious…”

“But you could have.” Erik held up a hand. “I understand why…”

Nadir wasn’t quite sure what came over him, whether Allah granted him a sudden burst of boldness, or if he was acting on pure desperation, but he reached up and kissed Erik on his thin, barely-exposed lips. “I’m sorry, I failed you,” Nadir said.

Erik finally buried his masked face into Nadir’s shoulder. “Please don’t leave. Can you stay?”

And Nadir did.

#poto queer week 2022 #phantom of the opera #pharoga #erik #nadir khan #lgbtq+#gay #fanfiction #my fanfic

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theadventuresofamuslimrevert · 3 years

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Losing a loved one is one of the major trials of life many of us will encounter. Grief from that loss is a natural reaction that takes a different trajectory for different people. Some people describe grief as a dark fog that is difficult to shake, others speak of the suffocating regret and anxiety that often accompany those feelings, still others speak about grief as waves that rise up and subside at different points.

“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, Who, when disaster strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return.” Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the guided.” [Quran; 2:155-157]

Sometimes people are expect to follow a particular timeline of grief, but the reality is that the journey of grief is different for everyone. Counsellors and bereavement supporters often speak about the five stages of grief that were popularized in the famous book On Death and Dying by psychiatrist Elizabeth Kubler-Ross namely: denial (as you begin to come to terms with the reality of the situation, denial begins to fade and difficult feelings may begin to surface), anger/anxiety (anger is the body’s natural reaction to threat and, oftentimes, there is no greater threat than the loss of someone you love or the loss of the way you envisioned life would be. Anger can also feel powerful during times when we feel powerless. You may experience nervousness, heart palpitations, restlessness, irritability, and/or difficulty breathing), bargaining (this stage often includes “If only…” statements due to the feelings of regret that come up with loss. This stage is characterized by an overwhelming desire for life to return to the way it was), depression (you might feel down and cry more often than you usually do. It may also feel like you have less motivation and find less enjoyment in activities you used to love. This stage can feel as though it’ll stretch on forever) and acceptance (it involves accepting the reality that this person is physically gone and that this new reality is the permanent reality. Acceptance does not mean that you’re “ok” with what happened. The loss of someone you love will likely never feel ok. The goal in this stage is to learn how to live with this loss and create a new normal despite the huge piece that is missing). However, recent research and understanding has concluded that grief can be an individualized and unpredictable experience and no two people’s experiences will be the same.

Let us look at some advice in the Quran and Sunnah to help us cope with grief and the loss of a loved one:

Shed tears as much as you want, but don’t let the tongue say what may displease Allah

Our Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) experienced grief at many points of his life, often at the loss of loved ones. During these experiences he taught us that grief is a natural emotion and that Allah does not hold us accountable for expressing sadness and pain in a permissible manner. Sadness does not negate the acceptance of Allah’s decree which is the very center of a believer’s journey in grief.

Narrated Anas bin Malik: We went with Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) (p.b.u.h) to the blacksmith Abu Saif, and he was the husband of the wet-nurse of Ibrahim (the son of the Prophet). Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) took Ibrahim and kissed him and smelled him and later we entered Abu Saif’s house and at that time Ibrahim was in his last breaths, and the eyes of Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) (p.b.u.h) started shedding tears. `Abdur Rahman bin `Auf said, “O Allah’s Apostle, even you are weeping!” He said, “O Ibn `Auf, this is mercy.” Then he wept more and said, “The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what pleases our Lord, O Ibrahim ! Indeed we are grieved by your separation.” [Hadith; Sahih al-Bukhari 1303]

We see the intensity of these emotions in the Prophet Yaʿqub عليه السلام when he was separated from his son Yusuf عليه السلام and he grieved so deeply that his eyes turned white (it’s said that he lost his sight) due to the extent to which he cried. His intense grief is expressed in the Qur’an (after all those years of losing his son) yet he was called to have beautiful patience (sabrun jameel):

And he turned away from them and said, “Oh, my sorrow over Joseph,” and his eyes became white from grief, for he was a suppressor. [Quran; 12:84]

Accept that all of us belong to Allah and all of us will return to Him

As we see from the hadith above where the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was coping with grief, patience in Islam does not mean that we do not cry and that we do not express our emotions. What is forbidden is wailing and slapping one’s cheeks which was the culture at that time (the Arabs – women in particular – used to scream and wail during funerals or at someone’s death). As the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said the eyes shed tears and the heart is grieved but the tongue only says what is acceptable to Allah.

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “The example of a believer is that of a fresh tender plant; from whatever direction the wind comes, it bends it, but when the wind becomes quiet, it becomes straight again. Similarly, a believer is afflicted with calamities (but he remains patient till Allah removes his difficulties.) And an impious wicked person is like a pine tree which keeps hard and straight till Allah cuts (breaks) it down when He wishes.” [Hadith; Sahih al-Bukhari 5644]

Make dua for yourself

As human beings, we attempt to cope with negative emotions in different ways. We often attempt to push away difficult emotions because they make us feel uncomfortable as it’s a painful process to sit with these feelings. We may try to distract ourselves or put on a fake smile. Some may even self-medicate through the use of drugs or alcohol to alleviate the pain they are feeling. When we are unable to grieve fully and an experience becomes a source of trauma, we are thrust into survival mode, which shuts down the executive functioning part of our brain and prevents us from thinking clearly. This is why we may react to situations in unhealthy ways or do things during times of stress that we would not have done during times of ease. This is one reason why some people struggle to worship Allah during times of extreme stress. When the “danger activation center” part of our brain is dominant, there is a decrease in self-awareness, our capacity to self-evaluate, and our ability to establish goals. All of these require advanced thought processes, which are very difficult to sustain during times of extreme stress. In order for any activity to help, our brain needs to register it. Research has shown an association between prayer and the ability to re-engage the “thinking” part of our brains.

Umm Salama, the wife of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:If any servant (of Allah) who suffers a calamity says:” We belong to Allah and to Him shall we return; O Allah, reward me for my affliction and give me something better than it in exchange for it,” ‘ Allah will give him reward for affliction, and would give him something better than it in exchange. She (Umm Salama) said: When Abu Salama died. I uttered (these very words) as I was commanded (to do) by the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ). So Allah gave me better in exchange than him. i. e. (I was taken as the wife of) the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ). [Hadith; Sahih Muslim 918 b]

When I lost my baby son Hamza, I remember one of my close friends messaged me this dua and reminded me to keep reciting it. I had not really known that dua at that time but I am so grateful for friends who guided me to the right words to say at such a confusing and overwhelming time when I almost lost my faith as a revert.

Stay among people who love you and would support you through this difficult journey

It is quite common to be engulfed by grief with the death of a loved one. However, one must not dwell in it much heaven knows i did but i soon realised this sends an invitation to Shaytan to become your company. Let the death of a loved be a lesson of detaching from Dunya and to hold Allah (glorified and exalted be he) in your heart above all others.

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) visited Sa’d bin ‘Ubadah during his illness. He was accompanied by ‘Abdur-Rahman bin ‘Auf, Sa’d bin Abu Waqqas and ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud (May Allah be pleased with them). The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) began to weep. When his Companions saw this, their tears also started flowing. He (ﷺ) said, “Do you not hear, Allah does not punish for the shedding of tears or the grief of the heart, but punishes or bestows mercy for the utterances of this (and he pointed to his tongue).” [Hadith; Riyad as-Salihin 925]

Remember that your patience is being rewarded more than you can imagine

These are words you should say even when you feel sad at the memory of a loss you faced in the past or when you miss your loved one or the life you had planned with them.

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “Allah says, ‘I have nothing to give but Paradise as a reward to my believer slave, who, if I cause his dear friend (or relative) to die, remains patient (and hopes for Allah’s Reward). [Hadith; Sahih al-Bukhari 6424]

Stay away from questioning Qadr of Allah (asking: why me? or if only!)

Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘A slave (of Allah) shall not believe until he believes in Al-Qadar, its good and its bad, such that he knows that what struck him would not have missed him, and that what missed him would not have struck him.” [Hadith; Tirmidhi 2144]

Often one of the ways, Shaitan attacks us at times of calamity or a loss is to overwhelm us with questions of what if and why me? How did this happen? Would it have been prevented if I had just done this or that or gone to the hospital earlier or taken this or that medical intervention?? I blamed myself for my sons death so much over the last year (he passed away 25/07/2020) but after reading the following in last few weeks I've become to realise there was nothing I could do to prevent it as it was Allah's will.

“The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, although both are good. Strive for that which will benefit you, seek the help of Allah, and do not feel helpless. If anything befalls you, do not say, “if only I had done such and such” rather say “Qaddara Allahu wa ma sha’a fa’ala (Allah has decreed and whatever he wills, He does).” For (saying) ‘If’ opens (the door) to the deeds of Satan.'” [Hadith; Ibn Majah 79]

These are some of the words my midwife told me to say when I heard the news of my baby passing away in my womb after 25weeks of pregnancy I am forever grateful to her for reminding me this at that trying time. Reminding ourselves we all have a path and a time to meet Allah and it is not the time be battling with the what if questions you are bombarded yourself with. I am grateful to Allah (swt) for giving me people in my life who were able to remind me of the right words to say and the right approach at such a difficult time. Remind yourself: whatever happened was decreed by Allah and nothing you or someone else did or did not do could have changed it. Focusing on the factors within your control, rather than on regrets and a desire to return to the less painful past, can help you to get through this stage.

But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not. [Quran; 2:216]

Turning back to our deen and our belief in Qadr is what helped us accept the death as something Allah had decreed at this exact time and this exact situation and there is nothing we could have done to have changed that. Changing the past is not feasible so channeling our energy into something unchangeable is a recipe for intense pain. Instead of “What if…” Focus on “What is…”: The one thing we consistently have within our control is what we choose to do with the present moment. Shifting our focus away from regrets of the past and worries about the future allows us to take advantage of the present moment. Allah (swt) talks about this attitude of remorse in the Quran:

O you who have believed, do not be like those who disbelieved and said about their brothers when they traveled through the land or went out to fight, “If they had been with us, they would not have died or have been killed,” so Allah makes that a regret within their hearts. And it is Allah who gives life and causes death, and Allah is Seeing of what you do. [Quran; 3:156]

Instead, turn to Allah and open your heart to Him

Death can serve as a reminder to those left behind about the temporariness of this life and the importance of working for our next lives. It forces us to reflect on what is meaningful and what is important. Turn to Allah and pour your heart out to Him, talk to Him about your pain, cry out to Him and ask Him to calm your heart and heal your pain. Ask Him to reunite you with your loved one in Jannah. Ask Him to give you strength and peace. When Prophet Yaqub (عَلَيْهِ السَّلَام) cried so much that he lost his eyesight after all those years of losing his son, his elder sons said:

They said, “By Allah , you will not cease remembering Joseph until you become fatally ill or become of those who perish.” He said, “I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah , and I know from Allah that which you do not know. O my sons, go and find out about Joseph and his brother and despair not of relief from Allah . Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people.” [Quran: 12:85-87]

Turn to Allah in sincere dua. No one else can heal your pain and give peace to your heart.

اللَّهُمَّ مُصَرِّفَ الْقُلُوبِ صَرِّفْ قُلُوبَنَا عَلَى طَاعَتِكَ

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: “Verily, the hearts of all the sons of Adam are between the two fingers out of the fingers of the Compassionate Lord as one heart. He turns that to any (direction) He likes. Then Allahs Messenger (ﷺ) said: 0 Allah, the Turner of the hearts, turn our hearts to Thine obedience.” [Hadith; Sahih Muslim 265]

Journal to face and deal with your emotions so you don’t become hopeless

Writing to process your feelings is another helpful technique to help deal with your emotions and your grief ive found this out this week from advice from a sister who lost her father recently. She said that Writing out your thoughts and confusions will help sort them out, journals about your feelings from day to day, use gratitude journalings to focus on the blessings even at such difficult times, write letters to your loved one as if you are talking to them. All of this helps deal with the emotions and grief just as talking or counselling does as well.

“And that to your Lord is the finality. And that it is He who makes laugh and weep.” [Quran; 53:42-43]

Find meaning / gratitude in your life again and create the required changes

Grief expert, David Kessler says, “meaning comes through finding a way to sustain your love for the person after their death while you’re moving forward with your life. Loss is simply what happens to you in life. Meaning is what you make happen.”

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbas said: “When a young daughter of the Messenger of Allah was dying, the Messenger of Allah picked her up and held her to his chest, then he put his hand on her, and she died in front of the Messenger of Allah. Umm Ayman wept and the Messenger of Allah said ‘Oh Umm Ayman, do you weep while the Messenger of Allah is with you?’ She said: ‘Why shouldn’t I weep when the Messenger of Allah is weeping.” So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said “Verily, I am not weeping. Rather it is compassion.’ Then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: ‘The believer is fine whatever the situation; even when his soul is being pulled from his body and he praises Allah, the Mighty and Sublime”‘ [Hadith; Sunan an-Nasa’i 1843]

Finding meaning cannot erase your grief; pain is a natural reaction to intense loss. However, it can help you move forward. The loss of someone or something dear to you can often lead to reevaluating your priorities in life. Allowing this loss to push you toward positive changes in your life is one of the most profound ways of creating meaning. Gratitude is one of the qualities of a believer. Gratitude is tied closely to the concept of patience. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: Strange are the ways of a believer for there is good in every affair of his and this is not the case with anyone else except in the case of a believer for if he has an occasion to feel delight, he thanks (God), thus there is a good for him in it, and if he gets into trouble and shows resignation (and endures it patiently), there is a good for him in it. [Hadith; Sahih Muslim 2999]

Gratitude is also an attitude during adversity. Although difficult to see, there are always blessings that accompany a difficult time. Look for the blessings and ease that Allah has brought with this difficulty. May be things were easier than they could have been, may be there were eases in other areas of your life, may be this test drew you closer to Allah (swt), may be it allowed you to reflect on the reality of your life and allowed you to give more in charity, may be it became a means of wiping away your sins and earning you reward.

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “When a man’s child dies, Allah, the Exalted, asks His angels, ‘Have you taken out the life of the child of My slave?’ and they reply in the affirmative. He (SWT) then asks, ‘Have you taken the fruit of his heart?’ and they reply in the affirmative. Thereupon He asks, ‘What did my slave say?’ They say: ‘He praised You and said: Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji’un (We belong to Allah and to Him we shall return).’ Allah says: ‘Build a house for my slave in Jannah and name it Baitul-Hamd (the House of Praise).”‘ [Hadith; Riyad as-Salihin 922]

Know that sadness doesn’t last forever even if the memories do

“For indeed, with hardship ease. Indeed, with hardship ease.” [Quran; 94:6]

Remember this promise of Allah. Remember that every moment of sadness and pain, no matter how overwhelming, is a part of the process of healing. Instead of focusing on the stretch of days ahead of you with this loss feeling like a looming storm cloud over your future, focus on the one step you can take today to get through the day. When experiencing feelings of depression, putting one foot in front of the other can make a huge difference. Get adequate sleep and eat healthy. Your body and well-being are an amānah from Allah that you need to take care of. Find time to decompress, however that might work for you. For some people this may include praying, making dua, reading, art, working out, or engaging in a hobby.

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: “I was with the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and a man from among the Ansar came to him and greeted the Prophet (ﷺ) with Salam. Then he said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, which of the believers is best?’ He said: ‘He who has the best manners among them.’ He said: ‘Which of them is wisest?’ He said: ‘The one who remembers death the most and is best in preparing for it. Those are the wisest.’” [Hadith; Ibn Majah 160]

Go through happy memories you experienced with them and remember your loved one in good words

Narrated Abu Al-Aswad: I came to Medina when an epidemic had broken out. While I was sitting with `Umar bin Al-Khattab a funeral procession passed by and the people praised the deceased. `Umar said, “It has been affirmed to him.” And another funeral procession passed by and the people praised the deceased. `Umar said, “It has been affirmed to him.” A third (funeral procession) passed by and the people spoke badly of the deceased. He said, “It has been affirmed to him.” I (Abu Al-Aswad) asked, “O chief of the believers! What has been affirmed?” He replied, “I said the same as the Prophet (ﷺ) had said, that is: if four persons testify the piety of a Muslim, Allah will grant him Paradise.” We asked, “If three persons testify his piety?” He (the Prophet) replied, “Even three.” Then we asked, “If two?” He replied, “Even two.” [Hadith; Sahih al-Bukhari 1368]

Remembering the happy times you had with your deceased loved ones can be a bittersweet experience. Many will talk about how this can have a healing effect, others mention how it rekindles the pain in their heart. Sometimes different reactions may also depend on where you are on your grief journey. Remembering the good times you had with your loved one can help you in dealing with the grief and with slowly learning to remember them without always feeling the pain of separation. Reminding yourself that you still have hope of reuniting with them in the hereafter is another way to help you process the pain you are feeling.

It was narrated that ‘Aishah said: “Something bad was said in the presence of the Prophet about a person who had died. He said: ‘Do not say anything but good about your dead.”‘ [Hadith; Sunan an-Nasa’i 1935]

Make dua for your loved one and give charity on their behalf

Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) said: “A man will be raised in status in Paradise and will say: ‘Where did this come from?’ And it will be said: ‘From your son’s praying for forgiveness for you.'” [Hadith; Sunan Ibn Majah 3660]

Channel your grief in a productive way and think about what you can do for your loved one now. One of the ways we can benefit our deceased loved ones is by making sincere dua for them. We can also benefit our deceased loved ones by giving charity on their behalf.

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “When a man dies, his deeds come to an end except for three things: Sadaqah Jariyah (ceaseless charity); a knowledge which is beneficial, or a virtuous descendant who prays for him (for the deceased).” [Hadith; Riyad as-Salihin 1383]

Seek help and support others

Seek social support, go to counselling and therapy, talk to friends about how you feel. Attend a bereavement group if you can so you can see how others in your situation are coping. Check Children of Jannah or Eternal Gardens for bereavement support. One major indicator that someone needs professional help is if they demonstrate an impaired ability to function in their day-to-day life with their family, at work, socially, emotionally, and sometimes spiritually. Again, this doesn’t mean that the person is mentally ill, but that they would likely benefit from talking to someone with expertise in the field of mental health.

Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “A Muslim is a brother of another Muslim, so he should not oppress him, nor should he hand him over to an oppressor. Whoever fulfilled the needs of his brother, Allah will fulfill his needs; whoever brought his (Muslim) brother out of a discomfort, Allah will bring him out of the discomforts of the Day of Resurrection, and whoever screened a Muslim, Allah will screen him on the Day of Resurrection.” [Hadith; Sahih al-Bukhari 2442]

The aim of ta’ziyah is to strengthen the broken-hearted and give them hope at a time when their hope may be waning; it is to lighten the load of the bereaved. After the intense sadness of losing someone you care for deeply, you have the unique ability to empathize with the struggles others face in similar circumstances. Here are some things you can do for grieving families: Spend time with them without imposing yourself as a guest and expecting them to host you with food and drink. Offer to help by buying groceries, doing household chores, or watching their children.

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: Prepare food for the family of Ja’far for there came upon them an incident which has engaged them. [Hadith; Sunan Abi Dawud 3132]

Do what helps you through your journey of grief. Remember no two journeys are the same, so listen to your heart and give it what it needs. Sometimes you may need time to be alone, sometimes you may need to be around others you love. Sometimes you may need to talk about them, sometimes you may just need to sit quietly with your own thoughts. May Allah heal your pain, calm your heart and reunite you with your loved one in the hereafter.

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Rest in peace my beautiful son Hamza until we meet again in jannah 🤲🤲

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