#introvert thing

[selectivechaos]

social anxiety vs introversion.

sincerely and utterly need you to stop equating social anxiety disorder with introversion. they are Not synonyms and in no context should they be used as synonyms.

quiz:

does introvert mean:

a- a person who prefers to spend time alone, but enjoys social situations and benefits from them. but also needs time to recharge their social battery afterwards.

or

b- a person who dreads social situations, dwelling on them before and/or after the event. having spikes of anxiety as well as long-lasting high levels of anxiety when in a social situation. struggling with cognitive distortions about how they are perceived, and having excessive and disproportionate fear of social judgement, humiliation, etc. such that it significantly interferes with their life.

end of quiz. pens down.

see a lot of people who consume content about ‘introverts’ because they relate to it. but actually maybe they would be better off if they understood and accepted that it is social anxiety and it is hurting them. problem is that when social anxiety symptoms are presented as simply ‘introversion’ with no reference to sad, then it depathologises it. it becomes something which people see as relatable and universal, so they undermine their own pain and struggles.

this is why they then find it hard to believe that:

no, not everyone assumes others hate them after every conversation.

and no, not everyone is sweating before they get on the bus.

no, not everyone is finding it hard to breathe in the classroom.

and no, not everyone is absolutely dreading the party.

🌹🌹

[faces-and-morefaces]

When people online tell you that you give extrovert energy

You:

[moonysprettypoison]

Layla. Buffalo 66, movie {1998} ⋆𐙚₊˚⊹♡

“I’m the sweetest girl in town so why are you so mean?”

[jessenitrogen]

toby fucking kills varvatos.png, based off of this (hiii)

Dialogue typed out:

Varvatos: TOBIAS, HIT VARVATOS AS HARD AS YOU CAN.

Toby: Alright, if you say so old man!

DONK

Toby: OH MY GOSH OH MY GOSH OH MY GOSH

Krel: He'll be fine, he survived a death beam.

[sparklejumpropequeen1949]

[limerlove]

Dude I keep thinking of that farmhand/cowgirl Abby thing where you’re cuddling and her belt buckle gets imprinted on the inside of your thigh *sighs dreamily*

suggestive content, eighteen+

farmhand!abby is my fucking girl. can you just imagine her just spooning you, back from plowing the field and her body is just so exhausted, a lack of energy finds home over her restless body and all she wants is to hold you in her arms and she does. everything about makes her feel right at home but the. you’re like um no i need to see her pretty freckled face and those gorgeous blue eyes, even if you love the way her burly bicep is cradling your neck. throwing your leg over her strong waist, nothing but a shirt of hers and a pair of panties and the cool metal chills you to the bone — it’s not what you expect — but you welcome it with open arms. the welded home state on the buckle wedges into your high and abby grins when you slightly yelp, not expecting the intrusion. you cling onto her, arms thrown around her neck, pulling her closer. “you alright, darling?” but her grin is entirely mischievous. hoping to elicit such a reaction out of you, with sweet and sugary lips, pink as peaches, finding the apple of your cheeks before she makes her way to your mouth, locking your lips in hers until your minty breath is saturating her tongue. simply, you can’t get over how delicious the oversized buckle feels against your skin and instantly your mind drifts to where else it could feel this good. “of course i am, abs. nothing a sweet girl like me can’t handle.”

[fatimazainab]

[lazylittledragon]

Love your bg3 comics! I hope you don’t mind some world/lore building questions!

I was wondering why Kit looks so much more like Dorian than Astarion, and it got me thinking about how vampire genetics work. Do you think that the only physical traits that get passed down are ones from before becoming a vampire? That said, what do you think Astarion looked like before he was turned, and did Kit inherit any of those traits?

i think that would make sense!! i feel like pre-vampire astarion probably looked about the same but less pale and gaunt (personally i hc that he just went grey really early and i’m also in the brown-eyed astarion club)

honestly though, the real reason kit didn’t get anything from astarion is because the redleaf genes are too strong and they all look exactly the same

(he still got the teeth and the fluffy hair though)

[hermajestyimher]

The social media glamorization of loneliness is one of the most dystopian and bizarre trends I've seen in a while.

What people fail to realize is that this current Western way of living alone is not normal. Our species did not evolve to live in isolation. We are tribal by nature, meant to belong to and thrive within a community. The West is one of the few outlier societies where this isolation is not only expected but also normalized.

Many people have decided that instead of working toward building communities to address loneliness, they would rather romanticize their solitude. It's a coping mechanism, and a very sad one at that. This seems to be especially prevalent among young women.

Yes, it is important to be comfortable in your own skin and capable of standing on your own when your environment doesn't align with you. Yes, it's important to have a sense of agency and enjoy your own company without feeling dependent on others. However, what's not healthy is to succumb to isolation and stop trying to build strong bonds with people because you've become too comfortable being by yourself.

Many have confused introversion with anti-social behavior. If you continue down this path, you will have nobody else to blame when your life is devoid of love and companionship in the long run.

[starlight-bread-blog]

Tumblr is a place for people who love talking, but not to people.

[queer-obsession]

Just a small drabble. Kenma has a high maintenance girlfriend and has no idea (read: he doesn't care and thinks you're way too amazing for him). Song below makes me think of the dynamic

Warnings: Kenma x Fem!Reader, she/her pronouns used for reader, you're into your appearance and typical "feminine" things (by heteronormative standards) in this one, you are just mentioned in this, not actually in it. it's more of a conversation between kenma and kuroo, sorry. really short, i could expand the concept into a fic in the future.

Kuroo looks over Kenma's shoulder to see what's distracting him from Kuroo's riveting story of his last business trip and is surprised to see Kenma confirming an online order. "Buying a new game?" Kuroo asks with a grin.

Kenma rolls his eyes and leans away from him in response. "No. I ordered a new bag for ____ ." His tone suggests it's nothing out of the ordinary, and it isn't, but it still causes Kuroo to raise an eyebrow.

"She's kinda high maintenance, huh?" Kuroo comments his thoughts out loud.

Kenma scrunches his face up as he looks at Kuroo like he's stupid. "No."

Kuroo pauses for a moment and just blinks because Kenma is not naive or oblivious. In fact, he's able to read people almost freakishly well because of his anxious obsession of staying a head of people so they can't catch him off guard and humiliate him or something. There is no way Kenma is oblivious to your tendencies. "You're buying her another handbag..." Kuroo says slowly.

Kenma grunts in response and looks back at his phone. "A tote bag," He mutters the correction. "And I'm buying her it because she carries so much shit in her bag it hurts her shoulders. This is supposed to be internally padded without it being noticeable."

"And...you don't think that's...high maintenance?" Kuroo inquires as if speaking to a child.

Kenma huffs in annoyance and looks up at Kuroo again. "No. She's easier to please than my cat."

Now Kuroo is seriously confused. "What?"

Kenma looks at him like he's stupid again. Kuroo feels like he's on the outside of some inside joke. "I bought her a year's worth of nail sets for valentine's day and she was skipping places for the next week," Kenma tells him bluntly. "She's so easy to please, it's ridiculous."

Kuroo looks at him in bewilderment. "Kenma, she gets a new nail set every month and she hardly ever wears the same outfit twice. She gets embarrassed if someone sees her when she's not fully done up."

Kenma purses his lips. "Yeah. She likes when people admire her," He tells Kuroo as if it's obvious. Kuroo is genuinely so lost right now. "That's not high maintenance, it's easy to understand. If she was super complicated to read and clingy, and nothing pleased her then she'd be high maintenance. She's not any of that."

Huh, Kuroo never really thought about it like that, but he supposes it makes sense for a guy like Kenma. He likes things straightforward and he appreciates people who understand him and his need for solitude. You're straightforward in what you want, you don't expect Kenma to make himself uncomfortable to please you by demanding he takes you places or anything, and you're fine to give him alone time since you like alone time too. Kuroo supposes you being a little materialistic and into your appearance doesn't bother Kenma since it's simple and he seems to be able to understand it, which is all he cares about.

And, now that Kuroo thinks about it, it's not like you ask for Kenma to do any of the things he does. You were into fashion and being done up long before you met Kenma, to the point that Kenma didn't believe you were into him for a while because you seemed so out of his league. It's not like you sought Kenma out because you wanted a guy to pay for your nails. Ever since Kuroo has met you you've had a new nail set every month, happily showing it off. Now, Kenma pays for it though, and he almost looks as happy as you do when you show off your new set to him. Maybe that's what Kenma meant. You are pretty easy to please in that regard and maybe Kenma likes pleasing you, and seeing remnants of it whenever you wear something he bought you or have a new hair style he payed for. Kenma isn't good with words, but he's decent with actions. Maybe he likes that he can please you so easily with actions.

Kuroo smiles at his friend and chuckles to himself. "Well, whatever you say, Kynma. She's your girl."

Kenma scrunches up his nose and turns back to his phone. "Don't call me that."

[morehorror]

Real talk.

[itsmahree]

[twentyfivemiceinatrenchcoat]

suguru loves himself an s/o who gets overstimulated easily he looooves it when you get overwhelmed and go non-verbal and just cling to him in public. loves the fact that he still knows exactly what you need, and exactly what’s causing your discomfort <3

[brokenrefraction]

been trying to rework willow/the creator because the shyboy vibes didn't sit right with me anymore (heavy wip concepts tho)