#is my bpd obvious or-

[milkygothgf]

Sometimes I think abt having a dom that I get to let out all my crazy toxic thoughts and fantasies with. Like a dom that encourages my jealousy, plays into my delusions, thinks my obsessiveness is cute, and gets off on it. Someone that lets me safely be batshit insane and loves it and we both get horny from it<333

[storm-of-feathers]

idk how to say this without sounding like " mentally ill ppl cant be in public >:((" but. i think ppl with bpd probably shouldnt have huge platforms. i dont think that can ever be handled in a healthy way by them.

[littletissueghosts]

fuck people who make "y*ndere" content about stuff clearly intended to be about being Cluster B or BPD in a non-fetishy way. Y'all already have so much. Let us have our bit.

[atopvisenyashill]

i used to take great joy in Diagnosing Characters bc i found the discourse of “this villain is a sociopath” to be annoying (like, Ramsay is a product of the hyper violent patriarchal society he was born into, he does not meaningfully struggle with depersonalization, empathy, or delusions! He does not actually believe he has become Reek! His victims however do in fact display symptoms of psychosis!!!! why must we use such imprecise language that handwaves personal responsibility with “he was just born evil” if you’re trying to say Ramsay is a sadist just say sadist jfc), like I have made multiple graphics explaining why my favorite characters definitely have bpd or adhd or something aksjsj, but i’ve never done that with asoiaf and i have figured out it’s bc all these bitches are deranged. literally every character is in desperate need of a psychologist who wrote their doctorate about cptsd in civilians living in active war zones, so they know exactly what anti psychotics and nerve meds to get these freaks on lmao.

[undeadgayboynes]

Some Dan Cain hcs bc he has my heart

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He really enjoys cooking, especially for other people.

In highschool school, he was valedictorian and a star athlete in highschool (Baseball and Track).

He's really good with kids and loves to work with them. Considered going into pediatrics when he was younger.

He didn't originally want Rufus but when him and Meg found him as a kitten, Meg insisted he took him in. Immediately, he got attached.

Dislikes sitting still for long periods of time

Can usually fall asleep anywhere. Medical school and working multiple jobs in undergrad got him accustomed to crashing whenever and wherever he could.

Caffeine doesn't actually do anything for him, common with people with ADHD, but he drinks tons of coffee.-Loves to cuddle.-Both gives and enjoys of verbal affection and words of affirmation.

Much smarter than people give him credit for, especially in highschool and undergrad. He can actually somewhat keep up with Herbert, which is saying something.

Often deals with mood swings, ranging from mild to severe.

He really likes to read, especially likes sci-fi. Often, he rereads the same books a handful of times because he's a fast reader but doesn't retain information well.

He figured out he was bisexual in sophomore year of highschool when he was drunk at a party. Doesn't hook up with guys often, but does from time to time.

A crybaby at heart but does his damnedest to pretend he's not because he hates crying Infront of people.

[philsmeatylegss]

Winner by Conan Gray is so growing up with a bpd parent core

[nerdynikki94]

Honestly? Did I want more from DTAMHD? Yes, I did. I wanted something signifying actual progression for Dennis' character (even just a crumb of genuine growth) , and I sincerely don't think we got that. However... we did get a fascinating insight into the process of his mind. Dennis' level of self-denial is so ironic and profound. He can't acknowledge the inevitability that he's middle-aged.

(I swear this episode honestly has given me an alt hc, that the show is based in his mind; because logistically, a man of his lifestyle and malnourishment could not commit the feats he is constantly sailing through. TGGB & DTAMHD... back-to-back? What happened to his hand? Did he even sprain it? Or is he just the most dramatic brat in the gang - clearly the latter.)

It is important to note that he didn’t fix the actual problem. He momentarily masked the symptoms, but ignore long-term help with blood pressure medicine is not going to fix the issue, nor is it going to protect him from fucking keeling over in a stressful situation (when he's not in a contained and quiet Doctor's exam room) and his blood pressure spikes.

I'm honestly a little jaded at this point (16 Fucking Seasons of crumbs, y'all), but if one were to continue 'trusting the structure' this episode conveyed a lot.

The B Plot: The pressure cooker. The metaphor parallels the building pressure Dennis quick-tempered bouts of rage. So, to toss out a little 'cat-in-the-wall' conjecture here: The pressure cooker is Dennis, but we all saw him eat that bloody diamond in the end and we all heard Mac's speech about coal turning into diamonds under massive pressure. Dennis' experience is a theory of pressure, he daydreams it all in the span of a minute or so. He's roleplaying with hypothetical obstacles. There's no risk. Maybe Dennis, isn't the pressure cooker, but the coal.

If I were to try and take anything hopeful out of this episode, it would be the way the narrative is showing us that this episode acknowledged that Dennis isn't ready yet. It's not his turn to break. It's going to take real, substantial pressure to get that diamond.

It was a hell of a misdirect (and honestly a little bit of a slap in the face), but if these characters live in the real world, where people are bound by the laws of mortality, then Dennis should have his time.

Genuinely, who fucking knows?

I'm not hating on the episode. We all know this is the trashy dick joke sitcom. I just thought that if Mac & Charlie could have moments of genuine heartbreak, culminating in deep catharsis, that maybe Dennis could have that too.... but no.

Can't wait to see the sunny dudebros miss the point & proclaim Dennis Reynolds - SA victim, traumatized individual with an emotionally tumultuous personality disorder - the new Andrew Tate.

I'm sorry, but yeah. I'm a little miffed. It was all a dream, and everything goes Dennis' way. Y'all I'm fucking tired. This was a great episode for Glenn, but a fucking frustrating episode for Dennis. I may have wanted a little macden, but all I cared about was seeing Dennis face the limitations of his mortality, to see that he's failing his body and his brain. He didn't have to actually take the medicine (I wouldn't expect him to), but Goddammit, everything seems to work out in his delusional favor. So, of course he's going to continue being delusional, and probably only change for the worse.

I'll say it: I wanted a broken Dennis, and we did not get that. He didn't even crack, the unbearble and apparently now canonical Golden God. That episode's title was intended to tease sunnyblr.

Excuse the plethora of tags. I just kept getting more irritated.

[before-i-remember]

"Tears of the soul"

[caffeineandkerosene]

I keep feeling this crushing loneliness constantly no matter what I do. Even when I'm talking to someone it feels like I'm all alone. Like, even if I'm hugging my boyfriend I just start crying because it feels like I just miss him so much and I'm going to lose him any second. Has anyone else ever dealt with this problem? Do you have any advice on how to deal with it if so?

[chryzure]

sitting here, twiddling my thumbs. azure might be some form of aplatonic as well.

[wind-chime-system]

Unfortunately it appears that several years of trauma and undiagnosed mental illnesses can leave you with quite the big list of "weird brain stuff"

[hpdgirlfriend]

girl who probably has avoidant personality disorder it's fine

[krispiecake]

the fact i regularly have to have my own emotions pointed out to me by other people is insane and embarrassing

[monstraduplicia]

characters that make me feel like im looking in a mirror in the worst way

[pussy-ache]

[mobiused]

lil bit of a question based on one of ur replies to that ask, you don't have to answer! - do you think hypothetically speaking a person on the spectrum would be allowed to become an idol? to be clear I'm not saying that's what she is specifically, I could never tell if she or really anyone show clear signs of that, but just in general. I feel like they wouldn't? Or maybe it'd depend on the severity?

For starters, I think there are already idols with undiagnosed/unpublicised autism in the industry. Also I don't believe in autism severity - it alienates those classed with severe from the rest of autistic society, and puts those who would be classed as mild in a class above the rest, as well as minimizing their struggles by calling it mild.

But this kind of poses a really interesting question on the nature of autism, which I think will become more and more relevant as the Covid Kids grow up - Will a lack of healthy social development during childhood be incorrectly conflated with autism? What impact might this have on society, and how will it shape conversations and attitudes towards autism? There are many studies which suggests this causes development issues, but impairments aren't the same as neurodivergencies. Having worked with a lot of kids with special educational needs, I learnt the difference between overdiagnosis of boys with autism (who really were boys with CPTSD/boundary issues), and underdiagnosis of girls (who are notoriously brushed off as quirky and not disordered and only get their struggles acknowledged in adlthood after masking for years), and this is reflected in adulthood too with how many autistic women are incorrectly diagnosed with BPD and not autism, and not enough men are correctly diagnosed with BPD. This alone shows how misunderstood autism is by the people who are supposed to diagnose it. I guess by saying this, I also mean the idol trainee system can inadvertently create symptoms in trainees which mimick autism - and it might genuinely be impossible to differentiate between the impact of this... unique *twitches* upbringing of a trainee, and an autistic trainee.

As many people allege, neurodivergency is often considered a spectrum and even if someone has symptoms, it might not necessarily warrant a diagnosis, or even if it did, they might not want to ID with it for whatever reason. This, combined with a culture that massively underdiagnoses autism for both boys and girls due to how stigmatized it is. Despite a study which claims 1 in 38 children in SK have traits that would qualify for an Autism diagnosis (compare with 1 in 100 in USA which is probably inaccurate but w/e), only 1/3 of the kids that were flagged were actually diagnosed. Many families with a diagnosis keep it secret, even from the kid, many families who suspect autism in their child won't bring it up due to the shame associated with a diagnosis, and many don't even know what it is or what to look for, and it won't even cross their minds. Of course, these attitudes aren't unique to Korea, these ableist attitudes are global, it's just that it seems the prevalent attitude in Korea is pretending it doesn't exist. (though attitudes are changing postively!) Taking this into account, I really doubt a company would even know if one of their trainees had an autism diagnosis. If any of the staff suspected autism, I don't think they'd push for a diagnosis, and if they did actually know, I don't think they'd make it public. With a global and local lack of understanding of autism, I think it makes it extraordinarily difficult for someone to "come out" as autistic in the industry.

I'm not sure if you the asker are neurodivergent/on the spectrum yourself, but I don't think autism would necessarily be too limiting to prevent a successful career. Not every autistic person has social anxiety despite whatever social difficulties they have, and a talent motivated by special interest such as singing or dancing might actually help them be more skilled than their peers. Of course there's sensory issues, but we've seen idols have meltdowns over sensory issues before and come out the other side mostly okay, and we also know that in groups with healthy friendships that the members are happy to accomodate other members' quirks or struggles. Autism or no autism, people who care about other people naturally accomodate for other people's needs and difficulties. Implying that autistic people couldn't succeed in the idol industry rubs me the wrong way a little - anyone with autism is going to struggle in any career they do, some people more than others, some careers more than others, but having autism shouldn't universally rule out any career of any kind.

While I was joking about Sunmi, I don't see why it wouldn't be possible.